Is it okay to cheat if my wife is Asexual?

[erotiquegirl]

Deceiving your wife is wrong, but it is completely unacceptable for you to have to go without sex entirely.

I am always amazed that there are women who don't seem to think that sex is a crucial part of marriage, that they can just give it up if they don't feel like it.

The husband has promised to forsake all others and just have sex with you... only you change your mind and decide not to have sex with him. So now he can't have sex with anybody.

In my opinion, that is a betrayal just like cheating is. It may not have the deceptive component of an affair, but can you imagine if a woman were honest about that? "Hey honey, I'm cool with having sex with you now, but after we're married a few years, I'm going to stop." No woman would ever say that, because no man would ever marry a woman who said that!

Your wife can be asexual all she wants. She can still attend to your needs. She can suck your cock and open her cunt for you. If she's not turned on, she can lube up her pussy just fine. And she can pretend she's into it.

Otherwise, I don't see any problem with (1) divorcing her ass or (2) let her know that if she's not going to take care of your cock, you'll find someone who will.

If kids are involved, that's a much tougher deal, because you might get fucked over in the divorce if you're an adulterer. So in that case, cheating might be the best solution.

But I definitely think your wife needs to understand that it is UNACCEPTABLE for her to cut you off, no matter if she's "asexual" or not.

Yeah, it's betrayal. She sounds narcissistic. Hey, I'll fuck him till we get hitched then that shit's over. No different than prostituting oneself. Good post. Good laugh too. Feel sorry for the OP.

 

[erotiquegirl]

What did the asexual wife do for her husband? Hired him a hooker so he'd fuck off. ROFLMAO

No Offense. We're all gonna be telling these jokes at work today.

 

[Noira]

If someone is truly asexual, then sex is an unimportant meaningless thing that they have no interest in doing. In that case, the true test of their asexuality will be that it shouldn't matter to them that you're doing this unimportant meaningless thing with someone else.

Talk to her. I think "communicate" is the thing I post most of all in this kind of thread... in any kind of thread... probably it's my most said thing on the internet, really. If she really doesn't want sex because she's asexual but wants to stay with you, then it shouldn't matter to her that you're having NSA sex with someone else.

If it does, then clearly sex is a bit more important to her than she's letting on. Maybe she just isn't interested in sex with YOU. Have you considered your own presentation? Her orientation? Etc.

But yeah... communicate. If things don't work out, I'd say it's grounds for a divorce. Sex isn't an unimportant part of a relationship.

 

[SweetErika]

What did the asexual wife do for her husband? Hired him a hooker so he'd fuck off. ROFLMAO

No Offense. We're all gonna be telling these jokes at work today.

Yeah, you laughing at the misfortune of others is not offensive at all.

 

[rapeamaiden]

She needs to be checked by a Dr. specifically her thyroid needs checked. I have suffered thyroid problems my whole life. It went undiagnosed for over 30 years. Please, Please read and have her read the book Type II Thyroidism by Dr. Mark Starr. It will help when you see the Dr and will explain the test results and what to look for. For years my libido was up and down. I enjoyed sex, but there were times when I seemed ambivilant to it. Because I have Hashimoto's my thyroid still fluctuates, however being on Armour thyroid (Do NOT try the synthetic no matter what the Dr. says.. trust me) has made a HUGE difference for me. Now I want it twice a day nearly everyday. My husband sometimes has a hard time keeping up with me... however he is a happy man.

 

[allforjulie]

wife

I think the issue is how much you love her and having sex with someone else what would that mean

 

[rapeamaiden]

Also, even if she has been tested in the past.. ask for another test. I was tested over a dozen times before I found a Dr willing to just TRY the medication. The medication will NOT work if her thyroid is fine. Actually she will feel awful if she is on thyroid meds and her thyroid is fine. It wasn't until after I started the meds that I finally had a test that showed I indeed had a thyroid probelm. The reason is because it fluctuates so much. You have to have the test on exactly the right day.

 

[Patchouli]

Also, even if she has been tested in the past.. ask for another test. I was tested over a dozen times before I found a Dr willing to just TRY the medication. The medication will NOT work if her thyroid is fine. Actually she will feel awful if she is on thyroid meds and her thyroid is fine. It wasn't until after I started the meds that I finally had a test that showed I indeed had a thyroid probelm. The reason is because it fluctuates so much. You have to have the test on exactly the right day.

yes! your thyroid can really mess up your sex drive. so can pcos or just a luteal phase defect. if she's estrogen dominant her sex drive will diminish greatly. you could have her chart her cycle for a few months to see if she's ovulating properly and producing enough progesterone.

don't just assume that because you've taken her to the doctor that everything is okay. the question is, has she always been this way? if she's never ever felt arousal in her whole life, then she might be asexual. even that isn't a given as hormone problems can begin at puberty. mine did.