Not getting it on so many levels...
- Thread starter zuzub
- Start date
neonflux
Out and about...
- Joined
- Nov 15, 2005
- Posts
- 4,233
Hi zuzub!zuzub said:
Welcome to the boards! Just read through the thread and have greatly appreciated the discussion. I don't think it's so much "finding a baseline" as it is just establishing your mutual desires, likes, dislikes, etc. with a partner. It's pretty much the same in a vanilla relationship - just that the communication has to be way better and far more open for things to work in one that incorporates elements of BDSM.
Neon
skittles_lm
lost kitten~reward
- Joined
- Jul 8, 2006
- Posts
- 5,456
Ah hell, there's a baseline? And i missed it?
*searches frantically*
Help!
Anyhow, aside from sarcasm, I am impressed that you didn't get all high and mighty about your opinions, and seem genuinely interested in the responses you are recieving. good for you.
And don't let EG fool you either. he's a scary one.
*searches frantically*
Help!
Anyhow, aside from sarcasm, I am impressed that you didn't get all high and mighty about your opinions, and seem genuinely interested in the responses you are recieving. good for you.
And don't let EG fool you either. he's a scary one.
neonflux said:Hi zuzub!
Welcome to the boards! Just read through the thread and have greatly appreciated the discussion. I don't think it's so much "finding a baseline" as it is just establishing your mutual desires, likes, dislikes, etc. with a partner. It's pretty much the same in a vanilla relationship - just that the communication has to be way better and far more open for things to work in one that incorporates elements of BDSM.
Thank you Neon that is very kind of you. I know I'm supposed to sign in on the 'introduce yourself' thread, but I don't feel like making a big deal about it.
Read "chicken". Sigh.
You people COMMUNICATE? Wow. I'm amazed Dr. Phil isn't into this. DON'T SAY IT!
CutieMouse
Meticulously Flighty
- Joined
- Apr 7, 2004
- Posts
- 8,493
zuzub said:
Brace yourself...
Wait for it...
Wait...
Patience or we'll have to spank you! (Consensually, of course) Sheesh!
Dr. Phil is into this.
(Just kidding!
)skittles_lm said:
Hi skit,
I have a tongue in cheek sense of humor and admit to having an almost pathological need to keep things 'lite'. But I also genuinely like to play. Please don't take my 'sarcasm' for insincerity. It's just my nature.
No kidding. I'm not going anywhere near that guy! I like sitting at the kiddies table. <sorry couldn't help it>
CutieMouse
Meticulously Flighty
- Joined
- Apr 7, 2004
- Posts
- 8,493
zuzub said:
*chuckle*
satindesire
Queen of Geeks
- Joined
- Apr 19, 2005
- Posts
- 13,101
//offtopic//
.....Robin's hot.....
//resumetopic//
.....Robin's hot.....
//resumetopic//
CutieMouse
Meticulously Flighty
- Joined
- Apr 7, 2004
- Posts
- 8,493
zuzub said:
Wow... age play? Now *that* is kinky.
*ducks*
Chris_Xavier
Literotica Guru
- Joined
- Sep 13, 2006
- Posts
- 5,545
Communication is the key
If there wasn't communication.. then how would we know the boundaries?
Actually, I think that alot of people who are into some form of bsdm or another are some of the most literate I've found.. not to mention open minded.
zuzub said:
If there wasn't communication.. then how would we know the boundaries?
Actually, I think that alot of people who are into some form of bsdm or another are some of the most literate I've found.. not to mention open minded.
neonflux
Out and about...
- Joined
- Nov 15, 2005
- Posts
- 4,233
CutieMouse, it's all YOUR fault...
What is that I see in Dr. Phil's hand?
http://i134.photobucket.com/albums/q91/cleasf/drPhildom.jpg
And no, Robin, tell me it isn't so!
http://i134.photobucket.com/albums/q91/cleasf/Robinsub.jpg
Of course, then again, I suspect...
http://i134.photobucket.com/albums/q91/cleasf/RobinDomme.jpg
(Psst - look in Robin's right hand...)
http://i134.photobucket.com/albums/q91/cleasf/drPhilSub.jpg
I'm so bad! (And so probably in for a law suit, LOL.)
What is that I see in Dr. Phil's hand?http://i134.photobucket.com/albums/q91/cleasf/drPhildom.jpg
And no, Robin, tell me it isn't so!
http://i134.photobucket.com/albums/q91/cleasf/Robinsub.jpg
Of course, then again, I suspect...
http://i134.photobucket.com/albums/q91/cleasf/RobinDomme.jpg
(Psst - look in Robin's right hand...)
http://i134.photobucket.com/albums/q91/cleasf/drPhilSub.jpg
I'm so bad! (And so probably in for a law suit, LOL.)
How did you guys start this? Personally, I'm a little weirded out by myself, never mind you! <grin> I'm just not really sure where this is coming from. No, it didn't just occur to me yesterday, but I've managed to successfully ignore it to date, so why change now?
CutieMouse
Meticulously Flighty
- Joined
- Apr 7, 2004
- Posts
- 8,493
zuzub said:
Start what? Dr. Phil and Robyn being kink queen and king of the universe, or discovering BDSM?
I've managed to ignore Dr. Phil and Robyn for ages...
Evil_Geoff
Equal Opportunity Sadist
- Joined
- Aug 23, 2005
- Posts
- 6,375
Oh no... Hottie's a maso/sub/pyl type.zuzub said:
I'M the sadist of the bunch!
Well... Me and Netzach.
And Eb...
And DVS...
Marquis and Betticus sometimes.
Bandit58
Sir's wonder woman
- Joined
- Sep 7, 2002
- Posts
- 8,121
zuzub said:
I think of it as a buffet - you take from all the options what suits your relationship and leave the rest. Of course it's always nice to sample some things you haven't tried before.....
zuzub said:
No offence taken
However the prevailing attitude of society seems to be to get everyone out into the workforce regardless of their circumstances, and you are seen as somehow "lesser" if you stay at home - especially if you are on a benefit/pension [/end hijack]CutieMouse
Meticulously Flighty
- Joined
- Apr 7, 2004
- Posts
- 8,493
Evil_Geoff said:
You forgot AngelicAssasin, and I think BiBunny has mentioned she has a pretty wicked sadistic streak in her... I suspect I could develop one with the right sort of motivation... <insert naughty chuckle here>
CutieMouse
Meticulously Flighty
- Joined
- Apr 7, 2004
- Posts
- 8,493
zuzub said:
BiBunny
Moon Queen & Wanderer
- Joined
- Dec 7, 2005
- Posts
- 12,620
zuzub said:
Lit-speak. Stands for pick your label.
PYL=Master/Mistress/Dom/Domme/Owner/Top/Sadist/whatever
pyl=sub/slave/pet/bottom/masochist/whatever
It avoids the whole "me calling Susie a sub, and Susie getting all grumpy 'cause she's really a slave" thing, y'know?
Edited: The Mouse beat me to it. Sorry.
