"I seek like minded individuals"

[cellis]

*Sigh* Damn...I wish I thought you were kidding......

The fucked up spring eternal

*raises one eyebrow* Oh did you want me to call you Daddy?

 

[~hellbaby~]

Maybe it is time to switch....Saw this and got to thinking
"I'd like to meet a stronger, more meaningful woman, one who proudly accepts her role as the wife of a loving man. It is a man's duty to submit and obey his wife when she chooses him as hers. The woman is more aware of the relationship and what is best and makes the decisions that will benefit the both of them. He does whatever is asked of him and spends his life doing all he can to please her. When he fails he is punished and denied. That is the role of the proper husband." .

 

[h_i_s]

Speaking of idiots - a message I got today from a 24 year old male (when my profile clearly states I am looking for LADIES ONLY):

"Hello how r u cutie? im a younger guy who would love to be friends and lovers, would you be interested? you look very sexy hun and like alot of fun"

I let Master loose on this one:

"Why would i be interested in you, obviously you can't read as I'm only after ladies & not snotty nosed kids who think they are just what every lady wants well your sadly mistaken, if an ad says NO GUYS, NO MALES, NO MEN it means dickheads like you. Have a nice day!"

His reply??

"wateva"

i get funny emails & Pms just like this one ALL the time here ! Is there a thread anywhere for sharing those?!? Now THAT would be a FUN & ENTERTAINING thread if there ever was one! ..... and an endless supply of material for posting i bet.

The latest PM correspondence i participated in today (sender's name has been edited out, not looking to embarass anyone ... just sharing my amusement). i rarely receive any PMs and when i do they are humorous at best.

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#1 Quote:
Originally Posted by SOMEGUYhey - saw your profile and would love to chat


#1 Quote: Originally Posted by sinn0cent1
Really, hmm? Uh, why?? Chat about "what"??

sinn0cent1

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#2 Quote:Originally Posted by SOMEGUY
just up, couldn't sleep - you - I'm 27/m/ny, btw - you?


#2 Quote: Originally Posted by sinn0cent1
i am 37. i am married. i am from Massachusetts ..... but why do you ask?

By the way... if you are seeking a cyber partner i only do the REAL thing.... and ONLY with my Husband.



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#3 Quote:
Originally Posted by SOMEGUY
lol - fair enough - but not necessarily looking for that - what you doing



#3 Quote: Originally Posted by sinn0cent1
Right now i am getting ready to go out and run some errands with my Husband. i don't know if you are familiar with the protocols of BDSM and/or the need to seek permission of a submissive's/slave's Owner prior to addressing one via private messages ...... regardless, .... you will need to seek my Master's approval for any further dialog with me.

Feel welcome to message Him at AOL or Yahoo. His name at AOL is imjeffree .. His name at Yahoo is risnakeguy. Or email Him at imjeffree@aol.com.

Regards,
sinn0cent
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Hehe .... as far as i know, he never did email my Master.

 

[~hellbaby~]

There is no lack of idiots out there. My ad states I am 40, looking for 35-45.After I got these I added 'No 20 year olds please, for god sakes I'm old enough to be your mother!
, I'm 22. But, I'm intrested in
exploring a casual but caring sexual relationship. I'd like to broaden
my experience with women and feel that I may be able to learn much
from you.
I am 30. I am 6ft, have a job. I am not that interested in a realtionship,
but if you want to meet up and see where it goes that sounds fine.

wzup rob 18 male single delco here am looking for older

I'm 24 but hey, not everyone is perfect

This one was from a sub. man- I told him I was sub. he replied
Okay, I could get into that too. Would you wear a collar for me?

UUG- I'm starting a lj communtity for singles

 

[jasonlf]

There is no lack of idiots out there. My ad states I am 40, looking for 35-45.After I got these I added 'No 20 year olds please, for god sakes I'm old enough to be your mother!
, I'm 22. But, I'm intrested in
exploring a casual but caring sexual relationship. I'd like to broaden
my experience with women and feel that I may be able to learn much
from you.
I am 30. I am 6ft, have a job. I am not that interested in a realtionship,
but if you want to meet up and see where it goes that sounds fine.

wzup rob 18 male single delco here am looking for older

I'm 24 but hey, not everyone is perfect

This one was from a sub. man- I told him I was sub. he replied
Okay, I could get into that too. Would you wear a collar for me?

UUG- I'm starting a lj communtity for singles

Hah, classic.

That's why anytime I've ever used an online personals service, I use one that you have to pay for that confirms identity.

 

[~hellbaby~]

...And the winner is...

Oh dear .when will this madness end? I'm laughing my butt off over this one...
."... Also you are going to have to be close, real close unless you dont mind a bit of driving, because I have no drivers license, I am also currently on parole from state prison, I'm a roofer, and I have a few teeth missing from an old motorcycle accident. I am divorced I have 4 daughters that I get every weekend, 5, 7, 12, 16. The 12 year old lives with me. I know this is a lot to hit somebody with but I deeply believe in being honest as possible"

 

[DVS]

Hah, classic.

That's why anytime I've ever used an online personals service, I use one that you have to pay for that confirms identity.

Well, it seems any online service is quickly becoming a waste of time for me. I've sent out messages too many to count, but no bites. I don't understand it, if my competition is a bumch of idiots like these messags.

Women get so many messages and the bulk of them are stopid ass holes like there, and I'm suppose to get my messages to be read? These women don't know me from the other male idiots out there. Sure, if we could meet, I know I could get her attention, but that's never going to happen. Trust me, I've been there. I know. Unless you can somehow get the person's attention, you haven't even got a chance. Not even if you pay money.

 

[snowy ciara]

The whole daddy thing gives me the willies anyhow.... but this makes me think of some beer-bellied wife-beater wearing hill billy named Earl - not the kind that cows women into believin they're inferior - but the kind that calls his wife momma and thinks classy means tuckin his shirt in.

Did anyone else get the Dixie Chicks singin' "Goodbye Earl" in the back of their heads?

 

[DVS]

Did anyone else get the Dixie Chicks singin' "Goodbye Earl" in the back of their heads?

Well, yes, it is similar. But, I can't rmember...did he tuck his shirt in?

 

[arctic-stranger]

Did anyone else get the Dixie Chicks singin' "Goodbye Earl" in the back of their heads?

how about Jackson Browne's Redneck Friend?

 

[Bandit58]

*giggle* I checked out my "Admirers" group on collarme and this doozy of a profile popped up:

"I'm one good lookin specimen ladies, just ask Me! Lookin for that special little kitten who will worship the ground I walk on. Don't message me if you have half a brain, I want a little woman who can not think for herself. But she has to be a looker, no fat chicks thanks, no offence baby but you just aint my type "

Is he for real?? According to his profile he's 38 years old but Master reckons he hit the 3 instead of the 1 when he was typing......and maybe the 8 instead of the 4

 

[Miss Diva]

on AFF

I got this from a guy on AFF:

im a 24 rears old man who like mature ladie with curves and i wanna have fubn with a sexy and feminin women like yu i find yu ver hot im gonna send yu my pic im a very open man wwith big cok i like to show myself and i like to bre dominated so if yu wanna have fun get back to me with pleasure
tommyxxx


I want to write back and correct all his spelling mistakes. And tell him to learn to read. My profile clearly states no one under 35.

 

[graceanne]

I have both alt and collarme profiles, but only so that I can look at other people's profiles. On my profiles it specifically states that's why I have a profile, and that I'm NOT looking for a relationship. I still get at least 4 or 5 guys a week who are 'interested', and one or two 'winks'. Some people are so stupid. Even if I was looking, they'd get knocked off the list, just for not reading. How is a guy supposed to do anygood as a dom if they're too stupid to read?

 

[laurel-marie]

I have both alt and collarme profiles, but only so that I can look at other people's profiles. On my profiles it specifically states that's why I have a profile, and that I'm NOT looking for a relationship. I still get at least 4 or 5 guys a week who are 'interested', and one or two 'winks'. Some people are so stupid. Even if I was looking, they'd get knocked off the list, just for not reading. How is a guy supposed to do anygood as a dom if they're too stupid to read?

I went to collarme just out of curiosity. I didn't know signing in created a personals profile. Next thing I knew I had over 100 emails and I didn't even write anything about myself. I spent a good portion of the day sending emails back saying how sorry I was for their inconvienience and why I had a profile to begin with. Soon as the last email was sent , I withdrew. I just couldn't believe some of the 'selling' points some listed. Some were down right frightening.

 

[TaintedB]

It is astonishing how many people check the list of who's new there and then write you even before you have a profile. This happened to a girlfriend of mine as well. She has now recently suggested to me that I write her emails there because she can't check her old email account anymore (long story) but if I do, it's going to be with some very ordinary boring guy name, perferably one that conjures up an unfavorable image.

Anyway, I'm glad you dug this thread out of whatever place it was in. I went on collarme a week or two ago. I was bored and looked at the female submissives who had profiles with pictures up. What I noticed was a pretty interesting pattern and I wanted to ask others here what they thought about it. A good porportion of the woman who had a photo up (didn't look at too many of the no-photo ones so can't comment on these) had some excuse for being on a personal-ad site but not looking for a dominant! I think at least 60 percent, maybe more, were like this. The most common things I saw were:

1. I belong to master so and so and I'm here to find other "sister subbies" for him to dom.
2. I belong to master so and so but I am lonely and am looking for friends--Sub women only please!
3. I belonged to master so and so and I'm looking for my replacement!
4. I am not owned and I am looking but all my correspondence must go through master or mistress so and so who is my (substitutute whatever the current in word for protector-mentor is here)
5. I am pleased to announce that I now belong to master so and so! All male doms should cease and desist from writing me (doesn't explain why she doesn't deactivate her profile).
6. I am here, I don't belong to anyone, but I am not looking either. But I'm interesting in making friends.

Then, of the women with photos who are left and actually admit to looking for a dominant, about 30-40 percent of them state "no men only." Perfectly legitimate to go after the sex you want, although a lot of these women do not strike me as dyed in the wool lesbians. For some of them, something else is going on other than a love for women, I am certain, and I suspect it might just be a variation of the pattern I've been pointing out above, which is to be on a personals board but to not be available.

But why do this? Why put a profile on a personals-ad site in the first place if you are not interested in meeting somebody for sex-and-or-romance? A friend suggested to me that personal ad sites are now "all about community" and casual socializing and aren't necessarily about finding love interests anymore. Is this true? Do people regard personal-ad sites as social clubs? Why do this when there are so many other clearly labeled social clubs online, including plenty where you can post a profile and your photo if you want? Someone else suggested that a lot of women have become so disappointed and desperate at the low quality of men who respond to their ads, men who often try to hurt them emotionally if they say "not interested," and that these women have given up, are in despair or afraid of being hurt even more. But they're still on the boards, because they can't give up the habit-hope of meeting someone. So they say they have masters or say they are not looking. That is pretty sad, if so. My personal idea is that people crave attention and that women have learned they can get loads of it online by pretending to a sexual availability that is not actually there? But that's probably a bit cynical.

Anyway, this trend is kind of bafffling to me, and would certainly be depressing if I were a single guy looking for a partner online.

 

[Marquis]

It is astonishing how many people check the list of who's new there and then write you even before you have a profile. This happened to a girlfriend of mine as well. She has now recently suggested to me that I write her emails there because she can't check her old email account anymore (long story) but if I do, it's going to be with some very ordinary boring guy name, perferably one that conjures up an unfavorable image.

Anyway, I'm glad you dug this thread out of whatever place it was in. I went on collarme a week or two ago. I was bored and looked at the female submissives who had profiles with pictures up. What I noticed was a pretty interesting pattern and I wanted to ask others here what they thought about it. A good porportion of the woman who had a photo up (didn't look at too many of the no-photo ones so can't comment on these) had some excuse for being on a personal-ad site but not looking for a dominant! I think at least 60 percent, maybe more, were like this. The most common things I saw were:

1. I belong to master so and so and I'm here to find other "sister subbies" for him to dom.
2. I belong to master so and so but I am lonely and am looking for friends--Sub women only please!
3. I belonged to master so and so and I'm looking for my replacement!
4. I am not owned and I am looking but all my correspondence must go through master or mistress so and so who is my (substitutute whatever the current in word for protector-mentor is here)
5. I am pleased to announce that I now belong to master so and so! All male doms should cease and desist from writing me (doesn't explain why she doesn't deactivate her profile).
6. I am here, I don't belong to anyone, but I am not looking either. But I'm interesting in making friends.

Then, of the women with photos who are left and actually admit to looking for a dominant, about 30-40 percent of them state "no men only." Perfectly legitimate to go after the sex you want, although a lot of these women do not strike me as dyed in the wool lesbians. For some of them, something else is going on other than a love for women, I am certain, and I suspect it might just be a variation of the pattern I've been pointing out above, which is to be on a personals board but to not be available.

But why do this? Why put a profile on a personals-ad site in the first place if you are not interested in meeting somebody for sex-and-or-romance? A friend suggested to me that personal ad sites are now "all about community" and casual socializing and aren't necessarily about finding love interests anymore. Is this true? Do people regard personal-ad sites as social clubs? Why do this when there are so many other clearly labeled social clubs online, including plenty where you can post a profile and your photo if you want? Someone else suggested that a lot of women have become so disappointed and desperate at the low quality of men who respond to their ads, men who often try to hurt them emotionally if they say "not interested," and that these women have given up, are in despair or afraid of being hurt even more. But they're still on the boards, because they can't give up the habit-hope of meeting someone. So they say they have masters or say they are not looking. That is pretty sad, if so. My personal idea is that people crave attention and that women have learned they can get loads of it online by pretending to a sexual availability that is not actually there? But that's probably a bit cynical.

Anyway, this trend is kind of bafffling to me, and would certainly be depressing if I were a single guy looking for a partner online.

LOL, I noticed the same thing. I guess getting a hundred emails before you have a profile up can be a bit of a turnoff.

 

[DVS]

It is astonishing how many people check the list of who's new there and then write you even before you have a profile. This happened to a girlfriend of mine as well. She has now recently suggested to me that I write her emails there because she can't check her old email account anymore (long story) but if I do, it's going to be with some very ordinary boring guy name, perferably one that conjures up an unfavorable image.

Anyway, I'm glad you dug this thread out of whatever place it was in. I went on collarme a week or two ago. I was bored and looked at the female submissives who had profiles with pictures up. What I noticed was a pretty interesting pattern and I wanted to ask others here what they thought about it. A good porportion of the woman who had a photo up (didn't look at too many of the no-photo ones so can't comment on these) had some excuse for being on a personal-ad site but not looking for a dominant! I think at least 60 percent, maybe more, were like this. The most common things I saw were:

1. I belong to master so and so and I'm here to find other "sister subbies" for him to dom.
2. I belong to master so and so but I am lonely and am looking for friends--Sub women only please!
3. I belonged to master so and so and I'm looking for my replacement!
4. I am not owned and I am looking but all my correspondence must go through master or mistress so and so who is my (substitutute whatever the current in word for protector-mentor is here)
5. I am pleased to announce that I now belong to master so and so! All male doms should cease and desist from writing me (doesn't explain why she doesn't deactivate her profile).
6. I am here, I don't belong to anyone, but I am not looking either. But I'm interesting in making friends.

Then, of the women with photos who are left and actually admit to looking for a dominant, about 30-40 percent of them state "no men only." Perfectly legitimate to go after the sex you want, although a lot of these women do not strike me as dyed in the wool lesbians. For some of them, something else is going on other than a love for women, I am certain, and I suspect it might just be a variation of the pattern I've been pointing out above, which is to be on a personals board but to not be available.

But why do this? Why put a profile on a personals-ad site in the first place if you are not interested in meeting somebody for sex-and-or-romance? A friend suggested to me that personal ad sites are now "all about community" and casual socializing and aren't necessarily about finding love interests anymore. Is this true? Do people regard personal-ad sites as social clubs? Why do this when there are so many other clearly labeled social clubs online, including plenty where you can post a profile and your photo if you want? Someone else suggested that a lot of women have become so disappointed and desperate at the low quality of men who respond to their ads, men who often try to hurt them emotionally if they say "not interested," and that these women have given up, are in despair or afraid of being hurt even more. But they're still on the boards, because they can't give up the habit-hope of meeting someone. So they say they have masters or say they are not looking. That is pretty sad, if so. My personal idea is that people crave attention and that women have learned they can get loads of it online by pretending to a sexual availability that is not actually there? But that's probably a bit cynical.

Anyway, this trend is kind of bafffling to me, and would certainly be depressing if I were a single guy looking for a partner online.

With some of this post, you've hit the nail on the head. In other parts, I just don't know. But, personally, I do find it so very strange, trying to get someone to even respond to a message.

I've given up, actually. I sent over 30 messages on collarme alone, not to mention the ones I sent on Alt, before that. I only got four replies of all, Alt and collerme. Of those four, I caught two as actually lying on their profiles. They were not what they said (I won't go into detail).

The other two, I actually got to the chat stage with. But, we didn't even get past the basics before they left, without an obvious reason. One said she had a phone call and never came back. The other just plain left. Your guess is as good as mine as to what happened. Both only chatted with me maybe two minutes, if that long. What can one stranger find out about another stranger in less than two minutes?

Of those two, I sent a message to the second, telling her how rude I thought she was. I pretty much called her a poser, considering men as disposable without care for feelings.

She replied to my message with the following...
You're probably correct. On all accounts.

Later, I saw where she changed her profile to say she was "in a serious relationship"

I just had to mess with her some more...
I sent her a message asking how long she had chatted with him before finding out he was compatible.

Her reply...
I'll be honest with you. First of all, the "local" men all seem to be married or have something to hide - primarily their faces, for some odd reason. I have actually given MUCH time to local men. But, they appear to all be "game players" and "wannabees." The ones I considered to be serious about this just happen to be from out of state. However, I AM finding out that THEY are less serious. After all, I won't have a long-distance relationship - cyber sex - as they all seem to want. And, they do not have plans on coming here.

There were several local men that "piqued [my] interest." However, they send you one message and expect you to drop into their laps without even meeting and getting to know one another. I do not intend to have sex with a man the first time I meet him. Yet, that is what I have been finding the local men want. Why is that?

She didn't tell me how long she had chatted with him. Bitch! LOL. I asked her why she didn't remove her profile, if she found "the" one. So many seem to post they've found the special one, yet leave their profiles active.

Her reply...
I asked him if I should delete my profile, but he said "no" - he wants others to know I am "taken." Although.......I haven't even seen (met) him yet - he lives out of state and hasn't really mentioned any time soon that he plans on traveling here.
So, you may be right - I may NOT be as serious about him as I'd like to be. We'll see - if he doesn't "materialize" soon.

Just a couple days later, "in a serious relationship" was missing from her profile. I sent her a message...something like "so, looking again?"

She hasn't sent me a reply. Too bad. I was getting into it.

Now, I know she isn't the smartest brick in the wall. That's obvious. Or, she's just a poser looking for attention. Either of thse choices could fit very well. My point? Men have their problems with the other sex, too.

I'm being serious. I'm being honest. I'm talking straight about what I am and who I am. I'm not getting that, in return, if I get anything at all. That cuts into an ego, even one as secure as mine. I won't ever understand the minds of some people.

I am bothered by the many I wrote to that didn't reply. And I'm bothered by those who did reply...if they are the ones who actually find me apealing? I konw it can't be me.

I've never had a problem in the past finding a date. This is raally no different. So, I tend to agree with the scenario that at least collarme has become more of a social list.

I let my Alt membership expire. I see my profile being viewed by standard female members. I can't view anything at all without sending money. There must be a double standard.

Oh, that one woman I've been sending messages to? Her profile now says she's "involved". The saga goes on...

 

[Marquis]

DVS, tell me where you live, I am going to find you a sub.

 

[DVS]

DVS, tell me where you live, I am going to find you a sub.

I'm too old. That was another problem. Anything over 40-45 and you're old and rinkled, I guess. And, I guess they figure you can't get it up, either.

You young whipersnappers have it made. The internet is a quick and dirty way to meet new meat. But it brings out the crazys, too.

 

[Aeroil]

I'm too old. That was another problem. Anything over 40-45 and you're old and rinkled, I guess. And, I guess they figure you can't get it up, either.

You young whipersnappers have it made. The internet is a quick and dirty way to meet new meat. But it brings out the crazys, too.

Young ones have it made? no, I think you mean the 20 and 30 year olds have it made.

 

[SweetDommes]

Young ones have it made? no, I think you mean the 20 and 30 year olds have it made.

Don't be so sure. Personally, I'm about to say to hell with it all and either leave our family incomplete or kidnap one of the C.O.s from the jail (not because of the handcuffs either ... he's cute, he's funny, and he's already expressed that he likes how I don't take any shit off of the inmates ... only problem being - I'm 80% sure that he smokes).

 

[sincerely_helene]

I'm too old. That was another problem. Anything over 40-45 and you're old and rinkled, I guess. And, I guess they figure you can't get it up, either.

You young whipersnappers have it made. The internet is a quick and dirty way to meet new meat.

That's bull-poop, DVS one.

My Alt profile specifically states, in fact, that I preffer 40 +. You see, Some of us are quite aware of the advantages that maturity and experiance has to offer.

I have, however, admittedly reacted in a less than available manner to those old and young alike who have approached me in a less than appropriate manner. If someone I have known all of under an hour brings up the topic of kink/sex/cup size/cock size/naked photos, I begin to get uncomfortable and question motives. Maybe your former conquest has trust issues due to previous encounters on personals sites? Regardless, not really fair to make the generalization you did.

 

[catalina_francisco]

With some of this post, you've hit the nail on the head. In other parts, I just don't know. But, personally, I do find it so very strange, trying to get someone to even respond to a message.

I've given up, actually. I sent over 30 messages on collarme alone, not to mention the ones I sent on Alt, before that. I only got four replies of all, Alt and collerme. Of those four, I caught two as actually lying on their profiles. They were not what they said (I won't go into detail).

The other two, I actually got to the chat stage with. But, we didn't even get past the basics before they left, without an obvious reason. One said she had a phone call and never came back. The other just plain left. Your guess is as good as mine as to what happened. Both only chatted with me maybe two minutes, if that long. What can one stranger find out about another stranger in less than two minutes?

Of those two, I sent a message to the second, telling her how rude I thought she was. I pretty much called her a poser, considering men as disposable without care for feelings.

She replied to my message with the following...
You're probably correct. On all accounts.

Later, I saw where she changed her profile to say she was "in a serious relationship"

I just had to mess with her some more...
I sent her a message asking how long she had chatted with him before finding out he was compatible.

Her reply...
I'll be honest with you. First of all, the "local" men all seem to be married or have something to hide - primarily their faces, for some odd reason. I have actually given MUCH time to local men. But, they appear to all be "game players" and "wannabees." The ones I considered to be serious about this just happen to be from out of state. However, I AM finding out that THEY are less serious. After all, I won't have a long-distance relationship - cyber sex - as they all seem to want. And, they do not have plans on coming here.

There were several local men that "piqued [my] interest." However, they send you one message and expect you to drop into their laps without even meeting and getting to know one another. I do not intend to have sex with a man the first time I meet him. Yet, that is what I have been finding the local men want. Why is that?

She didn't tell me how long she had chatted with him. Bitch! LOL. I asked her why she didn't remove her profile, if she found "the" one. So many seem to post they've found the special one, yet leave their profiles active.

Her reply...
I asked him if I should delete my profile, but he said "no" - he wants others to know I am "taken." Although.......I haven't even seen (met) him yet - he lives out of state and hasn't really mentioned any time soon that he plans on traveling here.
So, you may be right - I may NOT be as serious about him as I'd like to be. We'll see - if he doesn't "materialize" soon.

Just a couple days later, "in a serious relationship" was missing from her profile. I sent her a message...something like "so, looking again?"

She hasn't sent me a reply. Too bad. I was getting into it.

Now, I know she isn't the smartest brick in the wall. That's obvious. Or, she's just a poser looking for attention. Either of thse choices could fit very well. My point? Men have their problems with the other sex, too.

I'm being serious. I'm being honest. I'm talking straight about what I am and who I am. I'm not getting that, in return, if I get anything at all. That cuts into an ego, even one as secure as mine. I won't ever understand the minds of some people.

I am bothered by the many I wrote to that didn't reply. And I'm bothered by those who did reply...if they are the ones who actually find me apealing? I konw it can't be me.

I've never had a problem in the past finding a date. This is raally no different. So, I tend to agree with the scenario that at least collarme has become more of a social list.

I let my Alt membership expire. I see my profile being viewed by standard female members. I can't view anything at all without sending money. There must be a double standard.

Oh, that one woman I've been sending messages to? Her profile now says she's "involved". The saga goes on...

Don't give up!!...first you're cheating and hurting yourself, second - that special sub doing the same frustrating search as you will never find out how great you are!! I can empathise and still remember how frustrating the search can be. I got disillusioned many times, and began to think perhaps 5% were serious or looking for more than a quick fuck, the rest were sharks out to devour anything they could get close enough to for 5 minutes. Perseverence can pay off and definately honesty is never worth compromising on...it just needs a lot of pep talking along the way, reminding yourself of the end goal and how much you will enjoy it, and patience....yes, I know it seems it will never happen but nothing is impossible. BTW, I was 44 when I finally was found by the Domly One and it was he who needed to convince me his being 9 years younger did not matter...and of course, as always he was right.

Catalina

 

[graceanne]

Well, DVS, I don't know what's wrong with the chicks on collarme and alt.com, but they're crazy. Believe me, if I was looking, you'd be high on my list. And frankly, your age is a plus, not a draw back. And this is coming from a 27 year old.

 

[Bandit58]

I've just upgraded my membership on adultmatchmaker (read I paid them money) so I could message some of the trial members. It's been a bit nerve racking for me as I'm quite shy and find talking to strangers quite difficult even if it's to send a message or chat to someone for the first time. All I'm looking for is a nice bi lady to meet for coffee and some fun and games but so many of them want their b/f or husband to watch or take part........I'm starting to get frustrated with the whole thing

And some of them seem way too "out there" for me......like one I'm chatting to now. She's 32 but acting more like 22 and very exhibitionist. She said she's submissive and wants to be my slut now I told her I was a sub too and had never dommed anyone in my life but could give it a go but further on in the conversation she got me a bit rattled and I gave the chat to Master for a while.......*sigh* I wish I could be more confident with this