Kinkier as we get older?

[Trubbycat]

So many things in our youth we say we'll never ever do, it's disgusting, it's wrong... and then one day you go hmmmmm...

 

[luvclassics]

If only I knew then what we know now. The mind opens to more unconventional exploration as we age. At least it's been that way for me.

At least for me that rings true as well! I don’t know if it the mind way of rebelling against age or just a way to have more frequent interlude’s from life’s daily grind. Either way it can be a curse if not satisfied and something pleasant with a willing partner!

 

[SPARTAN047]

So many things in our youth we say we'll never ever do, it's disgusting, it's wrong... and then one day you go hmmmmm...

You've described exactly what happened to me. Lots of things I used to consider disgusting as a teen, including some about strange places to cum and bodily functions, are now very sexy and appealing to me.

 

[Ssbbw4u1974]

Yep!!!
I'm 50, and have always been promiscuous, and free to explore my sexuality. Never turned down a threesome, or most sexual opportunities..

But, it's been in the last few years I've been into anal toys, more fantasies, different dynamics, and the orgasms I give myself are amazing!!

 

[foothillsncm]

Most definite!! I’m 51 now and way more open to things . Watch more things than I used to talk about things more and ohh yes my kink wanna do list is pretty much wide open .

 

[Norfolkguy49]

In my 50s wish I had done all I should have when I was younger so many regrets

 

[BreathyWhisper]

I was very closed off sexually, due to a conservative upbringing, and having undiagnosed ADHD. That all changed in my early 30's when I got diagnosed and medicated. Suddenly, I had the mental clarity to notice what my body responded to. I experimented a lot more and I discovered that I am a very sexually expressive person. I had also had a lot of hangups about my size and body type. I have since met so many men that loved my body and wanted to get their hands on me, it made me take a hard look at what I found beautiful about myself. I have gained so much more confidence as a result.

 

[cd_Jessica]

I would agree that the older I get, the more willing I am to trying new things. When I was younger I would wonder about things but never try. Now I am at the point in life that I say f this, why not try it. As a result I have become much happier.

 

[Buttboy7869]

I was very closed off sexually, due to a conservative upbringing, and having undiagnosed ADHD. That all changed in my early 30's when I got diagnosed and medicated. Suddenly, I had the mental clarity to notice what my body responded to. I experimented a lot more and I discovered that I am a very sexually expressive person. I had also had a lot of hangups about my size and body type. I have since met so many men that loved my body and wanted to get their hands on me, it made me take a hard look at what I found beautiful about myself. I have gained so much more confidence as a result.

So happy you got the help you needed.

 

[emme8]

I'm definitely kinkier.

If you told me 25 years ago when I got married I would be willing to cuck and peg my husband. Or I would be willing (and physically able) to cum from being spanked a belt or anal sex.

I really thought anal sex was almost an urban legend. The only people that really recieved it were porn stars or gay prostitutes needing to buy crack

 

[JustDave478]

I'm not sure if I'm kinkier, but as I've gotten older I've met more and more sexually open people and discovered what's out there that I enjoy.

 

[Xenaqueen]

Yep, for myself, I have gotten more kinkier as I have gotten older. When I was younger, I experimented, then I got married into a vanilla world. When I divorced my husband, I went back to old habits and into a more kinkier world.

 

[Trubbycat]

I have definitely gotten kinkier but unfortunately my wife has given up on sex. A frustrating situation.

 

[SPARTAN047]

I have definitely gotten kinkier but unfortunately my wife has given up on sex. A frustrating situation.

That seems to happen a lot sadly, all the time as some people get older. Some get hornier and kinkier, and some lose any libido they have.

 

[XXVIII]

How many of you have gotten kinkier and more libidinous as you got older? I grew up in strict religion and sex was limited to traditional and oral. Then bondage, spanking, anal. Then in my late 40's, I got into pegging, fisting, occasional crossdressing, etc. Now, at 60, I am kinkier than ever.

Led a pretty vanilla sex life when I was younger and during my first marriage. She was pretty conservative, which meant straight missionary most of the time. No pussy or ass eating, 69, fingering, pegging, cock sucking etc. For other reasons we grew apart. Now in my second marriage and our sex life is great. But as you've noted from my mid 40's to now my mid 50's, I've also definitely gotten more kinky as I've gotten older. Absolutely enjoying it and no signs of slowing down in that department either.

 

[Camos1000]

We find older people are more able to express themselves and arnt immediately fixated with sex and want it to last longer so a lot of people we know like kink as a way to make the experience last longer

We go to parties organised by a friend who is in his 70s and although he is ‘ only ‘ the host they are the most erotic evenings we have been to

Maybe the imagination gets better with age and you are not afraid to try it ?

 

[SPARTAN047]

Led a pretty vanilla sex life when I was younger and during my first marriage. She was pretty conservative, which meant straight missionary most of the time. No pussy or ass eating, 69, fingering, pegging, cock sucking etc. For other reasons we grew apart. Now in my second marriage and our sex life is great. But as you've noted from my mid 40's to now my mid 50's, I've also definitely gotten more kinky as I've gotten older. Absolutely enjoying it and no signs of slowing down in that department either.

I think that's another reason. People get bored of vanilla sex and blow jobs so they start experimenting with everything else.

 

[SPARTAN047]

We find older people are more able to express themselves and arnt immediately fixated with sex and want it to last longer so a lot of people we know like kink as a way to make the experience last longer

We go to parties organised by a friend who is in his 70s and although he is ‘ only ‘ the host they are the most erotic evenings we have been to

Maybe the imagination gets better with age and you are not afraid to try it ?

Perhaps people get bored with the same thing over and over again and move on to experimenting. Sometimes if their own partner won't do it they cheat or suggest swinging, hot wifing, hot husbanding, cuckolding and cuckqueaning, or stag and vixen relationships.

 

[OddLove]

Back when I first started getting boners and thinking about sex it was just collars, leashes, and a mild form of pet play. Now twenty years later I'm into just about everything. Heavy leather stuff, harness, restraints, even hoods. Piss play, cum play, anal stuff. Latex, full body, or just sexy outfits. Large insertions (on others, my but can't handle), spanking, whipping, choking. Verbal degradation, different kinds of humiliation. Pet play became more like D/s roleplay.

Sexuality went from slightly bicurious towards feminine men, to full on bisexual for all types of men, big, small, tall, short, smooth, hair, any d'size, any age, etc and my straight side changed from liking generic white blonde girls to liking all ethnicities, and different styles like emo, scene, hippy, grungy, tomboy, nerdy, goth, etc.

I've gone from mostly Dominant, to 50/50 switch, and I'm just into filling out the role of whatever the other person or people desire. My kinks have gotten more extreme, and my horniness has become much more frequent.

I'm also Bipolar, and when I have manic episodes it get's even more extreme. Like I'll just randomly start fantasizing about a woman brutally abusing me. Like ball busting, ball squeeze, slapping me in the face, spitting and pissing on me, blackmailing me with photos so I can't say no. Or I'll be fantasizing about dominating one of my guy friends, like inviting him over, locking his clothes in a safe, locking a collar on his neck, putting him in chastity, and using his holes every time I get hard or need to pee.

When I stop and think about how mild my kinks used to be and I compare them to now, it blows my mind lol. I've had such a normal and chill upbringing and I have no idea how I became a hypersexual kinky maniac. I've just never once had even a slight interest in vanilla sex, and the kinky stuff has grown into a monster.

 

[Camos1000]

Perhaps people get bored with the same thing over and over again and move on to experimenting. Sometimes if their own partner won't do it they cheat or suggest swinging, hot wifing, hot husbanding, cuckolding and cuckqueaning, or stag and vixen relationships.

You are right. It’s more about the exploring and just enjoying what you like rather then being worried about it all. We decided that we would always let the other know what we like and never do anything behind the others back. That way we can be open and if we want play with others but we always come home to each other and it’s a great way to be

 

[Buttboy7869]

I posted an answer to this question earlier. My answer was spontaneous and without serious thought. Upon reflection I feel a modification of my answer is necessary.
Looking back on things I have to say I’ve been pretty kinky for most of my life, starting a a young age. What I’d say now is that I haven’t gotten kinkier as I’ve gotten older, I’ve stayed much the same. The surprising thing I see upon reflection is a decline in the importance of orgasm.
As a young man the primary object in my sexual assignations was my orgasm. Not being a selfish person I also endeavored to provide satisfaction to my partner(s). But as I’ve aged I found myself delaying orgasm in order to prolong the time I spent interacted with my partner(s). During this time I also began delaying orgasm when having solo masturbation sessions. Subsequently I’ve learn this is a practice known as “Edging”. So while engaging in a practice that could take as little as 10 minutes I found that I was extending the time to an hour and often for several hours. On one memorable occasion after starting at around 7:00 in the evening I extended the time until around 3:00 PM the next day. These edging sessions also expanded the activities encompassed during masturbation. These included pornography, either photos or videos, often both. Initially anal play was included at first with fingers then to dildo use and finally to extremely large dildos. Often it progressed from using fingers to using several sizes progressively to the largest size for hours. During these sessions the finish sometimes included ejaculation but most often did not.
Sexual interaction with others found me
often delaying or avoiding altogether any ejaculation. Especially when playing with a couple or group. Especially when bisexuality was involved. Contrary to what I would have thought as I’ve gotten older orgasm/ejaculation is far down the list of importance.

 

[jd_sw]

I'm definitely get very kinky as I get older. Much more kinkier compares to the moment I lost my virginity.
I compare the journey like driving experience.

In the beginning you learn how to drive your dick in-out of pussy. As you get more experience you learn more about different types of cars [sedan, suv, sport, truck, etc...] which compares to different types of women body and pussy types. Then you move on to learn about different style of driving. This is where you learn about different fetishes and find what you like. Then you apply all 3 stages together where you can mix & match what you learn about the fetishes together with your imagination.

 

[Submissivepat]

In my case, I definitely got kinkier as I got older. My submissiveness really came out when I was in my late 30’s and 40’s. It continued to grow.

 

[Winchester3030]

Yep! Makes me wonder what all I have missed out on because I was not as open minded as I seem to be now!! I’m thinking I missed out on lots of fun times!

 

[SPARTAN047]

I do love different levels of submission now at my current age.