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[DayMaker]

Has anyone ever been with someone that wasn't attractive but had a great mind and heart? I've been with 2 women one long term another shirt term for their mind and hearts.

Attractiveness is relative to the observer. I think that when a deeper connection is there, you are better able to see someone for their inner beauty. Therefore, I've only ever been with people that I found attractive.

 

[SoulAssasin247]

Attractiveness is relative to the observer. I think that when a deeper connection is there, you are better able to see someone for their inner beauty. Therefore, I've only ever been with people that I found attractive.

Once I was in a 5 year relationship because I feel in love with the heart and mind. I wasn't attracted to her and was eventually a major factor in the relationship. I was asking because I saw you guys talking about mental stimulation

 

[Misshotndeep]

Once I was in a 5 year relationship because I feel in love with the heart and mind. I wasn't attracted to her and was eventually a major factor in the relationship. I was asking because I saw you guys talking about mental stimulation

I applaud you for not being superficial. While I am not hung up on the outer package, I do feel the need to at least desire the person I am with. If they are not attractive then it may be a lack of chemistry with me. Chemistry is a big factor in my desire column.
I often find I am great people with good hearts and minds. I am just smart enough to know I can have their company without trying to build a romantic relationship.
If they wish for more it can become uncomfy. So I try to go into it with an open heart and good communication enough to tell them That I value them but not in a sexual way.
I have a very good friend that fits this category. Thankfully he is in a place in his life where dating isn't appealing so it's not an issue. It's quite nice to be able to hang out and chat with out the worry about the other person falling for you or having other intentions you have zero interest in.

 

[DarkSimian]

#31. What was the first movie you watched that turned you on? What do you remember about it that turned you on?

ok, this is going to sound weird (even for me), but I think it might have been The Howling II. There is a werewolf orgy scene in the movie, all these naked werewolves and were vixens going at it. It had Sybil Danning in the movie, and she was this statuesque blonde with big tits. It made an impression on me

 

[SoulAssasin247]

I applaud you for not being superficial. While I am not hung up on the outer package, I do feel the need to at least desire the person I am with. If they are not attractive then it may be a lack of chemistry with me. Chemistry is a big factor in my desire column.
I often find I am great people with good hearts and minds. I am just smart enough to know I can have their company without trying to build a romantic relationship.
If they wish for more it can become uncomfy. So I try to go into it with an open heart and good communication enough to tell them That I value them but not in a sexual way.
I have a very good friend that fits this category. Thankfully he is in a place in his life where dating isn't appealing so it's not an issue. It's quite nice to be able to hang out and chat with out the worry about the other person falling for you or having other intentions you have zero interest in.

Your welcome. Something weird happened when me and her first started I as I saw her for her inner beauty saw her effort in making her clothes sexy and hair started seeing the best of her physical qualities then was attracted. Of course the attraction didn't last. Even though after the second year I wasn't happy I am thankful for my time with her. All I've learned a9she helped me get over some serious issues. I can honestly say I am better for knowing and experiencing her.

 

[Misshotndeep]

Your welcome. Something weird happened when me and her first started I as I saw her for her inner beauty saw her effort in making her clothes sexy and hair started seeing the best of her physical qualities then was attracted. Of course the attraction didn't last. Even though after the second year I wasn't happy I am thankful for my time with her. All I've learned a9she helped me get over some serious issues. I can honestly say I am better for knowing and experiencing her.

I am of the belief that every one enter your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. I try to never expect anyone to fit the latter category. I have learned though experience it is a waste and few can fill that position. Instead I try to enjoy the experience and learn all I can as I go. Only get one life. I am gonna live mine best I can and try to not have to many repeat lessons.

 

[SoulAssasin247]

I am of the belief that every one enter your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. I try to never expect anyone to fit the latter category. I have learned though experience it is a waste and few can fill that position. Instead I try to enjoy the experience and learn all I can as I go. Only get one life. I am gonna live mine best I can and try to not have to many repeat lessons.

I see me and you have similar outlooks on life. I totally agree.

 

[IhateClowns]

#31. What is a fetish or fantasy that you practice or think about, that would surprise your friends?

 

[TheSilverLining]

#31. What is a fetish or fantasy that you practice or think about, that would surprise your friends?

ALL of them.
(It's the quiet ones you've got to watch)

 

[suckonsimon]

#31. What is a fetish or fantasy that you practice or think about, that would surprise your friends?

Hey, IHC, we love it that you're running this thread again. Brill!

That I practice: I make love to my woman with a seven ounce steel ring around my cock-n-balls. A few of the knowing ones might not be surprised, as I wear it most of the time and ...

That I fantasize: My deep desire to be the 'third' for a couple who who want some mfm to double up the masculine sexpertise available for her pleasuring. Hardly a fetish, but it's where I'm at in my imaginings. Friends who know how happily married I am wouldn't get that - but then I'm not sure I get it myself either!

 

[janeyl]

#31. What is a fetish or fantasy that you practice or think about, that would surprise your friends?

Most of my friends are more surprised that missionary is my favourite position because of the sensual intimacy of it than any of the other stuff I do...

I have great friends that I can really be myself with...what's the point in having them otherwise?

 

[makemewet69]

#31. What is a fetish or fantasy that you practice or think about, that would surprise your friends?

All of them lol. Probably the most shocking would be my desire for a threesome with two bi males or that I really enjoy rougher sex and being spanked. I come across very meak and mild in my real life, no one would guess the extent of my inner freak lol

 

[ViciousTease]

#31. What is a fetish or fantasy that you practice or think about, that would surprise your friends?

My friends get me. Even though they don't know what sorts of things I'm into, I don't think they'd be surprised.

 

[NextDoorSecret]

that I really enjoy rougher sex and being spanked. I come across very meak and mild in my real life, no one would guess the extent of my inner freak lol

This is what would surprise my friends as well. I'm not uptight but I think most would expect me to be very reserved and I'm not. The spanking would surprise everyone I think.

 

[SoulAssasin247]

I am a very nice guy so people who don't really know me gets surprised at how sexually aggressive I can be. All the things I like to do. Everyone who truly knows me already have seen or heard stories of my adventures

 

[janeyl]

my desire for a threesome with two bi males

they rule...one of my favourite things...

 

[RoyceConnors]

#31. What is a fetish or fantasy that you practice or think about, that would surprise your friends?

None, they all know I'm a raging perv. lol

 

[IhateClowns]

A submitted question from the gallery.


#32. Awkward sex moments. A queef. A fart. A stumble off the bed or cock slip into the ass. How do you deal with these very real issues? Ignore them? Laugh? If you're on the receiving end....what is your response?

 

[NorthRockJohnson]

A submitted question from the gallery.


#32. Awkward sex moments. A queef. A fart. A stumble off the bed or cock slip into the ass. How do you deal with these very real issues? Ignore them? Laugh? If you're on the receiving end....what is your response?

Just plow through and keep going. It takes a lot to phase me.

I will say the girl I dated last year had the noisiest vagina ever. If I was inside her and she'd orgasm she'd seriously sound like a whoppie cusion. That kind-of put me in a cunnundrome because I didn't want to make things weird by mentioning it. But then again how do I NOT mention it?

She also was awful at dirty talking. She just didn't have the knack for it. At one point she's like "Yeah you like pounding this BIG FAT ASS?" I mean, what's the right answer to that? "YEAAAAAAH your ass is fat! Sooooo fat!" I just don't want to hurt feelings.

So yeah, like many other things in life...just plow through and keep going.

 

[suckonsimon]

#32
Oh we laugh. Assuming it's just us two.
The handful of occasions when a kid walked in on us we froze I guess! Then slipped apart and she chatted while I ... covered something up ...

 

[makemewet69]

Besides die from embarrassment? So far, fingers crossed, I haven't had any embarrassing moments. Yet. At least not during sex, just that one time after when I was getting out of the shower, slipped, and fell on my ass HARD. God I was mortified. I am sure a sexual embarrassment is bound to happen. Hopefully we'll be able to laugh it off.

 

[numeniusa]

Yep, laugh too. If it's not messy, noisy and occasionally hilarious, you're probably doing it wrong

Most common cause of giggles in my bedroom is the unexpected arrival of the cat. Usually bounces on to the bed with a loud chirrupping sound. Followed by a disgusted look. And then a rapid exit.

 

[curvyangel1969]

In my younger years these things embarrassed me. But as I get older I just laugh about them. The one that sticks out and I should probably keep to myself is the time we were at his parents house and trying to be quiet at the point of orgasm he farted and me being the mature adult that I am laughed my ass off. He kindly suffered through my bout of laughter with grace. But so much for being quiet.

A submitted question from the gallery.


#32. Awkward sex moments. A queef. A fart. A stumble off the bed or cock slip into the ass. How do you deal with these very real issues? Ignore them? Laugh? If you're on the receiving end....what is your response?

 

[SoulAssasin247]

Depending on what it is breaking in an anal virgin can cause some frustration. You have to teach them everything about it ease them in and try not to get upset when they get shiiii on your Diiii. You have to be patient and persistent. You have to be willing to start over and have your partner at ease.

 

[barefootgirl69]

#31. What is a fetish or fantasy that you practice or think about, that would surprise your friends?

That I'm into D/s. If they saw my tumblr... oh my goodness!

All of them lol. Probably the most shocking would be my desire for a threesome with two bi males or that I really enjoy rougher sex and being spanked. I come across very meak and mild in my real life, no one would guess the extent of my inner freak lol

I could have simply quoted this word for word to describe myself!

A submitted question from the gallery.
#32. Awkward sex moments. A queef. A fart. A stumble off the bed or cock slip into the ass. How do you deal with these very real issues? Ignore them? Laugh? If you're on the receiving end....what is your response?

Sometimes things happen, and in those intense moments are ignored... they mean so little in comparison to the pleasure. Except falling off the bed...sometimes that can be ignored, too, in the heat of the moment...however, if I can't laugh and have a good time, before, during, and/or after...then, that would be sad.