"I seek like minded individuals"

[SweetDommes]

I got one from a woman who wanted me to "beat" her husband "down where he belongs". She even offered to make it worth my while.

*shakes head* I declined, not my thing.

Can't say that I blame you ...

We got a lot of messages from guys who wanted us to force them to submit ... to beat them into submission .. to break them ... whatever - Our normal reply was "and why exactly would we want that - either you're submissive or you're not, and we aren't interested in anyone who isn't willing in this" - the normal reply to that was "then you're not dominant" *falls off chair laughing*

Another favorite were the ones who wanted us to be discreet so their wives wouldn't find out - finally, one of them who just wouldn't leave us alone (made multiple profiles so that he could message us after we blocked them) I replies something to the effect of - and you think she wouldn't notice when you moved in with us? cuz that's the only way we will accept any boy, if they are willing to move in. Another one promised that if we accepted him, he would leave his wife for us

 

[TaintedB]

A sub girlfriend of mine who does the personals thing showed me collarme.com and I was appalled at what I saw (as well as pretty amused). But she says that the responses she gets on collarme.com are far better than anything she's gotten on alt.com or bondage.com.

I like collarme's blog thing, a place for people to post dated comments on a separate part of their profile that isn't related to their ad, but way too many people seem to use that blog to bitch about the bad behavior of others. While they do not name names (collarme won't allow those to be posted apparently), the tedious details about how so many people are so bad and "not real" (if they aren't real, what are they? Bots or AIs?) gets really tiring. I suggest that if any of you try collarme don't give into the temptation to bitch, even if you do have a lot of frustrating encounters, and even if everybody else seems to be doing it, it's kind of a turn-off to read that stuff. :/

 

[Krinaia]

I suggest that if any of you try collarme don't give into the temptation to bitch, even if you do have a lot of frustrating encounters, and even if everybody else seems to be doing it, it's kind of a turn-off to read that stuff. :/

Amen brother

 

[DVS]

I've been an Alt user for a few years, Marquis. Made a few solid friends there, but no connections worth persuing.

Give it a try. Maybe you will have better luck.

I did alt.com, and had no real luck. But, it could be that I live in a spare part of the country, too.

And, that dog thing kept sending me matches that weren't really matches. That wasn't too cool. Also, now it seems nearly everything is a charge.

And, to top it all off, they screwed me out of my Gold membership once.

Also, collarme.com was a rip off, too. They owe me about $8, that they took away, when I didn't go back for a while. Gips!

 

[DVS]

I can't remember the site, and don't even know if it's still around or not, but I met two very nice and quite lovely ladies from an ad I posted.

It was one of those you post and forget about things. I had mostly given up on it, then I got this first email from it.

She turned out to be very intelligent, and quite lovely, and a perfect match for me. She's still around, but family problems have caused problems for our getting together.

I plan on getting back together with her, sometime soon. She was a newbie and I somewhat trained her to my specifications. We enjoyed each other a lot.

The other one, was from the same site, and I couldn't believe my luck. She answered it a couple years after the first one did, and she was also quite lovely and a good match.

Acutally, she wasn't looking so much for sex as she was looking for some spanking and submissive training so she could then take that to her boyfriend and show him. That's exactly what happened, too.

We became pretty good friends, but I haven't heard from her for a while. She's not very good at answering emails, so I just wait to see if she will send me a message.

She's now happy with her boyfriend, as far as I know. She found out she is a switch and she thinks he is a switch, the last time I talked to her. I guess their only problem would be deciding who's the bottom and who's the top for the evening.

These were the only two responces I got from that site, and I can't even begin to think of which site it was.

But, I did try the other sites, Alt.com, collarme.com, bondage.com, etc., all with less than good results. Even if I got an email from someone, it would be the last one. I'd end up saying something that triggered them to think I was a loser I guess.

No, I'm NOT a loser. It was their loss.

 

[SweetDommes]

But, I did try the other sites, Alt.com, collarme.com, bondage.com, etc., all with less than good results. Even if I got an email from someone, it would be the last one. I'd end up saying something that triggered them to think I was a loser I guess.

No, I'm NOT a loser. It was their loss.

And amen to that as well ... it probably wasn't anything that you said that made them think you were a loser, probably something you said that made them realize you aren't a poser and player like most of them on there ... and since that seems to be what most on that site are/are looking for, they moved on to someone who would give them the 1-night-stand thing they were looking for ...

 

[DVS]

And amen to that as well ... it probably wasn't anything that you said that made them think you were a loser, probably something you said that made them realize you aren't a poser and player like most of them on there ... and since that seems to be what most on that site are/are looking for, they moved on to someone who would give them the 1-night-stand thing they were looking for ...

LOL, I didn't mean my post to seem like I'm down and out about those sites, because I'm not.

Oh, sure, I'd like to meet a lot of people and have a lot of kinky fun, but I get my share. And, I do OK without the poser types. I didn't even look at it that way...them wanting a one night stand situation.

You know? I could have consented to a one night stand and just never untied 'em. Would that be so bad?

 

[SweetDommes]

LOL, I didn't mean my post to seem like I'm down and out about those sites, because I'm not.

Oh, sure, I'd like to meet a lot of people and have a lot of kinky fun, but I get my share. And, I do OK without the poser types. I didn't even look at it that way...them wanting a one night stand situation.

You know? I could have consented to a one night stand and just never untied 'em. Would that be so bad?

I actually didn't take it like that - I am hard on those sites because they suck ... but eh, I know people who have had luck on them, so ... whatever ...

And yeah, it would be "so bad" but it would also be a hell of a lot of fun *falls off chair laughing*

 

[Silverlily]

We got a lot of messages from guys who wanted us to force them to submit ... to beat them into submission .. to break them ... whatever - Our normal reply was "and why exactly would we want that - either you're submissive or you're not, and we aren't interested in anyone who isn't willing in this" - the normal reply to that was "then you're not dominant" *falls off chair laughing*

Oh gods, I get those too. "Well, don't you know if I'm submissive? You're the Domme!" Those are right up there with the "I'm completely submissive, but I don't like pain, humiliation, doing what I'm told, being tied up, calling anybody Mistress, toys, blindfolds, or gags. Oh and I only like missonary in the dark."

I've made some good connections at Alt, but even if I hadn't I think I would stay just for the comedy.

 

[DVS]

Some have posted answers to ads they've posted. After reading some of these, I decided to venture back to collarme and test the waters.

But, I found this one profile where the woman was looking for a Mistress. I would guess she's experienced some of the same as others on this thread...well, it's kind of obvious that she has.

But she seems determined to find someone and filter out the riff raff. I hope she does.

I haven't included her nick, or the profile itself. Her profile isn't necessary, but the additions she added are priceless.

If she sees her words here, I hope she doesn't get offended. I just thought her obvious torment from the less than desirable crowd (and her methods of controlling them) were quite funny.

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I feel I should upgrade and extend my profile...over the last few days I have received countless emails and have had my email account clogged up with mainly junk ((90%)). I'm going to answer most questions here for the time wasters and hopefully it will not only limit the amount of junk I get but it will also save me a lot of time.

1: Yes I am submissive.
2: Yes I enjoy sex.
3: No I am not some angel from Heaven. ((Making references to my looks))
4: No I will not visit you in prison.
5: No I am not a prostitute and I do not ask for money.
6: No, I will not marry you.
7: No, I will not come with you on your spaceship.
8: Yes, I'm very very very well aware I am a woman.
9: No, did not get a hair transplant.
10: Yes I am a Real Bisexual.

PS:: I am not into house chores or being a nanny. I'm submissive not a slave.

PPS:: A lot of you have questioned me about "Learnt" It is a word mainly used in British grammar. "I've learnt about these things"

PPPS:: If you are going to contact me, please write a decent email.

I have received so many emails and most go unanswered...if you're one of those people who have emailed me and wondered why I haven't emailed you back, you'll probably find the reason listed below.

1: Bad Grammar. ((Spelling mistakes I can live with, grammar mistakes, I can live with, but piss poor grammar, that's where I draw the line. I will NOT reply to people who write to me using numbers ((Example being, "I have been 2 Orlando)) Another example, using single letters such as U and UR.

2: Two sentences or less. I'm sorry but what can you possibly tell me in two sentences and what can I possibly answer back? Think about it.

3: Before you contact me, read about me, I know my profile is short and not detailed, but it does give you certain clues as how to address me. Look at my picture, my picture does not have slut or whore written all over it, so when I receive emails saying, "I'd love to f**k you" your email ends up being deleted and you're pretty much left with f**king yourself.

My profile clearly states I'm Bisexual, so there is no reason to ask me, "are you Bisexual?" ((For the uninformed in here, Bisexual means I am attracted to both Male and Female)) People emailing me these kinds of questions which are clearly stated on my profile will immediately be deleted.

4: Please note I am looking for Domme's ((For the Uninformed, Domme = Female Dominant)) and/or Couples ((2 people, either Male/Female or Female/Female)) If single Dom's contact me, the only way I'll reply is if their email interests me.

5: I am submissive yes, but I am not YOUR SUBMISSIVE which means, I'll speak to you anyway I deem fit. I will not call you Master or Daddy or Lord or whatever name under the sun. Anyone emailing me and demanding I email them back addressing them as Lord, God or whatever will have a better chance at winning the lottery.

6: I do not mind chatting to people from other countries, but please, speak ENGLISH. I do NOT speak French, German or Spanish and I received one email in a language that I don't even recognize.

7: ((Please mark my words and if necessary consult a dictionary.)) I DO NOT SEEK FINANCIAL AID FROM ANYONE. I have no plans to relocate to your place and if in the future I did, I would do it off my own back. I have my own independence and I keep it. If anyone emails me with "I can offer to help you relocate financially" well, I suggest you help yourself financially and buy a good dictionary.

This may seem strict, but I have good reason to be.

A: I'm a woman, we get a lot more feedback than men. ((That is the Truth))

B: I'm submissive and it's mainly through my knowledge ((I could be wrong)) I feel Dominants chase after Submissive people more so then Submissive's chasing after Dominants unless you're a man. ((Men will chase anything, Dominant or Submissive, wouldn't matter, that's a man's nature))

C: I'm sick and tired of having to clear out all the junk I get in my email account.

Thank You.

Best Regards

xxx

 

[Krinaia]

That woman and an earlier comment you made DVS reminds me of a profile I recently read whilst at collarme.com

This one gentle in his blog section, chose to bitch about lack of replies he receives. In his blog, he detailed how it was rude to not reply, or to send replies such as "thanks, but no thanks"

I was pretty insulted by this.... obviously he has never had a box filled with things like, "you have pretty eyes" or "want to be my lil girl?" or "i am master lord fucking spectacular and i and my three slaves will make you a part of our family" - when your profile clearly states that you wish to be left alone by couples... or of course my favorites, the 40 and 50something year old men that email me trying to argue or lecture me on being closed minded on not wanting to date twice my age (sigh)

I've deleted more than my share of emails, unanswered

 

[Krinaia]

What I also dont get are dominants who want women whose limits can be pushed and new boundaries set.

As if just because the limits are there, pushing them is the answer to dominance.

Reminds me of your first day of gym class when you'd tie your shoelaces ten times so that your mile run would be 25 minutes and you'd look really good at the end of the semester when you ran a mile in 14 minutes or under.


Imagines sceneriao:

Hello sirlimitpusher!

I'm submissive and my limits are no bondage, no forced orgasms, no kneeling, no pain of any sort, no spanking and no ice cubes. My hard limits are of course, no blood, no scat and no small living or nonliving life forms.

Sincerly,
submissivebondagefetishist


First session:

SirLP: Let me tie you up
SBF: Okay!

Second session:
SirLP: let me tie you up and spank you
SBF: well, i dunno
SirLP: are you submissive or aren't you?
SBF: well, okay!

 

[DVS]

This one gentle in his blog section, chose to bitch about lack of replies he receives. In his blog, he detailed how it was rude to not reply, or to send replies such as "thanks, but no thanks"

I was pretty insulted by this.... obviously he has never had a box filled with things like, "you have pretty eyes" or "want to be my lil girl?" or "i am master lord fucking spectacular and i and my three slaves will make you a part of our family" - when your profile clearly states that you wish to be left alone by couples... or of course my favorites, the 40 and 50something year old men that email me trying to argue or lecture me on being closed minded on not wanting to date twice my age (sigh)

Now, SkylineBlue, don't forget there ARE men on the other side of this coin just like you, trying to find someone they are compatible with. And, they have to stand out in that crowd of idiots who are bombarding your email with the tripe you so often receive.

These men (how ever many there may be, it's near impossible to know because of the many creeps who stand out) would like to know their emails are at least getting read and yes, a nice "thanks but no thanks" would be appreciated.

Otherwise, they might think their honest email didn't stand out enough to be different from that common tripe and decide they need to stand out more by saying some stupid line like "kneel at my feet, bitch" to catch your eye.

Sure, these men understand women get more messages than men, and they also understand a lot of those messages are from married men looking for some nookie on the side, Dom wannabes, sickos with sticky fingers and even 16-18 year old virgins looking for their first lay.

Now, I don't try to push someone's limits, nor will I try to get some young cutie to submit to me if her profile says "nobody over age 35 need reply" just because she has a tight body and I want to prove to her I've still got it. I do prefer someone closer to my own age which is 51.

But, if this cutie prefers older men, that's a completely different scenario and I'm willing to give her what she wants, if what she wants and what I want are a match. Age is not a factor if we click. But, I'm not the type to be a "daddy" figure, and I'm quick to tell them so.

But, I do understand your point and agree with you that it's very difficult to filter though the messages filled with slobbers and snot, to find that special gem.

But, isn't it possible you could overlook one of those gems, because you've been inundated by so much slop that your delete finger is just itchin' to kiss one more off to cyber hell?

I do feel your pain, as long as you can feel our pain, too. Just for the record (and don't take this the wrong way), you do have pretty eyes.

 

[witcha]

I definitely agree stuff like this can be majorly annoying..Even tho my ad clearly states I'm only looking for older guys living in the UK I gwet tons of messages from guys from the US willing to pay for my flight ticket,school and what not if only I 'let go of all my limits and accept being their toy'...gee...why I wonder why I didn't reply





witcha

 

[SweetDommes]

I definitely agree stuff like this can be majorly annoying..Even tho my ad clearly states I'm only looking for older guys living in the UK I gwet tons of messages from guys from the US willing to pay for my flight ticket,school and what not if only I 'let go of all my limits and accept being their toy'...gee...why I wonder why I didn't reply





witcha

We had kind of the opposite problem - guys from every country EXCEPT the U.S. messaging us saying that they would pay for us to fly there or to come to us, promising us that they could move to the U.S. without problem, etc etc ... although I'd have to say the worst was the one who "requested" that we pay to fly him from Italy (I think), and keep him in a cage when we weren't using him, to take away all of his money (of which, it kinda sounded like he had, um, NONE), etc. Or maybe the femsub from the UK who wanted to move in with us (what part of "male" and "from the U.S. only" is so blasted hard to understand?) - at least she claimed that she could afford to pay for all the expenses and had independant income so that we wouldn't have to work full time LOL.

 

[shy slave]

Next....

For some reasont this really made me giggle...

"I want to be intellectually stimulated"

I wonder if DVS has some specialised toys for this kind of stimulation

 

[DVS]

I wonder if DVS has some specialised toys for this kind of stimulation

Easy. First, you tie someone down and hook them up to the TENS, the violet wand or my punishment chair. Yep, remote control rules!

Then, you intellectually encourage them, with intellectual type things. You know...high brow music, foreign art films, escargot and Russian caviar...things like that.

Just when they least suspect it and seem to be enjoying themselves, you um...stimulate them!

Before the night is over, they're glad to be back eatin' Totino's pizza, drinkin' beer and lightin' their farts.

 

[Krinaia]

These men (how ever many there may be, it's near impossible to know because of the many creeps who stand out) would like to know their emails are at least getting read and yes, a nice "thanks but no thanks" would be appreciated.

Otherwise, they might think their honest email didn't stand out enough to be different from that common tripe and decide they need to stand out more by saying some stupid line like "kneel at my feet, bitch" to catch your eye.

Trust me, my common reply to such well constructed gems of offers that somehow do not managed to catch my interest.... especially since I am now monogamous, I now reply with a kind return. But the situation which I was discribing with this particular gent's blog... was he wanted more then a thanks but no thanks, he felt that such a reply was rude and that any submissive who did this needed a lesson in manners.... <sigh>

 

[TaintedB]

Originally posted by SkylineBlue

I've deleted more than my share of emails, unanswered

I imagine that sometimes the name a person chooses for themselves will make you delete them unread too. For example, any woman in middle age who got a letter from "WantsA20SomethingBarbieDollTrophyWife" would be out of her mind to actually read the thing.

I like to read the female personals, too, and a lot of them who write astonishingly like Rosco (well, at least in their diaries or blogs ) choose names that are dead giveaways of that romantic, soft, I'm looking for a Hallmark Greetings Card Teddybear dom, so everybody be overly gentle with me attitude.

It's Ok to want super soft-n-easy, of course, having a very rough life will almost make you crave that, I think. But why advertise for it on a personals board where people are, very generally speaking, interesting in beating the shit out of each other? I mean, wouldn't she have better luck finding that sort of person on a straight board?

 

[Krinaia]

I imagine that sometimes the name a person chooses for themselves will make you delete them unread too. For example, any woman in middle age who got a letter from "WantsA20SomethingBarbieDollTrophyWife" would be out of her mind to actually read the thing.

Actually... I rarely pay attention, sometimes these things are meant sardonically... you know

 

[rosco rathbone]

It's Ok to want super soft-n-easy, of course, having a very rough life will almost make you crave that, I think. But why advertise for it on a personals board where people are, very generally speaking, interesting in beating the shit out of each other? I mean, wouldn't she have better luck finding that sort of person on a straight board?

*chin stroking professor emoticon*

 

[snowy ciara]

*chin stroking professor emoticon*

standing behind Professor Rosco doing the chin stroking professor emoticon impression, then hiding

 

[LunarKitten]

this was great....

"I am educated, intelligent, and fabulous. Want me???? This is a symbiotic relationship and we must compromise on many levels.You may contact me. If you are lucky we shall talk soon."

Actually, this one reminds me of a reply I received on my personal ad last year. "...Read my profile and if interested in communicating it would be best that you reply. I will send a picture if you ask nicely"

 

[LunarKitten]

I shouldn't complain just yet... I have a date Thursday and if everything works out with him, I might be able to consider myself a very lucky girl indeed!

Well, I didn't meet Master from my personal ad - he said he never knew I had one lol

But, I did meet him through a thread on the playground - the Carolina Thread. We've known each other for a year now, and have been married for almost two months.

So, don't totally give up just yet. There are some wonderful mates to be found *huggles*

 

[TaintedB]

Originally posted by SkylineBlue
Actually... I rarely pay attention, sometimes these things are meant sardonically... you know

True, although it's a little hard to do sadonic online without the voice tones. Tends to take a lot of very carefully crafted words to carry it off, and even then, if the context if which a person comes across your sadonic attitude is just a little off, they may either read it as literal or ascribe some other, less flattering, emotion to your words. It's extremely hard to do "sardony" and be understood, even by your intended audience, in just a profile name. My tendency would be, if I found out someone's short profile name is actually meant sardonically would be to think his was an idiot and wish I hadn't wasted my time reading further and finding that out.

I'm making a distinction here between playful and clever names and names that represent other brands of humor and sardonic names--to me, the former are cool and often funny. But because so many folks in these personal-ad places choose names that sound sardonic but mean them in dead earnestness, I think it's not very smart that a person would attempt sadonic humor with his or her name: it would suggest such a humorist is rather clueless about the context and environment in which he writes. (Or perhaps he doesn't care and is only after a few yuks, but again that suggests either extreme alienation or stupidity bordering on idiocy to me, because there are so many more appropriate and "rewarding" places besides a personal-ad site that a person with a sardonic sense of humor can post in and get far more appreciation for his posts.)

A sardonic attitude, if not used very carefully in a personal ad can have an effect similar to much of a strong spice in a dish: it can suggest a level of bitterness and unrealistic (as in overtheboard and collegiate) cynicism that, like finding out somebody is audience-clueless, would be a big personal turn-off to anybody who was intelligent enough to get the humor but but both sincere enough and busy enough to be annoyed at the time-wasting bait-and-switch, but in that regard, I must admit that people's milage does vary quite a bit, and often directly with how much personal milage they've had in life! I guess it depends somewhat on how often you've been bored by a sardonic 'tude in the past and how bone weary you are of seeing it in a context where sincerity and honesty are extremely important, albeit rare, ingredients.