Kinkier as we get older?

[SunnyPhoenix]

This.

Sounds good to me!

 

[steelringsXXXX]

This is definitely a “yes” for me.

Absolutely

 

[Erosfan]

Yes. I always had kinky fantasies but I didn't let them out. In my early years I thought they were "bad", so I hid them. Even from my husband. I tried to live up to the "goody goody" expectations of those around me. That, and life was very busy then with kids, jobs, extended family, etc. We have less of all that now; kids are grown; we're semi-retired, live farther away from the older relatives, just less time pressure, expectation, etc. I have become more and more comfortable with myself; who I am, what I need, what I like, what I want. More conscious with each passing year that we really should "make hay while the sun shines" as they say. So I've started bringing up my fantasies & desires with my formerly somewhat vanilla husband (he thought I was vanilla too, lol). He has responded very favorably, and we've been having the time of our lives experimenting! Now if only we could get the last adult child out of the house, lol...

"So I've started bringing up my fantasies & desires with my formerly somewhat vanilla husband (he thought I was vanilla too, lol)."

Communication is crucial! You "thought" he was vanilla and he "thought" you were vanilla and now you are both having fun. Looking back, you have to wonder just how much crazy, kinky fun the two of you missed. I'm saying this because I have lived it.

Not any more. I'm living my best kinky, crazy fantasy filled life with my very special lady, all because I opened up and shared my wants and needs.

 

[Biguy77578]

"So I've started bringing up my fantasies & desires with my formerly somewhat vanilla husband (he thought I was vanilla too, lol)."

Communication is crucial! You "thought" he was vanilla and he "thought" you were vanilla and now you are both having fun. Looking back, you have to wonder just how much crazy, kinky fun the two of you missed. I'm saying this because³ I have lived it.

Not any more. I'm living my best kinky, crazy fantasy filled life with my very special lady, all because I opened up and shared my wants and needs.

I opened up to my second wife before we married and what a sexy wild life we have had!

 

[SunnyPhoenix]

"So I've started bringing up my fantasies & desires with my formerly somewhat vanilla husband (he thought I was vanilla too, lol)."

Communication is crucial! You "thought" he was vanilla and he "thought" you were vanilla and now you are both having fun. Looking back, you have to wonder just how much crazy, kinky fun the two of you missed. I'm saying this because I have lived it.

Not any more. I'm living my best kinky, crazy fantasy filled life with my very special lady, all because I opened up and shared my wants and needs.

Right?! I've thought about that SO much! I told him recently, if I had only one regret looking back, it was that I didn't let my real self out much earlier.

And GOOD on you for living your best life now!

 

[bobbykialla]

Not sure about kinkier as I got older, I've always been kink and sexually curious..but I think the older and more experiences we are the more we know ourselves better and understand what kinks are us and what are not...and why..
Can't say I'm slowing down at any time...to much still to experience.

 

[Uncut1969]

Most definitely getting kinkier as I get older! And being on LIT has its advantages of contributing to them! I wish I could let loose and just be uninhibited and free! Would be so liberating!

 

[SensualEnergy70]

Most definitely getting kinkier as I get older! And being on LIT has its advantages of contributing to them! I wish I could let loose and just be uninhibited and free! Would be so liberating!

I totally agree.

 

[Biglibido99]

I've always been curious but now that's called kinky - it's not me that's changed, it's the world that has.

 

[Ad_hominem]

I totally agree. The longer I'm trapped on earth, the more weird sexy stuff I discover.

 

[CX726577]

Making up for lost fun time and trying to cram in as much in the time we have left. We both plan to go down in flames

 

[Ash999]

Sterilized steel rod in my 68 yr penis
https://ibb.co/YFbYxnN6
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[Slippery169]

I was getting kinkier as I got older and more experienced… until I got married to someone who is very vanilla … sometimes I wonder how I would be if I married someone that was kinkier

I'm in a similar situation, I'd say. Our sex life is pretty much nonexistent because it's so disappointing. Hence, I'm in Lit to explore my kinks/interests in chat. I will not leave my relationship for many reasons but the "what ifs" haunt me. Exploring here is certainly an improvement over not exploring at all.

 

[Smoothshavendad]

I'm in a similar situation, I'd say. Our sex life is pretty much nonexistent because it's so disappointing. Hence, I'm in Lit to explore my kinks/interests in chat. I will not leave my relationship for many reasons but the "what ifs" haunt me. Exploring here is certainly an improvement over not exploring at all.

My own story echoes yours.

 

[luvzmature]

I'm in a similar situation, I'd say. Our sex life is pretty much nonexistent because it's so disappointing. Hence, I'm in Lit to explore my kinks/interests in chat. I will not leave my relationship for many reasons but the "what ifs" haunt me. Exploring here is certainly an improvement over not exploring at all.

I would imagine a lot of us here feel trapped, and this site is a way to kind of scratch that itch.

 

[Polranny25]

I would imagine a lot of us here feel trapped, and this site is a way to kind of scratch that itch.

Just have to be careful that the scratch doesn't become an open, infected wound

 

[MaudeBlack]

I think I was curious when I was younger, but that curiosity came with a level of anxiety and fear of 'being found out' or labelled. I grew up in a small town and have two older sisters, so it always seemed everyone knew my business, which made exploring my sexuality difficult.

The older I've become, the more I've realised that it wasn't my circumstances that were the challenge - it was me. Now I simply don't care anymore about what people think... probably how and why I spent last weekend in a sex club getting fucked in front of a load of strangers.

It's very difficult to feel anxious about who you are while stealing glances at twenty people masturbating and playing with each other, while you've got a cock in your ass and another in your mouth.

Xx

 

[matureman32]

I think I was curious when I was younger, but that curiosity came with a level of anxiety and fear of 'being found out' or labelled. I grew up in a small town and have two older sisters, so it always seemed everyone knew my business, which made exploring my sexuality difficult.

The older I've become, the more I've realised that it wasn't my circumstances that were the challenge - it was me. Now I simply don't care anymore about what people think... probably how any why I spent last weekend in a sex club getting fucked in front of a load of strangers.

It's very difficult to feel anxious about who you are while stealing glances at twenty people masturbating and playing with each other, while you've got a cock in your ass and another in your mouth.

Xx

Sounds like you had a fab weekend!

 

[DomBull_inTW]

I"ve noticed more and more couples in their 60s exploring hotwifing and stag/vixen play.



In January I had a lovely three-day play session with a couple visiting from America. The wife was 65 years young and hotwifing just under a year.



She aligns with a lot of posters here. She realized she no longer cared what people tbought of her and was the one to tell her husband she wanted to open their marriage on her end.



She looks like a sweet grandmother...which she is. She also loves to fuck and happily offered me every part of her body for play.



The 25 year age gap between us didn't eveb come up once.

 

[Mtnmike]

I think I was curious when I was younger, but that curiosity came with a level of anxiety and fear of 'being found out' or labelled. I grew up in a small town and have two older sisters, so it always seemed everyone knew my business, which made exploring my sexuality difficult.

The older I've become, the more I've realised that it wasn't my circumstances that were the challenge - it was me. Now I simply don't care anymore about what people think... probably how and why I spent last weekend in a sex club getting fucked in front of a load of strangers.

It's very difficult to feel anxious about who you are while stealing glances at twenty people masturbating and playing with each other, while you've got a cock in your ass and another in your mouth.

Xx

Love your attitude

 

[jonnoback]

I think I was curious when I was younger, but that curiosity came with a level of anxiety and fear of 'being found out' or labelled. I grew up in a small town and have two older sisters, so it always seemed everyone knew my business, which made exploring my sexuality difficult.

The older I've become, the more I've realised that it wasn't my circumstances that were the challenge - it was me. Now I simply don't care anymore about what people think... probably how and why I spent last weekend in a sex club getting fucked in front of a load of strangers.

It's very difficult to feel anxious about who you are while stealing glances at twenty people masturbating and playing with each other, while you've got a cock in your ass and another in your mouth.

Xx

You certainly had a great time and will do so again.
But you’re confident in who you are that you feel able to share this story and I think that’s the bigger point. Not that you did it but told us.

 

[luvzmature]

Just have to be careful that the scratch doesn't become an open, infected wound

You do need to use common sense.

 

[Olderwiserstillhorny]

As I get up in the years, I think about things I tried in younger years. I wonder if I should open my self to things that are different from what I was uncertain about or judgemental about.
Maybe a little more open mindedness might not be detrimental in life.
If ya don't, you'll never know.

 

[Kat90xx]

I think I was curious when I was younger, but that curiosity came with a level of anxiety and fear of 'being found out' or labelled. I grew up in a small town and have two older sisters, so it always seemed everyone knew my business, which made exploring my sexuality difficult.

The older I've become, the more I've realised that it wasn't my circumstances that were the challenge - it was me. Now I simply don't care anymore about what people think... probably how and why I spent last weekend in a sex club getting fucked in front of a load of strangers.

It's very difficult to feel anxious about who you are while stealing glances at twenty people masturbating and playing with each other, while you've got a cock in your ass and another in your mouth.

Xx

Love that for you Maude - very inspirational! That is/was my big angst too like people could read my thoughts and judge me as if I had “slut” written on my forehead, but so glad to have met likeminded folk here and accept we’re all different yet so much the same and it’s ok

 

[Buck8466]

I'm in a similar situation, I'd say. Our sex life is pretty much nonexistent because it's so disappointing. Hence, I'm in Lit to explore my kinks/interests in chat. I will not leave my relationship for many reasons but the "what ifs" haunt me. Exploring here is certainly an improvement over not exploring at all.

I understand completely. Im in a similar situation. Its very discouraging.