Lit. Jealousy - Do You Have It??

[emsway]

Whoa, watch where you swing that wood, Sims

She never calls me darlin darlin.

Jealous?

Haha! Just kidding. See? I can't help myself.

 

[Raven6766]

if you have read anything I've posted, you know that I am fluent in sarcasm....no offense taken

Aww sarcasm, just one of the many services you provide?

 

[DarkSimian]

Aww sarcasm, just one of the many services you provide?

I am a member of the National Sarcasm Society: Like We Need Your Support

 

[SassySheDevil]

I have enjoyed getting to know people and flirting. I have experienced more the feeling of not feeling special. I have experienced being pushed aside for something (someone) sexier or shinier than me. I have also experienced being (or at least feeling like) the fall back girl. Like, once that shinier someone dropped them they came back to have me help make them feel better until the next shinier thing came along.

It took me some time to decide that I was not going to be made to feel like that.

I don't know if it was feelings of jealousy or if it was a mixture of both hurt and jealousy.

This is so very accurate.

 

[Leigh81]

I know there is a lot of The Other Woman going on around here.
http://www.imdb.com/title/tt2203939/?ref_=nv_sr_1

I totally understand your post sunshinegirl05.
I have experienced more the feeling of not feeling special. I have experienced being pushed aside for something (someone) sexier or shinier than me. I have also experienced being (or at least feeling like) the fall back girl.

For over 15 months it hasn't applied to me because you don't get past the flirty first base with muah (either sex).
I flirt & I get flirted with by guys who do it to others, doesn't bother me. I'm sure they get more/go further with others which is ok. I'm not willing to go further. I've developed a guy crush recently & have one with a gal as well, that one isn't happening & I'm just having fun with it.
The main jealousies I've been pm'd about have been like Sunshine said & with people who cyber. One person feels like they're it, but the other plays with others.

L

 

[Fingerfuxs]

No , not a ounce of it.



I’m a a hater ,

 

[Sundayschild]

These days I keep things light, but I've been on both ends before and it's best avoided.

 

[Orchidea73]

Nope. I do not run that race.

 

[Lonelywife1205]

No I do not.

 

[cheekygirl75]

A little sometimes, but over obviously good friendships, not who is e-boning whom

 

[Chillygirl]

So many pants on fire in this bitch.

Agreed

I have enjoyed getting to know people and flirting. I have experienced more the feeling of not feeling special. I have experienced being pushed aside for something (someone) sexier or shinier than me. I have also experienced being (or at least feeling like) the fall back girl. Like, once that shinier someone dropped them they came back to have me help make them feel better until the next shinier thing came along.

It took me some time to decide that I was not going to be made to feel like that.

I don't know if it was feelings of jealousy or if it was a mixture of both hurt and jealousy.

And definitely this. This happens way more than I’d like to admit. But it’s my fault for taking them back and giving them multiple chances.

 

[pfflyerhot]

I've always made a conscious effort to recognize my jealousy and then figure out how it's my trip, my hangup or my misunderstanding... et all. More times than not, it IS my own distorted mindset about myself, or I'm focusing on my perceived shortcomings, my insecurities, or some sort of social norm I'm not living up to or some bull-crap like that.
The better I know myself, the less I feel jealousy... So it's not often these days... me and jealousy.

 

[Lonelywife1205]

If you choose wisely, you shouldn’t have a reason to feel jealous, insecure or threatened.

 

[Shenanigans90]

Nope, I assume everyone here is talking/flirting with multiple people.

 

[CleverCowardice]

If you choose wisely, you shouldn’t have a reason to feel jealous, insecure or threatened.

"Reason" is antithetical to the concepts of jealousy and insecurity.

 

[SassySheDevil]

More times than I can count. Ugly, ugly feeling.

 

[Anastasia1999]

Luckily not, although I can see how it could happen.

I am not a jealous person and it is wasted energy.

 

[Frankjba1]

I may not be that shiny new toy... But I still find my enjoyment here. You create your own narrative at the end of the day.

 

[Lonelywife1205]

I may not be that shiny new toy... But I still find my enjoyment here. You create your own narrative at the end of the day.

But your head is so bald and shiny.

 

[SassySheDevil]

You crazy. You’re so lovely.

Insecurities get the best of us. Thankfully, I'm mostly aware of my traits that make me the crazy bitch that scares people away.

Sometimes I think if we could look at ourselves and see what other people do. The world would be a much happier place. A bunch of crazy women is always scary LOL

 

[AmberLGreen]

I am not the jealous type at all. I have my own strengths and weaknesses and others have theirs.

 

[pfflyerhot]

Insecurities get the best of us. Thankfully, I'm mostly aware of my traits that make me the crazy bitch that scares people away.

Sometimes I think if we could look at ourselves and see what other people do. The world would be a much happier place. A bunch of crazy women is always scary LOL

Your avatar makes me smile.

 

[Shi_One81]

First off, I enjoyed reading back on this thread and seeing so many people who’re no longer around. Some I forgot about, others I wonder where they are and how they’re doing.

I don’t get jealous on Lit. I don’t get jealous IRL either. Am I mouthy? Yes. But that doesn’t make me jealous. I enjoy who I am and I’m secure with the relationships (of all kinds) that I have.

 

[ian370]

I think that jealousy is a rather personal thing. Maybe mostly based on generally not knowing and not just only specific insecurity.

With me, I do like doing some outwardly exciting things on the fly. Yet the deepest thoughts, I prefer having them within this neat little inner box.

Alas, if only life was lived this way. Not knowing means open possibility. While also maybe warranting hurt or even hurting another.

Perhaps this is why communication is always key. Which involves a sense of mutual trust. Since being more open also means the most vulnerable.

 

[Xerxes82]

So I've been considering this topic for a week so and I think I'm prepared to respond finally.

Yeah, I do.

Not in the romantic sense, I'm not here looking for that. But in other ways? Yep, guilty.

I'm not here looking for sex, or play. But in a general sense, when I see others that either are having it or are giving the perception of having it there is a broad, conceptual kind of jealousy. An irrational kind of "I wish I was one of those cool, in demand kids" feeling.

But the one that I think I grapple with the most is just seeing how easy people make Lit look sometimes. The flow, the ease of conversation. The confidence or boldness to just approach all and sundry with abandon. There is definitely some jealousy there. Or maybe envy is a better word for it. I see guys who can just roll into any thread and appear completely at ease, flirting or joking. And I wish I knew how to do that. Or at the least fake it as well as they do.

There is also, and in ways related, that feeling when you see someone you are interested in getting to know better chatting with others but you can't or don't know how to throw your hat in the ring, so to speak. I think that sometimes causes a feeling very much like jealousy. It can feel easy to put that on the other parties, like you are being wronged in some way, rather than grappling with the internal aspect. That kind of need for social validation is at the root of a bunch of Lit's pitfalls, I feel.