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[Maria2394]

I never thought that in my little vanilla world that gang violence would touch me or anyone I know and love. But Saturday afternoon, there was a shooting at a local flea market. A car pulled p to another car and let loose a hail of bullets from a semi automatic gun. a nineteen year old girl was killed instantly and two others wounded. The shooters were apprehended last night.

My 17 year old daughter asked me if I heard about the shooting, I replied yes I did. she asked me was the dead persons name Denise Boyken? I told her, yes, why...

Turns out that she worked with Denise for a year at a local fast food restaurant,. I had met her as well. she was a just a kid, soft spoken sweet little girl who was always working her tail off. I gave her a ride once to use the phone after work.

My daughter said that Denise was a good person, didnt do any "bad" things, didnt smoke, drink, or use drugs, didnt even cuss, and now she's dead. They said on the news because she broke up with a BF that was in a gang and she didnt
want to be associated with that...and now shes dead because of trying to live a good decent life.

I have had trouble with this because it could have been my daughter in that car with her; all the local kids love to hang out at the flea market or wal mart and my child could be lying dead at this moment too.

IT makes me so very sad to think about how that girls mom must feel, how Kristen cried at the loss of her friend. She is having trouble understanding why such horrible things happen, and I dont know what to tell her except that awful shit happens to good people sometimes.

What do I tell her to comfort her?

 

[wildsweetone]

I never thought that in my little vanilla world that gang violence would touch me or anyone I know and love. But Saturday afternoon, there was a shooting at a local flea market. A car pulled p to another car and let loose a hail of bullets from a semi automatic gun. a nineteen year old girl was killed instantly and two others wounded. The shooters were apprehended last night.

My 17 year old daughter asked me if I heard about the shooting, I replied yes I did. she asked me was the dead persons name Denise Boyken? I told her, yes, why...

Turns out that she worked with Denise for a year at a local fast food restaurant,. I had met her as well. she was a just a kid, soft spoken sweet little girl who was always working her tail off. I gave her a ride once to use the phone after work.

My daughter said that Denise was a good person, didnt do any "bad" things, didnt smoke, drink, or use drugs, didnt even cuss, and now she's dead. They said on the news because she broke up with a BF that was in a gang and she didnt
want to be associated with that...and now shes dead because of trying to live a good decent life.

I have had trouble with this because it could have been my daughter in that car with her; all the local kids love to hang out at the flea market or wal mart and my child could be lying dead at this moment too.

IT makes me so very sad to think about how that girls mom must feel, how Kristen cried at the loss of her friend. She is having trouble understanding why such horrible things happen, and I dont know what to tell her except that awful shit happens to good people sometimes.

What do I tell her to comfort her?

Tell her you love her.

In the last two years, my son has had to deal with the death of one of his friends to a car accident, another to a Luge accident, a third friend has been in a car accident and in a coma for months, a fourth friend has leukaemia... on and on it goes.

The one thing our kids want from us as parents, is love. Giving support, listening to them, holding them close, telling them clearly that we love them... these are all very, very important things.

The moment we judge the friend, or the environment the friend was in, that's the moment we lose our own kids' openness with us.

So, just tell her you love her, hold her and listen.

 

[Maria2394]

thank you WSO

I know you are right, and I have always accepted my daughters' friends and loved them as if they were my own. I have been lucky, in that I have always had a very open, honest relationship with both my girls and they know I love them and trust them. They are strong and kind and intelligent. Ive been blessed

It just really hurts though, to know how another mom is suffering and I am just thankful I havent been visited by a tragedy like that.

 

[RhymeFairy]

thank you WSO

I know you are right, and I have always accepted my daughters' friends and loved them as if they were my own. I have been lucky, in that I have always had a very open, honest relationship with both my girls and they know I love them and trust them. They are strong and kind and intelligent. Ive been blessed

It just really hurts though, to know how another mom is suffering and I am just thankful I havent been visited by a tragedy like that.

I hate to see things like this happen. It just tares the heart and it is one of those tragedies that eat at ya for months. I cannot imagine a mother having to live through this.

I think WSO is right. Hugs and a shoulder are just what the Dr. ordered.

Sometimes life interposes on even the greatest of parents and families. Good or bad it makes us who we are and teaches us how to deal and think * outside the box.

Good Luck and know I shall worry over this one for weeks.
As a parent it just aint right eh ~

 

[Sabina_Tolchovsky]

I'm back

 

[vampiredust]

I'm back

Good to see you back again

 

[Maria2394]

Good to see you back again

and, I will second that!!



maria

 

[Tzara]

I'm back

I'll third it.

Welcome back, Sabina. I hope you've been snowboarding in the Andes all this time.

 

[wildsweetone]

i'm about to go and put on another layer. grey skys and gloom out there leaving a chill in the air. anyone'd think it was winter.

 

[Maria2394]

Im not complaining, I long for the warmth when it is not here, but I thought I w ould share this with you, WSO

today, we reached about 106 F ( Lexington SC USA) when the heat index was factored in.

Tomorrow should be our hottest day so far this year, with highs expected in the low 100's

hope that warms you a wee bit



maria

 

[wildsweetone]

Im not complaining, I long for the warmth when it is not here, but I thought I w ould share this with you, WSO

today, we reached about 106 F ( Lexington SC USA) when the heat index was factored in.

Tomorrow should be our hottest day so far this year, with highs expected in the low 100's

hope that warms you a wee bit



maria

oh yeah that helps, or maybe it was... no never mind. i'm warmer! lol

(we are about 55f here at the moment. in a couple of weeks i'll be going where it's about 40f brrrr )

 

[GuiltyPleasure]

I'm back

I was wondering where you went. It's good to know it was only a temporary absence.

 

[Sealace]

with my first son there were rolls of film, posed photographs and while in my mind I visualized the pages of the scrapbook that I would build, the perfect layout of milestones and kodak moments. it feels liberating to leave the camera behind. today at the caverns, after changing my path, holding my kids back from their brief view of the beauty of nature and history, I decided to go on, to not put the priority to the people with the camera. No one waves those of us on who are just wanting to experience the view... and I felt bad for the kids who had to keep smiling, with their backs to the cave drapery, to the soda straw formation and crystal castles because some adult thought it would make a pretty page in their scrapbook/ I am not angry or cynical, I think that taking photographs is a wonderful hobby, and I cherish the pohotos we have. I just could not continue, in such cramped quqarters today, to put those recording their memories in the way of our experience. gosh this is coming across as bitchy and it wasnt. nothing spiteful or intentional, just letting it unfold

I am sleepy and tired of unpacing boxes. Most of the big things are out and away. okay I lied. some of the big things. there are dozens of boxes with junk thrown in, the sparkly things I had hanging in my old bedroom, candles and nail clippers and crayons and packing tape trown together with toys in need of batteries, batteries in need of a drawer, wires wires wires that have forgotten where to plug in....

I am 38 so it feels funny to say this, but I feel like I can grow up in this place. Today I cut down all of the baby (and toddler, preschool and elem age) trees that had sprouted in flower beds, along the ouse, where they are not supposed to be. It felt SO good to, for the first time, have a place to drag the branches... to have a brush area where we could let them fall back into the earth, instead of disposing of them according to county policy.

It has not even been a week, but I really do love it here. So far, so good, very peaceful, houses stretched far away, thick trunked trees shading a good part of the yard, all day, neighbors with lenomade, playgrounds with swings and metal monkey bars....

A few things:
I need to learn Spanish.
The water from the hose, faucet, etc is WARM. So under the spriinkler, it does not really even cool you off much, more like having bath water dumped on your head, although I did get a little shiver today playing in the sprinkler and shaving my legs outside (confession, I love shaving outdoors) actually I do not love shaving at all, but doing it in the shower or tub, I feel like I am missing something going on, so I always ake everything out and shave when the kids are playing in the hose, pool, etc/.

It is late. I have not written anything in a while, my brain is getting foggy with everythingt sticking to my minds windowpane, I need to open the windows and let it out, get a breath, get refreshed....

dear diary

I always had journals. before the internet I guess. who knows. I always wrote my journal like it was my best friend, would be sad when the pages ended... and when the internet came, I started writing to other people, real people, not just my yellow paper person used to love, and that ended my journalling. I am not sure which is better worse, more effeective, but it is just different.
so many of the private thoughts I always kept to myself are now out there, scattered, does this do any good? I am not sure? I do know thta ˆ need to make an effort to get out there, out there out there, and facfe to face eet up with people, it is so safe here behind the screen, to put thihgs out there, to experiment, to explore, safe being a relative term, and I am not talking physicval safety... I am not sociologist, but certainly there will be studies about this age, already are, and names for my questions. Chapters. Mid-terms and finals.

 

[Sabina_Tolchovsky]

I was wondering where you went. It's good to know it was only a temporary absence.

I'd tell you but then...


thanks for the welcome back guys, WSO I would love to be there right now & Maria I hope you are not melting down there...I know I would be.

 

[vampiredust]

I have hay fever and my throat hurts. I don't feel well at all. damn this heat

 

[vampiredust]

am pissed off. my dad rang and i didn't like that at all. he's played virtually no role in bringing me up since he left and thinks he can just wander in from time to time like he does, playing mr daddy. Fuck that, fuck that, fuck that.

 

[clutching_calliope]

.....

 

[wildsweetone]

I have hay fever and my throat hurts. I don't feel well at all. damn this heat

ah, the body is catching up with the mind... definately chilling out time Chris.

now if you were a woman i'd suggest wine, candles and bubble baths. what do guys do to chill out?

 

[Maria2394]

i'm so bored and WSO witnessed an attack by creeping writers block, it happebned whilst on the passion thread. I had this vision of a story I want to write and i was trying to put it down in short form and i just mentally died at the end, but the beginning wasnt so great. i think it just stress. dreading and looking forward to certain life events.

Chris,. I hope you feel better soon

and Sealace, take your time unpacking, its not THE most important thing. enjoy your new home and neighbor hood, it truly sounds like a lovely place and Im there with you in spirit

wish I could warm you WSO



have a good day, ya'll

m

 

[wildsweetone]

i'm so bored and WSO witnessed an attack by creeping writers block, it happebned whilst on the passion thread. I had this vision of a story I want to write and i was trying to put it down in short form and i just mentally died at the end, but the beginning wasnt so great. i think it just stress. dreading and looking forward to certain life events.

Chris,. I hope you feel better soon

and Sealace, take your time unpacking, its not THE most important thing. enjoy your new home and neighbor hood, it truly sounds like a lovely place and Im there with you in spirit

wish I could warm you WSO



have a good day, ya'll

m

hey beautiful, that ending worked perfect! it was born to be there

warm me any time. wait, maybe later, i gotta sort out the fish for dinner now. *giggling*

write me a letter, it'll work to get rid of that block you mentioned.

 

[RhymeFairy]

ah, the body is catching up with the mind... definately chilling out time Chris.

now if you were a woman i'd suggest wine, candles and bubble baths. what do guys do to chill out?

Love your prescription for weariness and just tired bones. Think I shall have to try that soon. Esp. the candles and bath ... Yum. One of my fav. things to do.

Guys I think watch sports while they huff down a burger and beer ...
Maybe smoke a stogie or two.

Then again, maybe they are *intouch and do the same as women. Oh, I do know a few women who watch sports and huff down a burger ... Stogie too.

Guess we are all the same when it comes down/up to it ~

 

[vampiredust]

Guys I think watch sports while they huff down a burger and beer ...
Maybe smoke a stogie or two.

Then again, maybe they are *intouch and do the same as women. Oh, I do know a few women who watch sports and huff down a burger ... Stogie too.

Guess we are all the same when it comes down/up to it ~

I'm not like many men, I loathe sports and cigars make me ill. Tried them once, cigarettes as well. That was a funny experience. I write to relax, go on walks and read. Read a lot.

That and the other thing

 

[RhymeFairy]

I'm not like many men, I loathe sports and cigars make me ill. Tried them once, cigarettes as well. That was a funny experience. I write to relax, go on walks and read. Read a lot.

That and the other thing

I do that also. Read till my eyes fall asleep and walking ... just wonderful !! Esp. here. The mountains are so peaceful, unless the tourist are sidewalk to tree with no space between to stick a toothpick.

Other things - Keep the spice in life flowing ~

Hope your feeling better.

 

[RhymeFairy]

Ladies ... Gents ~

I have a semi vent ...

I called my meds into the pharmacy last night for a refill. No worries me thinks. They will call Dr. on two of them to get refills. This has never been a problem in the past ... but ... I went to pick'm up today and my BP med. was not refilled. They had not heard back from Dr. on it.

I'm wondering why he would not just refill it when he refilled my allergy med.? One call made for two meds .. Weird eh ~ It is not like I am an addict to a BP med., good lord it's all I can do to take it every night. I hate meds, and he knows this. The last two times I was in there he fussed, like always eh ~

I know if I do not take it my BP goes sky high. I eat asprin like candy. Oh ... I am one of those peeps who inherited this wonderfull problem. Dad was on BP meds since his teens. Mine started up about 8 yrs ago and really got worse in the last 3 yrs. Stress, it'll kill ya ...

Anywho, I am sorry for bending your ear for so long. I will call Dr. tomorrow and have him fix this. Probably wants to see me again or something like that. I just did not need this today ... So I had to vent and gripe .. Thanks for listening and no worries I will call him ...

 

[GuiltyPleasure]

Ladies ... Gents ~

I have a semi vent ...

I called my meds into the pharmacy last night for a refill. No worries me thinks. They will call Dr. on two of them to get refills. This has never been a problem in the past ... but ... I went to pick'm up today and my BP med. was not refilled. They had not heard back from Dr. on it.

I'm wondering why he would not just refill it when he refilled my allergy med.? One call made for two meds .. Weird eh ~ It is not like I am an addict to a BP med., good lord it's all I can do to take it every night. I hate meds, and he knows this. The last two times I was in there he fussed, like always eh ~

I know if I do not take it my BP goes sky high. I eat asprin like candy. Oh ... I am one of those peeps who inherited this wonderfull problem. Dad was on BP meds since his teens. Mine started up about 8 yrs ago and really got worse in the last 3 yrs. Stress, it'll kill ya ...

Anywho, I am sorry for bending your ear for so long. I will call Dr. tomorrow and have him fix this. Probably wants to see me again or something like that. I just did not need this today ... So I had to vent and gripe .. Thanks for listening and no worries I will call him ...

I hope you got the refill. I'm lucky that I can just call my refills in - no problem, so far. Like you, I hate taking pills - it seems we're always the ones fated to swallow them. Be well RF.