I want to be in a relationship with 2 men.

[balok]

sigh... why can't i find someone like this where i live? (melb, oz). most women don't want me because they think im gay or just find me unattractive yet i have no problems in finding a guy if i want (like tonight!). Why can't i find a nice medium????

 

[groove_kid]

The whole thing is, could you handle being in a
relationship with two other people at once, in the same relationship?
It can be a lot to handle.

 

[SuchaBadDog]

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[human_male]

Well I've often thought I'd like to wake up as a woman, so if they ever invent the technology to make that possible gimme a jingle.

I don't think you're weird for wanting what you want, but it would be tricky. If you go the way that everyone suggests and get yourself a bi boyfriend first, there's the risk that he might not have any interest in a third member.

I think finding a bi guy who's already in a relationship with a bi guy and getting to know them both as friends first might be a better way to go. Then once you've gotten to know them well enough let them both know together that you'd like something more with both of them.

I wish you luck.

 

[blue234]

i'm in a similar relationship. i'm in a relationship with my best friend from high school who's gay, and i also have a live-in gf. we do anything and everything together. it's a great relationship where we all benefit.

 

[firew0man]

The whole thing is, could you handle being in a
relationship with two other people at once, in the same relationship?
It seems like a lot to handle.One is bad enough.
I'm bi,but have never wanted a 'relationship' with a guy.Only sex.
If I'm friends with a guy I don't want sex with him.It's how it works
for me. I'm very particular about who I want sex with anyway.
Who isn't though?

Yeah it seems like a lot to handle, but I've thought about it, and I'm willing to go through the risk and make it work if it means enjoying the kind of relationship that I've always wanted. Of course it'd be hard to find the two guys who would want to be involved in this, because as you said, there are those who only want sex and not a relationship.

But I'm keeping a positive mind about it! And crossing my fingers, too.

 

[firew0man]

Well I've often thought I'd like to wake up as a woman, so if they ever invent the technology to make that possible gimme a jingle.

I don't think you're weird for wanting what you want, but it would be tricky. If you go the way that everyone suggests and get yourself a bi boyfriend first, there's the risk that he might not have any interest in a third member.

I think finding a bi guy who's already in a relationship with a bi guy and getting to know them both as friends first might be a better way to go. Then once you've gotten to know them well enough let them both know together that you'd like something more with both of them.

I wish you luck.

Thank you, yeah that's what I am aiming for, and hoping I can find someday.

 

[Wolfman1982]

firew0man: a love triangle is something that I think is great. As long the triangle doesn´t become bizarre (Thanks New Order for that wording)

Heck I think a mutual love triangle between three people who lovs each other is not bad, as long there is no jealousy between those who are involved. SO good luck, and heck if I lived closer to you, I would love to be one part of the three part cocktail

 

[Oaklandish]

I suppose it depends on what you are desiring the most out of a bi MFM relationship. If you're looking forward to the tender moments lazing around bed on Sun. Morning, or the day to day enjoyments of doing laundry together, etc... That does sound wonderful, but quite hard to find and maintain.

On the other hand, if what you crave is just the thrill of the hunt, it has been one of my LONG, LONG term fantasies to find a woman to go out with, and essentially act as a "wingman" for each other, finding a guy or girl that we both find attractive, and just pick him/her up for a night of bi MFM fun. I certainly know that I'm not alone in this, but I have yet to meet a woman where it's clicked.

I've spent the last 7 years in a committed relationship with an otherwise wonderful woman who had serious hangups about anything homosexual. It's been over for about 9 months now, and I'm realizing I'm finally being handed an opportunity to really try and explore those type of fantasies. So, OP, I guess I'll be searching too... I wish you luck, do the same for me!

 

[bisexualsmoker]

The best of luck in your search for a relationship like that.
It sounds pretty heavy.
I think perhaps what you could do is look for two
guys who are already in a relationship,who have been in a relationship
for quite some time,where one guy is bi.
Trying to get such a thing together from scratch sounds like quite an
ordeal, but what would I know?
It seems I've lost my my mojo.
No women have wanted to know me for the past two months!
No new ones anyway, and the ones I already know just want to play
head games.
I'm sexy as hell too. It's obvious.I can't find my mojo!

Then again, there is always guys.

 

[curious26TX]

all i can say is that i'm jealous. i would love to be in a relationship like this. hehe

 

[latendresse]

fire walk with me

I like all your posts, and I like how you think. Wish I could meet someone like you in real life (sigh ...).

Everything you say about bi men is spot on and represents a very long held fantasy of mine. But I only had the most fleeting opportunities to indulge myself -- so far!

Please write back with any of your experiences. Very interested to hear them.

 

[Fatemaster]

I'm looking for the same thing, we should chat sometime...

 

[firew0man]

The whole thing is, could you handle being in a
relationship with two other people at once, in the same relationship?
It can be a lot to handle.

I'm thinking yes. And I'm also thinking, all three of us will have the same concern, you know? It's not just me who will take care of two other people, for them it'd be the same thing.

Also...if the sex is mind-blowing and out of this world, it's worth trying.

 

[dave's thing]

so... almost a year later you bring this up for discussion again. Makes me wanna ask why? Has something happened?

 

[firew0man]

Haha. No. Nothing has happened so far. I've a few offers but haven't got anything that I really wanted. Most are offers for one night stands and what nots. I suppose I have been busy myself, which is why I haven't been on here in awhile. Has it been a year already? Haha.

 

[dave's thing]

Well regardless... being in a two way relationship can be very tricky as at some point there is a third out and it akes great communiction and control of emotions. Not that much different then a long standing one on one relationship except the "jealousy" emotion tends to come into play a lot more

 

[firew0man]

Yeah well..I was thinking that if you all three are really involved in the relationship, and you love the other two equally then it would be a great relationship, wouldn't you think? Then again, I don't know if I'm way in over my head. Maybe what I want is just stuff that's read about in stories or something.