On a scale from one to ten, how gay/bi/straight are you?

[Luna_Wolf72]

I would give myself

a 3 or 4. In the normal course of events I can be (and have been) sexually attracted to both sexes equally however I usually rely on women to provide the emotional stability and intimacy that I crave as much as air.

 

[Netzach]

I'd say I'm probably a 6 or reluctant 7. I find women extremely erotic and attractive and I probably find more women sexually appealing on the whole, yet I find that I actually bond in better/more effective/healthier ways with men emotionally.

 

[SexxyDevil69]

i guess you could concider me a 4 maybe.

I am in love with a guy right now and i hope to marry him but if things dont work out with us i cant ever see myself being iwth another man in a serious relationship. I by far prefer women over men but i dont get grossed out at the idea of having sex with men

 

[anne27]

7, for now. While I am strongly attracted to women, I have yet to have a long term emotional relationship with one. I'm still new to all this.

 

[bimori]

I guess i would be a 7 or 8 . I do love to lady's . I must admit that it's fun to play with a guy every not and then .

 

[mercy's_grace]

I honestly can't say. Or, at least, say it honestly. Probably a six or seven.

 

[deyv]

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[sweatinganal]

I would say that I'm a 6 also. Now, if I could just add a 9 in there somehow.

 

[deezire1900]

I am in love with a guy right now and i hope to marry him but if things dont work out with us i cant ever see myself being iwth another man in a serious relationship. I by far prefer women over men but i dont get grossed out at the idea of having sex with men

Forgive me, but how can you be in love with a guy and hope to marry him, if having sex with him repulses you?

Oh, thats right...most straight marriages are sexless anyway right?

 

[Volz]

I would say I'm a strong 5. I love sex and relationships with men & women both.

 

[SexxyDevil69]

I am in love with a guy right now and i hope to marry him but if things dont work out with us i cant ever see myself being iwth another man in a serious relationship. I by far prefer women over men but i dont get grossed out at the idea of having sex with men

Forgive me, but how can you be in love with a guy and hope to marry him, if having sex with him repulses you?

Oh, thats right...most straight marriages are sexless anyway right?

Having sex with him does not repulse me...in fact we have had sex many time...all i was saying was that i prefer women

 

[kbate]

Having sex with him does not repulse me...in fact we have had sex many time...all i was saying was that i prefer women

Still, why would you marry into a sex life that is not your ideal. It seems like a recipe for disappointment and frustration.

 

[John Doe]

i guess you could concider me a 4 maybe.

I am in love with a guy right now and i hope to marry him but if things dont work out with us i cant ever see myself being iwth another man in a serious relationship. I by far prefer women over men but i dont get grossed out at the idea of having sex with men

to clarify, 4 is slightly toward the hetero end of the scale. Is that correct? You said you prefer women.

However, to deezire and kbate, unless I missed another post, it's still seems that she quite clearly said the idea of sex with men does "not gross me out".

 

[deezire1900]

to clarify, 4 is slightly toward the hetero end of the scale. Is that correct? You said you prefer women.

However, to deezire and kbate, unless I missed another post, it's still seems that she quite clearly said the idea of sex with men does "not gross me out".

Stoup...you have corrected me...I missed the "don't".

Deezire stands corrected!!!!!

 

[Equinoxe]

to clarify, 4 is slightly toward the hetero end of the scale. Is that correct? You said you prefer women.

However, to deezire and kbate, unless I missed another post, it's still seems that she quite clearly said the idea of sex with men does "not gross me out".

Depending on how you look at 4 is either slightly towards the straight end (from 1 being absolutely gay) or slight towards the gay end from the middle bi area (with 5.5 being completely equal I guess).

You are correct in saying that was missed, however, she did state (as you say above) that she prefers women to men (which I think it relates to the point kbate was trying to make).

 

[kbate]

Depending on how you look at 4 is either slightly towards the straight end (from 1 being absolutely gay) or slight towards the gay end from the middle bi area (with 5.5 being completely equal I guess).

You are correct in saying that was missed, however, she did state (as you say above) that she prefers women to men (which I think it relates to the point kbate was trying to make).

I was only wondering why if you find women more sexually exciting you would marry a man. That seems to me to be inviting marital problems, unless your husband is willing to allow you freedom to sleep with women.

 

[Equinoxe]

I was only wondering why if you find women more sexually exciting you would marry a man. That seems to me to be inviting marital problems, unless your husband is willing to allow you freedom to sleep with women.

That's what I thought, which is why I made that qualifier in responding to his statement. That's a bit like being in love with one person and marrying someone else, only in a broader sense.

Maybe, in this case it works out quite nicely though.

 

[whitebuck]

i guess i am a five but when i was younger it was a one as you get older you see a lot of things you forget the taboos . you want to enjoy it all

 

[John Doe]

there's more to marriage than sex, though I do agree it can cause problems, even more so if she prefers women for relationships and not just sex..

that being said, now that Equinoxe has cleared up the numbers on that, 4 is only a slight preference for women is it not?

 

[Equinoxe]

there's more to marriage than sex, though I do agree it can cause problems, even more so if she prefers women for relationships and not just sex..

Which I assumed she did, it seemed to me that she was saying she prefers women for relationships, not just sexually.

that being said, now that Equinoxe has cleared up the numbers on that, 4 is only a slight preference for women is it not?

It's hard to say exactly, it depends on how one looks at it (since we have no explicit definitions of each and we have to try to form our own opinions about the continuum). I would say that 4 is a preference for women (in this case), but she specifically states that she "by far" prefers women.

 

[SexxyDevil69]

I know that i may have confused some people and i suppose that i should try and clear it up...Its a little confusing for me too so i will try and please tell me if it helps.

Yes i am in love with a man right now and i wish to marry and have kids with him in the future but if things dont work out for him and i...Well i would not go into a serious relationship with another man...I would just have casual sex with them...Now for women i love them...They they have the most beautiful bodies and they are all a work of art in my eyes...I love the idea of making love to one and i would (if not for my boyfriend) love to be in a serious relationship with one.

I hope that clears up some things...If there is any more confusion just let me know and i will try as best i can to clear it up

 

[sigh]

2 or 3, or maybe 7

Hell, I don't know. It's one of the great mysteries of my life right now.

I've only had sex with women, have only been intimate with women, but not only does the thought of having sex with men not repulse me, I fantasize about it. So go figure.

 

[Avery_Chisholm]

I also love woman's bodies and lips but i have had very limited experience as far as the physical side, althought i haven't been intimate with men for almost 7 months now so what would i be

 

[69forever]

One being that you're only interested in members of the same sex for both emotional and physical intimacy and the idea of heterosexual sex repulses you.

Ten being that you're only interested in members of the opposite sex for both emotional and physical intimacy and the idea of homosexual sex repulses you.

I'd consider myself a 2. I'm only interested in women when it comes to sex and I find it difficult to bond emotionally to men. I can fantasize about what having sex with a man would be like but know being in that situation would repulse me.

This isn't a fair question at all. I can understand your wanting to know others thoughts though. Being Bi is a hard road to walk. How to explain.....

For the emotional bonding and security in a relationship a woman is the ying for my yang. We complete each other. Not that there isn't close, very close bonding between men, sometimes, often, not involving sex. An intimate relationship without sex.

A sexual relationship with a man is just that for me. So, I guess 7 would be my answer in the context of the question. It's deeper than that though. ~sighs~

 

[stingray61]

Now I am in the mood where I can refine my answer a bit more. This is going to get personal, so hope you do not mind. For some reason you struck something with your question that has had me thinking. Ramble...

About Men:

I did not have a very positive out look on men growing up. My sperm donar father left me with my mom when they divorced. After she re-married he let me be adopted by my physically, mentally, and sexually abusive step-father. What a wonderfully healthy and balanced inviroment to grow up in and have a male figure show you how you are to be loved in life. After a terrible 2nd divorce with step-daddy kid-napping and brain washing me for over a year. At 12 I was able to have some peace when I could decided for myself to no longer contiue visitations. I buried that part of my life in things a 12 year old should not.

I have only had 3 healthy male relationships in my life where I did not use them for something. My highschool sweatheart, my ex fiance, and a fuck buddy. The rest I used. Leaving all of them crushed and stomped on. Feeling a gratification I hurt them and kicked them down. This is why I no longer get into a emotional relationships with a guy. It is not fair to him or me. I know I can not have a long lasting healthy relationship.

I'm curious as to why you didn't blame your mother for anything, She was after all the one that met the stepfather and married him. Did your father even know anything about the guy and what he did to you? Was your father even able to do anything about the adoption? Did he even know it was happening?


Oh and I'm definately an eleven.