My sweetie does not ejaculate when we have sex

[XOne]

Hi,

I am frustrated and concerned that my sweet man does not ejaculate at all even after one hour of sex. Any suggestions on how I can help him or me? I am female and frustrated.... I am interested to hear from anyone that has any experience with this..thnaks.

 

[Ms_Lilith]

Does he masturbate?

I dated a guy who would go for ages without cumming while we made love, but he came just fine when he masturbated. Part of it was that he knew himself so well and he'd fine-tuned his dick so well to his own hand, that *I* wasn't as good as that. The second thing is that he sometimes got really worked up about performance anxiety.

I would send your man to a doctor, and just see what's up with that.

 

[NaiveOne]

Sorry to interupt your very good question, but I wanted to say...

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Now back to your regularly scheduled thread....

 

[Bobmi357]

This could be a case of becoming too dependant on one form of stimulation. If he's masturbating frequently, you might want to see if you can get him to cut down for a while to see if that helps. See if he can cum after a week's worth of zero wanking.

 

[English Lady]

oh and just another point..does he take any kind of medication? That can sometimes effect a guy's ability to ejaculate.

 

[TripleMocha]

I have this happen.

1.) I masterbated to much ( 3X a week )

2.) Anti depressants I take made me a bit " numb " .

Now I don't masterbate and I've started taking Viagra. All is good again with the wife and our sexual relationship and ejaculate during sex.

Hope this helps.

 

[The_Darkness]

I can't speak for all guys, and my friends and I don't talk about this...unless there's a hell of a funny story behind it....but the simple plain truth is that sometimes guys just don't cum. If it happens a lot, you might have to find something that works, and the suggestions abover are awesome. You might have to find something that just works...try doing something a little more exciting (I've found public places help alot). Try asking very gently for him to stop spanking it for just a week. His brain will become deprogrammed and his responce will be normal for a guy (Holy shit, something's touching me!)

Trust me on the last one....I was strokin' it anywhere from 3 to 5 times a day and I just didn't care anymore about sex. At all. I couldn't get excited to save my life. I stopped jerking off and all is well with the system once again.

Hope that helps.

 

[XOne]

Thanks to all of you for your great suggestions. and comments. I will try them..asking him to stop masturbating. I asked him once why he does not cum and he said that because he has not had sex for a while he is nervous. Usually when I have that kind of a guy..they just ejaculate after a couple of strokes..so it iconcerns me a bit when he does not come....he says he still enjoys just being with me and I should not worry. I am doing my best not to take it personally..and I will also try out suggestions you have proposed. Thanks.

 

[SlowGuy]

I've had situations where I wanked off and an hour later my gf suddenly gets frisky. I can stay hard, but have a hard time popping. So maybe that's it for him, too.

If he's having a tough time finishing ask him how he wants to do it. It may tell you something if he wants to masturbate or have you call him daddy.

Sometimes stroking off while you have your lips and tongue all over the head may be just what the doctor ordered. Plus, it has the advantage of getting you into the loop if he's gotten too accustomed to DIY.