Orgasm as an end or a beginning?

[InsatiableDsire]

Time for one of my insightful questions

I find that an orgasm, for me, is not a means of closure to my arousal. More often than not, one orgasm leads me to want more, and self-provided orgasms only leave me longing for full body contact with another. I get the impression, however, that for many men, an orgasm is an end. Particularly the self-induced kind--"that's done, now I can move on with my day" kind of thing. So I'm curious--men and women both, do you find an orgasm is a resolution or just the beginning?

 

[michael1966b]

After the initial orgasm, I don't want to stop pleasuring her. But for men, we need some time to recharge! So during that time, we sometimes need to continue pleasuring her with our hands... our mouth...

 

[InsatiableDsire]

That works just fine for me.

Any other answers?

 

[herMaster1111]

Depends sometimes, normally leads to wanting more atleast depending on circumstances.

 

[quimsical]

Time for one of my insightful questions

I find that an orgasm, for me, is not a means of closure to my arousal. More often than not, one orgasm leads me to want more, and self-provided orgasms only leave me longing for full body contact with another. I get the impression, however, that for many men, an orgasm is an end. Particularly the self-induced kind--"that's done, now I can move on with my day" kind of thing. So I'm curious--men and women both, do you find an orgasm is a resolution or just the beginning?

Good question.

The answer to whether the orgasm is an end or not depends on the nature of the lust. There are lusts that I experience that I would categorize as easily sated: that is, they spark a fire that burns urgently and is quickly doused. Maybe these are transient lusts.

Then, there are lusts that I experience that are .... less easily sated. But these come into being (pun incidental) only when I connect with the person in question in many ways -- intellectually, emotionally, *and* sexually.

 

[sweetsauce]

It's the beginning for me. After my first couple I get voracious and just want more and more If your feelings are intense for your partner, I don't think it ever really ends, you just pick right up where you left off before. flirting, teasing, then going on for full on arousal. mmmmm

 

[InsatiableDsire]

Good question.

The answer to whether the orgasm is an end or not depends on the nature of the lust. There are lusts that I experience that I would categorize as easily sated: that is, they spark a fire that burns urgently and is quickly doused. Maybe these are transient lusts.

Then, there are lusts that I experience that are .... less easily sated. But these come into being (pun incidental) only when I connect with the person in question in many ways -- intellectually, emotionally, *and* sexually.

You arouse the sapiosexual in me.

 

[Spenser41]

Well it's different for men and women. Most guys are one and done for a bit. We have to recover. Women are blessed to cum many times with each one different from the other. And some can cum from nipple, clit, viaginal and anal. Again women have more fun. Lol

 

[EctoJohn]

If I'm just masturbating, it's the end.
My mind has already moved on, lol.

If I'm with a woman... it's kind of the middle.
There's plenty of naked cuddling and kissing to follow as we come down from the orgasms, and that may or may not lead to more sex.

 

[ChainedUp]

The orgasm is a point in a circle, not really a beginning nor and end. It can be that point where tangential pleasures are pursued, the foothills to even greater mountain peaks, or the culmination of a series of sensual acts that beg to be started anew.

 

[jeff_is_smiling]

Time for one of my insightful questions

I find that an orgasm, for me, is not a means of closure to my arousal. More often than not, one orgasm leads me to want more, and self-provided orgasms only leave me longing for full body contact with another. I get the impression, however, that for many men, an orgasm is an end. Particularly the self-induced kind--"that's done, now I can move on with my day" kind of thing. So I'm curious--men and women both, do you find an orgasm is a resolution or just the beginning?

On the delivery side of things, a beginning. On the receiving end, while I have cum twice in a session before, I have NEVER cum three times in a session. So, most times it is the ending for me. That is one reason I like taking my time playing with the woman....start with 45-minutes or so of oral on her, then alternate fingering, licking and fucking before just fucking...makes for a good time by all...

 

[October46]

Time for one of my insightful questions

I find that an orgasm, for me, is not a means of closure to my arousal. More often than not, one orgasm leads me to want more, and self-provided orgasms only leave me longing for full body contact with another. I get the impression, however, that for many men, an orgasm is an end. Particularly the self-induced kind--"that's done, now I can move on with my day" kind of thing. So I'm curious--men and women both, do you find an orgasm is a resolution or just the beginning?

I love the playing the arousal, the excitement of watching a woman's body as she is being pleasured, it is very erotic. I am lucky to have been with women that have multiple orgasms, this keeps my engine revved during our love making. When I get close to an orgasm I switch positions or do something else to my lover to distract from my excitement. I have only had three orgasm at one meeting with a woman that drove me over the edge. This has never happened to me since that day.

 

[vibes]

It's the beginning for me. After my first couple I get voracious and just want more and more If your feelings are intense for your partner, I don't think it ever really ends, you just pick right up where you left off before. flirting, teasing, then going on for full on arousal. mmmmm

High maintainance

 

[may_I_please]

Sometimes it's the end. Sometimes the middle. Sometimes the start.

Depends on so many factors to be honest.

Not every sexual encounter needs to be more - sometimes I want to fuck, cum hard and roll over and go to sleep

 

[suckonsimon]

sometimes I want to fuck, cum hard and roll over and go to sleep

And then, there's always the morning.

 

[Jaime_H]

I'd like to say I cum and just carry on. But that isn't true.
It's definitely the end for a good while, complete loss of drive, which is why it is important not to rush and delay as long as possible

 

[BreezySnow]

I vote for beginning, middle (many times), and end!

 

[xjasminex]

If it's not been the best sex and it's taking us a long time to get there, or I'm dead tired, I'm happy for the one orgasm to end the session. Otherwise, orgasms make me want more and more play. Let's say, an orgasm is hopefully the beginning.

 

[BongoGal]

For me, it depends on a variety of factors. After an orgasm, I can usually tell if another one could be had with just a little effort. If I think there's one there, waiting to come out, I'll make it happen. Sometimes they're bigger than the first and sometimes they're smaller, but they all range from good to great. So why not have two...or three...or more? Well, I often stay with one because a second one feels like it might take longer than I want. Sure, it wouldn't take TOO long, especially if I used a vibrator, but sometimes I need be somewhere at a certain time. Being late because of wanting to have extra orgasms would be rude and unnecessary.

When I'm with a partner, time usually isn't an issue, so one orgasm tends to whet my appetite for another.

 

[GiggLeGasm]

I think it depends on the partner and if the two of you are in a relationship. Within the context of relationship, I tend to agree with Chained. It's never really the beginning or the end.. more of a pause for celebration.

now.. if I'm by myself as some have suggested it might happen, it really depends on the rest of my "to do" list

 

[agedmac]

humor ahead

So, this reminds me of a joke

God was finishing up with Adam and Eve and he had two things left to give but he could give only one of them to each of his two subjects.

He said, The first one is the ability to pee standing up. Adam immediately leaped up and said, "ME!" and so God gave him the ability to do so…..right away, Adam began running around the garden peeing on everything.

God turned to Eve and said, "Sorry, so all I have left is the ability to have multiple orgasms………."

 

[MstrEricRedder]

Time for one of my insightful questions

I find that an orgasm, for me, is not a means of closure to my arousal. More often than not, one orgasm leads me to want more, and self-provided orgasms only leave me longing for full body contact with another. I get the impression, however, that for many men, an orgasm is an end. Particularly the self-induced kind--"that's done, now I can move on with my day" kind of thing. So I'm curious--men and women both, do you find an orgasm is a resolution or just the beginning?

I'd say, depends on the man and woman. I had a three year relationship with a girl some years back who could only cum once, period. I was younger then; most nights I'd go twice or three times with her. I learned her to the point I could get her off in five minutes or less, but that was it.

I usually want the girl to have three, although it's fun to force her to have more. Most females have the ability to climax many more times than they think possible, for hours. Afterwards most have difficulty remembering their own name and have to be guided for a day or two until their minds recover. Or they can be kept in a state of semi permanent idiocy if over stimulation is repeated every day or two. Most seem happier in that state.

 

[bluejaxxx]

Definitely an end, for me... but that is why I like to wait. I would rather tantalize myself for an hour, giving her orgasm after orgasm, before I finally allow myself to cum. Edging is the most wonderful thing in the world, once you acquire the taste for it.

 

[InsatiableDsire]

I appreciate the honesty of the men who have admitted an orgasm is a bit of an off-switch for them. I've noticed this in "real life" and it seems a natural occurrence. But, also, kudos to the men who, knowing this, have adapted to ways of prolonging the experience. I myself know, once you're climbing that hill, how tempting it is to go over it. I admire the giving lovers who look for more than just that completion, for either person.