Stella_Omega
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well, that was an exciting thread to read! 
Here's to you, and hoping your friendship keeps on growing 
Here's to you, and hoping your friendship keeps on growing In the History of Bad Ideas...does this one rate?
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Thank you, Stella Omega. I'm glad you're enjoying it.
I'm still not certain that my question belongs on the GLBT board, but I figured it was as good a place to start as any. Besides, I really wanted to hear some perspective from folk who're not hetero. Basically, all my friends have said "you're setting yourself up, and you're going to get hurt. I think that's friend code for the typical Mom-ism "don't come crying to me." <smile>
And yes, there have been a few bobbles...a few disturbances in the comfort we find in one another. But I'm so lucky. So very lucky to have this amazing man in my life -- with such a capacity to feel and love and do and be. I can't not adore him.
I think I've finally stopped playing the stupid game (spawned by jealousy and selfishness) of "oh, who should I set you up with today?" Preemptive strike sort of thing. He's been so very patient to look past that.
Honestly, I don't know why he puts up with me. <grin> Oh yeah. Nevermind. I do know why.
It's because I'm fabulous!
Thanks again, Duckies!
QG
I'm still not certain that my question belongs on the GLBT board, but I figured it was as good a place to start as any. Besides, I really wanted to hear some perspective from folk who're not hetero. Basically, all my friends have said "you're setting yourself up, and you're going to get hurt. I think that's friend code for the typical Mom-ism "don't come crying to me." <smile>
And yes, there have been a few bobbles...a few disturbances in the comfort we find in one another. But I'm so lucky. So very lucky to have this amazing man in my life -- with such a capacity to feel and love and do and be. I can't not adore him.
I think I've finally stopped playing the stupid game (spawned by jealousy and selfishness) of "oh, who should I set you up with today?" Preemptive strike sort of thing. He's been so very patient to look past that.
Honestly, I don't know why he puts up with me. <grin> Oh yeah. Nevermind. I do know why.
It's because I'm fabulous!
Thanks again, Duckies!
QG
uh, she said XY. Query, not sure how relevant this is, but my ex and I are closer now than my blood sisters are. She knew I was TS before we got married, but married me anyway thinking naively that marriage would 'fix' me. Even after 8 years of being intimate with one another we can now hug or even cuddle when we need each other without it seeming awkward or anything sexual expected from the other. So I say Yes, a friendship can survive an intimate interlude.Frimost said:
Sweetsyn --
It's good that you and your ex have that. I can only speak for myself, of course, but I'm rather enjoying the intimacy J and I are sharing...and not trying to look too far ahead to the "end of the affair."
And just to clear Frimost's name -- I did have my chromosomes switched. Gotta love the "edit" button, tho'.
Forgive me, Sweetsyn, but did you marry knowing she would try to change you? It's positively none of my business -- but the anonymity of a message board emboldens me to ask impertinent questions.
QG, rudely
It's good that you and your ex have that. I can only speak for myself, of course, but I'm rather enjoying the intimacy J and I are sharing...and not trying to look too far ahead to the "end of the affair."
And just to clear Frimost's name -- I did have my chromosomes switched. Gotta love the "edit" button, tho'.
Forgive me, Sweetsyn, but did you marry knowing she would try to change you? It's positively none of my business -- but the anonymity of a message board emboldens me to ask impertinent questions.
QG, rudely
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