Older women, younger men

[plesmone]

Re: hmmm.....SXCRgirl

and just what would you give???????

Firm tits and no strech marks only last a little while. Likewise, lean, mean and get it up when you want has the same problem

I've never been with a younger guy (I'm young, so that would put me with really young and stupid!), but I have been with older men. Most are confident and sure of themselves and very willing to please. Young guys don't think that way. They seem to think that they should be blown or fucked because, well.. they are entitled to it. Young pups should learn a little 'how to treat a girl' form the older guys. After all, with viagra they can keep it up really long too!

 

[badmatt]

plesmone

You're right you know, but usually I don't fall into either young or old...too old to be one to young to be the other...

as for knowing how to treat a lady, and expecting to be sucked or fucked, that's a mistake of the untrained. And as I haven't been that since an age that can't be talked about here at lit (insert chuckle here), I've no worries there. I always want to please a woman.....quite often in fact, without seeking any pleasure for Myself other than the pleasure of pleasing.

 

[Tundra]

Refreshing

It is such a pleasure to read about a young persons enterence into the world of pleasure receiving and giving joy one to another.Was always a fantasy but the reality was the most fantastic two years of my life. The lessons learned have remained to the benifit of me and my partners.

 

[emer]

I'm trying to learn the board ...

did a search before I posted the question.

I think I hate the edit feature. Obviously I missed some really good info because the thread as it is now is totally disjointed and confusing. Lots of folks replying to things that aren't there anymore.

My question has more to do with communication and attitude than sexual experience. I'm wondering if he just used me for a "one time" thing? That would be fine with me. He called the next day, said he'd had a great time, and could we get together again. "Sure" ... casually said by me but panting and sweating and wanted to say "hell yes!!!" He kissed great but didn't even touch my breasts ... nipples were screaming for attention.

Totally turned me on when he followed me into the kitchen, yanked on my hair, bent me over the table, and f**cked me silly. (said and did so much to make me weak kneed!) No ... I didn't cum but damn it felt good. And when he asked if I had cum, I was honest .. "no, ... (important) "not yet!" I'm not sure but I think the age/ego thing got in the way and I don't know how he took my honesty. I was thinking "not yet tonight" but as soon as I said that I could see something in his eyes and body language and it broke my heart that I may have hurt him.

The "older woman" in me wants to kiss and reassure and build the ego, because there is so much potential with his technique and physique and the budding sweetly sadistic nature. But I'm hesitant to behave like I would with an older lover. Normally I don't have any problem with follow up calls and verbalizing my needs. It's kind of strange because I don't remember how 25 year olds think.

emer

 

[SlickTony]

IMO, coming first time every time with a new partner is probably more for stories than for real life. I think you should tell him that y'all two just need some more practice.

BTW, Badmatt, is that AV you?

 

[PinkOrchid]

Re: I'm trying to learn the board ...

 

[emer]

Re: Re: I'm trying to learn the board ...

Wow. I thought this thread was dead and buried.



First, you are his lover, NOT his mother, not his aunt. You need to act that way with him. And if he's involved with an older woman, there's nothing wrong with having the expectation that he will behave in a mature way. There's a LOT of age-related compromise in a relationship like this, but it has to come from BOTH sides or the relationship becomes unbalanced. And if he can't handle the honesty of whether or not you come at a particular time, is this really a man you want to be around? If he wants to learn from an older woman, you should show him what that means: honesty about sex and coming, articulating your needs, etc.

Don't be so sensitive about hurting his feelings, he'll see that as a sign of weakness and learn how to use it to manipulate you. Think about how young men are with each other--they are brutal, constantly razzing each other, etc. You don't need to be like that with him, but don't think he can't take a little honesty, after all, isn't that insulting to him.

Don't coddle him. Teaching a younger lover isn't an overt act, no lesson plans, very little direct teaching. It involves a lot of subtlety and is damn hard work. And lots of patience. I had a situation like this for many months, and it was long and arduous, and fun at times, but I doubt I'd want to do it again. I'd get involve with a younger lover (I often date men 10 yrs or so younger than I am), but not in a situation where I was the primary "teacher." I want more, I want someone who can teach me as well and be more of an equal.

He's 25, he should be able to handle a relationship like an adult. Expect it, and if he doesn't have it to give, consider letting him go. You can do better and you deserve better.

I hope I'm making sense, I've been out in the sun for hours and am a little baked.

Pink Orchid,

Thanks for the reply. I wish I could have been around to read the whole unedited thread but I'm sure you had reasons to delete some stuff. Just knowing how confused I feel, and how sometimes, in the dead of night, after work and an adult beverage or two, I may reveal a lot more about myself than I feel comfortable with.

I searched for younger men/ older women because lately, with the different job and home location, I find myself surrounded by and attracted to some totally delectable young men. I feel strange because I'm not looking for "young meat" (was accused of that by a asshole !!!) but my interests and lifestyle and job put me there.

My interests ... music, clubs, surfing, music, and sex ... put me in touch with younger people (older people too but I know them and maybe we've become bored with one another). I've always joked my way out of advances by younger guys but lately I've paused, and asked myself why not?

This particular guy I'm not too concerned with. Yes, he seems to be nice and fun but in the back of my mind I'm thinking about "office gossip".

There is another cutie in the neighborhood who has been flirting at the pool. He's met my children and my dog ... isn't freaked by either. Also met the estranged hubby and knows about our strange co-existance (sp).

It would be fun to have a FB ... took a lot of thinking to figure out what FB meant and I really don't like the term but it fits. I'm just confused about how to act with a younger man.

Simple things to discuss with someone who is 45 ... latex allergies, periods, babysitters, "yes, my LDR occasionally calls at 3am" (lol !!!)

Hard for me to do with a young man ... if I call him will he think I'm needy or clingy ... he calls and I do happen to be free tonight (no kids or work) am I too easy ... he worries about where I want to eat (can he afford it?). All of this seems easy to discuss with men my age, they understand the issues of time, family, and money, but not so easy for guys his age.

Off to bed.
Wish I could have been sunbaked but it's rained all day.
Tomorrow, if the sun is shining, I'll be baked too.
emer

 

[emer]

IMO, coming first time every time with a new partner is probably more for stories than for real life. I think you should tell him that y'all two just need some more practice.

LOL ... I know that ... just not sure if he does! Whats funny is that after he asked and I was honest and said, no, I also made some comment about being old enough not to lie about cumming. With someone my age that could be taken as words of wisdom and "hey, I'm gona be honest" ... but as soon as I said it I felt I was drawing attention to the age difference.

GRRRR ... sex is so confusing!

emer

 

[emer]

drool

BTW, Badmatt, is that AV you?

Whew! Do you think he's still listening? I want to know too!

emer

 

[PinkOrchid]

Re: Re: Re: I'm trying to learn the board ...

 

[emer]

Re: Re: Re: Re: I'm trying to learn the board ...

Just treat him like you'd treat any other man you're involved with. If he can't handle it, fuck him (figuratively, not literally).

Stop worrying so much and just enjoy it!

Yeah ... this was my intention all along. But have to be true to myself and all that! blah-blah-blah Its nice to have somewhere to bounce all the doubts and thoughts.

I'm definitely gona have fun! Just don't want to hurt myself or anyone else in the process.

emer

 

[dick tachokeon]

hell , ithink every young man should be with an older woman at least once in thier lives. i am 28 and seeing a 47 year old, she is the most energetic sex partner i have ever had. she was the first women to let me cum in her mouth, and wants to do anal. she is into spanking and other stuff, but does not have sex with them. she only wants sex with me. the youngest i have been with was 21 and it sucked. she wanted me to do everything for her. the older lady gives as much as she recieves, so the more pleasure i give her, the more i get in return. i know that we are just friends and FB and it can never be more, i am happy with that. i just think younger men are more willing to please, then younger women. young girls get thier feelling hurt if you instruct them or give them advice. hell when she told me to lick deeper, i dove in

 

[Guest]

I'm about to start having a fling with a younger man, about half my age. He's legal, but barely. I need a steady fb and he wants to learn some things I could surely teach him. Communication is good, attraction is definitely there. I know this is an age-old arrangement, but I can't help feeling funny about it.

I've been with younger guys before (kinda my thing), but this is a more extreme age difference. And I know if the sexes were reversed it might be perceived differently.

Anyone out there ever been on either end of this one. Could use a pep talk and some advice and maybe even a story or two . . .

First let me say CONGRATULATIONS! I'm a woman who ADORES younger men...and my guy now is just this side of legal...they are always ready, they aim to please, and they are eager to learn. I've gotten some teasing from my female coworkers, but I take it with a grain of salt...the 2 women I work with go home to their fat, boring husbands for an exciting night of television. Jealousy says alot. I didn't set out to like younger guys...it's just my preference, and I don't give a damn what anyone thinks, but then again, I never did.
Have fun!

 

[Dannyblake]

Ok:--I was 19, she was 38. It was wonderful, as we spent the better part of the next six to seven years together. We were both in our sexual prime which made things even better!!

I have dated several other mature women and have always enjoyed their company (FYI, however, my wife is several years younger than I . Go Figure?)

Go for it, go for it, go for it. What to wear? Whatever is comfortable, that highlights your best features (I personally love a sun dress on an older woman, in fact any woman). Your'e not eighytenn so don't try and dress as such.

What to do? Easy. In spite of the age difference you'll be suprised at the the amount of mutual interests. In fact, in the above mentioned relationship, it was close to two months before we found our way to the bedroom, where a whole new world was opened to me.

Have fun!! And don't do anything that I didn't do (beleive me, there was nothing that I didn't do!)