Permanent pardon dear. lolHalfway through this thread, I realize just how ignorant I am to the challenges some face. Forgive me.
My Transsexual therapist confessed to me that it took years before he had a clue.
My trans-therapist believes that humankind kind is all evolving to be somewhere in between with very few being the alpha male or alpha female types. I see myself as a woman. Not in between, I think I would be more confused. lol if that were possible.
What, you mean you didn't transition for the wonderful social benefits?well we all have the mindset to identify with one or the other. Our culture is not very kind to those that are in between. *hug*
Well... I can understand where he's(or she) coming from. I think he may be talking about gender traits and not necessarily gender identity. Maybe what they mean is that gender definition is becoming less polarized as androgyny is becoming more accepted in both an appearance and a cultural capacity. I mean you view yourself as female but just because you're female that hardly limits you from wearing a baggy pair of jeans or from enjoying some form of sporting competition. Basically, it's getting more and more common to see men and women breaking from the gender mold and becoming more fluid in self identifying. Male and female are just words but they don't necessarily say anything about us as people. Then again I could be wrong, though I'd be interested in knowing if I'm at least along the same line of thought as your therapist.My trans-therapist believes that humankind kind is all evolving to be somewhere in between with very few being the alpha male or alpha female types. I see myself as a woman. Not in between, I think I would be more confused. lol if that were possible.
Congrats on that, I think that has to be the single hardest step of the entire transition. I know people who have even had SRS and still are stuck in the trans mindset. One of the things I talked about at a recent help group actually, I lot of people transition to try and become something or to escape something but transitioning isn't about changing gender so much as it's about becoming yourself. Too many people try to be someone/something else and so they're caught in the crossroads always identifying as trans instead of identifying as well.... themselves. I hope what I said makes sense.
What, you mean you didn't transition for the wonderful social benefits?
Well... I can understand where he's(or she) coming from. I think he may be talking about gender traits and not necessarily gender identity. Maybe what they mean is that gender definition is becoming less polarized as androgyny is becoming more accepted in both an appearance and a cultural capacity. I mean you view yourself as female but just because you're female that hardly limits you from wearing a baggy pair of jeans or from enjoying some form of sporting competition. Basically, it's getting more and more common to see men and women breaking from the gender mold and becoming more fluid in self identifying. Male and female are just words but they don't necessarily say anything about us as people. Then again I could be wrong, though I'd be interested in knowing if I'm at least along the same line of thought as your therapist.
For your spirit. I have no idea how many people are stuck in a gender they don't fit, and I don't pretend to know how you feel. My feelings are unpredictable and inconsistent- I will never consider changing; I live and function perfectly fine as a man. I may go months without an uprising of female thoughts or desires. Of late, I've been feeling a lot of things. I have settled into "having fun with it", and luckily have a great wife who loves me, even though she will never really understand how I feel or why. I have rambled
The best to you, and all who have the resolve to do what they feel is right; society be damned.
Sorry to read you don't have family support- no way my family would understand and I will not tell them. This causes me angst.
"Heart and Emotions"
That's how I identify myself as female as well.
I have the heart and emotions of a woman.
The physical body of a man.
And the maturity level of a child.
There have been times when my gender really bugs me- causing self doubt and shame, etc. Being on lit and following real people like you, Stella, etc makes me realize I'm not alone ( not to say I will ever know the extent of your feelings). This has been very good for me emotionally, enabling me to at least talk more openly to my wife about it- the flesh and blood person who knows about me. I am thankful for her, and Lit, and certainly for you! Keep posting, please- for the good of us all, but especially for you
I am relieved, I play on the forum quite a bit lately and did not want you to think of me as trivial for that reason
I am so bad when I run with thoughts. thank you.
The doc at the one site complimented me again. "You are looking good!" This time in front of the Manager and the records custodian, Lol they looked shocked. I know this doctor has met and interacted with transsexuals before. He was complimenting me to put me at ease. Sweet man.
