Orgasm denial

[Giftboy]

Yes it's wonderful

Yes. It sure is. The thought makes my nipples tingle and my anal mucus shift.

 

[Giftboy]

Hubby decides when I come. He will have me masturbate for his entertainment or play with me as I pose lewdly for him three or four times daily to keep me aroused and thinking of sex but he only allows our games to spill over into orgasm every three or four days. To make everything even more intense he doesn't tell me when I will be permitted to come so as I approach orgasm I become all nervous wondering if he will demand that I stop or not, making it more difficult for me to let go and come but also making the orgasm that much more intense when it does happen. He does not expect me to fight the orgasms, thank goodness, if I come hard he is the one who has mistimed things, my nervousness about reaching orgasm is entirely because he has become so proficient at gauging exactly when to make me stop to leave me feeling extraordinarily frustrated. It is when I fail to stop on command immediately that I get punished and there is no 'funishemnt' about this.

If hubby is feeling mean he stops and allows my frustration to begin to subside and then demands that we start over again and I know that I am probably in for several rounds of torment before he calls things to a close. The trick that I really dread, and that hubby loves, is him licking my clit and fingering me until my orgasm has just about broken and then he stops. It leaves me with something like half an orgasm and instead of feeling frustrated I feel really really disappointed afterwards. He once managed three of these in succession and after the third one I burst into floods of tears, I was quite hysterical. Fortunately he had a big stiffy by then and comforted me by rolling me onto my tummy and shafting me through a series of huge orgasms. which was exactly what I needed.

At least when hubby does allow me to come he almost always demands that I keep going until I have enjoyed multiple orgasms and I am ready to stop making my wait and teasings all so worthwhile.​

One of my Mistresses does the same to me.

 

[shrek100]

Ok, found this after a quick search.
Mrs Shrek here.
So we are experimenting with orgasm denial with limited success.

How it started. I was in a mischievous mood and reading Mr, I was actually using my rabbit vibrating ears on the end of his cock. I stopped as I didn’t want him to cum. BUT he did cum, not fully but definitely cum.
Anyway. After a period of time he was fucking me, and fucking me sone more. He didn’t cum for ages.
ended up with me toying his arse and sucking him at the same time even then he was slower than normal.
Afterwards he said I had ruined his orgasm and he stayed hard and horny.

Now the limited success part. I either stop to late and he cums fully or I can’t stop

Any ladies or gents for that matter that can advise on timings

 

[artslut86]

My Domme has me use a word that signifies when I'm close to cumming when I'm right on the edge.
We do remote so I stop w.e it is she has me doing. Or she changes the cadence. Or she punishes my balls or cock.

Then we pick up from there. Sometimes I communicate too slow and I ruin. I get into trouble for that.

Depending on the intensity of that we keep going. My job is to stroke the butt plug or my cock without cumming until she is happy.
The most edges over 18 hours was
32. With some dribbling cum here and there. Then a similar session where we went 8 hrs when I was new I did t keep count.
He has to know and be aware or you can in person 'know' when he will cum. Stop before hand. Wait briefly and keep going.
My new tasking goal from my mistress is to cum hands free, we are close. Then I'm guess she will try to teach me to cum in my cage with limited stimulation. I'm not to know what the plan for my body is.

 

[base10]

My favorite is not to let my sub know if I will let her cum or not. Maybe I will maybe, maybe I won't.

So it's up to her to get too close to the edge. I might pull it away, I might let her cum. The mind fuck it truly the best part of it. Does she get close enough to the edge so she can have a needed orgasm, or risk the torture of being brought back from the edge. She knows the answer to that is up to me

 

[switchersm]

This side
https://happy-marriage.neocities.org/
is about male chastity in marriages/relationships and contains many elements and varieties of orgasm denial.

 

[Angiewantsmore]

My favorite is not to let my sub know if I will let her cum or not. Maybe I will maybe, maybe I won't.

So it's up to her to get too close to the edge. I might pull it away, I might let her cum. The mind fuck it truly the best part of it. Does she get close enough to the edge so she can have a needed orgasm, or risk the torture of being brought back from the edge. She knows the answer to that is up to me

Hubby does this too and it is very seriously frustrating. How hard do you push yourself? Hold back or go for it? Of course now Hubby has become practiced he usually knows just where I am and it's really hard to sneak one past him. If you want serious frustration this is a good route to take but, be warned, the partner being frustrated either needs iron self-control or a punishment that they really desperately want to avoid. Incidentally hubby does not punish me for coming, he's supposed to be the one in control of that he punishes me for not stopping quickly on command.

 

[magic_rat]

I recently tried this with a swing partner. I'd wait until she was just on the brink... then stop.

After the 10th time she punched me. Hard.

 

[artslut86]

Had a new edging experience.
Miss has had me clenching my ass on a plug when we play or when I'm alone for months now. It always gets me erect. I always wondered why though.

The last 2 days we spent building up via ass play and edging to pre orgasm.

Then I was made to put my hands behind my back and push, pulse move the cum up and out My tip... It was very hard to do. Like that first time you trigger an assgasm. We need more work. But I did it.
It's worse than a ruin as it dribbles out versus that fantastic spurt sensation.
She wants me to be able to do it on command and caged probably too. I love my Domme.

 

[cascadiabound]

My favorite is not to let my sub know if I will let her cum or not. Maybe I will maybe, maybe I won't.

So it's up to her to get too close to the edge. I might pull it away, I might let her cum. The mind fuck it truly the best part of it. Does she get close enough to the edge so she can have a needed orgasm, or risk the torture of being brought back from the edge. She knows the answer to that is up to me

How do you manage the potential frustration level? There have been times I've been edged hard and denied at that moment of no return that the denial itself felt like punishment and left me in tears and curled in on myself.
Can you share your thoughts about how to do this so she feels the heat of your control, her need to please you and have you alone decide in-the-moment if she will orgasm or not and still have her feeling warmly towards you? Is aftercare a part of your denial routine? Other touches and soothing?
How long typically after an abrupt denial/ruined orgasm before you allow her to cum? Later that day? Next play session some days later? That kind of timing would matter a lot to me I think. If I thought it might be days or weeks before being allowed to cum I might not be very nice to be around... or just a bit pouty. Idk. I don't like being like that. Not good for anyone.

 

[artslut86]

The true subs role is to be taking what ever satisfaction they can that is given . They derive pleasure because the domme does.
I'm beginning to prefer just being on the edge. Continually without the explosion of the manual release. It please my Miss to be this way. I'm learning to be happy this way. Your sub needs to behave and find joy in obedience. Her orgasms do not matter.

 

[base10]

How do you manage the potential frustration level? There have been times I've been edged hard and denied at that moment of no return that the denial itself felt like punishment and left me in tears and curled in on myself.
Can you share your thoughts about how to do this so she feels the heat of your control, her need to please you and have you alone decide in-the-moment if she will orgasm or not and still have her feeling warmly towards you? Is aftercare a part of your denial routine? Other touches and soothing?
How long typically after an abrupt denial/ruined orgasm before you allow her to cum? Later that day? Next play session some days later? That kind of timing would matter a lot to me I think. If I thought it might be days or weeks before being allowed to cum I might not be very nice to be around... or just a bit pouty. Idk. I don't like being like that. Not good for anyone.

The easy answer to this is the denial period doesn’t last that long. I’ll tease and deny her for a little while, but I do not end playtime without her cumming over and over. So she knows the denial is pretty temporary. If I were to actually deny in the session and then make her hold out to the next day, I don’t think it will go over too well. Weeks, omg. She’s way too good to me to be denied like that.

As for aftercare, that goes on until her brain and body are re-set back to normal

 

[surrenderisfun]

The true subs role is to be taking what ever satisfaction they can that is given . They derive pleasure because the domme does.
I'm beginning to prefer just being on the edge. Continually without the explosion of the manual release. It please my Miss to be this way. I'm learning to be happy this way. Your sub needs to behave and find joy in obedience. Her orgasms do not matter.

this is so true, there's so much satisfaction and pleasure in surrendering to the dominant will, the physical orgasm is almost disappointing sometimes

 

[artslut86]

this is so true, there's so much satisfaction and pleasure in surrendering to the dominant will, the physical orgasm is almost disappointing sometimes

I won't go all that way . But I enjoy being on the cusp of orgasm for my domme. Body shaking focusing on her words and my task.
I repeat I'm a toy , to focus on not cumming then let her know when I'm close or she sees dribbles and we stop. Pause to catch my breath and off we go. This week it was at least 3 hrs of edging.
Amazing

 

[artslut86]

Does your Domme do that to you too?
How long have you edged for with out coming in a session or over a series of days?

 

[OnlyfortheLonely]

I never thought that this would be of interest, but the longer I contemplate it, the more exciting it sounds.

It is a quite erotic picture to imagine two people in bed, the Dom taking the sub to the edge over and over. Doesn't matter if the stimulus is oral, toys, hands, etc. What's important is the sub always has to stop before release.

So sexy to imagine them being cuddled, whispered to about how good they are doing, all while they are convulsing, sweating, and struggling to not release. Particularly, with the knowledge that they'll have to do this again and again.

 

[bethany_s]

My favorite is not to let my sub know if I will let her cum or not. Maybe I will maybe, maybe I won't.

So it's up to her to get too close to the edge. I might pull it away, I might let her cum. The mind fuck it truly the best part of it. Does she get close enough to the edge so she can have a needed orgasm, or risk the torture of being brought back from the edge. She knows the answer to that is up to me

This was exactly what my dom did in the time I was with him. I didn’t know if he was going to edge me for a while or kind of more forced multiple orgasms. Most times it was more the edge sessions (sometimes those were to bring me to the edge and walk away, then return and bring me to the edge again and repeat). But eventually he always let me orgasm. I’ve never been with anyone that did mind games like he did, which always made it a much more intense experience. Not knowing what ‘kind’ of experience I was going to have was trippy, and loved that he was in control of it all.

You said in your last post about aftercare. I didn’t realize how important that was until I experienced it. A few times in the beginning it may have been less aftercare than I should have received, and it emotionally gets to your mind afterward. He recognized it and adjusted. I’ve seen it mentioned on Lit and yes it’s a real thing.

 

[OnlyfortheLonely]

This was exactly what my dom did in the time I was with him. I didn’t know if he was going to edge me for a while or kind of more forced multiple orgasms. Most times it was more the edge sessions (sometimes those were to bring me to the edge and walk away, then return and bring me to the edge again and repeat). But eventually he always let me orgasm. I’ve never been with anyone that did mind games like he did, which always made it a much more intense experience. Not knowing what ‘kind’ of experience I was going to have was trippy, and loved that he was in control of it all.

You said in your last post about aftercare. I didn’t realize how important that was until I experienced it. A few times in the beginning it may have been less aftercare than I should have received, and it emotionally gets to your mind afterward. He recognized it and adjusted. I’ve seen it mentioned on Lit and yes it’s a real thing.

That is exactly what I would love to try

 

[MistressVenus]

My bf/sub is going to rehab for 3 weeks. I’m trying to determine how to maintain control during this time. Caging him is a regular part of our lifestyle, as well as edging and denial. Would appreciate input from this forum. I just found this today, and have read all the posts.

Subs: how would you want your D to control you during rehab?
Dom/mes: what are your thoughts?
MV

 

[subdudeme13]

My bf/sub is going to rehab for 3 weeks. I’m trying to determine how to maintain control during this time. Caging him is a regular part of our lifestyle, as well as edging and denial. Would appreciate input from this forum. I just found this today, and have read all the posts.

Subs: how would you want your D to control you during rehab?
Dom/mes: what are your thoughts?
MV

I have never been in rehab and my thought is to maximize the rehab process for his benefit and thus for you. If he has addiction issues he is already addicted to you.

 

[MistressVenus]

I have never been in rehab and my thought is to maximize the rehab process for his benefit and thus for you. If he has addiction issues he is already addicted to you.

Yes, he is addicted to me, that’s true. How would it look though to “maximize the rehab process”?

 

[subdudeme13]

Set him free for those three weeks. Set his mind free. He can kiss the whip when he gets back!

 

[NancyPan]

Rehab is not easy and hopefully will be life-saving and life-changing. I would say that if he needs to wank while he is there to relieve pressure, give him permission to wank. You do not want him doing this “on the sly,” and do not want him lying to you about it. Sending him to rehab in a chastity device is not practical (you will not have access to unlock him for cleanings and milkings), and his successful recovery should be goal one.

However, you can maintain control by expecting him to log and or report to you by text or phone each time he jerks off and the precise content of his masturbating fantasies.

Feel free to PM me if you wish to take this discussion offline.

 

[MistressVenus]

Rehab is not easy and hopefully will be life-saving and life-changing. I would say that if he needs to wank while he is there to relieve pressure, give him permission to wank. You do not want him doing this “on the sly,” and do not want him lying to you about it. Sending him to rehab in a chastity device is not practical (you will not have access to unlock him for cleanings and milkings), and his successful recovery should be goal one.

However, you can maintain control by expecting him to log and or report to you by text or phone each time he jerks off and the precise content of his masturbating fantasies.

Feel free to PM me if you wish to take this discussion offline.

Thanks for your thoughts & offer to chat. I appreciate it.

 

[artslut86]

Thanks for your thoughts & offer to chat. I appreciate it.

Good grief. We are talking about a life saving event and u want to control his cock. Talk about immature and mis guided. You are a selfish dangerous person. He needs a new domme. How dare you.