Kinkier as we get older?

[Samantha47]

The influence of the internet...

Could be

 

[Allisonlee]

How many of you have gotten kinkier and more libidinous as you got older? I grew up in strict religion and sex was limited to traditional and oral. Then bondage, spanking, anal. Then in my late 40's, I got into pegging, fisting, occasional crossdressing, etc. Now, at 60, I am kinkier than ever.

I know I am

 

[Scooter58]

I definitely think there is something in this
As I have gotten older I have definitely tried and enjoyed more things and stuff that was a hard no in my 20s is a hell yes in my 50s

Hell yeah!!!!!

 

[Austbiman]

How many of you have gotten kinkier and more libidinous as you got older? I grew up in strict religion and sex was limited to traditional and oral. Then bondage, spanking, anal. Then in my late 40's, I got into pegging, fisting, occasional crossdressing, etc. Now, at 60, I am kinkier than ever.

I am certainly getting kinkier as I grow older. So many kinky things have been added to my bucket list.
Open to discuss with others. PM me

 

[Samantha47]

I am certainly getting kinkier as I grow older. So many kinky things have been added to my bucket list.
Open to discuss with others. PM me

I'm here if you want to talk

 

[Hypocrites]

Like I wrote, I have journeyed into some intense kink in my younger man whoring days.

BDSM, some extreme was a large part of my sex life. Even the less extreme partners submitted on some level.

After 40+ years of marriage I finally gave myself over to my prurient interests. In that, with a sub half my age, I felt revived. Staying hard and cumming multiple times throughout the day.

With her I've definitely shared some dark, intense and very erotic explorations. So as I've intimated before, maybe not actually kinkier but reminded of how much I love it.

So this old man thinks on it more often than I did when I was running through the female population of Texas. In that regard, with more bandwidth set on it, I'm "kinkier".

 

[Samantha47]

Like I wrote, I have journeyed into some intense kink in my younger man whoring days.

BDSM, some extreme was a large part of my sex life. Even the less extreme partners submitted on some level.

After 40+ years of marriage I finally gave myself over to my prurient interests. In that, with a sub half my age, I felt revived. Staying hard and cumming multiple times throughout the day.

With her I've definitely shared some dark, intense and very erotic explorations. So as I've intimated before, maybe not actually kinkier but reminded of how much I love it.

So this old man thinks on it more often than I did when I was running through the female population of Texas. In that regard, more bandwidth set on it, I'm "kinkier".

I've dreamed about being kinky and completely letting go sexually

 

[TomListens]

I feel like I have become sluttier and more submissive. I never thought about men at all until I was about 45. Then I got on this fantasy kick (never acted out) of men sucking my cock. More recently, I have explored my submissive self. And in doing so have realized I want cock.

 

[Samantha47]

I feel like I have become sluttier and more submissive. I never thought about men at all until I was about 45. Then I got on this fantasy kick (never acted out) of men sucking my cock. More recently, I have explored my submissive self. And in doing so have realized I want cock.

Very nice honey

 

[TomListens]

Very nice honey

Being called honey turns me on () - thank you

 

[Samantha47]

Being called honey turns me on () - thank you

I'm so glad

 

[Guardianweekender]

Definitely get more twisted and kinky as I get older. I have an unfulfilled fantasy that my unaware timid wife is tricked/made to take a pounding - I think about it more and more as the years pass

 

[Biguy77578]

I second this. All (older) guys remember the early days when all you had to do was think about sex and you’d get hard. Then it progressed to visual stimulation and that lasts a pretty long time. Nowadays, the visual is greatly enhanced by verbal and perhaps more extreme enhancements or kink. The talking especially can really get me going. It’s like laying your soul bare and when your partner reciprocates in kind- well, it’s amazing. I find myself drawn more to “kink”
Now than ever before.

Vocal has been a big turn on for us for years. We both love hearing accounts of our past experiences while fucking.

 

[Erosfan]

I Definitely think with age and experience you understand yourself and sex better than when much younger.
I’ve got much more confident in myself and my body, and having a loving partner that gives you the trust and support to experience new things helps massively.

Trust and support from a loving partner is priceless! That makes so many taboo things/experiences possible!

 

[kristin_hip79]

This is definitely a “yes” for me.

 

[Mrs_and_mr]

We call it a growing relationship

 

[Winchester3030]

Definitely a yes for me!
A lot more kinks in my mind now than when I was younger

 

[Sunnyade]

Yes, for sure. Life experiences made me more open to exploring sexually.

 

[Luci_nerdy_kink]

I wouldn’t say it made me more kinkier…

I just realized now that I want to have fun all the time instead of work all the time and all I want is a pretty and funny girl to giggle with the whole time.

At this point, I can just mindfuck women every day to have sex with me, and call myself dominant…

But I don’t wanna do that because I’m trying to find one that just…

Doesn’t want to make bullshit excuses for why we have to stop…

It’s not right to just mind control women to be your personal slave, because they’re human beings that deserve their own dignity and free will.

If you just tell them what they want, then they can never really consent.

And everything they ever want will just be your own sick fantasy.

So I spend a lot more time talking to women and it gets really sexually charged.

And the funny part is is all of these women are so used to dealing with horny little boys that they think offering me a blowjob is gonna turn my crank.

I’m trying to elope with a stripper…

Or just breed fish all day lol

I don’t really give a shit but it’s gonna be a fun time either way.

And I don’t really understand why all of these women are sexually attracted to me, but would rather go work all day then just fuck lol

They’re complaining about the possibility that their bodies are broken because no man can give them an orgasm…

And I just laughed because I’ve never not been able to give a girl an orgasm.

You can feel it when it’s real boys.

I wouldn’t even say I’m kinky anymore. I just don’t care about anything except finding my soulmate right fucking now…

And she better be ready to be the queen of the universe, cause I’m not fucking around lol

 

[SunnyPhoenix]

How many of you have gotten kinkier and more libidinous as you got older? I grew up in strict religion and sex was limited to traditional and oral. Then bondage, spanking, anal. Then in my late 40's, I got into pegging, fisting, occasional crossdressing, etc. Now, at 60, I am kinkier than ever.

Yes. I always had kinky fantasies but I didn't let them out. In my early years I thought they were "bad", so I hid them. Even from my husband. I tried to live up to the "goody goody" expectations of those around me. That, and life was very busy then with kids, jobs, extended family, etc. We have less of all that now; kids are grown; we're semi-retired, live farther away from the older relatives, just less time pressure, expectation, etc. I have become more and more comfortable with myself; who I am, what I need, what I like, what I want. More conscious with each passing year that we really should "make hay while the sun shines" as they say. So I've started bringing up my fantasies & desires with my formerly somewhat vanilla husband (he thought I was vanilla too, lol). He has responded very favorably, and we've been having the time of our lives experimenting! Now if only we could get the last adult child out of the house, lol...

 

[Pingpong59]

Totally agree

 

[SunnyPhoenix]

But what’s the cause? Is it communities like lit and/or easier access to porn?

I do agree with many posters, and that the older you get the less fucks you have to give.

I think communities like lit have helped me a lot. some things I never would’ve even thought about, or were disgusted by, started to pique my interest.

But other things were always with me: bisexual curiosity, femdom. I’d always considered myself “kinky” but really just think I am a super sexual person. Always have been.

But lit did open up some doors to me that I’d never really explored before. many bdsm practices (dominance, but also many submissive things: chastity, orgasm control). I’ve NEVER thought abt pee play till lit, but sound it to be a very erotic and intimate act.

And I introduced the idea of an open marriage to my wife. It didn’t work, but we found a happy medium in public nudity.

Long story short, I think lit and all you fabulous litsters helped me feel more comfortable abt my kinks and explore them more deeply w my wife. We always had great sex, but it’s off the charts now.

"...the older you get the less fucks you have to give."

So true!

 

[SunnyPhoenix]

I have definitely gotten kinkier but unfortunately my wife has given up on sex. A frustrating situation.

I don't know your situation, or your wife's, and I also don't know if it's okay to talk about hormones on this site (some places are very "anal" about it), but getting some Testosterone helped my sex drive immensely - I was losing interest some years back and now my husband can barely keep up with me. The estrogen patch took away that feeling of glass shards in my vagina during sex; I'm now wet and ready to go most of the time. It also took away hot flashes and night sweats. Progesterone helps me sleep better at night and takes away anxiety. So that trifecta has worked wonders for me. It's just a suggestion, and I know some people are resistant to it. But it might be something to look into; for me, the benefits are WELL worth it.

 

[SunnyPhoenix]

That's fantastic! We're almost there (fingers crossed).

 

[UtilityCurve]

One thing for sure as I've gotten older it takes more to excite me so the more kinky the better. When in my 20's the site of tits made me crazy and now in my 70' I want to see them tied up and bound and spank them.

This.