Inviting others over.

[Yarglenurp]

Thank you. Her comfort and safety comes first. I sometimes feel I am letting her down as she wants to do more but I am restricted her. I just want to know she will not get hurt.

Honestly, I think this is a great approach to being a dom, and one reason I really admire good doms. It feels like so much work because a sub has the easy job: just obey. You have the hard job of balancing her desires with what might be too risky.

You two will have time to push boundaries far into the future, so just stay the course. She trusts in you for a reason.

 

[Supplyanddemand]

Honestly, I think this is a great approach to being a dom, and one reason I really admire good doms. It feels like so much work because a sub has the easy job: just obey. You have the hard job of balancing her desires with what might be too risky.

You two will have time to push boundaries far into the future, so just stay the course. She trusts in you for a reason.

Thank you. I hope she has faith and trusts my judgement. I have pushed boundaries recently with more humiliation (which she loves) as a kind of reward for having faith.
We have obviously had friends over and I have been observing how they interact. I know those I can trust if we push boundaries. I need to decide when and if.

 

[Supplyanddemand]

Last night I decided to push my limits with sharing and offering my slave to others and see how it went. Sarah was always keen for me to share her and let others use her. I felt some reticence t doing this.
Last night I invited three trusted and good friends over that Sarah is comfortable with. Sarah was to be in a more submissive role. She was naked except for a collar. She served and waited on the men but this time as my slave. She was ordered around more and I picked up on minor transgression of anything asked. I punished her into front of my friends ( spanking, inserting objects into her and making her clean the floor with her body etc.).
She had to display her body and let the men touch her when they asked. She was made to pretend to be a puppy and we played with her for entertainment.
Finally, if the men asked for oral relief she had to do it. They did and she loved it! I saw her blossom, she was in her element and really loved the attention and humiliation.

 

[Yarglenurp]

Last night I decided to push my limits with sharing and offering my slave to others and see how it went. Sarah was always keen for me to share her and let others use her. I felt some reticence t doing this.
Last night I invited three trusted and good friends over that Sarah is comfortable with. Sarah was to be in a more submissive role. She was naked except for a collar. She served and waited on the men but this time as my slave. She was ordered around more and I picked up on minor transgression of anything asked. I punished her into front of my friends ( spanking, inserting objects into her and making her clean the floor with her body etc.).
She had to display her body and let the men touch her when they asked. She was made to pretend to be a puppy and we played with her for entertainment.
Finally, if the men asked for oral relief she had to do it. They did and she loved it! I saw her blossom, she was in her element and really loved the attention and humiliation.

Sounds like a good time was had by all. Being a dom has its perks.

 

[Supplyanddemand]

Last night it finally happened.
After the last event, and seeing she was so comfortable I decided to take things further.
She was in very much a submissive role, one bar jail, toys, and bondage.
It was exhilarating showing off my slut and seeing her restrained in front of other men.
Then she was used including two men at once. I felt the host and she was my property to be used.
No feelings of anxiety or jealousy just pride.
We had a long aftercare session. She absolutely got into subspace and amazed at how she felt.

 

[Yarglenurp]

How did you two meet? Did it start off kinky, or did it progress to this?

 

[Supplyanddemand]

How did you two meet? Did it start off kinky, or did it progress to this?

It was kinky. We were both looking for a D/s relationship.

 

[oneguy4fun]

I'm enjoying this post. Thank you for sharing. It is exciting to read how things are progressing. I am a submissive male and would thoroughly enjoy if my wife put me in a similar situation with me serving her female friends.

 

[Yarglenurp]

I'm enjoying this post. Thank you for sharing. It is exciting to read how things are progressing. I am a submissive male and would thoroughly enjoy if my wife put me in a similar situation with me serving her female friends.

lol, less luck for sub guys like us, I think. Most women want a dom guy (though many don’t want it as kinky as shown here, I’m pretty sure)

 

[SPARTAN047]

It's an amazing fantasy and you did well. This comes under my dream relationship too. Being shared and passed around occasionally.

 

[Lotus_Kitty]

May I suggest you ask her if it is okay to push her limits?

Yes. Please talk before pushing limits.

 

[Lotus_Kitty]

lol, less luck for sub guys like us, I think. Most women want a dom guy (though many don’t want it as kinky as shown here, I’m pretty sure)

Woman here. I would love it if my male partner enjoyed this. Although I am mostly subby in BDSM play, I just adore subby and switchy men. (Not looking for play partners but very sympathetic to subby men who wish there were more women to appreciate the delights they offer.)

 

[Supplyanddemand]

Yes. Please talk before pushing limits.

Oh, yes everything is agreed and limits , safewords etc are in place before anything happens.

 

[Yarglenurp]

Woman here. I would love it if my male partner enjoyed this. Although I am mostly subby in BDSM play, I just adore subby and switchy men. (Not looking for play partners but very sympathetic to subby men who wish there were more women to appreciate the delights they offer.)

Hah, thank you for supporting sub men. End of the day, the statistical imbalance is just something most submissive men have to get over. It’s like mourning the existence of gravity.

 

[Lotus_Kitty]

Oh, yes everything is agreed and limits , safewords etc are in place before anything happens.

That is beautiful to me. I am so happy for your partner that she gets to play with several friends like this. I’m so happy they were all respectful and appreciative. Wish I had that for myself, for my exhibitionist desires (not looking for partners here). It sounds so joyous and hot. Safety makes that possible.

 

[Lotus_Kitty]

Hah, thank you for supporting sub men. End of the day, the statistical imbalance is just something most submissive men have to get over. It’s like mourning the existence of gravity.

We women could spread the word about how amazing submissive men are. There are several lovely smut novels with FDom/msub couples that I recommend to friends. Mistresses of the Board Room series by Joey Hill. She is a submissive herself. If you know of books written by subby men, feel free to recommend! Would love to read them.

 

[magic_rat]

I don't know where this will end up so a little reticent.

It's up to you (as a couple) to decide where it will end up.

This is fundamental stuff. Set boundaries. Ensure all concerned know where the boundaries are. Then enforce them. Do not deviate from them, even if in the heat of the moment one or more parties decide they want more. Decisions made in the heat of the moment are more likely to be regretted after. You can always discuss that decision in the cold light of day and decide whether you want to incorporate that into the next session or not. There's always next time.

In BDSM this is called contractual consent.

So, let's say the agreement is she serves drinks, tittilates, but it's a firm look, don't touch.

During the evening the guys start getting touchy-feely. Even if she seems to be enjoying it, it's your job to enforce boundaries. She is trusting you to do so.

Let's say things get a little spicy. The guys get really touchy, she gets into a groove and screams 'fuck me like a whore!'.

In the heat of the moment that may seem like a good idea but in that moment (a) you don't know if it's what she really wants, or if she's playing slut knowing she can trust you to stop it happening, or (b) if she'll hate you, herself and the guys in the morning.

You enforce the boundaries. No matter what.

Nest day you have the discussion. How did you both feel? Does she want to take it to the 'fucking like a whore' level or was it just fun to act the slut? Do you want her to take it to another level?

Redefine your boundaries accordingly for next time. There's alway next time, unless you fuck it up too soon.

 

[magic_rat]

Thank you. Her comfort and safety comes first. I sometimes feel I am letting her down as she wants to do more but I am restricted her. I just want to know she will not get hurt.

Sorry I wrote my post before seeing this. You are not letting her down my enforcing limits.