Lit. Jealousy - Do You Have It??

[quietlylooking]

I've been on both sides of it. The first man I really fell for here on Lit accidentally sent me some very explicit messages that were clearly meant for another woman. This happened very early in our relationship, and it really crushed me as I naively thought I was more special than I really was. He was very gracious in apologizing, and he did make me feel special again...

On the other side, another man who I really cared for very much and is a really great person became upset when I was distracted one night by another man who I had not heard from in a long time (actually, the same man that I felt jealousy towards in the earlier example). And I told him why I was distracted, and he could not forgive me. I don't necessarily think he should have but I miss him.

What I have learned is that for some of us, emotions here can be just as strong and real as those in "real life".

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

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[BiGuyMN]

I've been on both sides of it. The first man I really fell for here on Lit accidentally sent me some very explicit messages that were clearly meant for another woman. This happened very early in our relationship, and it really crushed me as I naively thought I was more special than I really was. He was very gracious in apologizing, and he did make me feel special again...

On the other side, another man who I really cared for very much and is a really great person became upset when I was distracted one night by another man who I had not heard from in a long time (actually, the same man that I felt jealousy towards in the earlier example). And I told him why I was distracted, and he could not forgive me. I don't necessarily think he should have but I miss him.

What I have learned is that for some of us, emotions here can be just as strong and real as those in "real life".

*hugs* ...For what it's worth.


And Hi! I'm a dork.

 

[Tiamo15]

*hugs* ...For what it's worth.


And Hi! I'm a dork.

Yes you are. I know what you fantasize about!

But now I'm jealous you called yourself a dork first. Because I'm a dork as well!

 

[BiGuyMN]

Yes you are. I know what you fantasize about!

But now I'm jealous you called yourself a dork first. Because I'm a dork as well!

We'll call it a tie, cause I was thinking about what a dork you are when I typed it.

Deal?

 

[Tiamo15]

We'll call it a tie, cause I was thinking about what a dork you are when I typed it.

Deal?

Nerdy guys are the best!

Ok enough thread derailing, back to the serious stuff!

 

[BiGuyMN]

Nerdy guys are the best!

Ok enough thread derailing, back to the serious stuff!

I read the encyclopedia when I was kid! Yes, back to seriousness.

 

[NorthRockJohnson]

Nerdy guys are the best!

Ok enough thread derailing, back to the serious stuff!

Yes we ARE the best

 

[DarkSimian]

Nerdy guys are the best!

Ok enough thread derailing, back to the serious stuff!

Dorks of the world, unite?

 

[sunshinegirl05]

I have enjoyed getting to know people and flirting. I have experienced more the feeling of not feeling special. I have experienced being pushed aside for something (someone) sexier or shinier than me. I have also experienced being (or at least feeling like) the fall back girl. Like, once that shinier someone dropped them they came back to have me help make them feel better until the next shinier thing came along.

It took me some time to decide that I was not going to be made to feel like that.

I don't know if it was feelings of jealousy or if it was a mixture of both hurt and jealousy.

 

[mistheory]

I'm consoling myself with Oreos....which may be the reason I'm not the sexiest chicka on Lit.

So why do some people thrive on it? Do you know?

 

[DayMaker]

So why do some people thrive on it? Do you know?

How do you know they are "thriving"? I just say that because I think a lot of Lit is perceptions.

 

[cliteatingman]

I just start with the assumption that anyone cybering with me is doing the same with other guys so I don't get jealous

 

[Pink_Milkmaid]

I've been on both sides of it. The first man I really fell for here on Lit accidentally sent me some very explicit messages that were clearly meant for another woman. This happened very early in our relationship, and it really crushed me as I naively thought I was more special than I really was. He was very gracious in apologizing, and he did make me feel special again...

On the other side, another man who I really cared for very much and is a really great person became upset when I was distracted one night by another man who I had not heard from in a long time (actually, the same man that I felt jealousy towards in the earlier example). And I told him why I was distracted, and he could not forgive me. I don't necessarily think he should have but I miss him.

What I have learned is that for some of us, emotions here can be just as strong and real as those in "real life".

I've been on both sides of this too--been made to feel less than special and been distracted and possibly hurt feelings myself, inadvertently, especially early on. And yes, the emotions can be strong! It may be all pixels and 1's and 0's, but there are real people involved too.

(And on the thread derailing topic--dorks really are the best )

 

[PoisonedChalice]

I guess I get jealous that some people get more attention than I do, because I love to be the center of attention, fawned over and worshiped at all times...totally irresistible.

Oh well, life.

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

I just start with the assumption that anyone cybering with me is doing the same with other guys so I don't get jealous

is that something you tell yourself, or do you really believe it?

 

[Matt_Next_Door]

I am very jealous that I have nothing to be jealous about.

 

[DarkSimian]

I just start with the assumption that anyone cybering with me is doing the same with other guys so I don't get jealous

wait....people cyber in here? * mind blown*

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

wait....people cyber in here? * mind blown*

Dark, do we need to have "the talk" again???

 

[LIVINRFANTASIES]

I am very jealous that I have nothing to be jealous about.

Well Matt I am very jealous that you are jealous and you have nothing to be jealous about which makes me jealous of you being jealous.

And now that I have the floor I'm gonna say something else.

Don't anyone change because someone else wants you to change. As some wise person once said................... you are better being you than anyone else is being you. So just be yourself, whether you get jealous or not. Or words similar!

Jealously is not the worse thing a person can be.


PS. What's a cyber????

 

[DarkSimian]

Dark, do we need to have "the talk" again???

will you use the puppets this time?

 

[eliteonly]

I'm only jealous of those that post full stories in the role playing threads. I'm more than willing to write and create, just not publicly. Which is weird bc I'm not normally shy, especially online.

 

[Pink_Milkmaid]

I'm only jealous of those that post full stories in the role playing threads. I'm more than willing to write and create, just not publicly. Which is weird bc I'm not normally shy, especially online.

I'm jealous of their time!

 

[lacandy]

I have enjoyed getting to know people and flirting. I have experienced more the feeling of not feeling special. I have experienced being pushed aside for something (someone) sexier or shinier than me. I have also experienced being (or at least feeling like) the fall back girl. Like, once that shinier someone dropped them they came back to have me help make them feel better until the next shinier thing came along.

It took me some time to decide that I was not going to be made to feel like that.

I don't know if it was feelings of jealousy or if it was a mixture of both hurt and jealousy.

THIS!! THIS!! THIS!!

Perfectly said Sunnygirl!

I don't know if it's jealousy really either, but fits best here I guess...

 

[DayMaker]

No one should be made to feel like this.