Ladies - When is a Woman Satisfied??

[LusciousRedLips]

Re: Re: Ladies - When is a Woman Satisfied??

When she falls asleep in your arms.

I agree. Nothing like satisfying sex to make you sleep like a baby, but to me that answers the question "HOW can you tell when a woman is satisfied?" not "WHEN is a woman satisfied?" (yeah, i know, picky semantics thing)

So if you guys want to know HOW you can tell if a woman is satisfied, that's a good start--she contentedly sleeps. Just wanting to snuggle is another good sign. And if she lies in bed with a silly grin on her face and looks at you as if you were a god, you know you REALLY did something right.

 

[LusciousRedLips]

An orgasm a day keeps the doctor away

LusciousRedLips, you'll find an orgasm is also a great way to rid yourself of a headache.

It's cos of the endorphins that are released. They are natural painkillers.

In fact my mothers doctor actually recommended sex to her following a large operation.

Ladybird,

I had discovered that headache remedy a while back. Never knew why it work until now, but it sure beats tylenol.

Your mom has a cool doc. Wish I could find one as enlightened.

 

[Don K Dyck]

Satisfaction

Hi Ladybird, Dragonette, Svenskaflicka, Pervert and Luscious, thank you for stopping by and sharing your wisdom.

The endorphins are the reason that pleasure occurs. They are released during childbirth to dull the pain, and for many women the pleasure of pregnancy is created by these chemicals produced in response to the foetus pushing against the G-spot and A-spot. Headaches may be caused by many things LB, but I can't think of a better remedy! Check out the thread "Try this and get back to Me" for more details.

A beautiful, sensitive piece of prose, Dragonette. He was one lucky man. But life moves along like a stream and we either move with the flow or get left behind in a backwater. The best thing about seeing the light at the end of the tunnel id that at least you know that you are going in the correct direction. And as the light gets bigger you know that you are getting closer to getting out of the dark <wink>.

Your extensive list identifies some of the multitude of factors Svenskaflicka, but as you say, the factors you have accurately identified are causal rather than the consequence.

Pervert's flippant comment may be technically correct. In my experience women are capable of extraordinary sensual exploits by any standards, and Mr G at "Try This . . ." has done us a great favour promoting a "new" technique and collecting experiences from people who have experimented. It's worth checking out.

Thank you all for sharing your experience.

Don

 

[Ladybird]

Ok sexy man, this woman needs to be satisfied, and you're the only one who can do it.

Your avatar is driving me crazy... does your av resemble you at all? If not.. please describe yourself before I melt away in from pure lust.

 

[Don K Dyck]

Thanks

Ok sexy man, this woman needs to be satisfied, and you're the only one who can do it.

Your avatar is driving me crazy... does your av resemble you at all? If not.. please describe yourself before I melt away in from pure lust.

Tonitits recommended the avatar - thanks Toni.

 

[Ladybird]

Re: Thanks

Tonitits recommended the avatar - thanks Toni.

Toni is lovely..

.. but you haven't answered my question and satisfied me

 

[Don K Dyck]

Satidfaction

Toni is lovely..

.. but you haven't answered my question and satisfied me

aahhhH, LB, your finest attribute is that you are totally insatiable!!! Next time I'm in Perth I'll demonstrate this for you - could take a couple of days though, if I'm not mistaken.

 

[Ladybird]

Ok... I'll wait. Only cos I know it will be worth it.

So hurry over..

 

[exvitermini]

I'd have to agree with the consensus that a woman's satisfaction is never a definite thing. But when she's asleep in your arms and your love juices have soaked through the bed, then I'd say it's a pretty good sign that she has been pleased.

 

[Freya]

I have had quite the sexual history during my many years of wnadering. I've found, now that I'm over 30, a few things.
1) Casual sex just does not do it for me anymore. I need to be with a man that I care about in some form or another. It does not need to be love - but there must be some affection there.
2) I need a man who is totally comfortable with his own sexuality. I want someone who is not afraid to explore, try new things, let me know what he wants.
3) I tend to be a bit shy with speaking my mind - at least for the first little while. So I need a man who is sensitive to sounds and reactions from me, to let him know what he is doing right (or worng). If I breathe heavier, or moan softly, he can tell I'm enjoying it. If I'm quiet or just lying there like a pizza on a table, I'm probably not. (Of course, I'm so damn noisy that it's easier to tell when I'm unnaturally quiet)
4) It also has to be a man who is mature enough and strong enough to stop if it's uncomfortable. Part of being fairly uninhibited with the person you are with, is the fact that at times it might be painful or just not fun. A man who will not force himself on you at that point, but has enough respect to stop or try it a different way. This also covers what someone else said about just simply being too tired to continue or (very rarely) just not in the mood.

All of the above accomplish a few things. One is that I develop the affection and respect needed to truly let myself go and have a good time. When I don't have to worry about whether my stomach looks fat during sex, then I know I am with the right man. It also makes it easier to be completely satisfied - because I know that I am satisfying him and also that he knows and cares about me well enough, that my pleasure is a high priority.

Right now, I am in a sexual relationship with a man who is just my friend. There is no doubt stronger feelings on both sides, but both of us are too damn chicken to pursue that at the moment. I am totally satisfied walking out the door when I leave him. I also have occasional interludes with another man - and to be frank, while the technical aspects are very good - the emotional part of it is just not there, thus it's not nearly as satisfying as with my friend.

 

[Freya]

And back to the whole PMS issue. Sex just before and at the beginning of your period does wonders for cramps. A lot of women are extremely horny during this time as well. But I think it's been stereotyped almost as being a dirty thing to do, so that many people are uncomfortable with it. It is messy and can be kinda sloppy - but if you take the appropriate laundry precautions - or conversely try it in the shower - it can be a pretty stimulating time for women.

 

[Don K Dyck]

Satisfaction

Thank you Freya and exvitermini for dropping by and sharing your wisdom.

I agree Freya, with age you appreciate the many other aspects of sensuality beyond the "instanteous" pleasure rush of copulation. A caring relationship takes work by both parties and tending like a garden to bear the fruit of satisfaction. And those fortunate enough to experience this seem to all agree that the effort is worth every second.

Time gives experience and maturity. Being sensitive to the responses of your partner can take a long time to develop, but when you do the consequences are jsut simply fabulous!!

I think you're correct exvitermini, I can remember nights ike that and I would have to agree with you.

Thank you all for sharing.

Don

 

[Svenskaflicka]

Women's satisfaction

I don't agree whole-heartedly with the idea that a woman falling asleep in your arms is a sure sign that she is satisfied - it COULD also mean that she's bored beyond belief and is tired of faking it, and just want to go to sleep!

Since me and my honey make love at all times during the day, not only just before falling asleep, we often have sex for hours and then, when we're too tired to continue, we get up and do something else that is funny. And I never leave the bed unsatisfied, believe me!!!

I still think that the best way of making sure that a woman is satisfied and has had enough for now is to communicate. Talk, talk, talk! There is a difference between when a woman is satisfied and when she has had enough. I usually get satisfied many times before I have had enough, but then there are also women who give up and wnat to finish it before being completely satisfied. The only one who knows that she's not faking it is herself - and the only way you'll ever know is through Honest Communication.

 

[Don K Dyck]

Satisfaction

Thanks Svenskaflicka for dropping in and sharing your wisdom.

You make an interesting note there, Does satisfaction mean she has had enough? So, as you say, the only sensible resolution is communication. . . . and that naturally would flow into pleasuring. It is much more difficult to read a woman's feelings while love making if she is lying there silent as the grave. Geez, when it (rarely, very rarely) happens I have to rely on all the other senses. If nothing happens, well, its probably time to have a cold shower.

In my experience a woman communicating her pleasure while lovemaking is one of the greatest delights - the moans and groans and dirty talk and bossing about . . . oh, I'm breaking my own rules here!!

I agree, communication is a very important part of all aspects of forming a caring relationship and enjoying sensual pleasure.

Thank you for sharing.

Don

 

[XxStarlitexX]

Unfortunately, I can't really recall a time when I've finished sex completely satisfied. More often than not I fake it and then either go clean up or go to sleep. Sometimes I'll just suck him off until he can't think so he forgets I haven't orgasmed.

As far as the whole satisfaction thing goes... I do need to be touched and kissed(often and well) and TOLD that I'm wanted. Obviously someone wouldn't be having sex with me that wasn't at least vaguely attracted to me(I hope). If a man tells me he thinks I'm sexy it makes all the difference.

 

[bmwrider]

sorry to hear that, star

Star,

Sorry to hear it's been so long for you. I have to admit I know how you feel. Yes, I'm male, but I'm sure you've guessed that guys like the 'full package' as well sometimes.

Dragonette's story was incredible! Strangely, like Freya, I had a girl 'friend' who was just that - a friend. She called it "friends with bedroom priviliges". Oddly, we never actually had intercourse, but in that relationship developed all kids of new ways (for us, at age 22) to have orgasms.

I remember fondly when she did a masturbation 'session' very similar to Dragonette's story - the resemblances are amazing. Instead of intercourse for the final act, she sat on me, pinning me down (arms and all), and 'made' me watch as she played with herself to 5 (I kinda lost count) orgasms. All I could do was lie there and watch her for almost an hour. It was great!!

Sorry..off topic. Anyway, though I'm new at this Forum thing, thanks so much to all the women who've offered their opinions to this topic. Thanks to Don for starting it.

Dragonette - anytime you want to practice writing stories, contact me!! ;-)

B

 

[Laineforfun]

I am sorry to hear that in this day in age that anyone has to fake anything let alone the wonderful orgasm. If your with the right person you should never have to be like that. Just my opinion.

Laine

 

[Don K Dyck]

Satisfaction

Thank you Starlite, bmwrider and Laine for dropping by and sharing your wisdom.

That must have been a fantasy cum true for you Rider, watching that performance! From an objective perspective, knowing that one woman can have multiple orgasms makes you wonder why all the erotic literature has them thankful for only one. Probably written by inexperienced men. That happens in a patriarchal society, I'm afraid.

Laine your sentiments are right on! Nobody should have to fake! Guys included! Sometimes the earth moves in cataclysm, and other days, well . . . For men the frequency of "well" days increases with age, but not necessarily so for women.

But then in a patriarchal society some men think they have a God given right to be the arseholes attached to their pricks, and great big pricks they usually are - good for just about nothing!!

Society encourages women to take the submissive role to reduce conflict and possible damage to the childbearers. But it is only when women stand up to be counted that society has to move to protect them from these lowlifes. I believe that nobody should sacrifice their self esteem for anyone else. To prevent such a loss means standing up for what you believe by speaking softly and clearly - then kneeing in the balls if necessary.

This is quite rightly an open age adult site, and Starlite I can only say that your reply may reflect you experience. So, when you find yourself in a situation that makes you feel uncomfortable, just get up and leave. You are a special person and deserve the best. If he chooses not to learn the skills, and there are skills to learn, then trade him in on a more worthy appreciative model. But equally there are skills for the ladies to learn, like practicing the Keigel exercises found on "Try this and Report Back" thread by Mr GGG.

This Lit site contains much wisdom, seek it out and learn so that you may enjoy.

Thank you all for sharing.

Don

 

[Laineforfun]

You are so right about that Don. I do not find it productive to fake pleasure for someone else, or someone to fake it for you. If I am not up for an orgasm I do not expect my partner to take it personal. It would be my fault, what I mean is if I was not being pleased in a way I felt satisfying then it would be my fault for not speaking up and changing it. You all have a voice and it should be powerful enough to either change the situation to where everyone is being pleased or maybe your in the wrong relationship. You can not blame your partner for not satisfying you if you dont express what your needs are, and if you are expressing your needs and they still are not being met then maybe you are not in the right relationship for you. And if someone fakes a orgasm for me then that would hurt my feelings I am a grown woman and together we can handle a little dissapointment now and then. I know with my husband and I we are totally understanding if the other person is not up for the big O its bound to happen sometimes. As long as we have open comunication with eachother instead of holding grudges then it just makes next time more fun. I just think of it as really long foreplay knowing that with some rest we will both satisfy eachother to the fullest We should all be true to our self it does not make us less desireable of a person if we are not perfect.

Laine

 

[Ladybird]

Unfortunately, I can't really recall a time when I've finished sex completely satisfied. More often than not I fake it and then either go clean up or go to sleep. Sometimes I'll just suck him off until he can't think so he forgets I haven't orgasmed.

Oh Starlite, I hear you!

Sex with my ex deteriorated as our relationship did. Towards the end, foreplay would last until my ex had an erection (usually not long), then wordlessly he would climb on top of me, and stay there until he came. Then he'd roll off and turning his back to me fall asleep.

I'd lay there crying.. feeling humiliated, and wanting more.

That's why I'm so happy so find men here how actually want to please women. It's a new concept to me..

And one things for sure.. my next partner will want to satisfy me as much as I do him.

 

[Don K Dyck]

Satisfaction

Thank you Laine and Ladybird for dropping by to share your wisdom with us.

That's a wonderfully fulfilling philosophy Laine, and one we could all benefit from by reading - and in our own way, practising. As Shakespeare said,

"To thine own self be true,
Then as night follows day,
Thou canst be false to any man."

(Shakespeare is always politically correct!)

One of the "nice" things about a caring relationship is that the rush of unreal expectations can sometimes be removed, and when this happens in lovemaking then the relationship benefits. So the urgent rush of youth to score before her father calls her in had certain appeal, but an all night relentless ravaging has even greater appeal in my experience.

And LB, as you say, the deterioration of the quality of lovemaking when a relationship is having difficulties seems to exaccerbate the problems, magnifying them out of all real proportion, forcing the partners even further apart and on too many occasions desroying or damaging them.

Been there, done that, hurt like hell, don't want to go back.

Thank you both for sharing

Don

 

[buckminsterfutt]

When is a woman satisfied? Geeezzz

Based on my ex-wife, there may be no limits on their capacity for sexual enjoyment. As my ex became older, she could orgasm time afeter time for hours. She could cum so many times she had no idea of the count.

We had a threesome partner that lived with us for three years. He and I could double team and tag team her for 12-14 hours. No shit.

We went to a party at the home of a porn flick actress and my ex does a gangbang with a dozen guyz. Including these two black porn actors that were sooo huge. She did everybody in. Just awesome to watch. Best part for me, she was sucking my cock while get fucked at DP'ed by all these dudes. Best head I ever got.

The answer to your query -- limitless .

best regards,

buckminster futt

 

[psyche]

sex

Oh Starlite, I hear you!

Sex with my ex deteriorated as our relationship did. Towards the end, foreplay would last until my ex had an erection (usually not long), then wordlessly he would climb on top of me, and stay there until he came. Then he'd roll off and turning his back to me fall asleep.

I'd lay there crying.. feeling humiliated, and wanting more.

That's why I'm so happy so find men here how actually want to please women. It's a new concept to me..

And one things for sure.. my next partner will want to satisfy me as much as I do him.

Your comments really hit home for me Ladybird. I have been married for 20 years and it has been a good marriage. My husband is going through a lot health wise, stress at work, migraines, and he is taking some major medications. We had a good sex life that was satisfying for me. But now it is pretty much nonexistant. He really has lost interest and when we do have sex he will lay there and "let me do all the work" including trying to get him hard enough. Even though this is only one aspect of our relationship it has had a devastating impact on my view of our marriage. I am no longer satisfied sexually. He asserts that he loves me and wants no one else. I have gone through stages in coping with this situation. In fact that's how I found lit. I needed sexual stimulation and I thought a good way to deal with it would be porn and masterbation, which worked for a period of time. I could see myself becoming resentful toward him because of my frustration. By the way, through all of this I have communicated my needs and have offered some solutions such as using toys to no avail. He is very conservative when it comes to sex. My solution to this was to find someone for a sexual relationship and this has worked for me, I am sexually satisfied and I no longer take my resentment out on my husband. But I think my situation emphasizes the important of sex in a relationship. We tend to think of it as 'icing on the cake' but I think it's more than that. It is the communication of an intimate bond between two people and when that bond is not there it has implications for the rest of the relationship and whether the relationship is healthy or in trouble. I don't know where any of this will lead or if our marriage will survive these problems.

 

[MacFan]

my rule of thumb

to tell is when their fingernails pass thru the flesh and into the bone...

 

[Don K Dyck]

Satisfaction

Thank you Buckminsterfutt, Psyche and MacFan for dropping by and sharing your wisdom.

I think your experience Buckministerfutt probably sums up in one post where we seem to be heading.

From the diverse experience shared on this thread it seems that women have an unlimited capacity for orgams at a range of intensities where autogasm, the automatic orgasming that may occur when using Mr G's method, is probably the pinnacle. This reaction can continue with little stimulation or without, depending on the intensity of stimulation. This may be the reason for your former partners huge appetite for sexual pleasure, and represents what all women could achieve given the correct combination of circumstances.

Yes, Psyche, the importance of the sexual aspects of a relationship are frequently overlooked in our society. For men there is the dreaded impotence accompanying age which we can't talk about in a patriarchial society because it will undermine male control of the world if men admit that the sexual appetite of women may increase with age, sometimes significantly at, or after menapause when freedom from unwanted pregnancy may be liberating.

It can be difficult for partners in a relationship during the periods of stress you describe. The individuals frequently feel embarrassed to discuss the matter between them selves, let alone with some "trusted" family member. It can be a very tough, lonely time.

Well MacFan, you must have nerves of steel because I lose interest about the time her fingernails rip the epidermis.

Thank you for sharing

Don