JenniferO

[HussarVanburen]

I am going to afford you another view, which I have yet to see voiced. I do this in spite of the fact that I enjoy watching your nudity, so I should hope you realize I am acting against my interests in suggesting this:

Love requires sacrifices.

He earnestly dislikes the idea of other men having access to you in any way that could be deemed sexual. If you love him, even a bit, then you ought to respect this and cease to do as you have been doing.

The reason being: It is supremely hurtful to actively deceive him as to what you are doing when he has made it clear how it makes him feel.

If you, on the other hand, have no vested interest in how he feels, then you oughtn't play this "wait and see" game. You should cut it off now, else you are just playing his heart strings cruelly.

But ultimately: It is not about "surrender" of your "autonomy" or anything silly like that, but an expression of love. Do you love him enough to give up something which ought to be tangential enough to your life that you would sacrifice it for higher causes.

 

[goldbug30]

a Rebuttal of sorts

I am going to afford you another view, which I have yet to see voiced. I do this in spite of the fact that I enjoy watching your nudity, so I should hope you realize I am acting against my interests in suggesting this:

Love requires sacrifices. Yes it does

He earnestly dislikes the idea of other men having access to you in any way that could be deemed sexual. If you love him, even a bit, then you ought to respect this and cease to do as you have been doing. No, Jenn is what she is and does what she does for reasons she need not share with us. If posting on AmPics is what she needs to do to fulfill something within her then her b/f needs to know this, and either support her or leave. I say this based on Jenn's picture posting as being an "integral part" of her, if that is indeed the case.

The reason being: It is supremely hurtful to actively deceive him as to what you are doing when he has made it clear how it makes him feel. Jenn is not deceiving him. She slowly tried to bring him into her "other world". He does not approve, but that in and of itself is no reason for her to stop - see above reason. He can accept her for who she is, but should not try to change her.

If you, on the other hand, have no vested interest in how he feels, then you oughtn't play this "wait and see" game. You should cut it off now, else you are just playing his heart strings cruelly. Jenn may have a vested interest in how he feels, especially if she would like to see this relationship move forward. That said, she can play the "wait n see" game because if after talking and explaining to him why she shares herself on Lit, he may actually see the "real" Jenn and not the image of her he has in his mind currently. He may still decide that he does not want her pics all over the web, and that too is OK. At that point they both need to decide whether there can be a future together given the disagreement regarding the pics.

But ultimately: It is not about "surrender" of your "autonomy" or anything silly like that, but an expression of love. Do you love him enough to give up something which ought to be tangential enough to your life that you would sacrifice it for higher causes. I disagree. It may just be that "sacrificing" will place an unrealistic lid on Jenn's freedom of expression. It may not manifest itself in the short-term, but may come back in years to come as a reason for an arguement.. "You made me stop posting and you are trying to control me" type of scenario. I say may.. because I know that I don't know Jenn any better than I know any other poster on Lit.

That said, I do believe Jenn will decide what is right for her spiritually and physically.
Peace!

 

[bodoy7777]

WAY to many psychologists in this thread....

 

[dentata]

Hey Jen,

Just found this thread, always loved your stories. You look awesome, adds some spice to your writings. You have incredible breasts.....

 

[omnivour]

beautiful....

 

[engagemind]

Jenn

As an old timer, I believe from past posts that you enjoy our "company" but do not necessarily look for our "analysis" or "involvement" in your personnel life, except to enjoy what you share with us. I believe that if you wanted our opinions you would ask, but normally you do not ask but just share. So hopefully the recent exchange and associated "advice" does not upset or discourage your sharing. I think you understand that most offer because they care and are not trying to "control" your life. As always thanks, as always if you ever do want to discuss please feel free to send a message -- huggssss

 

[JenniferO1]

No... it's all good....

I find it interesting to read what you guys have to say about this, but I've made up my mind about it. Honesty is something I value in a relationship and if I can't be honest, then there's really no future. In this case, there's no middle ground that I can find or maybe want to find.

Someone mentioned that I should want to stop to please him, I don't want to stop living my life my way for anyone right now, so I think that says it all. When you stop being who you are to please someone else, then I think you start dying at the same time. It might take 30 or 40 years, but you are dying as an individual. Now I understand that for a lot of people, that's good, that what they want and god bless them. They're happy and that's what counts. In this case, with this man... I don't think so. The idea of giving up my pleasures so that someone can dictate the next demand just doesn't sit well with me.

Philly just laughs and says it's because I'm mean, spiteful bitch who has to have her own way all the time. No one else could probably get away with saying that, but I know he means it in the nicest way, besides, he really doesn't like Eric very much and Eric really doesn't like Philly. Which is another reason to back off. Eric really doesn't like many of my friends, he much prefers hanging with his crowd. Don't get me wrong, they're fun too, but...

It's just another control thing... Now that my eyes are opening, I'm seeing the patterns everywhere, I don't know why I didn't see it before, maybe too in love with being in love to see the pattern. I don't know...

I'm afraid Eric's history folks...

 

[gregshorny]

I find it interesting to read what you guys have to say about this, but I've made up my mind about it. Honesty is something I value in a relationship and if I can't be honest, then there's really no future. In this case, there's no middle ground that I can find or maybe want to find.

Someone mentioned that I should want to stop to please him, I don't want to stop living my life my way for anyone right now, so I think that says it all. When you stop being who you are to please someone else, then I think you start dying at the same time. It might take 30 or 40 years, but you are dying as an individual. Now I understand that for a lot of people, that's good, that what they want and god bless them. They're happy and that's what counts. In this case, with this man... I don't think so. The idea of giving up my pleasures so that someone can dictate the next demand just doesn't sit well with me.

Philly just laughs and says it's because I'm mean, spiteful bitch who has to have her own way all the time. No one else could probably get away with saying that, but I know he means it in the nicest way, besides, he really doesn't like Eric very much and Eric really doesn't like Philly. Which is another reason to back off. Eric really doesn't like many of my friends, he much prefers hanging with his crowd. Don't get me wrong, they're fun too, but...

It's just another control thing... Now that my eyes are opening, I'm seeing the patterns everywhere, I don't know why I didn't see it before, maybe too in love with being in love to see the pattern. I don't know...

I'm afraid Eric's history folks...

Jenn, I'm gona make this simple, real simple. Your do what makes you happy PERIOD. Speaking from personal experiences, changing only works in the short run, never in the long run. YOUR happiness comes first.

 

[don1]

I agree. There are plenty of guys who will have no problem with the way you are. You should find someone who suits you best and will enjoy your ideas and creativity.

 

[twistinside]

well you do deserve much better then and being yourself as well as being happy are very important so congrats to you for moving on and I hope things improve for you as soon as possible. Good luck Jennifer.

 

[WANNABENUDE]

He Can't Even Run His Own Life I'll Be Damned If He'll Run Mine

good bye

 

[Artfan2]

It's just another control thing... Now that my eyes are opening, I'm seeing the patterns everywhere, I don't know why I didn't see it before, maybe too in love with being in love to see the pattern. I don't know...

It's always difficult in a relationship to decide where to draw the line between being true to yourself and making some compromises for the sake of the other person.

But in this case I don't think you've been unreasonable. Most men would love to have their girlfriends send them nude pictures. We are very visual and find it very exciting to receive beautiful and sexy images from the woman we're attracted to.

Of course, he's right to be concerned about the possibility of the wrong people seeing these pictures and embarrassing the two of you. But you've always been careful with your pictures. And it's not like you're only one who's "sexting" her boyfriend with nude pictures. Lots of women do it, and lots of men really like it. In fact, I would say that most men wish their girlfriends would be more sexually expressive, not less.

So I think you're right. I think this issue goes beyond his concerns about the possibility of the wrong people seeing your pictures. This probably is a control issue.

You are such a beautiful and sexual person. And you deserve a man who will appreciate your beauty and sexuality and encourage you to express yourself.

Most men would love to see your pictures and read your stories. And taking it further, most men would find it exciting to know that other men find you attractive. There are a number of couples here on Lit who share very intimate pictures and thoughts with others because they find the responses they get to be very arousing and it adds excitment to their relationships.

 

[sexywriterfla]

I find it interesting to read what you guys have to say about this, but I've made up my mind about it. Honesty is something I value in a relationship and if I can't be honest, then there's really no future. In this case, there's no middle ground that I can find or maybe want to find.

Someone mentioned that I should want to stop to please him, I don't want to stop living my life my way for anyone right now, so I think that says it all. When you stop being who you are to please someone else, then I think you start dying at the same time. It might take 30 or 40 years, but you are dying as an individual. Now I understand that for a lot of people, that's good, that what they want and god bless them. They're happy and that's what counts. In this case, with this man... I don't think so. The idea of giving up my pleasures so that someone can dictate the next demand just doesn't sit well with me.

Philly just laughs and says it's because I'm mean, spiteful bitch who has to have her own way all the time. No one else could probably get away with saying that, but I know he means it in the nicest way, besides, he really doesn't like Eric very much and Eric really doesn't like Philly. Which is another reason to back off. Eric really doesn't like many of my friends, he much prefers hanging with his crowd. Don't get me wrong, they're fun too, but...

It's just another control thing... Now that my eyes are opening, I'm seeing the patterns everywhere, I don't know why I didn't see it before, maybe too in love with being in love to see the pattern. I don't know...

I'm afraid Eric's history folks...

Good for you, jenn. Ultimately, it is all about what you can take and accept....and what you can't. And yeah, relationships involve "middle ground" and compromise, of course...but when it comes at the expense of YOU being someone you're not....well, some can do for it love....and some cannot. I commend you for looking past a possible meaningful LTR and knowing what is ultimately going to make you happy. I know in my case, if I met someone and we had a lot of chemistry etc etc, but she thought what I write is ridiculous and I shouldn't do it, I'd not waste my time. It is part of who I am.

I wish you the best. I know there will be someone out there for you, jenn, who will accept that part of you and love you for it. I hope that for me, too.

 

[OneHD]

Mean and Spiteful Not Jenn if you are to be happy .. You must be happy First .. I regret your loss for sure but I know in the end there is someone out there that will accept You for all of You and not just what they except or what You to be ..Thanks for Sharing Jenn <3

 

[tcwild100]

Jenn, I've read all the posts and had decided I really had nothing new to add; but I have to say I think you reached the correct conclusion. You rock, sweetie. Don't let anyone suggest that you change.

 

[MCPW]

I've encountered many women in life, Jenn, and I've always loved the ones who have their own minds, their own destiny and the class to let you know it!

You are one such woman, Jenn, and long may you reign! You are absolute class and I just love it!

 

[justanotherbozo]

Before the breakup

Show him this thread. It "exposes" a lot more than skin (though there's plenty of beautiful skin, too).

When ya got nothin' to lose ...

Wishing you the best, whatever happens.

 

[cdnblast]

Jenn, baby, you're kidding right? Man you are fuckin gorgeous. I'd kill to suck and chew on those hard buds of lust of yours while I slam your sexy petite body with my hard fat tool.

Care to give it a ride hon???

 

[Nigelus]

What girl can resist a...

Sweet talker.

 

[ODaniel]

Jenn,
It seems to me the first sign of a problem is when one person wants the other person to "change " who they are.

If you love me why do want me different?

Don't ever change who you are, based on what someone wants you to be.

 

[deadeye_76]

Sorry

I find it interesting to read what you guys have to say about this, but I've made up my mind about it. Honesty is something I value in a relationship and if I can't be honest, then there's really no future. In this case, there's no middle ground that I can find or maybe want to find.

Someone mentioned that I should want to stop to please him, I don't want to stop living my life my way for anyone right now, so I think that says it all. When you stop being who you are to please someone else, then I think you start dying at the same time. It might take 30 or 40 years, but you are dying as an individual. Now I understand that for a lot of people, that's good, that what they want and god bless them. They're happy and that's what counts. In this case, with this man... I don't think so. The idea of giving up my pleasures so that someone can dictate the next demand just doesn't sit well with me.

Philly just laughs and says it's because I'm mean, spiteful bitch who has to have her own way all the time. No one else could probably get away with saying that, but I know he means it in the nicest way, besides, he really doesn't like Eric very much and Eric really doesn't like Philly. Which is another reason to back off. Eric really doesn't like many of my friends, he much prefers hanging with his crowd. Don't get me wrong, they're fun too, but...

It's just another control thing... Now that my eyes are opening, I'm seeing the patterns everywhere, I don't know why I didn't see it before, maybe too in love with being in love to see the pattern. I don't know...

I'm afraid Eric's history folks...

Sorry to hear that Jen. I hope that you do find your soulmate, love of your life, or whatever you want to call it. You deserve that.

 

[Nigelus]

Fuck it!

What the hell. I'll stop being so nice.

Jenn, while I truly hope you find someone that makes you happy, it is way better for us if you are single and horny. So in an entirely selfish way, I hope you kick this bozo to the curb and come back to being adored on the internet. I love your pictures! I love your stories. I would like to see you in whatever circumstance puts you in the mood to take pictures of yourself, have men (and women) take pictures of you, go out and experience erotic adventures and come back here and share them with us.

You shouldn't be with anyone that makes you question your glorious carnal nature. You have a rare gift for writing erotic stories, and your body is a rare treasure in it's own right. You have hundreds of admiring fans here and I am sure you don't lack for willing admirers in real life as well.

Do it for us, Jenn. Suck it up and take one for the team. Blow off this loser and be your wonderfully sinful self. We deserve it.

 

[JenniferO1]

He's done...

I broke up with Eric today. He doesn't understand, but I do. He's not the one.

Somewhere he's seeking me and me him.

I'll know in my bones when we've found each other. I really did love Eric, but not at the cost he wanted. I feel so much better now that this is resolved.

That's a sure sign I've made the right choice even if the painful one right now.

 

[phelon]

I broke up with Eric today. He doesn't understand, but I do. He's not the one.

Somewhere he's seeking me and me him.

I'll know in my bones when we've found each other. I really did love Eric, but not at the cost he wanted. I feel so much better now that this is resolved.

That's a sure sign I've made the right choice even if the painful one right now.

may your pain be short and your future bright.

 

[MCPW]

I broke up with Eric today. He doesn't understand, but I do. He's not the one.

Somewhere he's seeking me and me him.

I'll know in my bones when we've found each other. I really did love Eric, but not at the cost he wanted. I feel so much better now that this is resolved.

That's a sure sign I've made the right choice even if the painful one right now.

They're never easy decisions, Jenn, but I'm sure the courage of your convictions will carry you through the early difficult period!