My BF likes to be too aggressive...

[CaliChiklkk]

I don't know who else to turn to because I'm 18 and none of my friends are mature enough to talk about this without making it into a joke.
Basically I started dating this guy with a little bit older about 4 months ago and lately every time we are together He is very rough, I don't mean something that's fine, he's like really bruising me and sometimes I have to tell him that I can't keep going because my parents will kill me they see anything on my body

 

[TheIntrepidBoyager]

Get a different boyfriend.

 

[Boat1]

I don't know who else to turn to because I'm 18 and none of my friends are mature enough to talk about this without making it into a joke.
Basically I started dating this guy with a little bit older about 4 months ago and lately every time we are together He is very rough, I don't mean something that's fine, he's like really bruising me and sometimes I have to tell him that I can't keep going because my parents will kill me they see anything on my body

If it's happened more than once, you've tolerated too much.
Drop him like a hot rock.

 

[tristantrotsky]

I don't know who else to turn to because I'm 18 and none of my friends are mature enough to talk about this without making it into a joke.
Basically I started dating this guy with a little bit older about 4 months ago and lately every time we are together He is very rough, I don't mean something that's fine, he's like really bruising me and sometimes I have to tell him that I can't keep going because my parents will kill me they see anything on my body

Dump him!!!!!!!
He is not worthy of you.

 

[kinky_jat]

I don't know who else to turn to because I'm 18 and none of my friends are mature enough to talk about this without making it into a joke.
Basically I started dating this guy with a little bit older about 4 months ago and lately every time we are together He is very rough, I don't mean something that's fine, he's like really bruising me and sometimes I have to tell him that I can't keep going because my parents will kill me they see anything on my body

Drop him like a HOT Rock

 

[KentBloke63]

Get out now. If you don’t enjoy my of scares you, get out

 

[DynamicFigure]

I don't know who else to turn to because I'm 18 and none of my friends are mature enough to talk about this without making it into a joke.
Basically I started dating this guy with a little bit older about 4 months ago and lately every time we are together He is very rough, I don't mean something that's fine, he's like really bruising me and sometimes I have to tell him that I can't keep going because my parents will kill me they see anything on my body

How is he causing the bruises? If it’s not consensual, I agree, get rid of him.

Some women like it rough, but not too rough.

What is he doing exactly?

 

[StudCock69]

Sounds like you need to get rid of him definitely. If I were closer I would offer assistance

 

[HarleyQuim]

Dump the motherfucker already! If you’re worried he’ll react violently then call the police. This isn’t kink, it’s abuse.

 

[CuriousRick]

Get out as soon as your can

 

[stargame]

I don't know who else to turn to because I'm 18 and none of my friends are mature enough to talk about this without making it into a joke.
Basically I started dating this guy with a little bit older about 4 months ago and lately every time we are together He is very rough, I don't mean something that's fine, he's like really bruising me and sometimes I have to tell him that I can't keep going because my parents will kill me they see anything on my body

Run

 

[Gettingweirder]

Porn isnt life. Consent matters. You need to have a serious conversation and be ready to leave.

 

[FrenchLopBunny]

Dear Lord, as someone who previously dated an abuser, I have two words. DUMP HIM!

 

[Noor]

I don't know who else to turn to because I'm 18 and none of my friends are mature enough to talk about this without making it into a joke.
Basically I started dating this guy with a little bit older about 4 months ago and lately every time we are together He is very rough, I don't mean something that's fine, he's like really bruising me and sometimes I have to tell him that I can't keep going because my parents will kill me they see anything on my body

Next boyfriend. You’re 18, there is a world of men out there. It’s fairly easy to get a new one if your female.
Be careful getting rid of him, abusive guys can turn on you, maybe make it his idea and get him to dump you if you can?

 

[CaliChiklkk]

How is he causing the bruises? If it’s not consensual, I agree, get rid of him.

Some women like it rough, but not too rough.

What is he doing exactly?

Sometimes if he gets a little bit too angry for your heart in his apartment, he'll kick my leg or throw me a little bit too hard against the wall and I bruise easily because I'm very pale

 

[CaliChiklkk]

How is he causing the bruises? If it’s not consensual, I agree, get rid of him.

Some women like it rough, but not too rough.

What is he doing exactly?

Sometimes if he gets a little bit too angry for your heart in his apartment, he'll kick my leg or throw me a little bit too hard against the wall and I bruise easily because I'm very

Next boyfriend. You’re 18, there is a world of men out there. It’s fairly easy to get a new one if your female.
Be careful getting rid of him, abusive guys can turn on you, maybe make it his idea and get him to dump you if you can?

I really don't do

 

[Noor]

Sometimes if he gets a little bit too angry for your heart in his apartment, he'll kick my leg or throw me a little bit too hard against the wall and I bruise easily because I'm very

I bruise very easily and I have to be careful because I can attract people who like to bruise women.
There is no being thrown “ a little too hard” against a wall in anger.
Get out now! Tell your parents. This is abuse. Stay out of his apartment. Meet him in a public place with lots of people to break up with him if you can do it by phone.

I really don't do

You really Don’t do what? Something is missing here.

 

[Noor]

Sometimes if he gets a little bit too angry for your heart in his apartment, he'll kick my leg or throw me a little bit too hard against the wall and I bruise easily because I'm very pale

Ok found this.
I’m pale too, bruise easily and also have ehlers danlos ( Eds).
Are you hypermobile as well?

 

[Noor]

And if your friends think this situation is a joke, dump them too

 

[CaliChiklkk]

I bruise very easily and I have to be careful because I can attract people who like to bruise women.
There is no being thrown “ a little too hard” against a wall in anger.
Get out now! Tell your parents. This is abuse. Stay out of his apartment. Meet him in a public place with lots of people to break up with him if you can do it by phone.

You really Don’t do what? Something is missing here.

I know it's my TV but it's not that easy as breaking up

 

[IARainman]

It really is that easy, not easy, but simple. He wants you to believe you can't leave, that's his power over you. You said your parents are around, use their support, ask for their help. I know it's awkward, but they love you and will help. If you are scared to do are look up domestic violence resources in your area.

It's BS the he gets a little rough. Too rough is too rough, and it can only get worse. Don't listen to his excuses or apologies. A counselor can help you with through the abuse and help you cope.

Then get yourself better friends. After you are safely away from him.

 

[Britva415]

You are with an abuser.

If you were looking for advice on how to make him stop, the only answer is "get away."

This is NOT about bdsm.

 

[fool4u]

Hi Cali Chick
As so many have said. Your BF should be out of your life. But be careful how you do that. Talk to at least a domestic violence support centre, or police, you will need a pre arranged contact if he is fixated or violent.
This is not BDSM, is is abuse. You said he does it when he is angry, a break up will likely cause him to be angry. You need people around yo who know what is happening and can help.
Please take action before it is too late.

 

[CaliChiklkk]

It really is that easy, not easy, but simple. He wants you to believe you can't leave, that's his power over you. You said your parents are around, use their support, ask for their help. I know it's awkward, but they love you and will help. If you are scared to do are look up domestic violence resources in your area.

It's BS the he gets a little rough. Too rough is too rough, and it can only get worse. Don't listen to his excuses or apologies. A counselor can help you with through the abuse and help you cope.

Then get yourself better friends. After you are safely away from him.

Thank you for your support

 

[CaliChiklkk]

If it's happened more than once, you've tolerated too much.
Drop him like a hot rock.

Thxxxxx