Orgasm Denial

[Gwiadus]

As for me I absolutly love orgasm denial. Usually my limits are set at about 3-4 hours without letting me orgasm. At the time were you are finally allowed to orgasm, it is just...Amazing. As for how I would treat a sub. It all depends on the sub. Which of course is also limited to you, as to how you like orgasm denial. Properly used it can be a very enjoyable experience for both you and your partner no matter who is on top or bottom. But it of course all depends on who your with, I've had a sub who I would make beg for release for usually up to about an hour and she loved it. Another, lost her sex drive/ability to get off. Just like with any other part of a BDSM relationship, you have to talk to your Dom/sub and see what they think about it, and what you yourself truly think about it before trying it. Or even practicing it on your sub/letting your Dom do it to you. Happy thoughts people.

M. Richard

 

[caw87]

a girl i was with used to mess about with it. more teasing then denial tho

we started off at 30mins then slowly built it up and eventually going 90mins but by then i couldnt take anymore. she is evil but it was alot of fun

 

[Zoots_owner]

On topic which I also thought my last comment was, btw, I hate orgasm denial. I wouldn't want to make someone NOT come and I wouldn't want them to make me not come. It just isn't my thing to deny myself or my lover.

However, I do like the idea of coming on command. It's something I've been working on for a while now.

Training for orgasm on command is also quite nice, I agree.

But I'm not sure that everyone's on the same page here when they're talking about orgasm denial. Some equate it with teasing for an hour or more, but I, personally, have very rarely done that, and think of it as a punishment. What I have done much more frequently is making sure my girl has plenty of libido built up when she has something major on her agenda in the immediate future. Whether she has 15 orgasms spread out over the week, or none all week, and 15 on Saturday night, doesn't bother her, it all balances out.

So maybe she has to count backwards during some quickies over the course of that week. That's not even being mean, that's just doing it right.

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

But I'm not sure that everyone's on the same page here when they're talking about orgasm denial.

Probably not... I've gone down both paths, a few hours of teasing and tormenting, as well as extended periods... I think the most was a bit over a week. One time as punishment, but it was usually used as a build up to a big weekend of fun.

 

[NervousGuy]

I like orgasm control/denail very much. I don't think it would make an effective punishment on me though. I think I like it to much for that. Though if extended for lets say a 4 day to week period. I think it could be a very effective punishment.

 

[FurryFury]

Training for orgasm on command is also quite nice, I agree.

But I'm not sure that everyone's on the same page here when they're talking about orgasm denial. Some equate it with teasing for an hour or more, but I, personally, have very rarely done that, and think of it as a punishment. What I have done much more frequently is making sure my girl has plenty of libido built up when she has something major on her agenda in the immediate future. Whether she has 15 orgasms spread out over the week, or none all week, and 15 on Saturday night, doesn't bother her, it all balances out.

So maybe she has to count backwards during some quickies over the course of that week. That's not even being mean, that's just doing it right.

Are you talking about getting her built up with frustration before a big business meeting or something?

 

[Zoots_owner]

Are you talking about getting her built up with frustration before a big business meeting or something?

No, more like before a big pleasure meeting. ;-)

 

[rock18]

denail

orgasm denial can be a very strong tool in controlling males, control the orgasm and you control the man. being denied orgasm for long periods of time makes a male very receptive to a woman's needs and wants. if a woman really wants a man to do something, deny him of orgasm, you would be surprised at want a man will do when he wants to orgasm. i can guarantee he'll do just about anything!

 

[Llan2193]

I was in a m/s relationship with a girl for almost two years Once I got her ticks and body language down when she was orgasming, I could figure out exactly when to stop without frustrating her to where she wouldn't be able to cum.
Which I think is the biggest problem with orgasm control.

The new girl I'm trying out, I secretly 'error' on the side of caution and then blame her for not having permission. Win-win

 

[AmishPantry]

I have been with men in the past who would stop and start belting my ass with their belt just as I was about to reach orgasm. So, for me, an ass whipping and harsh spanking will make me gush.

 

[FurryFury]

No, more like before a big pleasure meeting. ;-)

Ahhh, now that I could get behind.

 

[FurryFury]

orgasm denial can be a very strong tool in controlling males, control the orgasm and you control the man. being denied orgasm for long periods of time makes a male very receptive to a woman's needs and wants. if a woman really wants a man to do something, deny him of orgasm, you would be surprised at want a man will do when he wants to orgasm. i can guarantee he'll do just about anything!

Sure, if he is a willing sub. If he is like my husband (who has sub tendencies btw, and is very sammy-ish or just won't play this kind of game) he'll just go beat off.

 

[bone251]

I did a thread on this and wrote a story.

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=511615

 

[DevinEire]

Love It.

I've had a relationship where we played with this concept extensively. Anywhere from two or three days, to two weeks. I would give orgasms to my mate on demand, but would not be allowed to orgasm at all. They would tease extensively, and restrict (firm grip) as necessary. During these times, we would even sometimes use a cage to restrict my erections, but never for more than a few hours and one or two extended teasings.

If I've had an orgasm in the last day or two, a thirty, sixty or even ninety minute tease is nothing but good sex to me. I always like to take my time, and enjoy the act as much as the release. But if I'm teased and not allowed release a few times during those couple of days, that heightens the longing, but still not to the point where I would consider it actually entering into the realm of tease and denial.

It takes about four days, at least one sexual encounter a day, before I can sense my whole mindset switching over. I become very focused on my mate, their comfort and happiness, as well as searching for things to take my mind off my longing when they're not around (i.e., lots of chores). They start receiving lots of unsolicited back and foot massages, and lots of attention, both sexual and non-sexual. It's like my mind just focuses on them, blocking everything else out.

At this point, thirty minute teases become intense, and then the eventual release is mind-blowing. I've also found that only one release isn't enough. The tension isn't really relieved until the second orgasm, so the effect (on me, at least) can be maintained by immediately returning to denial.

The problem I've found in this situation, is that although my attention is completely focused on them, they're sated, and maybe even over-sexed, and therefore, their attention isn't completely on me, and I begin to feel neglected way too quickly. If they want a simple night off from the experience, say, watching TV or a movie, I feel like they aren't participating enough, and I get emotional. Mad, sad, frustrated. If they're not strong enough to let this kind of thing go, it can cause emotional stress in the relationship.

But other than that speedbump, usually handled by a good discussion of their need to be firmly in charge, teasing and orgasm denial remains one my favorite sexual pasttimes.

Sorry for the extra long post, but it is one of my favorite topics, and something I've done alot.

 

[castagnus]

I did a thread on this and wrote a story.

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=511615

Brilliant !

 

[NervousGuy]

Sure, if he is a willing sub. If he is like my husband (who has sub tendencies btw, and is very sammy-ish or just won't play this kind of game) he'll just go beat off.

See I would never just go beat off. It would ruin the whole thing unless a Dom had explicitly told me to. But then agian. I like it so much when I masturbate I practice orgasm denial. Not only is it good for your stamina as a male, but the build up is intense. Just set yourself a limit, 1 hour, 2 hours, sometimes 4 hours.

As for the person that posted about get a guy close and then don't let him get off, he'll do just about anything. I believe its partialy true. Most guys will. Others just like to ride it out.

Meh, just my two cents.

NG.

 

[FurryFury]

See I would never just go beat off. It would ruin the whole thing unless a Dom had explicitly told me to. But then agian. I like it so much when I masturbate I practice orgasm denial. Not only is it good for your stamina as a male, but the build up is intense. Just set yourself a limit, 1 hour, 2 hours, sometimes 4 hours.

As for the person that posted about get a guy close and then don't let him get off, he'll do just about anything. I believe its partialy true. Most guys will. Others just like to ride it out.

Meh, just my two cents.

NG.

Ah, but he doesn't want a Dom. He has never practiced orgasm denial, sees no good in it and will talk loudly for a least an hour about it if it comes up.

LOL.

I'm of two minds about this. One, when I top him I want him to be obedient to my wishes. I used to think I topped him just for his pleasure but it seems I have an ego and some expectations. Orgasm denial has never been a part of this because I knew he would NOT be interested or likely, go along.

The other thing is on the philosophy I have of sex in general. I tell my kids this too. You should NEVER rely only on others for your pleasure. I strongly encourage them to follow their desires, and especially, to masturbate. So he and I see eye to eye on the general issue of masturbation.

 

[NervousGuy]

See I would recommend orgasm denial for any guys that havn't had alot of sexual experience just to build up their stamina. More commenly among guys its just thought of as the stop and go method. Most guys have practiced it and enjoyed it, but have just had a different name for it. As for not realing on others for your pleasure, I can agree. But its so much better with someone else heh.

NG.

 

[FurryFury]

That's a thought.

Of course my guy has tons of stamina and sometimes too much for my liking.

I'd rather my kids not discover the joys of being with someone else sexually until they are fully ready to and for their own reasons.

 

[NervousGuy]

That's a thought.

I'd rather my kids not discover the joys of being with someone else sexually until they are fully ready to and for their own reasons.

I completly agree FurryFury. I was going to add something more to this post, but I forgot.

 

[ataxia.girl]

Of course my guy has tons of stamina and sometimes too much for my liking.

omfg my Daddy has so much control its insane. It took me completely off guard. There is seriously nothing like feeling like you have no power as a female submissive than to find out he can fuck you all night and neither you nor your body will make him cum till he feels like it. He seems to be able to cum as soon or as late as he likes and i will be fucked mercilessly every moment until he feels like being done.

 

[Zoots_owner]

There is seriously nothing like feeling like you have no power as a female submissive than to find out he can fuck you all night and neither you nor your body will make him cum till he feels like it. He seems to be able to cum as soon or as late as he likes and i will be fucked mercilessly every moment until he feels like being done.

And, seriously, if there is any 2-sentence summary of why people stay in D/s that is more persuasive than that one, I don't know what it is.

 

[lilylicious]

As far as using orgasm denial as a means for gaining or maintaining a man's attention, I've never had the need to do this and feel badly for anyone who does. However I've found it's a wonderful way to remind a sub who's in charge.

I've denied a sub his orgasm for days as well as repeatedly during a session. However, I find it's much easier to deny his orgasm for days when we're apart. When we're together, I get too much pleasure from having him cum for me to send him away with a hard cock.

 

[FurryFury]

omfg my Daddy has so much control its insane. It took me completely off guard. There is seriously nothing like feeling like you have no power as a female submissive than to find out he can fuck you all night and neither you nor your body will make him cum till he feels like it. He seems to be able to cum as soon or as late as he likes and i will be fucked mercilessly every moment until he feels like being done.

"Marathons" bug the shit out of me. Particularly since I crave his orgasm far more than my own. Dear God who has the time or the energy for that stuff? Not me!

 

[ataxia.girl]

"Marathons" bug the shit out of me. Particularly since I crave his orgasm far more than my own. Dear God who has the time or the energy for that stuff? Not me!

It would get it old if it was all the time. With Daddy it certainly made a point and i am very much looking forward to the next time.

If i was expected to act like a porn star with a lot of "oh yeah, oh baby" i would probably get homicidal. i am able to just be myself with him, i don't have to try and get "into" it or pretend i enjoy it. He does it so it hurts though which is the point.