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I am glad to see that people are talking to one another on the thread now. That is what we need to keep the thread going, developing some friendships, sharing the mundane things of life and maybe the occasional orgy to keep things interesting. :) (yes that is a hint to Elgirldani :D)


For those that have been following my golf game it has gone to the shitter. I think they have taken my PGA tour card away.

I have not attended any orgies lately so no interesting stories to tell on the sex front but I have seen some very hot ladies in their bikinis so my had lots of wild sex in my own mind. lol.

Did the Murder Mystery dinner train ride in Cumberland over the weekend which was a lot of fun. I would recommend it to anyone who is looking for something different to do.
 
Let me post this question which was a topic at the office last week.

You met a person on a dating app so you have a seen a pic of the person and had exchanged messages so not going into the date blind. You go out on your first date to a movie. You would have preferred to have gone somewhere quiet so you could talk and get to know the person better but it was a movie you wanted to see so not that big of a deal. Your date is average looking, not bad but not someone you would be telling your friends how good looking the person was. The date was fine but there was no real attraction, there was not that spark that really made you want to go on another date with this person but you have not been on many dates in a long time and you really want to find someone for a relationship.

So the question is, you did not really feel an attraction to the person but should you go out on a second date to see if maybe an attraction will build? How many dates would you go out with a person that you are not feeling an attraction to before you decide it is not going to happen? Does there come a point in your life where you feel lonely and do want a family where you decide that you need to settle for a person that you are not really attracted to but you get along with and maybe can make it work?
 
Think if you believe there is potential give two or three dates max. If after that, no chemistry, walk away. When we meeting people to play with, we meet at a bar, have some drinks, flirt and see if chemistry is there. Sometimes we all connect, meet again and play, or meet again tobsee if there really could be a connection. Maybe times though, chemistry isn’t there and we just hangout and laugh and share experiences.
 
StarGazer58 said:
Let me post this question which was a topic at the office last week.

You met a person on a dating app so you have a seen a pic of the person and had exchanged messages so not going into the date blind. You go out on your first date to a movie. You would have preferred to have gone somewhere quiet so you could talk and get to know the person better but it was a movie you wanted to see so not that big of a deal. Your date is average looking, not bad but not someone you would be telling your friends how good looking the person was. The date was fine but there was no real attraction, there was not that spark that really made you want to go on another date with this person but you have not been on many dates in a long time and you really want to find someone for a relationship.

So the question is, you did not really feel an attraction to the person but should you go out on a second date to see if maybe an attraction will build? How many dates would you go out with a person that you are not feeling an attraction to before you decide it is not going to happen? Does there come a point in your life where you feel lonely and do want a family where you decide that you need to settle for a person that you are not really attracted to but you get along with and maybe can make it work?
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First of all, StarGazer, welcome back "home!" With regard to your question, it's been so long since I dated, I don't think I qualify to give a definitive answer. But I would imagine if she seemed to have a good time and seemed interested in another date, I'd ask her a second time, to see if there is any spark there. And maybe the second date is drinks and dinner, where we can actually talk and get to know each other . . . .
 
StarGazer58 said:
Let me post this question which was a topic at the office last week.

You met a person on a dating app so you have a seen a pic of the person and had exchanged messages so not going into the date blind. You go out on your first date to a movie. You would have preferred to have gone somewhere quiet so you could talk and get to know the person better but it was a movie you wanted to see so not that big of a deal. Your date is average looking, not bad but not someone you would be telling your friends how good looking the person was. The date was fine but there was no real attraction, there was not that spark that really made you want to go on another date with this person but you have not been on many dates in a long time and you really want to find someone for a relationship.

So the question is, you did not really feel an attraction to the person but should you go out on a second date to see if maybe an attraction will build? How many dates would you go out with a person that you are not feeling an attraction to before you decide it is not going to happen? Does there come a point in your life where you feel lonely and do want a family where you decide that you need to settle for a person that you are not really attracted to but you get along with and maybe can make it work?
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You know...I think there's more to a person than physical attraction. Personally, I have met people who were not especially physically attractive to me, but once you got to know them, they become physically attractive because of some other quality (kindness, sense of humor, etc.) Conversely, I have met people who at first were really physically attractive to me, but because of something like arrogance or meanness, became very ugly to me. I'd give it a few dates and get to know someone before deciding.
 
It has been a long time since I dated too Spurtman. There were no dating apps then so any woman I asked out on a date I would have already met in person and talked to so there would have been some initial interest to even ask her out. I was thinking more along the line if I was dating now what would I do.

Booklife, I think for most men, me at least, there has to be some sort of physical attraction to get the guys interest but I agree that getting to know someone can increase the perceived physical attraction. I don't think I have ever met a really good looking woman and had her personality make her less attractive. I may not want to get involved in dating her but I would still have taken to her to bed given the chance. :)

miami3some, I would agree that two or three dates should be enough to determine if there is any chemistry between the two.

For me, if I found a woman extremely attractive I would be more willing to go on multiple dates to see if any chemistry developed. Just being honest. The point I was trying to make was that there was not enough physical attraction to make the person overlook a mediocre first date but the physical attraction was not a negative either. Some people look better in photos than in real and others look better in real than they do in photos so can never really be sure of the physical attraction till you actually meet the person.

Hopefully we can get a few more peoples thoughts before I reveal what actually happened.
 
StarGazer58 said:
It has been a long time since I dated too Spurtman. There were no dating apps then so any woman I asked out on a date I would have already met in person and talked to so there would have been some initial interest to even ask her out. I was thinking more along the line if I was dating now what would I do.

Booklife, I think for most men, me at least, there has to be some sort of physical attraction to get the guys interest but I agree that getting to know someone can increase the perceived physical attraction. I don't think I have ever met a really good looking woman and had her personality make her less attractive. I may not want to get involved in dating her but I would still have taken to her to bed given the chance. :)

miami3some, I would agree that two or three dates should be enough to determine if there is any chemistry between the two.

For me, if I found a woman extremely attractive I would be more willing to go on multiple dates to see if any chemistry developed. Just being honest. The point I was trying to make was that there was not enough physical attraction to make the person overlook a mediocre first date but the physical attraction was not a negative either. Some people look better in photos than in real and others look better in real than they do in photos so can never really be sure of the physical attraction till you actually meet the person.

Hopefully we can get a few more peoples thoughts before I reveal what actually happened.
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Well, have you ever met a woman who was "eh" attractive-wise, but they became more attractive the more you got to know them? I'm glad I'm not on the dating scene anymore- I'm actually pretty shy and it does take awhile to come out of my shell and I'd hate for someone to write me off after 1 date because of my nervous first date personality. I know you're talking about physical attractiveness, but maybe for women the physical and the personality go hand in hand moreso than with men?
 
BookLife79 said:
Well, have you ever met a woman who was "eh" attractive-wise, but they became more attractive the more you got to know them? I'm glad I'm not on the dating scene anymore- I'm actually pretty shy and it does take awhile to come out of my shell and I'd hate for someone to write me off after 1 date because of my nervous first date personality. I know you're talking about physical attractiveness, but maybe for women the physical and the personality go hand in hand moreso than with men?
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Im totally with you here! Of course thats probably easier for me being an average looking guy but I cant envision a scenario where personality DOESNT have an effect on how physically attractive someone is. Im actually very skeptical of very physically attractive women who date often.
 
National Harbor

Hey MD! I have a rare night off, heading out to National Harbor. Anyone here have any suggestions other than the MGM?
 
My two cents on the current topic is that a movie date is a bad first date choice, for this type of scenario where you don’t really know the person at least casually already. As long as there were no overt red flags, I think I would give it a second date as someone else posted, hopefully one where you could actually talk and get to know the person. I also agree with those of you who have said that physical attraction can be impacted by personality and how they treat you. Maybe it is different for men and women, because I feel like I put much less importance on physical attributes than on someone being a good person, making me laugh, doing the things they say they will, etc. :)
 
Thompsonmike102 said:
Hey MD! I have a rare night off, heading out to National Harbor. Anyone here have any suggestions other than the MGM?
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Irish Whisper is a favorite, but their menu is a little heavy for this heat. I've always gotten great service at Grace's Mandarin, and I love their "Heart of National Harbor" sushi roll. It's a great twist on spicy tuna. Another favorite is Rosa's Mexicano. Their table-side guacamole is amazing. Grace's and Rosa's both have amazing sunset views. I'd recommend either.
 
LoquiSordidaAdMe said:
Irish Whisper is a favorite, but their menu is a little heavy for this heat. I've always gotten great service at Grace's Mandarin, and I love their "Heart of National Harbor" sushi roll. It's a great twist on spicy tuna. Another favorite is Rosa's Mexicano. Their table-side guacamole is amazing. Grace's and Rosa's both have amazing sunset views. I'd recommend either.
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Thanks!! Can't beat tableside guac and tequila!!
 
I am also an average looking guy so it is not like I have had an easy time meeting women in my youth but I can honestly say that if I found a woman unattractive in the first place, getting to know her never made her more attractive to me. I have become friends but not on a romantic level. I will say that women I thought were average looking when I first met them have become more attractive as I have gotten to know them so that can certainly happen. For me there has always been two parts to a romantic relationship, physical and mental and both have to be there to make it work. If it is all mental then it is just a friendship, if it is all physical then it burns out pretty quickly.

If I ask a woman out on a date then there is some level of physical attraction so I would try several dates to see if we both find some of interest in each other. For me, a first date would have to go terrible to not try a second date.

My co-worker has been giving me a running story of her friends dating life. Her friend, K, meet the guy on an ethnic specific dating app. She is only looking for a guy the same ethnicity as herself so her potential dating pool is small around here. K thought the same thing as El that going to a movie on a first date was not really what she was expecting but she gave the guy 3 dates at the urging of my co-worker. I don't think she ever felt any chemistry with the guy and I believe the guy got too deep too fast. She told him that she was meeting a guy friend from her church for happy hour and the date guy told here that he did not want her to hang out with other guys. After telling date guy that she was still meeting her friend he actually got belligerent with her so that ended that. I have met K for real and she is gorgeous so I think most of her dating troubles is around the small pool of guys she is limiting herself too.
 
Is everyone out and about and not trying to hide inside from this heat? What has everyone been doing this weekend?
 
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