JenniferO

[M. Jordan]

You always make me feel so good. I'm not quite giving up yet on my relationship, but I have drawn a mental line in the sand. We'll just see how he deals with all this. He may come around a little or not. If not, then I'm afraid that I have to agree with your assessments, he'll have to go no matter how nice he might be. He's a sweet guy which I really like, but he also needs to be a little bit of a bad boy sometimes. He just hasn't figured out when that is.

Oh well, there's nothing I can do about that. Sometimes I also get this feeling that he sort of thinks I live to serve his needs. It's not a major thing yet, but I think that sort of fits in when his attitude about other guys seeing me. It's kind of a control thing.

I like control sometimes, but I'm never "the little woman"... I find that demeaning and just won't tolerate.

So I guess as some of you have surmised, it's not just this one thing that's affecting my decision, but a number of nuances that are coloring my opinion.

So good to see you posting again! Love your illustrated stories beyond description. Hope all works out. Relationships are like a second job in my opinion, so, he has to be worth the investment. By the way, your eyes are mesmorizing, what a beauty you are.

 

[sexywriterfla]

You always make me feel so good. I'm not quite giving up yet on my relationship, but I have drawn a mental line in the sand. We'll just see how he deals with all this. He may come around a little or not. If not, then I'm afraid that I have to agree with your assessments, he'll have to go no matter how nice he might be. He's a sweet guy which I really like, but he also needs to be a little bit of a bad boy sometimes. He just hasn't figured out when that is.

Oh well, there's nothing I can do about that. Sometimes I also get this feeling that he sort of thinks I live to serve his needs. It's not a major thing yet, but I think that sort of fits in when his attitude about other guys seeing me. It's kind of a control thing.

I like control sometimes, but I'm never "the little woman"... I find that demeaning and just won't tolerate.

So I guess as some of you have surmised, it's not just this one thing that's affecting my decision, but a number of nuances that are coloring my opinion.

Well stated, Jenn. You obviously are a thoughtful and intelligent woman...and DAMN, do you know how to take some incredibly gorgeous shots of yourself...I love the goosebumps in this one (as well as the one from last week). And yes...those luscious nipples are heavenly!

 

[jupin]

You always make me feel so good. I'm not quite giving up yet on my relationship, but I have drawn a mental line in the sand. We'll just see how he deals with all this. He may come around a little or not. If not, then I'm afraid that I have to agree with your assessments, he'll have to go no matter how nice he might be. He's a sweet guy which I really like, but he also needs to be a little bit of a bad boy sometimes. He just hasn't figured out when that is.

Oh well, there's nothing I can do about that. Sometimes I also get this feeling that he sort of thinks I live to serve his needs. It's not a major thing yet, but I think that sort of fits in when his attitude about other guys seeing me. It's kind of a control thing.

I like control sometimes, but I'm never "the little woman"... I find that demeaning and just won't tolerate.

So I guess as some of you have surmised, it's not just this one thing that's affecting my decision, but a number of nuances that are coloring my opinion.

hey there, i think we realy enjoy your pics; so if you tell him directly that you like to show yourself sometimes...maybe he will taste blood
i dont think man differs that much from one to another. we all are kind of possessive but we also like to brag.
for me it looks like you are something to brag with, so he just have to be sure of himself to do so

 

[romeo1]

girl if they need an icon for women's lib that would be you ..... I like how you decoded the possessiveness of your bf as a subconcious control issue LOL ..... i mean it in a good way. But then again isn't it inherently genetic for a male to try to protect his turf from other predators ? ....

anyways, speaking about real world .... if you are an exhibitionist or believe in an alternate lifestyle and he opposes that then he needs to go. No other options.

 

[LitEroCat]

more free advice, just 2 cents

He liked the picture, he likes me... he thinks I'm sexy and all that, he just thought I was indiscreet in sending that sort of picture through email. As he said, anyone could see me like that. I told him that wasn't really a problem with me, I didn't mind, but he said it was one for him, he didn't want to share me with other men.

I told him that he wasn't sharing me with anyone, but just the fact that someone else might see me nude bothers him. I asked about going to a nude or topless beach and he just laughed like I'd made a great joke. I just kind of smiled at him and then asked what he thought about one of my old boyfriends being a photographer and maybe photographing me naked. He just asked if I was able to get the pictures back when we broke up. Continuing to smile, I nodded that I had but asked if it bothered him that I had done that.

Well, he said, as long as you got the pictures back, I guess not, I just don't want some other guy jerking off looking at pictures of you, that's all.

The conversation went along like that, no contentions or real emotional moments, but I kind of felt like someone just let the air out of my balloon. I really think this one is over, it'll take a while for it to run it's course yet, but the excitement has gone out of the relationship. I was really hoping to be able to share this side of myself and now know that I can't... not with him.

This is an important part of who I am and so decisions have to be made. I don't feel a need to just end it, but I think it's time to start opening myself to other possibilities.

Oh my dear Jenn - I can feel the painful whoosh from your balloon. I've felt that intense disappointment too many times. If I may offer some food for thought...

I had an exhibistionist gf/wife who refused to admit it. Instead she constantly lied about it and said she was shy and modest and didn't like anyone looking. She told me that, thinking that was what I wanted from her. Since I loved her and refused to believe she lied to me, I kept an eye out to always protect her modesty and keep her from being singled out. Exactly what she DID NOT want.

IF she had told me she liked attention, flirting and flashing then I would have had the choice to accept that or not. That much applies to what you told us. Find a way to tell your bf what you enjoy, your wild side, and tell him you're already on the inet naked. Then you might show him the photos you posted. Give him a chance to accept you or not, but don't make the decision for him. He may surprise you. If not, you'll be clear and with no miscommunication.

Sleep on it. PM me if you want to hear more, or post here. I'm all ears.
I'll bet you a BJ.... oh never mind.

 

[twistinside]

Seems appropriate to take a new pic and post it... Hope you like.

yes it's always a good day for a new pic and yes I do like. Everything you take looks so sexy, thanks for posting.

 

[thefishfryer]

Another lovely photograph

I hope you manage to sort out your relationship, one way or another. I couldn't possibly begin to give you advice as I don't know either of you, other than what you have managed to put into words. Someone once said that honesty is the best policy, it's not always true, but I've generally found it works for me.

 

[darjingle]

don't settle

I have a woman-friend with pretty advances sexual tastes, who has been seeing a series of men, nice men, but men with tastes that are too vanilla for her. She's feeling some despair over the irony that the nicest guys, the guys who treat her best and are most reliable, stable and emotionally available, are guys she can't take with her into her various kinks. OTOH, the guys she has the best sex with end up driving her crazy in every other aspect of their relationships. She's continuing to hope she finds a man who can give her both, and she's still looking, albeit a bit wearily.

Sex is crucial to who we are, exhibitionism is crucial to how you experience sex and eroticism, and so this is a core need for you, without which no relationship is sustainable in the long run. I think that a man who wants to "keep you to himself" or doesn't want other men to "see you naked" is a man you won't find sexually attractive for very long. This isn't a slam on him; he's entitled to be who he is (as long as it isn't too controlling), but you need what you need. So either you can get it within your relationship(s), or you lead two lives.

I sympathize with you. It really is too bad that an otherwise decent man can't follow you where you need to go.

 

[OneHD]

If he can't accept this side of you Jenn .. Then how can He accept you as a Very Sensual Lady that enjoys you as well .... It's not like every guy here is mastrabating to your posts and picts ... For what it is worth

Love those Perky Nipples for sure .. Not to mention He enjoys you in Real life and doesn't mind that .. Subject dropped .... Thanks for Sharing Jenn

 

[prop69]

SExual

He liked the picture, he likes me... he thinks I'm sexy and all that, he just thought I was indiscreet in sending that sort of picture through email. As he said, anyone could see me like that. I told him that wasn't really a problem with me, I didn't mind, but he said it was one for him, he didn't want to share me with other men.

I told him that he wasn't sharing me with anyone, but just the fact that someone else might see me nude bothers him. I asked about going to a nude or topless beach and he just laughed like I'd made a great joke. I just kind of smiled at him and then asked what he thought about one of my old boyfriends being a photographer and maybe photographing me naked. He just asked if I was able to get the pictures back when we broke up. Continuing to smile, I nodded that I had but asked if it bothered him that I had done that.

Well, he said, as long as you got the pictures back, I guess not, I just don't want some other guy jerking off looking at pictures of you, that's all.

The conversation went along like that, no contentions or real emotional moments, but I kind of felt like someone just let the air out of my balloon. I really think this one is over, it'll take a while for it to run it's course yet, but the excitement has gone out of the relationship. I was really hoping to be able to share this side of myself and now know that I can't... not with him.

This is an important part of who I am and so decisions have to be made. I don't feel a need to just end it, but I think it's time to start opening myself to other possibilities.

Jennifer,

You are such an awesome sexual being. He should have realized that when He first met you. I would be excited that the men here, including myself, have masturbated while reading your stories and looking at your pictures. Realizing that all we have is pictures while he gets the real you in the flesh, body, soul, and mind.

His loss may be someone else's gain. Maybe mine! You are a beautiful and erotic woman. we are glad that you are willing to be open. Think what great sex he will be missing. Part of your love making may be joined with your love of be "nekid". I have a special section held privately just for my pleasure of your pics.

We missed you and hope you will always be here to your friends.

 

[Gerry_wullie]

You always make me feel so good. I'm not quite giving up yet on my relationship, but I have drawn a mental line in the sand. We'll just see how he deals with all this. He may come around a little or not. If not, then I'm afraid that I have to agree with your assessments, he'll have to go no matter how nice he might be. He's a sweet guy which I really like, but he also needs to be a little bit of a bad boy sometimes. He just hasn't figured out when that is.

Oh well, there's nothing I can do about that. Sometimes I also get this feeling that he sort of thinks I live to serve his needs. It's not a major thing yet, but I think that sort of fits in when his attitude about other guys seeing me. It's kind of a control thing.

I like control sometimes, but I'm never "the little woman"... I find that demeaning and just won't tolerate.

So I guess as some of you have surmised, it's not just this one thing that's affecting my decision, but a number of nuances that are coloring my opinion.

My dear: Although I would love to claim to be as entirely openminded as your other admirerers, I must admit that I do fully understand your gentleman friend's perspective on things. When he admits that he doesn't wish to share you, I can absolutely appreciate his attitude, which clearly is in opposition to your lifestyle. It is so terribly unfortunate for you both that a relationship that you indicate is otherwise lovely should founder on this shoal. I think that, were I he, I should find a way to broaden my perspective, however, as you are far too rare and beautiful a flower to cast away through intransigence.

 

[bodoy7777]

I think that is one lucky Djembe!!

 

[ace195008]

Dear Jenn:

I can say I am older and I hope a bit wiser, I want to pass on to you some advise I received..
It has to do with control, if your bf/friend/so doesnt have your best interests in mind, then i would seriously consider what is going on. Some ppl control to control and control is 'not love', its control. Usually stemmed from insecurity. He has to except you for you with all the good things and flaws...imho

 

[boy_wonder]

You always make me feel so hot and sexy... If I could, I would... with all of you

Well... maybe not at the same time, but you know what I mean!

well that is the reason what makes us feel so hot...

 

[morgan12]

Hello,

If I may, This is a part of you and there is nothing wrong with it. Some folks are possessive and think that people become property once a relationship is agreed upon. Some think that children are a possesion as well. No one is property unless you subscribe to the same insane thoughts.

You, obviously, do not. You know who you are and what turns you on. This can be done with respect, care, and beauty. There doesn't have to be an ugly side to it. Some folks try to make it ugly. And I bet it does bother him that your ex-boyfriend took pics of you nude.

I personally don't see any reason to let it run its course, he has made his position clear, so end it and begin the healing process.

I think your pics are great, I feel that you are a special woman who will find that special man.

 

[morgan12]

Is that a drum you carry? Do you participate in drumming circles? Not that i didn't notice your fabulous body, thanks!

 

[Time4fun]

Well said!!

Hello,

If I may, This is a part of you and there is nothing wrong with it. Some folks are possessive and think that people become property once a relationship is agreed upon. Some think that children are a possesion as well. No one is property unless you subscribe to the same insane thoughts.

You, obviously, do not. You know who you are and what turns you on. This can be done with respect, care, and beauty. There doesn't have to be an ugly side to it. Some folks try to make it ugly. And I bet it does bother him that your ex-boyfriend took pics of you nude.

I personally don't see any reason to let it run its course, he has made his position clear, so end it and begin the healing process.

I think your pics are great, I feel that you are a special woman who will find that special man.

Couldn't have said it better myself!

 

[Artfan2]

You always make me feel so hot and sexy... If I could, I would... with all of you

Well... maybe not at the same time, but you know what I mean!

Just noticing how soft and smooth your skin is in this picture.

Everything looks so, um, touchable . . . . . everything!

 

[johncst]

Hi Jennifer,

I hope you check-in occasionally to see that many of us still care about you and how things are going in your relationship. I for one hope that you find happiness in life. While that may or may not include this relationship, I hope you ultimately find the peace and satisfaction true happiness brings. While we would of course LOVE to experience more of your beauty, I hope you at least can find the time to let us know how you are doing.

 

[goldbug30]

Hi Jennifer,

I hope you check-in occasionally to see that many of us still care about you and how things are going in your relationship. I for one hope that you find happiness in life. While that may or may not include this relationship, I hope you ultimately find the peace and satisfaction true happiness brings. While we would of course LOVE to experience more of your beauty, I hope you at least can find the time to let us know how you are doing.

and a large Amen to that!!

 

[Bluesteel007]

Wow

Just looked at some of your pictures, and all I can say is that you are amazing. Love them... please don't stop either.

 

[matchmaker2000]

Luscious/Suckable Nipples

Can't help looking at them again and again. I'd love to nibble at them!

You have the most Luscious/Suckable Nipples I have ever seen!!!

 

[Hazeny]

Hi Jenn, it's been awhile. I just LOVE the cold picture!!!!! You have the absolute hottest nipples I've ever seen!!!! Smokin' hotttttttt!!

 

[WANNABENUDE]

things change

goodbye

 

[ace195008]

You always make me feel so hot and sexy... If I could, I would... with all of you

Well... maybe not at the same time, but you know what I mean!

Good god jenn, your beautiful. Boy your bf is a lucky guy to have a woman like you. WOW