Kinkier as we get older?

[SunnyPhoenix]

But what’s the cause? Is it communities like lit and/or easier access to porn?

I do agree with many posters, and that the older you get the less fucks you have to give.

I think communities like lit have helped me a lot. some things I never would’ve even thought about, or were disgusted by, started to pique my interest.

But other things were always with me: bisexual curiosity, femdom. I’d always considered myself “kinky” but really just think I am a super sexual person. Always have been.

But lit did open up some doors to me that I’d never really explored before. many bdsm practices (dominance, but also many submissive things: chastity, orgasm control). I’ve NEVER thought abt pee play till lit, but sound it to be a very erotic and intimate act.

And I introduced the idea of an open marriage to my wife. It didn’t work, but we found a happy medium in public nudity.

Long story short, I think lit and all you fabulous litsters helped me feel more comfortable abt my kinks and explore them more deeply w my wife. We always had great sex, but it’s off the charts now.

"...the older you get the less fucks you have to give."

So true!

 

[SunnyPhoenix]

I have definitely gotten kinkier but unfortunately my wife has given up on sex. A frustrating situation.

I don't know your situation, or your wife's, and I also don't know if it's okay to talk about hormones on this site (some places are very "anal" about it), but getting some Testosterone helped my sex drive immensely - I was losing interest some years back and now my husband can barely keep up with me. The estrogen patch took away that feeling of glass shards in my vagina during sex; I'm now wet and ready to go most of the time. It also took away hot flashes and night sweats. Progesterone helps me sleep better at night and takes away anxiety. So that trifecta has worked wonders for me. It's just a suggestion, and I know some people are resistant to it. But it might be something to look into; for me, the benefits are WELL worth it.

 

[SigmaJay]

Post menopause my wife could barely reach orgasm. With hormone replacements she is back in business. We have sex every day now and she has multiple orgasms. It helps that we are alone in the house, our kids have all grown and flown.

 

[SunnyPhoenix]

That's fantastic! We're almost there (fingers crossed).

 

[UtilityCurve]

One thing for sure as I've gotten older it takes more to excite me so the more kinky the better. When in my 20's the site of tits made me crazy and now in my 70' I want to see them tied up and bound and spank them.

This.

 

[SunnyPhoenix]

This.

Sounds good to me!

 

[steelringsXXXX]

This is definitely a “yes” for me.

Absolutely

 

[Erosfan]

Yes. I always had kinky fantasies but I didn't let them out. In my early years I thought they were "bad", so I hid them. Even from my husband. I tried to live up to the "goody goody" expectations of those around me. That, and life was very busy then with kids, jobs, extended family, etc. We have less of all that now; kids are grown; we're semi-retired, live farther away from the older relatives, just less time pressure, expectation, etc. I have become more and more comfortable with myself; who I am, what I need, what I like, what I want. More conscious with each passing year that we really should "make hay while the sun shines" as they say. So I've started bringing up my fantasies & desires with my formerly somewhat vanilla husband (he thought I was vanilla too, lol). He has responded very favorably, and we've been having the time of our lives experimenting! Now if only we could get the last adult child out of the house, lol...

"So I've started bringing up my fantasies & desires with my formerly somewhat vanilla husband (he thought I was vanilla too, lol)."

Communication is crucial! You "thought" he was vanilla and he "thought" you were vanilla and now you are both having fun. Looking back, you have to wonder just how much crazy, kinky fun the two of you missed. I'm saying this because I have lived it.

Not any more. I'm living my best kinky, crazy fantasy filled life with my very special lady, all because I opened up and shared my wants and needs.

 

[Biguy77578]

"So I've started bringing up my fantasies & desires with my formerly somewhat vanilla husband (he thought I was vanilla too, lol)."

Communication is crucial! You "thought" he was vanilla and he "thought" you were vanilla and now you are both having fun. Looking back, you have to wonder just how much crazy, kinky fun the two of you missed. I'm saying this because³ I have lived it.

Not any more. I'm living my best kinky, crazy fantasy filled life with my very special lady, all because I opened up and shared my wants and needs.

I opened up to my second wife before we married and what a sexy wild life we have had!

 

[SunnyPhoenix]

"So I've started bringing up my fantasies & desires with my formerly somewhat vanilla husband (he thought I was vanilla too, lol)."

Communication is crucial! You "thought" he was vanilla and he "thought" you were vanilla and now you are both having fun. Looking back, you have to wonder just how much crazy, kinky fun the two of you missed. I'm saying this because I have lived it.

Not any more. I'm living my best kinky, crazy fantasy filled life with my very special lady, all because I opened up and shared my wants and needs.

Right?! I've thought about that SO much! I told him recently, if I had only one regret looking back, it was that I didn't let my real self out much earlier.

And GOOD on you for living your best life now!

 

[bobbykialla]

Not sure about kinkier as I got older, I've always been kink and sexually curious..but I think the older and more experiences we are the more we know ourselves better and understand what kinks are us and what are not...and why..
Can't say I'm slowing down at any time...to much still to experience.

 

[Uncut1969]

Most definitely getting kinkier as I get older! And being on LIT has its advantages of contributing to them! I wish I could let loose and just be uninhibited and free! Would be so liberating!

 

[SensualEnergy70]

Most definitely getting kinkier as I get older! And being on LIT has its advantages of contributing to them! I wish I could let loose and just be uninhibited and free! Would be so liberating!

I totally agree.

 

[Biglibido99]

I've always been curious but now that's called kinky - it's not me that's changed, it's the world that has.

 

[Ad_hominem]

I totally agree. The longer I'm trapped on earth, the more weird sexy stuff I discover.

 

[CX726577]

Making up for lost fun time and trying to cram in as much in the time we have left. We both plan to go down in flames