Is it a bad thing?

[DigitalDrifter]

Ok.. so I'm feeling guilty about this...

the other day, my fiance' was drunk.... really drunk.

And I kinda took advantage <spelling?> of her.

She drank too much.. and was passed out. For the record, we love, and trust one another. And have been together 10+ years now. But.... She doesn't swallow. <yes, I'm male, and I/we LOVE oral sex!>

Bottom line is, she was really, really drunk.. and, being the freak I am, after she was passe out, I rubbed my dick all over her face, put the tip in her mouth, and jacked off until I came, loads and loads.. <it was great!>.. afterwords, I felt guilty... she swallowed <a reflex action, I'm sure> and It turned me on even more. Afterwords, I lubed her backside <yes, her ass> and tried and poked around, and tried to get "in" but to no avail...

She felt great the next day, and so did I. I didn't get to fuck her ass at all <and have not yet> but has anybody else out here done this, or thought about it?!!

I love her... and I want to do this again, with her concience. am I wrong? We have been together for years now, and I feel ackword about this.....

 

[Emerald Eyed]

Dude, you raped your GF

 

[Cathleen]

Ok.. so I'm feeling guilty about this...

the other day, my fiance' was drunk.... really drunk.

And I kinda took advantage <spelling?> of her.

She drank too much.. and was passed out. For the record, we love, and trust one another. And have been together 10+ years now. But.... She doesn't swallow. <yes, I'm male, and I/we LOVE oral sex!>

Bottom line is, she was really, really drunk.. and, being the freak I am, after she was passe out, I rubbed my dick all over her face, put the tip in her mouth, and jacked off until I came, loads and loads.. <it was great!>.. afterwords, I felt guilty... she swallowed <a reflex action, I'm sure> and It turned me on even more. Afterwords, I lubed her backside <yes, her ass> and tried and poked around, and tried to get "in" but to no avail...

She felt great the next day, and so did I. I didn't get to fuck her ass at all <and have not yet> but has anybody else out here done this, or thought about it?!!

I love her... and I want to do this again, with her concience. am I wrong? We have been together for years now, and I feel ackword about this.....

Emerald is right, you raped her. She could not consent.

There goes trust out the window.

My question is, are you going to tell her?

 

[DigitalDrifter]

Wellll... I told her about it... <she questioned me about it when she woke up with a "funny taste in her mouth"..

She didn't kill me.. lol..and demanded immediate satisfaction.

<it was good>

what I wanna know is, am I alone in this? Am I a freak? Or have other's tried/done this, with varying results?

 

[DigitalDrifter]

I have to say again, SHE KNOWS ABOUT IT!.


I felt bad about it, and told her.. she told me it was kinda hot, but it wasnt' cool. I asked her what else could I have done, and she said I should have waited until she was awake.

Hell, I was drunk.. she was there, naked, and looked sooo damm good. I still feel guilty about it, but it ended up being ok with both of us. It was not RAPE. It was however, non consentual. <it ended up being>.. I'm curious how many other of us have "taken advantage" of our sleeping partners to forfil a sexual fantasy..

I'm not proud of what I did... but I'm trying to rationalize it. Anybody else have a similar experience?

 

[Cathleen]

Wellll... I told her about it... <she questioned me about it when she woke up with a "funny taste in her mouth"..

She didn't kill me.. lol..and demanded immediate satisfaction.

<it was good>

what I wanna know is, am I alone in this? Am I a freak? Or have other's tried/done this, with varying results?

Sorry pal, just the fact that you have and are laughing about this makes me want to smack you - for real.

Freak? Have others tried this? Grow up and be a man - get consent!!!

I'm quoting your posts because you and the situation are beyond believable.

 

[Cathleen]

I have to say again, SHE KNOWS ABOUT IT!.


I felt bad about it, and told her.. she told me it was kinda hot, but it wasnt' cool. I asked her what else could I have done, and she said I should have waited until she was awake.

Hell, I was drunk.. she was there, naked, and looked sooo damm good. I still feel guilty about it, but it ended up being ok with both of us. It was not RAPE. It was however, non consentual. <it ended up being>.. I'm curious how many other of us have "taken advantage" of our sleeping partners to forfil a sexual fantasy..

I'm not proud of what I did... but I'm trying to rationalize it. Anybody else have a similar experience?

Rationalize all you want. I asked her what else could I have done, and she said I should have waited until she was awake. Does that seem like a good idea? Hell yes!

You were drunk, she was drunk. Next time go to sleep.

 

[Emerald Eyed]

Wait until they get in a fight sometime and she calls the police to turn him in.

 

[DigitalDrifter]

Laughing about this?

Are you for real?!!

I'm not laughing about this.. in fact, its all consuming right now.

I confessed to what I had done the next day. She forgave me. She was a little turned on by the fact that I tried it, and a little po'd <understandable!> that I had done it.

Since then, our love life has improved, and been even more exicting <spelling?> because of it.

However, I can't let it go.. I've never done anything like that before, and am halfway sickened/excited by what I did... I'm trying to find a middle ground here, and dont' appreciate being called a freak... I owned up to what I did, and I admit, I DID VIOLATE A TRUST.. but after 10+ years, it is a trust that can handle some freakyness. I'm not asking for judegment, just asking for input of how others <if there are any out there> Have handled this before.

 

[Emerald Eyed]

Your love life is better because of it?

 

[DigitalDrifter]

Actually, yes..

I told her about it the next day.. She was pissed at first, but then turned on by it.

I'm still feeling bad because of it. I'm posting this as a dual purpose, to "cleanse my concience" and to find out if anybody else out there has had a similar experince.

I'm not proud of what I did, but it has been benificial to our realationship, as it has brought to light our various needs/unforfilled needs <spelling again> and we have both mutually adressed them.

I still feel really, really bad about what I did. I feel I violated a trust. However, WE are doing better than ever now that our various "fetish's" are out in the open.

 

[emap]

Be glad I'm not your girlfriend, mr happy would be mounted on the wall right now.

Seriously, what you did goes beyond anything most people would be happy with or allow, Oh and yes it is a bad thing.

All that said, since your girlfriend apparently likes the thought and of course you obviously do, I think the next thing you should do is look around for BDSM information, there is a section of the forums reserved for just that, and go over it with your girlfriend.

Oh and pray, DAILY that your girlfriend doesn't go wait a minute, that s**thead raped my mouth.

 

[Cathleen]

Laughing about this?

Are you for real?!!

I'm not laughing about this.. in fact, its all consuming right now.

I confessed to what I had done the next day. She forgave me. She was a little turned on by the fact that I tried it, and a little po'd <understandable!> that I had done it.

Since then, our love life has improved, and been even more exicting <spelling?> because of it.

However, I can't let it go.. I've never done anything like that before, and am halfway sickened/excited by what I did... I'm trying to find a middle ground here, and dont' appreciate being called a freak... I owned up to what I did, and I admit, I DID VIOLATE A TRUST.. but after 10+ years, it is a trust that can handle some freakyness. I'm not asking for judegment, just asking for input of how others <if there are any out there> Have handled this before.

I noted a ''lol'' in a post. I have re-read it and feel my comment about laughing about it was over the top. My apology on that.

I did not call you a freak. You asked if you were, I only questioned it as well.

To be perfect honest, I am glad you are having a terrible time about it. What you did was a violation of your trust, and her body.

However, now that you both have begun to discuss it, I think what you do - consentually - as a couple is your business. In my opinion each couple sets and defines appropriate behaviors for them. Perhaps you two will find ways to include some ''freakyness'' in your relationship - what's one man's freaky is another's normal. Work as a team.

As for your feelings, I can only assume it will take some time for you to forgive yourself. Let her help you do that. Forgiveness is a gift we give to ourselves as well.

 

[DigitalDrifter]

PS...


I'm not joking about this, or screwing around.. I'm an adult male, 31 years of age, and seeking advice from those who have experienced this or something similar.

We are getting married soon..

I love her. But I feel these urges from time to time, be it someting else I need or someting else "wierder"... I just want to find out if I'm alone in feeling this.

 

[naughtygirl69s]

I don't think it's so freaky or unbelievable. Granted it was non-consentual, but some people like that sort of thing.

If I were you, dude, I'd discuss this a little bit more with her and if she agrees she was turned on, perhaps, doing it again with consent prior could get you both off in the end *shrug*

 

[wicked woman]

sorry...the response you're getting here is going to be the majority response you're going to get. Litsters may have lots of kinks but generally non-consenting sexual acts, while perhaps enjoyable in stories and fantasies, is not condoned in real life. Non-consent IS rape. What you did is illegal. Be damned thankful she didn't kick you to the curb.


Personally I don't think you get it.

 

[Emerald Eyed]

PS...


I'm not joking about this, or screwing around.. I'm an adult male, 31 years of age, and seeking advice from those who have experienced this or something similar.

We are getting married soon..

I love her. But I feel these urges from time to time, be it someting else I need or someting else "wierder"... I just want to find out if I'm alone in feeling this.

You asked if it was bad....you got replies, now you are backpeddling. You never mentioned her knowing aboutr it in your first post, actually it almost implied she didn't know since yoiu would like her to be concious next time.


other posts you have made stated you have been with her 5 years...

You stated this was a couple days agoi, but in that couple days your sex life has gotten so much better because of it?

I smell a rat

 

[DigitalDrifter]

Fair enough..

I'm not proud of it.. thats part of why I'm admitting to it publicly. I love her. And she know's what I did.

I posted this to find if anybody else had delt with this. It was hot when it happened, hell, I was drunk on moonshine, and it happened.. I'm not gonna make excuses for my actions.

I can never live it down. I'm not proud of myself..

But I won't deny it was hot.

And I'll be dammed if I ever do it again.

Sorry to open my proverable mouth. I was just seeking input from others who have delt with a similar issue.

 

[Emerald Eyed]

Sorry to open my proverable mouth. I was just seeking input from others who have delt with a similar issue.

Then why ask 'Is it a bad thing"? AND

"am I wrong"

 

[DigitalDrifter]

Because in my heart I feel bad about it.. I've been forgiven.

But I have not forgiven myself.

I was taught at a young age that "sex was bad".... by a freaky catholic grandmother...


And I've been trying for years now to overcome that, and just be myself.

This place seemed to be a "non judgemental" spot for me to vent.

Am I wrong?

 

[LadyJeanne]

Ok.. so I'm feeling guilty about this...

the other day, my fiance' was drunk.... really drunk.

And I kinda took advantage <spelling?> of her.

She drank too much.. and was passed out. For the record, we love, and trust one another. And have been together 10+ years now. But.... She doesn't swallow. <yes, I'm male, and I/we LOVE oral sex!>

Bottom line is, she was really, really drunk.. and, being the freak I am, after she was passe out, I rubbed my dick all over her face, put the tip in her mouth, and jacked off until I came, loads and loads.. <it was great!>.. afterwords, I felt guilty... she swallowed <a reflex action, I'm sure> and It turned me on even more.

It's good that you're feeling guilty about this. Shows you have a conscience, though you obviously overrode your better judgment by forcing something she wouldn't do while conscious.

Aside from the utter wrongness of having sex with someone who can't consent, you also shouldn't come in her mouth if she's passed out drunk. She could choke or worse if her swallow reflex is shut down. You've heard of people choking on their own vomit when they're passed out drunk, right?

Afterwords, I lubed her backside <yes, her ass> and tried and poked around, and tried to get "in" but to no avail... She felt great the next day, and so did I. I didn't get to fuck her ass at all <and have not yet> but has anybody else out here done this, or thought about it?!!

She felt great the next day? What does that even mean - you didn't fuck her ass so her asshole didn't hurt? She didn't have a hangover? She didn't kick your ass to the curb when you told her what you did?

What do you think of the idea of her fucking your ass with a dildo while you were passed out drunk?

I love her... and I want to do this again, with her concience. am I wrong? We have been together for years now, and I feel ackword about this.....

What do you want to do again? Use her as your cum receptacle? Try to fuck her ass while she's asleep? Rape your girlfriend when she's passed out? Cum in her mouth while she's conscious, meaning awake? Fuck her ass while she's conscious?

If you want to fuck her while she's asleep, get her approval to first, and make sure you talk about what sexual activities are off limits.

You might want to call it non-consensual because you think that sounds better, but that's just another word for rape or coercion.

 

[DigitalDrifter]

You stated this was a couple days agoi, but in that couple days your sex life has gotten so much better because of it?

I smell a rat[/QUOTE]


A couple of days ago hell, more like 15 mins ago..

I've been lurking for years, but never posted much until like 15 mins ago, arsewhole..


FU...

 

[Emerald Eyed]

You stated this was a couple days agoi, but in that couple days your sex life has gotten so much better because of it?

I smell a rat

A couple of days ago hell, more like 15 mins ago..

I've been lurking for years, but never posted much until like 15 mins ago, arsewhole..


FU...[/QUOTE]

You raped your girlfriend 15 minutes ago?

Earlier you said it was a couple days ago

 

[DigitalDrifter]

This is too much...


I guess I deserve some of it.

Let me say again..

I molested my fiance' when she was drunk.. I took advantage of her.. I shouldn't have done it. I TOLD HER ABOUT IT THE NEXT DAY!... We got over it... I'm asking if anybody else in here has done that, or delt with that, and how they did it, or got over it.

I'm not asking for judgement.. <but I guess I deserve some of it> and I just want some freaking advice on how to deal with how I feel about it!.....


I'm not proud of what I did.. it was different.. it opened a new dimension for us, and I was posting this in hopes of others who have experienced it to mebbie shed some light on how they delt with it.

 

[Emerald Eyed]

Ok.. so I'm feeling guilty about this...

the other day, my fiance' was drunk.... really drunk.

.

So what was it? The other day?? Or 15 minutes ago??



Anyway, Your sex life has improved dramatically since the other day?

Or 15 minutes ago?