Lit. Jealousy - Do You Have It??

[eliteonly]

That saddens me. And in a way makes me feel validated. As a guy I'm often having to chock up a dropped conversation to life or some other responsibility, but the pool is deep for the girl's here to draw from..

 

[ydahecnot]

I'm only jealous of those that post full stories in the role playing threads. I'm more than willing to write and create, just not publicly. Which is weird bc I'm not normally shy, especially online.

Yeah I would be way too shy to do that publicly. I'm more into private serial short stories anyway.

 

[lacandy]

No one should be made to feel like this.

Now I'm wondering if Sunshine and I were talking to the same guy...hahaha!

 

[eliteonly]

Now I'm wondering if Sunshine and I were talking to the same guy...hahaha!

If so.. May God have mercy on his soul. Oooooh, he's in trooouble.

 

[DarkSimian]

I have enjoyed getting to know people and flirting. I have experienced more the feeling of not feeling special. I have experienced being pushed aside for something (someone) sexier or shinier than me. I have also experienced being (or at least feeling like) the fall back girl. Like, once that shinier someone dropped them they came back to have me help make them feel better until the next shinier thing came along.

It took me some time to decide that I was not going to be made to feel like that.

I don't know if it was feelings of jealousy or if it was a mixture of both hurt and jealousy.

I also agree...just change the genders

 

[curvyangel1969]

I have enjoyed getting to know people and flirting. I have experienced more the feeling of not feeling special. I have experienced being pushed aside for something (someone) sexier or shinier than me. I have also experienced being (or at least feeling like) the fall back girl. Like, once that shinier someone dropped them they came back to have me help make them feel better until the next shinier thing came along.

It took me some time to decide that I was not going to be made to feel like that.

I don't know if it was feelings of jealousy or if it was a mixture of both hurt and jealousy.

I've been on both sides of it. The first man I really fell for here on Lit accidentally sent me some very explicit messages that were clearly meant for another woman. This happened very early in our relationship, and it really crushed me as I naively thought I was more special than I really was. He was very gracious in apologizing, and he did make me feel special again...

On the other side, another man who I really cared for very much and is a really great person became upset when I was distracted one night by another man who I had not heard from in a long time (actually, the same man that I felt jealousy towards in the earlier example). And I told him why I was distracted, and he could not forgive me. I don't necessarily think he should have but I miss him.

What I have learned is that for some of us, emotions here can be just as strong and real as those in "real life".

THIS!! THIS!! THIS!!

Perfectly said Sunnygirl!

I don't know if it's jealousy really either, but fits best here I guess...

All well said!

 

[Raven6766]

THIS!! THIS!! THIS!!

Perfectly said Sunnygirl!

I don't know if it's jealousy really either, but fits best here I guess...

Sunnygirl! I agree with Lecandy! Perfectly said, you are not the only one that has felt that way! I felt this way recently after I never lied about who I was or the way I was.

 

[eliteonly]

This is possibly the most real conversion I've witnessed here. I'm loving it.

 

[sunshinegirl05]

Now I'm wondering if Sunshine and I were talking to the same guy...hahaha!

Lol....it could cover a variety of guys....back in the day. Lol

 

[DarkSimian]

that's my problem IRL, always being someone's Plan B......and when they are done, back in the drawer I go, until needed again

 

[emsway]

that's my problem IRL, always being someone's Plan B......and when they are done, back in the drawer I go, until needed again

Or I buy new batteries.

 

[DarkSimian]

Or I buy new batteries.

thank you for helping my self esteem em

 

[emsway]

thank you for helping my self esteem em

I didn't mean to downplay your feelings. Really, I hope you know that. But I have a hard time not going for the funny. It's a weakness.

 

[eliteonly]

I didn't mean to downplay your feelings. Really, I hope you know that. But I have a hard time not going for the funny. It's a weakness.

That's why humor is so great. Sooooo many feelings avoided.

 

[DarkSimian]

I didn't mean to downplay your feelings. Really, I hope you know that. But I have a hard time not going for the funny. It's a weakness.

if you have read anything I've posted, you know that I am fluent in sarcasm....no offense taken

 

[LIVINRFANTASIES]

Or I buy new batteries.

Sometimes those darn cheap car batteries don't last through a cold winter.

 

[emsway]

That's why humor is so great. Sooooo many feelings avoided.

Humor is my band aid. I put it on all my ouchies.

if you have read anything I've posted, you know that I am fluent in sarcasm....no offense taken

Whew! Good.

 

[ydahecnot]

I guess I do have a petty Lit jealously or two, like not being part of the group being name-checked all the time on Name a Litster or not being mentioned on the appreciated Litster thread. But those feelings are fleeting (and surely stoopid); I suppose it's natural to want to feel as if you fit in.

As to the "mating" game main thrust of the thread, PM land is more fraught than the board. That's where it's her turn to send the PM, and the response never comes, and where you tentative foray is parried brusquely with language indicating "latah" is the outcome, no matter how polite or even somewhat sweetly she puts it. And of course we all have the right to not be into somebody, but I am just expressing the feeling surrounding it, at least for me

 

[DarkSimian]

Humor is my band aid. I put it on all my ouchies.



Whew! Good.

wait....you mean I could have gotten some pity hugs? dammit!

 

[emsway]

wait....you mean I could have gotten some pity hugs? dammit!

You don't need my pity to get a hug, darlin.

 

[DarkSimian]

You don't need my pity to get a hug, darlin.

you called me darlin'

 

[emsway]

you called me darlin'

Darlin is the verbal equivalent of a hug.

 

[ydahecnot]

Whoa, watch where you swing that wood, Sims

 

[LIVINRFANTASIES]

you called me darlin'

She never calls me darlin darlin.

 

[DarkSimian]

Whoa, watch where you swing that wood, Sims

always swing for the fences