I just don't understand women.

[Felix_Jones]

Well, you must be lacking in some specific area, either looks, money, or attitude. I'm guessing attitude, and that's why only "deficient" women are "available" to you.

I know with your attitude, I certainly wouldn't want to date you. You're incredibly bitter, and that's just not cool.

But the part I bolded, you basically proved the article right! You said, "Only ugly girls want me!" And that's the thing, you WANT a hot girl, you don't have one, now you're pissed off because from what I've seen, you have a serious sense of entitlement.

Men aren't just going to be handed a girl. You have to change yourself if you want to be a good partner. What you're doing is a vicious cycle, you're angry that you don't have a good partner, so you become bitter and misogynistic, and because you're bitter and misogynistic, you can't get a good partner.

Break the cycle. Stop hating women. It's really that easy. Once you become a good partner, and put effort into getting a good partner that is -realistic to your own "type" and not a perfect 10 ideal barbie- you'll be surprised how many women out there are single and ready for a relationship.

No matter what I do, you've been very nice. I'll have my assumptions and prejudices, but thank you for being way more civil than many folks are on here.

 

[nicecthulhu]

I find the situation in Toronto tragic, but not all girls cry rape or assault on a drop of a hat. Most of us are too afraid of being branded as 'crying wolf' or attention whores.
http://xkcd.com/513/

I'm sure Felix_Jones and I must have run around in different crowds. His description of the situation in T.O. doesn't fit what I seen and experienced.

Admittedly, I haven't dated for over ten years, but all of my dating experience was in Toronto or its suburbs. The points about charges becoming "automatic" during a domestic dispute call were fairly accurate. There were too many situations of (usually) a guy smacking his GF around and then "oh, baby, I didn't mean it, I'll never do it again" before the cops arrived. The GF, for God knows what reason, tells the cops nothing happened, there are no bruises, there was no screaming, etc. The cops leave and it happens all over again.

So a change was put in place and the cops were educated into actually laying charges (may have been introduced as law or they were simply instructed).

But to get the cops there required a call to the police. And that usually took one of the two in the couple to grab the phone and dial or for a third party to get fed up with the banging and screaming and then make the call. I'm sure on occasion a nosy neighbour made an unnecessary call, but that would have been rare.

No woman I've dated ever accused me of violence against her. None of my male friends had ever had that charge levelled against them, as well. And a couple of my friends were ladies' men, meaning they went through women almost as fast as they changed their clothes. A family member or two has had charges brought against them, but to be realistic they deserved to be charged and those people should have been separated long before police were ever called.

As for flirting: women flirt and so do men. If she's flirting with you and you're interested in something more: then make a pass. If she politely informs you that she was just flirting or playing and she's not interested, then let her know you're around if she changes her mind, give her a smile and move on. If she's rude in her rejection, then be glad you never actually went on a date with her. The same goes for women dealing with men who are just flirting (I suppose it must happen).

If you're getting frustrated that you don't seem to be getting quite as much action as other guys seem to be, welcome to the club. I'm sure that women have their own version of that club, too. The genders may never learn to communicate effectively until we actually stop the games and just talk. After the talk, let the games begin anew.

 

[satindesire]

No matter what I do, you've been very nice. I'll have my assumptions and prejudices, but thank you for being way more civil than many folks are on here.

Well, I want to help you. You're still a human being, regardless of what you do or say, and therefor you're a person of value, and I want to make sure that I treat you as such.

 

[boutrosboutros]

Why do women flirt with a man, get him all interested, then walk away, ignore him completely and flirt with other men?

Are they trying to wind him all up? Are they just flirting for the attention and to make themselves feel good? Do they even care that a man might get his hopes up about actually having a chance with someone for a change, only to realize that these women who flirt with him are just stringing him along?

Ladies, what is up with that?

Perhaps I'll regret saying this. But it's my firm belief that women don't understand themselves, either. They're an enigma, wrapped up in a riddle.

That's what makes them so wonderful, fascinating and magnificent, as well as so incredibly annoying, frustrating and strange.

Generally speaking, I think they're fantastic.

 

[kfoster1515]

Perhaps I'll regret saying this. But it's my firm belief that women don't understand themselves, either. They're an enigma, wrapped up in a riddle.

That's what makes them so wonderful, fascinating and magnificent, as well as so incredibly annoying, frustrating and strange.

Generally speaking, I think they're fantastic.

I believe that could go both ways. I'm guessing that fascination with each other is what keeps us coming back for more. Women don't understand men either.