Married and having fun....

[Domsheena]

I'm a pervert in training - turning in my vanilla lifestyle for something a little more colorful and exciting but I'm on my own in this when it comes to my husband. He knows I play on here but wants nothing to do with it. He won't read my stories, he won't show any interest in anything sexual - so, I play here and for real. Oh well.

Sounds a bit of what i am going through... my husband is always busy doing things and he´s vanilla... i am willing to explore and live but not him.. i even spoke about doing a threesome and well he didn´t even budge.... how about that? lol

 

[SecretLove69]

I took some "revealing" pictures of myself and my husband found them. I told him they were for him - to try to get him in the mood. He told me to stop wasting my time. Nice huh? I am by no means ready to close the lid on my sex life just because he can't or won't play too. I asked him once if he didn't want me could I find someone else who would and he said if he found out he'd put me out of the house - so the sneaky side of me had to be better developed. I have no idea if he knows I fool around or if he cares. If I just thought he cared.

 

[coolcan]

I'm a pervert in training - turning in my vanilla lifestyle for something a little more colorful and exciting but I'm on my own in this when it comes to my husband. He knows I play on here but wants nothing to do with it. He won't read my stories, he won't show any interest in anything sexual - so, I play here and for real. Oh well.

You have to do what you have to, to take care of your needs, he is missing the boat, his loss. I am sure you would be a nice playmate.....

 

[coolcan]

Sounds a bit of what i am going through... my husband is always busy doing things and he´s vanilla... i am willing to explore and live but not him.. i even spoke about doing a threesome and well he didn´t even budge.... how about that? lol

Did you check to see if he had a pulse?

 

[lovin69]

I think most of us who play on here are married. I love my wife very much, but she's not into sex that much so I play on here. If I didn't play here, I'm afraid I would stray and I don't want to do that. Some would say this is straying, but I don't see it that way.

 

[coolcan]

I think most of us who play on here are married. I love my wife very much, but she's not into sex that much so I play on here. If I didn't play here, I'm afraid I would stray and I don't want to do that. Some would say this is straying, but I don't see it that way.

I agree with your thoughts 100%, it keeps me from straying to, and it's fun to get to know other horny people from all over the world. One thing for sure Horny people are everywhere. Besides I have a very high drive, I get great quality sex from the wife, but I just want it all the time...

 

[fnnyworld]

I took some "revealing" pictures of myself and my husband found them. I told him they were for him - to try to get him in the mood. He told me to stop wasting my time. Nice huh? I am by no means ready to close the lid on my sex life just because he can't or won't play too. I asked him once if he didn't want me could I find someone else who would and he said if he found out he'd put me out of the house - so the sneaky side of me had to be better developed. I have no idea if he knows I fool around or if he cares. If I just thought he cared.

I went through these games with my "ex" too. Tell me SL89, please....what does keep you there?

 

[SecretLove69]

I went through these games with my "ex" too. Tell me SL89, please....what does keep you there?

You know I get asked that question a lot. Right now, I'm unemployed and have no financial support other than my husband. I know, it sounds easy enough to say "go get a job at WalMart" but there are some physical limitations I deal with that keep me from taking most jobs - hence some of the reason why I dont get back into the medic/firefighter jobs that I gave up.
Well, anyway - long long boring story short - I stay because part of me wants to try to fix this marriage. I don't want to be a failure and part of me is hoping that after 9 years he may just decide that he wants me again. I want more than a fuck now and then - the romance, the caring and all the other things that little girls dream of when they think of the perfect marriage. It's a dream - I know - no such thing as the "perfect" marriage but...Hope springs eternal I guess.

 

[coolcan]

You know I get asked that question a lot. Right now, I'm unemployed and have no financial support other than my husband. I know, it sounds easy enough to say "go get a job at WalMart" but there are some physical limitations I deal with that keep me from taking most jobs - hence some of the reason why I dont get back into the medic/firefighter jobs that I gave up.
Well, anyway - long long boring story short - I stay because part of me wants to try to fix this marriage. I don't want to be a failure and part of me is hoping that after 9 years he may just decide that he wants me again. I want more than a fuck now and then - the romance, the caring and all the other things that little girls dream of when they think of the perfect marriage. It's a dream - I know - no such thing as the "perfect" marriage but...Hope springs eternal I guess.

I hear that from so many women on here. It pisses me off that you ladies are not getting the attention you deserve, and it seems most of you are giving them all of the signs, what's up with these guys?

Me and the wife have great sex, but It's just not often enough, I'm a greedy fucker, I want it all the time. I am an affectionate guy, as guys go. I Love to kiss, and lots of foreplay. cuddlings afterwards, the whole nine yards. I am very attentive to my woman's needs and make sure she was well satisfied, or we'll go again.

Nothing is perfect and we do argue, but we speak openly about sexual needs and desires, which I think definitely helps.

 

[Domsheena]

Did you check to see if he had a pulse?

hahaha yeah he has a pulse and get this... we´ve been married for almost 8 years now and if i´ve had oral 6 times that´s a miracle

 

[SecretLove69]

hahaha yeah he has a pulse and get this... we´ve been married for almost 8 years now and if i´ve had oral 6 times that´s a miracle

Oh Hell gal - you're lucky. Almost 9 years for me and not once - NOT ONCE in 9 years has he ever done oral on me. I tried a couple times on him and generally get pushed away. As long as we're comparing horror stories. I was giving him a BJ once and he reached for the remote, leaned out around me and started watching a rerun of StarGate. Damn - I wouldn't have minded if it was porn - but StarGate? Needless to say the BJ was not successfully concluded.

 

[coolcan]

I'm just amazed at some of the men out there, I guess most of the ones I know are like me, well maybe not that bad. Wish you ladies were closer, it could be an interesting start to a weekend.

I sometimes do oral on the wife 3 or 4 times a week. Every time we have sex, I just Love doing it so much. It's so soft and wet, and warm, and different movements from my tongue get different reactions from her. It's so intimate, I guess I really do Love it....

 

[Domsheena]

Jesus some women have it lucky huh Secret.... maybe you and I should get together and please each other if our partners don´t satisfy us lol

 

[StormMaster]

Communication

I would just advise to keep the lines of communication open. Tell your mates that you are interested in what turns them on and get them to talk about it. Make it as open a time as possible by freely sharing some of your 'secret' desires. Keep the door open and sometimes you can get a surprise. I sure was when I finally got up the nerve to admit my dominant needs after more than 20 years with my wife.

I am sure everyone here has already 'tried' that in some way or form. It is a difficult conversation and one that makes us afraid in some ways to repeat (fear of rejection, contempt, or worse). But I feel that the closer two people are in walking the path of life, the less likely they are to stray from each other. Both metaphorically as well as literally. Shared experience can lead to new shared experiences, etc. There may be only this one life ... live it.

I am glad we never gave up

SM

 

[Domsheena]

Well I communicate very well with my husband... he knows what I want... what i need and it´s still the same...

 

[SecretLove69]

Jesus some women have it lucky huh Secret.... maybe you and I should get together and please each other if our partners don´t satisfy us lol

AND some people actually ask me why I have gone outside my marriage looking for satisfaction.

Hell, maybe I'm more of a masochist than I care to admit. Or maybe I'm just lazy and don't want to go through the hassle of getting a lawyer, getting a divorce and packing all my shit up and moving.

AND - maybe it's just this simple - I don't want to risk being alone again. I know, I know - I'm alone now but having a "dead" body in bed next to me at night is better than having no body at all.

Hmmm, maybe Hamlet shouldn't have said "Get thee to a Nunnery" but rather "Get thee to a Therapist"

 

[Domsheena]

AND some people actually ask me why I have gone outside my marriage looking for satisfaction.

Hell, maybe I'm more of a masochist than I care to admit. Or maybe I'm just lazy and don't want to go through the hassle of getting a lawyer, getting a divorce and packing all my shit up and moving.

AND - maybe it's just this simple - I don't want to risk being alone again. I know, I know - I'm alone now but having a "dead" body in bed next to me at night is better than having no body at all.

Hmmm, maybe Hamlet shouldn't have said "Get thee to a Nunnery" but rather "Get thee to a Therapist"

You are in a worse boat than i am.... I know how you feel about afraid of being alone... but what´s worse... a none existant husband or no one.....

I hope you have loads of fun with others

 

[SecretLove69]

You are in a worse boat than i am.... I know how you feel about afraid of being alone... but what´s worse... a none existant husband or no one.....

I hope you have loads of fun with others

Well, until I can get my financial feet under me - I'm gonna have to settle for a non-existant one. I've got too much stuff to live out of a cardboard box on the street.

I am having fun - thanks - and learning a lot about myself and exploring some things I've never been encouraged to try or even admit that I wanted to try. I'm a closet chocolate/vanilla swirl cone just waiting to be licked.

 

[coolcan]

In your cases I do not blame someone for doing what they have to to take care of their needs. That is what I have fantasies about, an older woman who is not getting the attention she needs and deserves. Could be such a good mutual friendship for a guy with a high drive like me. It always turns me on to think about that, especially when I see hot ladies in their 40's at the grocery store, I make eye contact sometimes and flirt, just to have fun, but I always wonder if the lady is getting the attention she deserves, and craves. I think it would be so intense.

 

[Domsheena]

Well, until I can get my financial feet under me - I'm gonna have to settle for a non-existant one. I've got too much stuff to live out of a cardboard box on the street.

I am having fun - thanks - and learning a lot about myself and exploring some things I've never been encouraged to try or even admit that I wanted to try. I'm a closet chocolate/vanilla swirl cone just waiting to be licked.

Well I am doing the same... hubby knows i want to try other men... try to be with a woman... threesome so we´ll see what happens... I love him to death.. so that is a good part... and he is so understanding in letting me do what i want..


And coolcan... i may not be 40 but i´d flirt with ya lol

 

[innocentguy]

Jesus some women have it lucky huh Secret.... maybe you and I should get together and please each other if our partners don´t satisfy us lol

People pay good money to see stuff like that Sheena and Secret lol

 

[coolcan]

Well I am doing the same... hubby knows i want to try other men... try to be with a woman... threesome so we´ll see what happens... I love him to death.. so that is a good part... and he is so understanding in letting me do what i want..


And coolcan... i may not be 40 but i´d flirt with ya lol

Yes, I see that your 15 days older than me, I'll have to make a note of that.

 

[SecretLove69]

That is what I have fantasies about, an older womanin their 40's

OH GOD - I'm not too depressed now. Walk slower honey - granny has to get her walker set for a higher gear to keep up with you.
Ya young whipper snapper - as soon as the Geritol kicks in I'll pull up my support hose, adjust my Depends, grab my oxygen tank and kick your ass.

 

[coolcan]

OH GOD - I'm not too depressed now. Walk slower honey - granny has to get her walker set for a higher gear to keep up with you.
Ya young whipper snapper - as soon as the Geritol kicks in I'll pull up my support hose, adjust my Depends, grab my oxygen tank and kick your ass.

I meant that in a complimentary way. I Love older, and I did not say or imply old. I would still let you kick my ass though, might be fun, if you take care of me afterwards.

You beat me, you eat me....

 

[SecretLove69]

I meant that in a complimentary way. I Love older, and I did not say or imply old. I would still let you kick my ass though, might be fun, if you take care of me afterwards.

You beat me, you eat me....

Oh I was just yankin' your chain hon. And of course, if I go to all the work of tenderizing the meat I'm sure as hell gonna eat it and lick the plate clean when I'm finished.