Ladies - the type of woman that attracts you

[Tymeless]

thanks a ton ladies you know how to make me blush.

well if i ever find someone i'll let you all know until then you all have a shot at me.

 

[Night_Jasmine]

*pouts* You'd better tell us! Have to keep us updated on the gossip! lol

 

[decatur]

Heya - I just started posting around here and Ive been kinda skimming the GLBT threads. This one caught my eye because I have been really confused about my tastes lately. I dated boys for years, up to age 21, fell in love, enjoyed sex, felt all the things you'd figure to feel for a guy, but somewhere along the way the "crushes" I had on girls turned into something else, originally leading to what can only be described as emotional torture. But ... by the time I was breaking up with my last bf, I was ready to go out and get crazy with the ladies!

For years, I just liked picking girls up - it was fun to be more in the drivers seat so to speak. I guess I always had kinda feminine tastes ... the androgynous tomboy to the super femme, never did find real butch women appealing. Had a few relationships, some serious, but in the end, I got myself into some serious trouble and had to put on the brakes. I didnt date at all for like five years, maybe six - not at ALL, all I did was work. Then I met this adorable girl, fell in love despite being 13 years older (yikes), and we made it 3 years before predictably we fell apart.

Since then, Ive dated a ton of girls from internet dating services, but not a one that really floated my boat, and I have NO idea why. Some are cute, some are not so cute, but its like the less I know em the more shallow I feel my interest is. The worst part is even if I think they are physically attractive, I could care less. I get way more involved with girls I know over the internet from RP situations (not here) and I dont even know in the beginning what they look like.

I think the problem is that if I was asked what kind of woman I like, I may have some physical description for you, but its going to be an ideal, and the reality is if I fall in love with someone everything about THAT PERSON is what I think is hot. I just dont get that initial zing that keeps me after somebody, I have to get to know them. I cant go to bars anymore, dont have time for a really active social life, so I dont meet a lot of women.

Who is hot? Someone smart, funny, feminine but not neccessarily super femme, who pays attention to me and likes me paying attention to them, someone I GET that GETS me. Isnt that all its about?

Oh and ... sexual openness, thats a huge turn on.

Sorry, long babble but Im really thinking about this stuff lately. Hee.

 

[Night_Jasmine]

I can feel what you're saying there Decatur. Attraction is physical based to a point, but it's also mental and spiritual. There's got to be something there.

 

[decatur]

*hugs jasmine*

Thanks for responding to my overlong post. Feeling too thoughtful tonight, I think a long sleep is in order.

 

[Magnolia Wind]

Well, there's a lot of factors that make women look attractive in my eyes, but I'll try to be brief.

My humble requirements: musn't be too short (I'm 178cm), beautiful teeth, and long hair (well, not necessarily long, it just mustn't be a boy's haircut).

Other than that, I'm completely open to any kinds of looks. I just think women are beautiful generally and most of the time, how people perceive you depends on how you present yourself, so if you have an air of confidence, if you dress nicely, nobody will notice that, for example, your stomach isn't 100% flat or that your breasts aren't size D or whatever else. In fact, I think "imperfections" are quite sexy. I don't know, could be just me.

Also, when I was younger, I made up a type of women I thought I liked. Blond with blue eyes. In reality, I've never been seriously attracted to that type and, as time goes by, I realize I don't have a type, per se. I used to think I like only very feminine women, but lately I've been eyeing some not-so feminine and yet hot women as well... So, like I said, I personally like different types of looks.


Well, those were looks. It gets more complicated when it comes to the brain department. The woman I might enjoy a short fling with doesn't have to be smart and that's the reason why all we're gonna have is a short fling. To truly enchant me and make me fall in love with her, a woman has to be smart. Not just intelligent, but smart and cultured. She must be able to challenge me. Seriously, there's nothing hotter than a woman who can challenge me intellectually and with whom we can have a heated argument about, for instance, French cinema... only to have it topped with passionate make-up sex. Sorry, got carried away a bit.

 

[Night_Jasmine]

*hugs Decatur*

Again, this goes to show that attraction can be based off of intelligence as well as looks.

I'd love to be able to discuss a movie, musical, or book with my lover and have intelligent conversations. To me, that's stimulating and lasting. A meeting of the minds as well as the bodies. I can't abide the idea of it being purely a physical attraction and nothing to sustain the relationship.

 

[Bunneh]

Goes for both

This goes for what attracts me in both genders, I don't really have a set type. I like both tall and short women, very thin to very curvy, all hair colors and lengths, girlie girls and girls who get called 'sir'. They just have to 'have that something' that catches my eye

 

[HottieMama]

It all depends on the woman herself for me...but I have a huge weakness for larger women. I like softness and curves when I'm cuddling.

 

[lindahotstuff]

For me it's a sensitive soul-mate. Someone who makes me feel good, and excites me with just a look or touch or word. After that initial attraction there is the physical: clean, slim, shaven, firm nipples. Then it's quite sexual, can we pleasure each other, and then there is the need for someone I actually like, to move beyond sex to a relationship where we laugh and cry together.

 

[Night_Jasmine]

It all depends on the woman herself for me...but I have a huge weakness for larger women. I like softness and curves when I'm cuddling.

You're a rare one. I hope I find someone who thinks like that too. I'm large as well, and it can be a handicap.

 

[Mr_G]

Good idea. Gimme some time to think.

...Thinking...

Hm... Well, I would have to say my ideal woman, visually, would be an Audrey Hepburn-type. Slim, dark haired, with large doe brown eyes and a shy, warm smile. Makes me melt every time.

I'll think more on the personality part.

I'm not a lady but I just have to say that I think Audrey Hepburn might be the prettiest woman I've ever seen.

 

[Milene]

Anyone who has read my stories knows I am really into strong, confident women who are dominant but feminine and know what they want from me. ;-)

Physically, I am really attracted to girls with dark brown or black hair, pale skin, and blue eyes, as well as redheads. But my major obsession is tall, fit, feminine black chicks.

 

[curiousru]

Physically it doesn't matter. Someone who's reasonably intelligent, can laugh, is sensual, and just wants to have some fun. Short hair, long hair, big breasts, non-existant breasts, I don't care.

 

[AussieAngel]

hey there curiousru

 

[curiousru]

Hi AussieAngel!

 

[BitterIchor]

I like honest and outspoken women. Women who aren't afraid to stand for what they believe in. Also, intellectual and eloquent women are very attractive.

What physical appearance I find attractive varies greatly. But older, sophisticatedly dressed women are generally my thing. I can also be known to have a certain weakness for slightly (but not overly) butch women.

 

[bananakiss]

What type of woman attracts you? Physical, mentally, spiritually....

Physically: I love to see a woman smile. The wide and unafraid-of-broccoli-in-the-teeth kind of smile that leaves no doubt in my mind that there is happiness coursing through her veins. I dig expressive eyes and enough hair to grab a hold of, but there's no particular body shape/size that just does it for me. I find the female form innately beautiful, each one so unique, delicate, and powerful in its own right.

Mentally: I love a good challenge. I like someone with a great deal of idealism, tempered with a fair amount of realism. I want her to have an interest in figuring me out. I enjoy being around a woman that isn't afraid to question things, no matter how long-standing or acceptable to the masses. She's got to have enough sense to know when and when not to push or question as well. A definite MUST is creativity. She's got to have the ability to envision things that aren't there, describe things intangible, and evoke emotion with more than just her body.

Spiritually: My only real religion is to live a life I am proud of. We would share beliefs and activist inclinations. She would read my eyes the moment I walked in and have an immediate sense of my mood. She'd have reasonably good instincts with how to handle that mood as well.

I know it seems a tall order, but it's not inconceivable. She exists, in fact. I've met her, held her, tasted her kiss a time or two. I'm never giving up.

Sidenote: The few women I've completely fallen for have been polar opposites of one another each time. I find it prudent to know yourself and not get too fixated on 'your type'. You never know what you might be missing in the package standing right beside her; a little shorter, a little too loud, a little more bashful than you imagined would suit you...

 

[Night_Jasmine]

Physically: I love to see a woman smile. The wide and unafraid-of-broccoli-in-the-teeth kind of smile that leaves no doubt in my mind that there is happiness coursing through her veins. I dig expressive eyes and enough hair to grab a hold of, but there's no particular body shape/size that just does it for me. I find the female form innately beautiful, each one so unique, delicate, and powerful in its own right.

Mentally: I love a good challenge. I like someone with a great deal of idealism, tempered with a fair amount of realism. I want her to have an interest in figuring me out. I enjoy being around a woman that isn't afraid to question things, no matter how long-standing or acceptable to the masses. She's got to have enough sense to know when and when not to push or question as well. A definite MUST is creativity. She's got to have the ability to envision things that aren't there, describe things intangible, and evoke emotion with more than just her body.

Spiritually: My only real religion is to live a life I am proud of. We would share beliefs and activist inclinations. She would read my eyes the moment I walked in and have an immediate sense of my mood. She'd have reasonably good instincts with how to handle that mood as well.

I know it seems a tall order, but it's not inconceivable. She exists, in fact. I've met her, held her, tasted her kiss a time or two. I'm never giving up.

Sidenote: The few women I've completely fallen for have been polar opposites of one another each time. I find it prudent to know yourself and not get too fixated on 'your type'. You never know what you might be missing in the package standing right beside her; a little shorter, a little too loud, a little more bashful than you imagined would suit you...

I love how you've described it. Matches a lot of what I was thinking as well.

 

[sunshineme]

Physically it doesn't matter. Someone who's reasonably intelligent, can laugh, is sensual, and just wants to have some fun. Short hair, long hair, big breasts, non-existant breasts, I don't care.

i agree totally with you just a natural woman

 

[burntblue]

can i say that bravery and passion are such a turn on.

i love women who speak their truth and live fearlessly.

.... and i love a woman who can say the word "cunt " without blushing. who knows that its a sexy, strong word and doesn't apologise. who knows that sex is a cure and a blessing and that fucking is magical.

i love a woman who knows how to shut the fuck up and kiss me.

 

[playwithlezli]

Physically: I love to see a woman smile. The wide and unafraid-of-broccoli-in-the-teeth kind of smile that leaves no doubt in my mind that there is happiness coursing through her veins. I dig expressive eyes and enough hair to grab a hold of, but there's no particular body shape/size that just does it for me. I find the female form innately beautiful, each one so unique, delicate, and powerful in its own right.

Mentally: I love a good challenge. I like someone with a great deal of idealism, tempered with a fair amount of realism. I want her to have an interest in figuring me out. I enjoy being around a woman that isn't afraid to question things, no matter how long-standing or acceptable to the masses. She's got to have enough sense to know when and when not to push or question as well. A definite MUST is creativity. She's got to have the ability to envision things that aren't there, describe things intangible, and evoke emotion with more than just her body.

Spiritually: My only real religion is to live a life I am proud of. We would share beliefs and activist inclinations. She would read my eyes the moment I walked in and have an immediate sense of my mood. She'd have reasonably good instincts with how to handle that mood as well.

I know it seems a tall order, but it's not inconceivable. She exists, in fact. I've met her, held her, tasted her kiss a time or two. I'm never giving up.

Sidenote: The few women I've completely fallen for have been polar opposites of one another each time. I find it prudent to know yourself and not get too fixated on 'your type'. You never know what you might be missing in the package standing right beside her; a little shorter, a little too loud, a little more bashful than you imagined would suit you...

Here I am! Except I don't have the sense to quit talking or asking questions, even when I am going too far. But I am getting better, just ask my ever-patient girlfriend.

 

[Xtinas_Girlfriend]

Since the guys started one - lol- might as well start one for us.

What type of woman attracts you? Physical, mentally, spiritually....

My biggest weakness is dark, dark hair, especially long hair. Black women, white women, hispanic women, whatever - just dark hair! I like darker skin too, paleness kind of turns me off, no offense to anyone else though, just personal feelings. I love short girls, like 5'0 - 5'3. I like feeling like I can pick her up lol. Body-wise, I don't like super-thin. Oh, and she has to be able to dance. Girls who can dance are such a turn on. Personality-wise, I like intelligence, we need to be able to have serious and deep conversations. I like sensitivity and girls who show their emotions to me. Hmm, that's all I can think of for right now...

 

[CornFlower]

J

I'd have to say my girlfriend. She's brilliant and hilarious. She has the most amazing smile and sparkling blue eyes. She accepts me for who I am and always makes me feel beautiful. When she walks into a room I melt.

 

[W_MA_DWM]

Audrey Hepburn-type

Good idea. Gimme some time to think.

...Thinking...

Hm... Well, I would have to say my ideal woman, visually, would be an Audrey Hepburn-type. Slim, dark haired, with large doe brown eyes and a shy, warm smile. Makes me melt every time.

I'll think more on the personality part.

Hope it's OK for a male to make comments here.

I always loved the Audrey Hepburn-type, too. You didn't mention her tiny titties, though. Do you love that, as well?

My first wife was small and had very tiny titties and the dark hair and eyes.