Husbands - How many men is too many?

[verseandworse2]

Well said. That's pretty much how it would work and I agree.

Not that men's huge body counts isn't a red flag. I believe it is and I've experienced it first hand. Men who were sucking and fucking other men or women all the time were inclined to keep carrying on that behavior too and they weren't worth staying with.

Women have a better chance of successfully hooking up on nights out (maybe except gay men) so they could be inclined to behave more badly since another opportunity is very easy to get. And men don't care about cheating women which is just sad. Imagine if it was your girl cheating, dude.

Absolutely. That is what I have been arguing on this thread, but some people don't get it since they are brainwashed by political correctness. Both men and women should know why the previous affairs of anyone they are considering hooking up with ended. If the guy is the kind who fucks a woman one night and blocks her the next day, he is definitely someone to avoid. The expression 'sowing wild oats' is all very well, but the sowing is not done in a field, it is flesh and women being used and thrown away. Women should certainly know what their partners have been up to in the past, and so should men. I repeat that too many past affairs is a red flag.

 

[SPARTAN047]

Absolutely. That is what I have been arguing on this thread, but some people don't get it since they are brainwashed by political correctness. Both men and women should know why the previous affairs of anyone they are considering hooking up with ended. If the guy is the kind who fucks a woman one night and blocks her the next day, he is definitely someone to avoid. The expression 'sowing wild oats' is all very well, but the sowing is not done in a field, it is flesh and women being used and thrown away. Women should certainly know what their partners have been up to in the past, and so should men. I repeat that too many past affairs is a red flag.

I don't think people are that woke. They're woke in only one direction. A man who hooks up with someone and blocks her the next day is reprehensible, but is still considered a red flag. A woman who does this is empowered and it's not men's business. This political correctness is leading to all those Reddit posts I keep seeing about people wondering why no one is dating anymore. And why would they?

You're absolutely right, women should know what type of man a potential partner is or used to be, and there will be enough spies around her to do it. I recently saw a post where a woman said another girl had posted herself in her BF's room and if this was a problem. I do think guys are now becoming more aware of women's OnlyFans and their bad, red flag behaviour due to the Internet, when once upon a time they were isolated and thought only their girl was acting a certain way, but there are so many of them who see the red flags and ignore them. Also, changing this type of behaviour will require a very serious change in society and actual consequences for doing it. It doesn't seem to be working very well, the guys and girls who behave badly are rewarded anyway and the ones who try to follow reasonable rules and etiquette are punished in various ways. For instance, cheating partners, abandonment, divorce, etc. If this is how society wants to behave, what's the point in being 'good'? I'm starting to think I might want to avoid following at least a few rules myself.

 

[verseandworse2]

I don't think people are that woke. They're woke in only one direction. A man who hooks up with someone and blocks her the next day is reprehensible, but is still considered a red flag. A woman who does this is empowered and it's not men's business. This political correctness is leading to all those Reddit posts I keep seeing about people wondering why no one is dating anymore. And why would they?

You're absolutely right, women should know what type of man a potential partner is or used to be, and there will be enough spies around her to do it. I recently saw a post where a woman said another girl had posted herself in her BF's room and if this was a problem. I do think guys are now becoming more aware of women's OnlyFans and their bad, red flag behaviour due to the Internet, when once upon a time they were isolated and thought only their girl was acting a certain way, but there are so many of them who see the red flags and ignore them. Also, changing this type of behaviour will require a very serious change in society and actual consequences for doing it. It doesn't seem to be working very well, the guys and girls who behave badly are rewarded anyway and the ones who try to follow reasonable rules and etiquette are punished in various ways. For instance, cheating partners, abandonment, divorce, etc. If this is how society wants to behave, what's the point in being 'good'? I'm starting to think I might want to avoid following at least a few rules myself.

Absolutely, very good points made. This 'unidirectional' wokeness is causing serious harm. If you read this entire thread, you will see the kind of rage and contempt I drew for suggesting that a woman's history should definitely matter to a new boyfriend, and that too many affairs in the past are a big red flag.

If a man prefers to believe that a woman dropped out of the sky on the day he met her, and that her past is of no consequence, I personally think he is an idiot.

There are so many quotes by great thinkers about the importance of history. One goes (I don't remember the author) "To awaken to history is to cease to live instinctively". It implies that those who don't bother about the past are just living instinctively from day to day, like animals. Henry Ford's "History is bunk", is not a well thought out view at all.

Separately, I read a couple of your stories and they are great!

 

[SPARTAN047]

Absolutely, very good points made. This 'unidirectional' wokeness is causing serious harm. If you read this entire thread, you will see the kind of rage and contempt I drew for suggesting that a woman's history should definitely matter to a new boyfriend, and that too many affairs in the past are a big red flag.

If a man prefers to believe that a woman dropped out of the sky on the day he met her, and that her past is of no consequence, I personally think he is an idiot.

There are so many quotes by great thinkers about the importance of history. One goes (I don't remember the author) "To awaken to history is to cease to live instinctively". It implies that those who don't bother about the past are just living instinctively from day to day, like animals. Henry Ford's "History is bunk", is not a well thought out view at all.

Separately, I read a couple of your stories and they are great!

And the unidirectional wokeness is very stupid too. I might look through the rest of this thread if I can stomach it, but I can guess what is there. The people who have a past they're insecure about are the ones who get angry.

I agree that a man who ignores any woman's history is a bit dumb, but I think we have to stop being like the rest of the dumbarses in society and start apportioning blame where it's due. A woman who lies about her past where most other people know about it, or where anyone can see a lot of exes hitting on her, say, is a liar and a cheat. The guy who doesn't know about it and doesn't get any further info is misguided and lied to. If no one will tell him because they're all banging the woman too and all her friends are sluts as well, how will he ever know unless he catches her at it or a good friend sees her cheating, or perhaps she or one of her friends / lovers feels guilty and tells him? That isn't his fault. It's not because he isn't virile or manly enough, it's because she's being a lying whore. If he knows all this and still sticks around praying and wishing she'll change, and is not interested in the swinging, stag-vixen, hotwife, cuckold and cuckoldress lifestyle, then he's a naive fool and idiot.

A guy who lies about his past where anyone could see the signs of it is a liar and cheat too, the women he dates are not to blame. They're hopefully beautiful and womanly enough. He's the culprit here, a total jerk and a hurtful, lying bastard, and the women deserve to know about his behavior. Unless, that is, the women are secretly masochists and want to share him, or are into the hot husband / cuckquean lifestyle. If they still hang around while he screws her friends, mom and grandma, and all her aunts, and for all we know her uncles, then the women are the crazy dipshit morons here. Maybe they're in love, but they're stupidly in love.

Thanks very much and glad you read my stories, I hope you read more and if you enjoy them, LMK.

 

[Suburbia]

I just had a convo with the wife this morning about this. She said that men had a hand up about the numbers and that I was the only one she was ever with that didnt' ask about (she actually said "drill me on") how many men she had been with.

I never asked because I thought it a rude subject to engage in. I was amazed that men would just straight up ask, and fairly early on in a relationship.

 

[verseandworse2]

And the unidirectional wokeness is very stupid too. I might look through the rest of this thread if I can stomach it, but I can guess what is there. The people who have a past they're insecure about are the ones who get angry.

I agree that a man who ignores any woman's history is a bit dumb, but I think we have to stop being like the rest of the dumbarses in society and start apportioning blame where it's due. A woman who lies about her past where most other people know about it, or where anyone can see a lot of exes hitting on her, say, is a liar and a cheat. The guy who doesn't know about it and doesn't get any further info is misguided and lied to. If no one will tell him because they're all banging the woman too and all her friends are sluts as well, how will he ever know unless he catches her at it or a good friend sees her cheating, or perhaps she or one of her friends / lovers feels guilty and tells him? That isn't his fault. It's not because he isn't virile or manly enough, it's because she's being a lying whore. If he knows all this and still sticks around praying and wishing she'll change, and is not interested in the swinging, stag-vixen, hotwife, cuckold and cuckoldress lifestyle, then he's a naive fool and idiot.

A guy who lies about his past where anyone could see the signs of it is a liar and cheat too, the women he dates are not to blame. They're hopefully beautiful and womanly enough. He's the culprit here, a total jerk and a hurtful, lying bastard, and the women deserve to know about his behavior. Unless, that is, the women are secretly masochists and want to share him, or are into the hot husband / cuckquean lifestyle. If they still hang around while he screws her friends, mom and grandma, and all her aunts, and for all we know her uncles, then the women are the crazy dipshit morons here. Maybe they're in love, but they're stupidly in love.

Thanks very much and glad you read my stories, I hope you read more and if you enjoy them, LMK.

You can guess what I faced. . It will just irritate you.

We need gender-parity, not different standards for women and men. Yours points are absolutely spot on. Lying and cheating is not the prerogative of any one gender, by no means, oh boy! The amount of lies women tell!

I think I will comment on your stories on the site rather than here, as that may draw more readers Watch that space in coming days!

And if you have time, look up my stuff too https://www.literotica.com/authors/verseandworse2/works/poetry

Cheers!

 

[verseandworse2]

I just had a convo with the wife this morning about this. She said that men had a hand up about the numbers and that I was the only one she was ever with that didnt' ask about (she actually said "drill me on") how many men she had been with.

I never asked because I thought it a rude subject to engage in. I was amazed that men would just straight up ask, and fairly early on in a relationship.

Well, to each his own. In my case, every single woman I have been close to, was positively EAGER to share the details of her sexual history with me. I was under the impression that most women are the same in this respect. Often, I got TMI - I certainly did not want to know that X wanted to start again within 10 minutes of finishing one round, or that Y was obsessed with dick size and kept quizzing this particular lady about the size of a previous lover (whom he too knew as an acquaintance).

Yes, it's true, it is awkward for men to quiz women on the matter. We don't ask. But usually normal women freely volunteer the information if they are serious about the new relationship. I have NEVER had to ask. Why would a woman want to hide her history unless she was feeling guilty about it? Beats me. Why keep your past secret from your partner?

I still feel for men the motto should be "Look before you leap"! If a woman has had too many broken relationships in the past, it is a big red flag. Whatever happened to your predecessors will happen to you as well.

 

[Justfantasies]

Well, to each his own. In my case, every single woman I have been close to, was positively EAGER to share the details of her sexual history with me. I was under the impression that most women are the same in this respect. Often, I got TMI - I certainly did not want to know that X wanted to start again within 10 minutes of finishing one round, or that Y was obsessed with dick size and kept quizzing this particular lady about the size of a previous lover (whom he too knew as an acquaintance).

Yes, it's true, it is awkward for men to quiz women on the matter. We don't ask. But usually normal women freely volunteer the information if they are serious about the new relationship. I have NEVER had to ask. Why would a woman want to hide her history unless she was feeling guilty about it? Beats me. Why keep your past secret from your partner?

I still feel for men the motto should be "Look before you leap"! If a woman has had too many broken relationships in the past, it is a big red flag. Whatever happened to your predecessors will happen to you as well.

I have had the same experience -- women want to talk about their sexual experiences. Whether they are testing the guys to see how they react or trying to turn men on with the stories I don't know. Perhaps they are reticent only when they think it will hurt someone.

 

[SPARTAN047]

You can guess what I faced. . It will just irritate you.

I can. I used to be involved years ago in these debates and they pissed me off to no end, so I'll only go through the thread on my deathbed perhaps.

We need gender-parity, not different standards for women and men. Yours points are absolutely spot on. Lying and cheating is not the prerogative of any one gender, by no means, oh boy! The amount of lies women tell!

Very much so, I used to think it was just men too, and then the number of lying bitches I came across ... Even I was shocked how calmly they could lie, and they'll justify their story in ANY way. As long as they can make it your fault, they will. Men have told me stupid lies as well, sure, some of them are so obvious — just to get pictures and so on, but the number of women who lied about everything either blatantly or by omission to get me to pay them or pay for them — I want to strangle all of them. XD

I think I will comment on your stories on the site rather than here, as that may draw more readers Watch that space in coming days!

If you like! Of course if you don't like particular stories it's all good, thanks! I mostly write fetish stuff and half my stories are commissions, so IDK how many are to your taste.

And if you have time, look up my stuff too https://www.literotica.com/authors/verseandworse2/works/poetry

I did, thanks! I saw this one: https://www.literotica.com/p/limericks-7-indian-regions and it's damn good, well done! Commented since I laughed myself to the point of pissing with the last verse.

Cheers!

GL, TC! After reading another of your poems it seems we're from the same country, so good meeting a compatriot here and feel free to PM me anytime for general chat.

 

[SPARTAN047]

Well, to each his own. In my case, every single woman I have been close to, was positively EAGER to share the details of her sexual history with me. I was under the impression that most women are the same in this respect. Often, I got TMI - I certainly did not want to know that X wanted to start again within 10 minutes of finishing one round, or that Y was obsessed with dick size and kept quizzing this particular lady about the size of a previous lover (whom he too knew as an acquaintance).

They're defo obsessed with discussing sex while pretending to be virgins, haha. The same way a guy pretends to have banged half the world while actually being a virgin. XD I'm very surprised that's your experience — I've had only married women mostly share such details with me, like of their fantasies, husbands, and sometimes who they wanted him to cheat with or who they wanted to cheat on him with. They didn't all want to cheat, some of them wanted to swing and have him watch a young stud fuck her brains out, or watch him fuck and impregnate another very young beauty and keep her as a breeding slave. All of that was consensual and not behind anyone's back. I hardly recall any single women giving me these details. I don't get it — either you're very good looking or trustworthy, or your luck means you're only meeting with slags.

Perhaps what PUAs say is somewhat true. Women will give those details when they want something casual and not to a potential LTR.

Yes, it's true, it is awkward for men to quiz women on the matter. We don't ask. But usually normal women freely volunteer the information if they are serious about the new relationship. I have NEVER had to ask. Why would a woman want to hide her history unless she was feeling guilty about it? Beats me. Why keep your past secret from your partner?

About the new relationship???!!! That's a first one for me but good for you if you're getting that info first hand. I don't ask in general myself. I don't understand WTH happened to me then, I almost never found single women when I was looking years ago, never mind ones who would talk about their sex lives.

I still feel for men the motto should be "Look before you leap"! If a woman has had too many broken relationships in the past, it is a big red flag. Whatever happened to your predecessors will happen to you as well.

As we've discussed in so many earlier posts, spot on!

 

[GoodnessO]

What about a “Baker’s Dozen”. Get that 13th one in but don’t stop there as 13 is supposedly an unlucky number. Cap it off at 14 (if you can)

Always looking for the next prime number. Ha, ha.

 

[GoodnessO]

As we've discussed in so many earlier posts, spot on!
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A high body count doesn't necessarily equate to lots of broken relationships. Many were probably just very short term, LOL, such as in my past. Whether that means 1 time sex, or maybe a few weeks of fun. I always figured have sex early in a "relationship" & if it doesn't work out, move on. A perfect 1st date for me used to be, come to my place, shower or bathe together, & then have sex (or more sex, as the case may be). I'm not in the thousands or even hundreds (I don't think??) but my count is certainly in the dozens (more than I can recall). And I'm in my 2nd marriage (20 years now) & I had 1 other live in lover. Never cheated on any of them. Not saying I won't take a new lover, possibly soon, but I've already brought up the topic with my husband. We have an honest relationship

 

[verseandworse2]

Very much so, I used to think it was just men too, and then the number of lying bitches I came across ... Even I was shocked how calmly they could lie, and they'll justify their story in ANY way. As long as they can make it your fault, they will. Men have told me stupid lies as well, sure, some of them are so obvious — just to get pictures and so on, but the number of women who lied about everything either blatantly or by omission to get me to pay them or pay for them — I want to strangle all of them. XD

Agree 100 percent!

You seem to have had some very bitter experiences. I empathize sincerely.

 

[SPARTAN047]

Very much so, I used to think it was just men too, and then the number of lying bitches I came across ... Even I was shocked how calmly they could lie, and they'll justify their story in ANY way. As long as they can make it your fault, they will. Men have told me stupid lies as well, sure, some of them are so obvious — just to get pictures and so on, but the number of women who lied about everything either blatantly or by omission to get me to pay them or pay for them — I want to strangle all of them. XD

Agree 100 percent!

You seem to have had some very bitter experiences. I empathize sincerely.

I appreciate it and I'm glad you didn't have those experiences. Yes, I've had mostly bitter experiences which jaded me and I find it very hard to trust anyone now.

 

[verseandworse2]

They're defo obsessed with discussing sex while pretending to be virgins, haha. The same way a guy pretends to have banged half the world while actually being a virgin. XD I'm very surprised that's your experience — I've had only married women mostly share such details with me, like of their fantasies, husbands, and sometimes who they wanted him to cheat with or who they wanted to cheat on him with. They didn't all want to cheat, some of them wanted to swing and have him watch a young stud fuck her brains out, or watch him fuck and impregnate another very young beauty and keep her as a breeding slave. All of that was consensual and not behind anyone's back. I hardly recall any single women giving me these details. I don't get it — either you're very good looking or trustworthy, or your luck means you're only meeting with slags.

Perhaps what PUAs say is somewhat true. Women will give those details when they want something casual and not to a potential LTR.

About the new relationship???!!! That's a first one for me but good for you if you're getting that info first hand. I don't ask in general myself. I don't understand WTH happened to me then, I almost never found single women when I was looking years ago, never mind ones who would talk about their sex lives.

As we've discussed in so many earlier posts, spot on!

I appreciate it and I'm glad you didn't have those experiences. Yes, I've had mostly bitter experiences which jaded me and I find it very hard to trust anyone now.

I just followed you and read your bio too. If you are trans, I'm really glad you got out of India. (Your posts suggest that you are now an NRI, and that too a first generation NRI since you know Hindi so well )

 

[SPARTAN047]

I just followed you and read your bio too. If you are trans, I'm really glad you got out of India. (Your posts suggest that you are now an NRI, and that too a first generation NRI since you know Hindi so well )

Thanks very much. I'll follow you back now.

I'm more of a sissy for now or TV, but I've started my procedure for HRT now. I'm definitely glad to have left India due to other reasons apart from wanting to be trans.

I'm not quite a citizen of my current home country but I've lived there for years and I'm almost an NRI, hopefully very soon. Thanks very much, yes, I'd be 1st gen NRI since I learned Hindi in school like you. I wouldn't say I'm good since I stumble quite a bit speaking Hindi and have a much better English vocabulary than Hindi.

I enjoyed all your poems very much BTW, rated all of them 5 stars. The Hinglish one was hilarious and brilliantly written. I figure you've seen my comments on them too.

 

[Helpme01]

It depends if you live in a big city should t matter if you live in a town of 500 and the number is 50 then you have way to much overlap

 

[verseandworse2]

Thanks very much. I'll follow you back now.

I'm more of a sissy for now or TV, but I've started my procedure for HRT now. I'm definitely glad to have left India due to other reasons apart from wanting to be trans.

I'm not quite a citizen of my current home country but I've lived there for years and I'm almost an NRI, hopefully very soon. Thanks very much, yes, I'd be 1st gen NRI since I learned Hindi in school like you. I wouldn't say I'm good since I stumble quite a bit speaking Hindi and have a much better English vocabulary than Hindi.

I enjoyed all your poems very much BTW, rated all of them 5 stars. The Hinglish one was hilarious and brilliantly written. I figure you've seen my comments on them too.

Yes indeed I've seen. I've replied to them too. Thank you, thank you! Of course that Lucknow limerick was inspired by that famous song from the film 'Bobby'. I really appreciate your response because only someone like you can get all the cultural references, the entire context and know where exactly each of these places I mention are.

Thank you for being candid about yourself and I fully respect their confidentiality.

Given the political situation in India also, the daily demonizing of Muslims in a section of the media and the government's open encouragement of such demonizing, it's good you were able to leave. Wish you the very best in your further endeavours!

 

[verseandworse2]

As we've discussed in so many earlier posts, spot on!

A high body count doesn't necessarily equate to lots of broken relationships. Many were probably just very short term, LOL, such as in my past. Whether that means 1 time sex, or maybe a few weeks of fun. I always figured have sex early in a "relationship" & if it doesn't work out, move on. A perfect 1st date for me used to be, come to my place, shower or bathe together, & then have sex (or more sex, as the case may be). I'm not in the thousands or even hundreds (I don't think??) but my count is certainly in the dozens (more than I can recall). And I'm in my 2nd marriage (20 years now) & I had 1 other live in lover. Never cheated on any of them. Not saying I won't take a new lover, possibly soon, but I've already brought up the topic with my husband. We have an honest relationship
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Well, we don't live in the same country and so my cultural environment must be different. When I was young, in my country, if a girl opened her thighs for you, she took it for granted you were going to marry her. If that was not your intention, you had to tell her and the situation could get ugly. A broken hymen courtesy your lover was a far stronger guarantee of marriage than his giving you an engagement ring at a formal ceremony with hundreds of guests! From a girl's POV every sexual encounter meant she expected COMMITMENT thenceforth in capital letters. Men would love casual sex, but I never came across a woman who admitted even indirectly that she was ready for it. Maybe the younger generation is different...

 

[tristantrotsky]

Does that include how many men she accommodated in a single evening at that rather boisterous party?

 

[Justfantasies]

Does that include how many men she accommodated in a single evening at that rather boisterous party?

They all have one or two of those but they don't confess to those easily

 

[SPARTAN047]

Yes indeed I've seen. I've replied to them too. Thank you, thank you! Of course that Lucknow limerick was inspired by that famous song from the film 'Bobby'. I really appreciate your response because only someone like you can get all the cultural references, the entire context and know where exactly each of these places I mention are.

Great, I'll take a look at them now. I'm just glad to have met a fellow Indian who's competent in both English and Hindi unlike me, and can make regional or local references which we can understand. We're Indian so we'd naturally think alike.

Thank you for being candid about yourself and I fully respect their confidentiality.

NP, I avoid discussing things like exact locations except in DMs and anything too much about me since people can be very nosy. Especially us Indians, ironically. I had someone from the IGI airport questioning me about where I was from where I was going to, where I worked and if I stuck around, I'm sure he would've asked who I was having sex with.. I had to make up answers because I was only back here on holiday from where I live, not to give my entire life history to someone I didn't know. सब के कामों में नाक घुसाते हैं ये लोग | तंग आ गया इन से |

Given the political situation in India also, the daily demonizing of Muslims in a section of the media and the government's open encouragement of such demonizing, it's good you were able to leave. Wish you the very best in your further endeavours!

Indeed, the demonization of Muslims in most media is pretty bad and it's affecting my family too. I'm planning to take them away whenever I can because I know the government will never help us.

Thank you very much and good luck to you too in whatever you do, especially your poetry. I'm sure we'd all like to see your poetry churned out in droves!

आप के सारी कविताएं इतनी अतिसुंदर और बेहतरीन हैं, जनाब | ज़रा ऐसे ही चमत्कारी कर्म के और उदाहरण दीजिए जब भी आप का मन हो |

 

[naughty_stories]

The number doesn't matter as much as the positivity of the experiences for her.

 

[verseandworse2]

Great, I'll take a look at them now. I'm just glad to have met a fellow Indian who's competent in both English and Hindi unlike me, and can make regional or local references which we can understand. We're Indian so we'd naturally think alike.

NP, I avoid discussing things like exact locations except in DMs and anything too much about me since people can be very nosy. Especially us Indians, ironically. I had someone from the IGI airport questioning me about where I was from where I was going to, where I worked and if I stuck around, I'm sure he would've asked who I was having sex with.. I had to make up answers because I was only back here on holiday from where I live, not to give my entire life history to someone I didn't know. सब के कामों में नाक घुसाते हैं ये लोग | तंग आ गया इन से |

Indeed, the demonization of Muslims in most media is pretty bad and it's affecting my family too. I'm planning to take them away whenever I can because I know the government will never help us.

Thank you very much and good luck to you too in whatever you do, especially your poetry. M sure we'd all like to see your poetry churned out in droves!

आप के सारी कविताएं इतनी अतिसुंदर और बेहतरीन हैं, जनाब | ज़रा ऐसे ही चमत्कारी कर्म के और उदाहरण दीजिए जब भी आप का मन हो |

Yes, we Indians are nosy. Point accepted unreservedly. That IGI airport official - really unfair. These immigration guys just want to assert their power. And we can't do a thing about it.

The cultural atmosphere can change completely if BJP loses power at the Centre. But somehow it keeps winning elections, that Modi has charisma... The trouble is Congress, the only alternative, is so corrupt that people get fed up of their government within a few years, and vote for any alternative, that is how the BJP came to power. You should take your family away, it's a disgrace...

Chief, your written Hindi is better than mine! Way better!

 

[SPARTAN047]

Yes, we Indians are nosy. Point accepted unreservedly. That IGI airport official - really unfair. These immigration guys just want to assert their power. And we can't do a thing about it.

Sorry, my bad, the immigration official let me through after seeing my boarding pass and passport in thirty seconds. I was talking about the security guy outside the airport at the arrival doors. I agree I've picked up the nosy habits myself and it's a disgrace, but I've lost some of it when I went outside the country.

The cultural atmosphere can change completely if BJP loses power at the Centre. But somehow it keeps winning elections, that Modi has charisma... The trouble is Congress, the only alternative, is so corrupt that people get fed up of their government within a few years, and vote for any alternative, that is how the BJP came to power. You should take your family away, it's a disgrace...

So that's why it happened, we thought Congress (INC) was okay to stay in power but they're definitely corrupt. I hope BJP doesn't still have influence as state governments even if they lose, like those riots in 2002. You're right though, my family are getting on in age too and I really have to know how to get them out of there.

Chief, your written Hindi is better than mine! Way better!

I wouldn't bet on that — I have to look up a lot of translations regularly since I think in English and not Hindi. I was lucky enough to type out the above sentences without looking anything up since I've been watching more Bollywood movies and using the same method to learn vocabulary words as English — look it up right away and write it down or send it to myself on WhatsApp.

I also lost my internet connection and the whole draft I typed out wasn't saved. My last sentence was: हम सभी आपको इसमें प्रोत्साहित करेंगे।