I miss cybersex. My first experiences were all the way back in the AOL days, when it was new to all of us. Beyond that, it was MySpace, and I even met a few people on Craigslist. But all that is past and I miss it. It's been way too long. I'm looking for someone who is willing to build a relationship online, form a real connection, share experiences and fantasies, and eventually enjoy cybersex together. I'm open to many different scenarios and enjoy the part of the relationship where discover where my desires intersect yours and we get to explore openly and comfortably. That said, I have had some online lovers who wanted me to help the explore and discover new pleasures. As for me, I'm Italian, very outgoing, love to laugh and have fun, spontaneous, creative, playful, passionate, romantic, active, athletic, and I love connecting and experiencing new things. Introduce yourself here, or fee free to send me a private message. Tell me more about you and your desires...
I miss cybersex...
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lauramilf
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Mine was the msn days being a bord stay at home mum who had well a useless husband. I always found it so thrilling and exciting. Knowing I had much better things to do with my day but really just wanting to log on and make a naughty connection to make me feel wanted and excited.
What made you stop? I just never found another place where I could meet women that enjoyed cybersex as much as I did. I had built some really beautiful connections, so in some ways it was more than just the cybersex. I loved the connection.
HoneyedLips
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Hi ItaloMan, welcome! I was going through some tough stuff this year and needed a good release without the sloppy human side effects - enter Literotica Chat. It could be a little frustrating for men and women as so many spam PMs to any female sounding usernames but when you click with someone fun 
...I've had a, mostly, great experience so far and thank goodness for the mods. Check out the chat support link below to get familiarized and maybe we'll chat some time. Oh, and would be good to have an interesting profile...some honey to attract the bees ya know?
https://forum.literotica.com/threads/literotica-chat-for-new-users.1639633/
...I've had a, mostly, great experience so far and thank goodness for the mods. Check out the chat support link below to get familiarized and maybe we'll chat some time. Oh, and would be good to have an interesting profile...some honey to attract the bees ya know?https://forum.literotica.com/threads/literotica-chat-for-new-users.1639633/
Hi HoneyedLips,Hi ItaloMan, welcome! I was going through some tough stuff this year and needed a good release without the sloppy human side effects - enter Literotica Chat. It could be a little frustrating for men and women as so many spam PMs to any female sounding usernames but when you click with someone fun
https://forum.literotica.com/threads/literotica-chat-for-new-users.1639633/
(By the way, you lips sound delicious!)
Thanks for the suggestion. It is certainly not easy to find the needle in the haystack, even when the haystack is in such a nice organized pile here on Literotica. I'm also ok to be patient and connect with the right person. I'll check out chat, and look for you. If it's ok, I'll also send you a message and we can chat there and set up a time to chat even more. So kind of you to help out!
ThePullOutKing
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I would echo Honeyedlips comments. I've been fortunate to have come across several wonderful women on here to have amazing multi-hour long adventures with specifically in the chat rooms. I've never dabbled in these forums much, but I'm trying them now. It seems you have to reply to a woman as soon as she posts as you might not get to the top of the stack in the inbox.
I will say for the chat rooms on Lit you need massive levels of patience as the ratio is heavily skewed in the ladies' favor. Also watch out for all the men masquerading as women. The rooms are also unstable and disconnects from the server can be frequent, and really kill an RP in progress as the other chatter may just leave too.
I will say for the chat rooms on Lit you need massive levels of patience as the ratio is heavily skewed in the ladies' favor. Also watch out for all the men masquerading as women. The rooms are also unstable and disconnects from the server can be frequent, and really kill an RP in progress as the other chatter may just leave too.
HoneyedLips
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Don't worry, ThePullOutKing, got a king's welcome back to lit chat. I switched it up and chatted him up first. 
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ThePullOutKing
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I'm the patron saint of impatience so I can relate. Seriously what works for me is just participating in the chat by adding to the conversation if you can, or if a dead room where the screen is barely moving be a goof. Post a joke. Try to jump start the place *spins the room* *gives the room a shove* *spills 10,000 marbles on the floor*. Be outlandish if you must. Making someone laugh usually gets a PM from a woman or a thanks for trying to get this room going. I know I've annoyed some of the men in the room (why can't he shut up already), but I've had way more responses in the positive. Be in multiple rooms at once like three or four. If you still have time to kill waiting, read some profiles. Many women write about themselves and what they're looking for. If you match up it's a great conversation starter for a PM, but have something meaningful to write them. Don't ever text speak (HMU), and make sure you have a profile for them to read as well.
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MrMikelobe1952
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Lucky manDon't worry, ThePullOutKing, got a king's welcome back to lit chat. I switched it up and chatted him up first.
Same with me. Back in the days of AOL, MSN and when Yahoo first started. Newly married, moved to new area, didnt knkw anyone and working shifts so was home alone. Logging on amd making naughty conversations and connections and being excited.
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Personally, I don't visit Lit Chat at all anymore. There are so many fake accounts that I have No interest, but I will always respond to a DM here in the forums. Maybe that's a better tactic? Find someone you share a connection with because of a specific thread & ask if you can send them a message to chat, or you could just send it & see what happens.
ThePullOutKing
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This (the forum) is definitely a place where you shine as you're writing more thoughtful replies to things instead of being in the chat where it's a very NOW environment and if you don't start typing stuff into the chat you won't get noticed (unless your screen name is at the top - which is a great tactic by the way so use a number as the first character) because there's usually 45 to 300 people in a room and the screen can be scrolling by quick.
I have a love hate relationship with the chat. It's weird as I consider myself very introverted and quiet. I am NOT a life of the party type whatsoever, but something about the chat is very freeing and I become so much more forward and a talker. Anonymity probably has something to do with it, and/or a fun room is easy to get sucked into and want to participate. Plus it's a sex site after all so it's a really no holds barred place to me. What do you have to lose?
I have a love hate relationship with the chat. It's weird as I consider myself very introverted and quiet. I am NOT a life of the party type whatsoever, but something about the chat is very freeing and I become so much more forward and a talker. Anonymity probably has something to do with it, and/or a fun room is easy to get sucked into and want to participate. Plus it's a sex site after all so it's a really no holds barred place to me. What do you have to lose?
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Oh man the good ole AOL and Yahoo days. I remember getting pics on AOL that took 30 mins to download. 
Yeah the wait was excruciating and finally the picture was quite pixilated lol. Good ole dial upOh man the good ole AOL and Yahoo days. I remember getting pics on AOL that took 30 mins to download.
Lord_Coitus
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Made 'batin to pics not worth it. Still had to use the ole imagination.
Thanks. That is really helpful. I will give it a try. I have no problem commanding a room, I just have to figure out how to do that online.
HoneyedLips
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What catches my attention is a descriptive enough profile and saying more than just Hi or Hey. Def read the person's profile so you get a feel for their personality...just remember you're chatting with real people and not a service
. Also, like others have said, patience is key because the site can boot you off at any point but I roll with the quirks. Others have tried to get me on various, more stable platforms...not wanting anything permanent, lit chat does does fine for me.rickybobby808454
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mine were webtv lol
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Ohhhh. I started chatting on this site ‘thenakedtruth’ it was amazing. I had a temp office job which wasn’t very busy and I chatted so much on there that the IT department sent me a message to chat less 
Made some lovely connections and it was so much fun. It felt sexy and freeing. Also ICQ and messenger
I was a very very bad girl
Made some lovely connections and it was so much fun. It felt sexy and freeing. Also ICQ and messenger
I was a very very bad girl 
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Still a bad girl?Ohhhh. I started chatting on this site ‘thenakedtruth’ it was amazing. I had a temp office job which wasn’t very busy and I chatted so much on there that the IT department sent me a message to chat less
Made some lovely connections and it was so much fun. It felt sexy and freeing. Also ICQ and messenger
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I'll have to check that out.Ohhhh. I started chatting on this site ‘thenakedtruth’ it was amazing. I had a temp office job which wasn’t very busy and I chatted so much on there that the IT department sent me a message to chat less
Made some lovely connections and it was so much fun. It felt sexy and freeing. Also ICQ and messenger
goodgirlLin
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and luckily bandwidth has improved
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I’m not sure it still exists! It was great though, doing a full on online lapdance in words only (which wouldn’t be that novel now)
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This is great perspective. The platform is maddening from a tech perspective but the profile thing is key. Really can pick up quite a bit from reading it and if you respond and they don’t feel it then best to figure that out right away.What catches my attention is a descriptive enough profile and saying more than just Hi or Hey. Def read the person's profile so you get a feel for their personality...just remember you're chatting with real people and not a service
Also when you comment on the profile it has to be more than Hey … love the profile. I think I’m particularly drawn to women who share exactly what they want with confidence in their profile.
