It's the "My heart's been broken, but at least I'm still alive" thread

[Joey3308]

Just remember, whenever you think you have problems, always remember that there is someone else out there with worse problems than you
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[No.1Pinklady]

Just remember, whenever you think you have problems, always remember that there is someone else out there with worse problems than you
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Is that what they mean by a dog-day afternoon? LMAO

 

[kayte]

If any of you know what I'm feeling right now, or have been there, I'm starting a support group. Praise, vent, tell someone you miss them, whatever. We've all had our hearts broken at some point. Some recently, some long ago. Let's see if we can't help one another through the tough times, and celebrate the good ones.

KR

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What a wonderful and yet so very sad thread here. I too have had my heart and soul broken a couple times.... I am working on trying to find myself, and that isn't easy to do!!!

I am afraid to think of risking this hurt again, but I do know the feelings of loneliness and the deep sadness that sets in sometimes.....

I have read the thread and there are a lot of people pulling for you darling.

I agree with Jazey's comments sweetie. You have nothing to worry about in the looks category!!!!

 

[Falkieri]

I recently had my heart crushed as well, and it almost killed me. The hardest thing about it is that she never really was the person she pretended to be, so I was actually in love with someone who never existed.

I got through it by forcing myself not to think about her, by making myself stop when I realized I was doing it, and by making myself enjoy what is good in my life. I still miss her, and wonder what happened to everything I thought we had, but, then I realize that she never really was. The hard part for me now, besides the loneliness, is the pain of having opened up so much to her, when she was just playing a game the whole time. I really didn't think I could trust anyone again after that, though I've recently discovered that I do.

Anyway, the gist of all this is that we cause ourselves alot of the pain, by thinking of the one who broke our hearts, by wondering what we could have done to make things work out differently, by doubting ourselves and blaming ourselves for the breakup. That's a path to self-destruction, though its a hard one to avoid. Changing how you think is difficult, but if you can stop yourself, make yourself change your mental subject when you realize what you're doing, it can help. It won't take away the lonliness, but, it can make it easier to get past this.

 

[A Kilted Rogue]

I recently had my heart crushed as well, and it almost killed me. The hardest thing about it is that she never really was the person she pretended to be, so I was actually in love with someone who never existed.

I got through it by forcing myself not to think about her, by making myself stop when I realized I was doing it, and by making myself enjoy what is good in my life. I still miss her, and wonder what happened to everything I thought we had, but, then I realize that she never really was. The hard part for me now, besides the loneliness, is the pain of having opened up so much to her, when she was just playing a game the whole time. I really didn't think I could trust anyone again after that, though I've recently discovered that I do.

Anyway, the gist of all this is that we cause ourselves alot of the pain, by thinking of the one who broke our hearts, by wondering what we could have done to make things work out differently, by doubting ourselves and blaming ourselves for the breakup. That's a path to self-destruction, though its a hard one to avoid. Changing how you think is difficult, but if you can stop yourself, make yourself change your mental subject when you realize what you're doing, it can help. It won't take away the lonliness, but, it can make it easier to get past this.

I agree with you wholeheartedly, Falkieri. I find myself fortunate, though, that I get to stay friends with mine. Better to be friends and separated, than married and miserable. Some see it as weird that we can still accomplish this, and are astonished at some of the things we do for each other, but I would do the same for any friend in the same situation.

As for healing the broken heart, you'd be amazed at what some mesh tape and joining compound can do (sorry, bad attempt at humor). Changing the thinking and going away from the self-blame game was definitely tough. It took a lot to look past and see the bright future ahead. Hopefully your future is at least as bright as mine.

KR

 

[whspr]

Life has a way of sending a ray of sunshine into our lives when we are least expecting it.

whspr

 

[Joey3308]

Life has a way of sending a ray of sunshine into our lives when we are least expecting it.

whspr

Sure hope mine gets here real quick

 

[kayte]

Life has a way of sending a ray of sunshine into our lives when we are least expecting it.

whspr

Hi whspr ~ Sighs that would be so nice but as I read your post the clouds moved in and obscured the sun... Guess it isn't around for me. Or I am not ready yet either...

 

[whspr]

Hi whspr ~ Sighs that would be so nice but as I read your post the clouds moved in and obscured the sun... Guess it isn't around for me. Or I am not ready yet either...

Hi kayte...how are you Sweet Thing?

That ray of sunshine will appear when you are ready for it...I just bet....

whspr

 

[College_geek]

I had this guy friend online about 2 years ago who was just the nicest guy. We had a lot in common and we really liked eachother. We shamelessly flirted all the time, and I looked forward to talking with him each evening. After I went to the prom with Zerg and started dating him, he found out and seemed saddened by it. I never saw him online again until a few months later, where we both said hello, but I had to leave for my dance class, which made me very upset. I've never seen him online since. He probably changed his name and didn't tell me. I love Zerg so much, but I still sometimes pine for this guy and at least wish that we could still talk, friend to friend.

 

[kayte]

Hi kayte...how are you Sweet Thing?

That ray of sunshine will appear when you are ready for it...I just bet....

whspr

Hey there whspr ~ Thank you for your good wishes sweetie... Hope your afternoon is a splendid one.

 

[No.1Pinklady]

Hey there whspr ~ Thank you for your good wishes sweetie... Hope your afternoon is a splendid one.

Sometimes the clouds are a way of making us stay in and take time for ourselves

 

[A Kilted Rogue]

I had this guy friend online about 2 years ago who was just the nicest guy. We had a lot in common and we really liked eachother. We shamelessly flirted all the time, and I looked forward to talking with him each evening. After I went to the prom with Zerg and started dating him, he found out and seemed saddened by it. I never saw him online again until a few months later, where we both said hello, but I had to leave for my dance class, which made me very upset. I've never seen him online since. He probably changed his name and didn't tell me. I love Zerg so much, but I still sometimes pine for this guy and at least wish that we could still talk, friend to friend.

Don't take it too much to heart, CG. Lit has a way of affecting people in different ways. There are those who use it as a way to vent, those who use it as an escape, those that use it to find love, and those who have made it part of their daily lives. Sometimes, real life can get in the way. People with very popular picture threads decide that their lives need to be more private again and decide to stop posting. Others find and lose love with the changing of the seasons. People make and lose friends. I think that just because of the medium that we choose to use (as opposed to an online generic chat room), some people have preconceived notions of what to expect here. It takes the people that understand that this is just another form of expression and to just take things as they go. I have made and lost friends here, I'm thankful for the friends I've made, and sorry for those that I have lost, but life goes on, just as it should.

KR

 

[Falkieri]

As for healing the broken heart, you'd be amazed at what some mesh tape and joining compound can do (sorry, bad attempt at humor). Changing the thinking and going away from the self-blame game was definitely tough. It took a lot to look past and see the bright future ahead. Hopefully your future is at least as bright as mine.

KR

Actually I use duct tape, it fixes everything, although at this point there is more duct tape than heart tissue left.....but.......so it goes. Thanks for the well wishes, though, and while the future may not necessarily be bright, there are several points of light that have recently begun to appear.

 

[Missingmeds]

I think that sometimes it isn't the love that we miss as much as the friend. The person that we could talk with anything about. The one that we shared deep secrets and passions with....

 

[Falkieri]

That's partly true, though the love is missed just as much I think (at least, that's my take on it). Although, in my case, I'm embarrased at how much I did share, now that I know what she really was.

 

[kayte]

Sometimes the clouds are a way of making us stay in and take time for ourselves

Hi {{{{{Pinky}}}}} Nice to see you here.


I think you have said a mouthful darlin.

 

[whspr]

People change everyday. Sometimes, this causes a couple to grow apart or fall out of love. I know the pain this can cause but we all need change. Without it, we would live very boring lives.
Therefore, we all need to step back and appreciate what has come out of the broken relationship...there has to be something good we can find. Then we need to look ahead and use that experience to our own benefit.

I know...easier said than done sometimes.....

soft kisses,
whspr