I'm having a lesbian affair...with a married woman

[wwot40]

He's a deal maker. He negotiates. I'm just me.

Biut you are your best (and only) advocate

 

[ConsiderateBeast]

Very true. Also, what are you negotiating for?

Do you want her to leave him?

If so, do you want to have her exclusively and drop Rico (and any others)?

 

[LaotianLass]

Very true. Also, what are you negotiating for?

Do you want her to leave him?

If so, do you want to have her exclusively and drop Rico (and any others)?

No. I don't think so. I'm not sure.

I don't want her to leave him, unless she wants to. I won't actively try to break up their marriage.

I don't need Rico or others if i have her. But. When she was gone with her husband I needed someone.

Maybe I need freedom too. If they both get freedom

 

[LaotianLass]

Ok say yeah. I am not to be tied down exclusively.

 

[LaotianLass]

That makes sense, right?

 

[ConsiderateBeast]

Yes. But negotiating generally requires clear objectives. Know your BATNA - the best alternative to negotiated agreement, or in other words, the point where you'll walk away. Try to know theirs.

 

[LaotianLass]

Yes. But negotiating generally requires clear objectives. Know your BATNA - the best alternative to negotiated agreement, or in other words, the point where you'll walk away. Try to know theirs.

I don't know it precisely. I haven't envisioned all the possibilities, I don't think. That puts, me in a position where I'm reactive, I guess.

 

[peterlickspussy]

I hope it is a good meeting. Three cheers for your passionate night.

Just don’t put your life on hold hoping something happens that might never happen.

Of course, he wants to fuck you!

 

[paulboulder]

What a whirlwind of emotions. I would say what you do outside of seeing her is none of her husband's business. If you want to see a guy, that's between you and her to decide how open your relationship is, but not her husband. He doesn't get to control your life away from her. I would imagine his main condition would be no other guys with the two of you together...no FFM in their house. If he has other "conditions" that involve you doing something you don't want with him, that's a line you just don't cross. Sounds like he wants to have his cake both places.

 

[Dill_the_Dog]

Wow.
What a whirlwind!
You're right - you don't know how you'll react because you don't know what's going to be on the table. If he has a side piece in NYC it would be hugely hypocritical if he didn't allow Geneva the same lattitude.
But all you can do is think about all the possible scenarios and how you would feel about them, and at dinner just be really cool, and consider what they say very carefully before committing to anything.