Our FLR journey

[Showmewhatchugot84]

"The Blue One" is our 8" dildo

 

[Cardinal]

Good thread and good for you two of you.
I tried to get my wife interested years ago, she even read the “Around Her Finger” book which I actually thought would improve our marriage but she wasn’t interested. I think she equated submissive with weak and she hates weak men, wants a masculine husband. I think we could have had both but she never went for it

 

[x8dom8x]

I love this thread!!!!

 

[stargame]

Slowly happening. Last week I told my wife i want her to control my orgasms. I made it until Saturday morning and because I'm a weak bitch I jerked off. Although my wife wouldn't have known, I did. So I locked my cock up. When she got home I told her I have no self control and jerked off so I am locked up. She told me she knew I had no self control and left it at that. 48 hrs or so later I have made my wife cum 3 times with no mention of the cage coming off. I woke her up this morning kissing her ass cheeks amd fingerings her. Before I licked and sucked her clit until she came on my face. Now I'm at work with her scent on me and my cock straining against its cage. Although I'm still technically "topping from the bottom" in a sense. I'm hoping that something clicks and she fully takes over.

Amazing

 

[NancyPan]

Good thread and good for you two of you.
I tried to get my wife interested years ago, she even read the “Around Her Finger” book which I actually thought would improve our marriage but she wasn’t interested. I think she equated submissive with weak and she hates weak men, wants a masculine husband. I think we could have had both but she never went for it

Never too late. I also gave my wife that “Arounf Her Finger” book and she absolutely hated it. Now, nearly 20 years later, we have been in an FLR for many years. I did not give up. She has seen that I continue to be stron in many ways, most of all support her emotionally, but also do very “masculine” household tasks (repair, etc.), dress masculine in outer clothing, etc. BUT, after many talks about this, she began to realize that I needed her authority, the house ran more efficiently with her in charge, that I was not capable of managing my own orgasms (I confessed my masturbation), and that she benefited greatly from my service in household chores (she hasn’t cleaned a bathroom in years) and the bedroom ( her orgasms are my goal and our sex life has improved drama t lly since she began restricting my orgasms.

The key is that I did not give up. She saw how much I wanted and needed this, and now sees that we are both happier. Feel free to PM me. Never too late! We have several couples friends who no longer have sex. I remain aroused by and devoted to my wife!

 

[Showmewhatchugot84]

We had fallen off that past few months. Real bad. Not just from our FLR but our sex life all together fell apart. We had a long talk last night and both agreed we need to be more attentive to each other's needs. We never brought up FLR and how happy we were the couple months we were living the lifestyle. I wanted to bring it up but we've been in such a rough patch I didn't want to push my limits, I just wanted some physicality brought back into our lives. To much amazing surprise I just received this text a little while ago. I don't want to get too excited because the let down can be tough but hopefully this sparks up the whole thing again. Can't wait to see how it unfolds.

 

[Yarglenurp]

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We had fallen off that past few months. Real bad. Not just from our FLR but our sex life all together fell apart. We had a long talk last night and both agreed we need to be more attentive to each other's needs. We never brought up FLR and how happy we were the couple months we were living the lifestyle. I wanted to bring it up but we've been in such a rough patch I didn't want to push my limits, I just wanted some physicality brought back into our lives. To much amazing surprise I just received this text a little while ago. I don't want to get too excited because the let down can be tough but hopefully this sparks up the whole thing again. Can't wait to see how it unfolds.

That’s great to hear!

Make sure to give her plenty of massages and cuddles!

 

[NancyPan]

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We had fallen off that past few months. Real bad. Not just from our FLR but our sex life all together fell apart. We had a long talk last night and both agreed we need to be more attentive to each other's needs. We never brought up FLR and how happy we were the couple months we were living the lifestyle. I wanted to bring it up but we've been in such a rough patch I didn't want to push my limits, I just wanted some physicality brought back into our lives. To much amazing surprise I just received this text a little while ago. I don't want to get too excited because the let down can be tough but hopefully this sparks up the whole thing again. Can't wait to see how it unfolds.

I just saw this post. Hope you did renew the FLR and that you stick with it. My wife and I have continued to be open about how much happier we both are when we maintain this in our marriage and maintain certain daily rituals that accentuate her authority and my submission. Please feel free to PM me if I can be of help to support and encourage. Happy for you!

 

[HottieOlwen]

Evr since I could remember I've been turned on by the idea of being a submissive. I have expressed to my wife. Asked her to research Female Led Relationships and make it a part of our lives. It's very hard to get her to buy in and when she does it's more so telling her what she should make me do. Which isn't exactly giving up control to her.

I guess my question is for women that are in FLRs now but we're reluctant, or even weirded out by the idea when you're man presented it. How did he finally persuade you to try this lifestyle? What's some tips I can use to persuade my wife? We have all the toys cock cage, restraints, dilos, strapon. But again it's always me telling her yo make me wear the cage, or telling her I really want the strap on. I want her to want it, tell me when it's happening, and how? And I want to say Yes Maam!

Edited/updated: when I first posted this I was looking for help. Since, my wife has adapted the FLR lifestyle. So I changed the thread from asking for help to initiate an FLR to make it a thread about our journey. I hope you enjoy. Feel free to reach out.

Like many of the correspondents to this thread, our FLR/M came about via a suggestion from my husband (now my long-term cuckold). He's tiny even when hard and he suffers from prem. ej. One night about 2 years into our marriage, he actually came as he was about to put it in me. This prompted him to suggest I find a better equipped, longer staying lover. Cue a huge row, and my storming out of the marital bed. We made up the next day, and decided to join a swingers group. That was fine for me (I actually experienced a cock-driven orgasm for the first time ever) but Richard's 'shortcomings' eventually meant our invitations to parties diminuished and then dried up altogether. But having had a taste of what sex with a man sized cock felt like, I was reluctant to go back to our old ways. I became a Hot Wife, and my dominant traits seemed to increase. (I'm a primary school teacher, so I am used to issuing instructions and having them obeyed.) I used to give Richard a weekly maintenance spanking and this improved his attention span and his obedience. At his suggestion, I also cock locked him and denied him any p in v penetration. I don't spank him so often these days, but he knows that I am in charge in our marriage. He is still cock locked after over thirty years of marriage, and I milk him regularly every Saturday. He hasn't put his cock in me for 31 years.

 

[Yarglenurp]

Like many of the correspondents to this thread, our FLR/M came about via a suggestion from my husband (now my long-term cuckold). He's tiny even when hard and he suffers from prem. ej. One night about 2 years into our marriage, he actually came as he was about to put it in me. This prompted him to suggest I find a better equipped, longer staying lover. Cue a huge row, and my storming out of the marital bed. We made up the next day, and decided to join a swingers group. That was fine for me (I actually experienced a cock-driven orgasm for the first time ever) but Richard's 'shortcomings' eventually meant our invitations to parties diminuished and then dried up altogether. But having had a taste of what sex with a man sized cock felt like, I was reluctant to go back to our old ways. I became a Hot Wife, and my dominant traits seemed to increase. (I'm a primary school teacher, so I am used to issuing instructions and having them obeyed.) I used to give Richard a weekly maintenance spanking and this improved his attention span and his obedience. At his suggestion, I also cock locked him and denied him any p in v penetration. I don't spank him so often these days, but he knows that I am in charge in our marriage. He is still cock locked after over thirty years of marriage, and I milk him regularly every Saturday. He hasn't put his cock in me for 31 years.

This sounds so amazing. Here’s hoping to many more decades of marital bless for both of you!

 

[Replicant2018]

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We had fallen off that past few months. Real bad. Not just from our FLR but our sex life all together fell apart. We had a long talk last night and both agreed we need to be more attentive to each other's needs. We never brought up FLR and how happy we were the couple months we were living the lifestyle. I wanted to bring it up but we've been in such a rough patch I didn't want to push my limits, I just wanted some physicality brought back into our lives. To much amazing surprise I just received this text a little while ago. I don't want to get too excited because the let down can be tough but hopefully this sparks up the whole thing again. Can't wait to see how it unfolds.

Sounds like you need a reboot and a good hard fuck in your ass.

 

[Replicant2018]

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We had fallen off that past few months. Real bad. Not just from our FLR but our sex life all together fell apart. We had a long talk last night and both agreed we need to be more attentive to each other's needs. We never brought up FLR and how happy we were the couple months we were living the lifestyle. I wanted to bring it up but we've been in such a rough patch I didn't want to push my limits, I just wanted some physicality brought back into our lives. To much amazing surprise I just received this text a little while ago. I don't want to get too excited because the let down can be tough but hopefully this sparks up the whole thing again. Can't wait to see how it unfolds.

I’d keep you caged and leaking.

 

[Vitriolhack]

Like many of the correspondents to this thread, our FLR/M came about via a suggestion from my husband (now my long-term cuckold). He's tiny even when hard and he suffers from prem. ej. One night about 2 years into our marriage, he actually came as he was about to put it in me. This prompted him to suggest I find a better equipped, longer staying lover. Cue a huge row, and my storming out of the marital bed. We made up the next day, and decided to join a swingers group. That was fine for me (I actually experienced a cock-driven orgasm for the first time ever) but Richard's 'shortcomings' eventually meant our invitations to parties diminuished and then dried up altogether. But having had a taste of what sex with a man sized cock felt like, I was reluctant to go back to our old ways. I became a Hot Wife, and my dominant traits seemed to increase. (I'm a primary school teacher, so I am used to issuing instructions and having them obeyed.) I used to give Richard a weekly maintenance spanking and this improved his attention span and his obedience. At his suggestion, I also cock locked him and denied him any p in v penetration. I don't spank him so often these days, but he knows that I am in charge in our marriage. He is still cock locked after over thirty years of marriage, and I milk him regularly every Saturday. He hasn't put his cock in me for 31 years.

If it works for the both of you, great!

After 30years, I will assume that you could probably teach a course on FLR.

 

[Ash999]

Maitresse-Femme [ MistressWife] ordered me to write this . Our FLR journey came about from our Goddess Dominated religion as I am a devotee of Goddess Kali [ Cosmic Creatress] and Her Majesty worships Devi Laxmi [ Goddess of Prosperity] so even in a deeply patriarchal society like India I submit to Her Majesty in our Bedroom....Devi Kali /Goddess Kali stands upon and tramples Her poor hubby Lord Siva[ the most Macho God of Destruction!!!? ]Image attached herewith]
And I cane my own Ass....[Caning my ass for the viewing plaisur de Maitresse-Femme... plz see attachments]

 

[Showmewhatchugot84]

We're back. Hopefully 3rd times a charm and we stick with it. Been going through some personal struggles. Wife asked if she could do anything to help me feel better. I said to sit on my face. She said if I asked a couple days earlier she could've(she was on her period), but maybe we should keep you locked this time of month. I suggested with how undisciplined I've been maybe I should be locked longer. So she locked me last Wednesday. She got alot of breast play on those days. I still woke her up by kissing her ass cheeks. Monday morning when kissing her ass cheeks I noticed she was playing with her pussy. She said it's clear get the dildo. I fucked her with the dildo for a while. I didn't wear the strap on but held the dildo close as if I were and fucked her. She asked if I wanted my cock in her and said yes. I almost came just sliding it in. I didn't last long but she told me to cum. Afterwards I was a little down for it only being a few days and I didn't think I earned it yet. She agreed but said it wasn't for me she wanted to be filled up. I told her to push me to the point I almost regret it. Yesterday morning she made me watch her master bate inches from her pussy. Then sent me to work. I wanted to taste her so bad. Again this morning on my knees on her side of the bed, I kissed her cheeks. She arched her back and gave me her asshole. I licked and ate her ass for 10 minutes of so. She started to spread her legs, this is it I finally get to taste her pussy again. I was wrong, She stretched and said go grab coffee and get ready for work. Hopefully I continue posting here. That means we're still in it. When you don't hear from me here we have fallen from the lifestyle.

 

[emme8]

We're back. Hopefully 3rd times a charm and we stick with it. Been going through some personal struggles. Wife asked if she could do anything to help me feel better. I said to sit on my face. She said if I asked a couple days earlier she could've(she was on her period), but maybe we should keep you locked this time of month. I suggested with how undisciplined I've been maybe I should be locked longer. So she locked me last Wednesday. She got alot of breast play on those days. I still woke her up by kissing her ass cheeks. Monday morning when kissing her ass cheeks I noticed she was playing with her pussy. She said it's clear get the dildo. I fucked her with the dildo for a while. I didn't wear the strap on but held the dildo close as if I were and fucked her. She asked if I wanted my cock in her and said yes. I almost came just sliding it in. I didn't last long but she told me to cum. Afterwards I was a little down for it only being a few days and I didn't think I earned it yet. She agreed but said it wasn't for me she wanted to be filled up. I told her to push me to the point I almost regret it. Yesterday morning she made me watch her master bate inches from her pussy. Then sent me to work. I wanted to taste her so bad. Again this morning on my knees on her side of the bed, I kissed her cheeks. She arched her back and gave me her asshole. I licked and ate her ass for 10 minutes of so. She started to spread her legs, this is it I finally get to taste her pussy again. I was wrong, She stretched and said go grab coffee and get ready for work. Hopefully I continue posting here. That means we're still in it. When you don't hear from me here we have fallen from the lifestyle.

I hope you stay with what works for both of you.

I personally love cock. I love feeling a man cum in my pussy. Toys just don't have the same effect on me. If your wife is like me you wouldn't stay locked up for long. But I still have times when hubby will mention that I haven't let him play in a week, sometimes longer.

But keep in mind it's all about her. If she wants sex, it's your job as her "toy" to give her what she wants. If she doesn't want sex, it still your job to give her what she wants. Make her dinner, fetch her a drink, clean up, do as she requests.

 

[Showmewhatchugot84]

I hope you stay with what works for both of you.

I personally love cock. I love feeling a man cum in my pussy. Toys just don't have the same effect on me. If your wife is like me you wouldn't stay locked up for long. But I still have times when hubby will mention that I haven't let him play in a week, sometimes longer.

But keep in mind it's all about her. If she wants sex, it's your job as her "toy" to give her what she wants. If she doesn't want sex, it still your job to give her what she wants. Make her dinner, fetch her a drink, clean up, do as she requests.

Your feedback is much appreciated, maam.

 

[Boat1]

I hope you stay with what works for both of you.

I personally love cock. I love feeling a man cum in my pussy. Toys just don't have the same effect on me. If your wife is like me you wouldn't stay locked up for long. But I still have times when hubby will mention that I haven't let him play in a week, sometimes longer.

But keep in mind it's all about her. If she wants sex, it's your job as her "toy" to give her what she wants. If she doesn't want sex, it still your job to give her what she wants. Make her dinner, fetch her a drink, clean up, do as she requests.

BINGO!!! You nailed it, KUDOS!

 

[NancyPan]

Some males are born to worship Women. I have learned that my small penis is not worthy of fucking.

 

[Ash999]

Some males are born to worship Women. I have learned that my small penis is not worthy of fucking.

But your glorious Bottom is certainly worthy of receiving a Sound Spanking, Darling!!!

 

[Showmewhatchugot84]

 

[Showmewhatchugot84]

Wow. What a day/night. Ended with my wife handing the cage back and saying "Good luck sleeping tonight" amd rolled over.

 

[Showmewhatchugot84]

10 days no orgasm for me. Many for my wife. Lots of teasing and edging. Tomorrow we have a rare day off together with the kids in school and the dog going to the groomer. We will be all alone. I'm not sure what she has planned by the mischievous smirk she gets when she talks about it makes make cock strain against my cage so bad.

 

[hiker1234567]

great subject. I would love a FLR as i love being submissive but wife is also sub sexually. I am very oral and try to be submissive in my actions. Would love to be used by her in all manner of ways. But it doesn't happen. Domestically, she likes to be in charge or at least not told what to do or interfered with. Bit of a dilemma and frustrating. suggestions welcome.

 

[Showmewhatchugot84]

great subject. I would love a FLR as i love being submissive but wife is also sub sexually. I am very oral and try to be submissive in my actions. Would love to be used by her in all manner of ways. But it doesn't happen. Domestically, she likes to be in charge or at least not told what to do or interfered with. Bit of a dilemma and frustrating. suggestions welcome.

Communication is everything. Expressing your desires without being to pushy. Keep showing her the benefits of you in a bit of a submissive role. Maybe one night get her off with your oral skills and just go about your day or go to sleep. And if she asks if you want to get off just tell her no I just wanted you to have some pleasure. Non sexually, take chores off her plate. Do the cleaning, laundry, dishes. When she asks what goy into you just let her know she deserves to be able to just relax. Just a couple ideas as we ourselves are still evolving into our own dynamic.