part 11 of the China Pearl Inn

[cgraven]

Thanks Ish. I just believe that folks should have an idea what a Dom / sub relationship is really.

 

[HornyIsh69]

Thanks Ish. I just believe that folks should have an idea what a Dom / sub relationship is really.

I'm still learning everyday about that.

 

[cgraven]

If a Dom likes Bondage and discipline but the sub is into extreme masochism then they would not be a good fit. Their needs and wants should complement and strength each other.

 

[DarkWarrioress]

If a Dom likes Bondage and discipline but the sub is into extreme masochism then they would not be a good fit. Their needs and wants should complement and strength each other.

Exactly! That's why communication between them is so important and the need to sit down and hammer out their relationship. Can they compromise? Can one do without certain things? How much is not open for any sort of compromise. Before entering into any kind of a D/s relationship, they need to sit down and candidly speak with each other. Can the Dom give the sub what they need? Because if not, that type of relationship needs to be pulled from the table. The Dom's satisfaction is coming from giving the sub what they need.

 

[cgraven]

So true Cait and the whole relation ship is built on trust! A trust that must be earned.

 

[HornyIsh69]

If a Dom likes Bondage and discipline but the sub is into extreme masochism then they would not be a good fit. Their needs and wants should complement and strength each other.

Exactly! That's why communication between them is so important and the need to sit down and hammer out their relationship. Can they compromise? Can one do without certain things? How much is not open for any sort of compromise. Before entering into any kind of a D/s relationship, they need to sit down and candidly speak with each other. Can the Dom give the sub what they need? Because if not, that type of relationship needs to be pulled from the table. The Dom's satisfaction is coming from giving the sub what they need.

Yes, YES! A thousand times yes! These points are perfect, I like how y'all both explain it truly.

 

[cgraven]

Ish as I said Trust is the foundation of all successful Dom / sub relationship.

 

[HornyIsh69]

Ish as I said Trust is the foundation of all successful Dom / sub relationship.

Of course.

 

[cgraven]

So have you found a delightful little sub in the RL? It has been a while sense I have. I fear as one becomes older young beauties tend to look away to younger men. Well at least in the States.

 

[HornyIsh69]

So have you found a delightful little sub in the RL? It has been a while sense I have. I fear as one becomes older young beauties tend to look away to younger men. Well at least in the States.

Real life? No, been finding some online but most are hit and miss. And that's very true indeed. They prefer younger men.

 

[cgraven]

Well that is in the states Ish in Quebec their are a lot of young women going out with older men or they are very sensual and loving with their fathers and Grand fathers.

 

[HornyIsh69]

Well that is in the states Ish in Quebec their are a lot of young women going out with older men or they are very sensual and loving with their fathers and Grand fathers.

Oh, makes absolute sense.

 

[cgraven]

I have run in to the same liberated attitude in Europe, less so in England.

 

[Honey_Words]

I think it's more some women are naturally drawn to older men I've always been that way. I find they are more serious about life and have experiences that line up.

 

[Honey_Words]

mmmm. You do love doing that to me, CG.


Ish, hopefully everyone learns something during their time in Lit. I know I have. You did make me laugh and smile. Many times you made me facepalm and shake my head as well but always with a smile on my face.

*laughs softly* That's not a problem, Honey. Everyone has their limits. Besides, I haven't been around enough, the rafters have dust on them that makes me sneeze. I do need to do some dusting up there.

I think then it requires a lot of talking with your writing partner and if they persist in still not hearing you? It's time to bail. You both are in it for enjoyment and if they refuse to make it something you look forward to, then poof. I am happy to hear you're not giving up on SRPs, that would be horrible for anyone.

I use to think the same thing then wondered if it was just me seeing things that way. I am pretty introverted and felt intimidated until I finally realized that I am on the other side of a computer screen and people out there don't know the person that's actually at the keyboard. Then I met some wonderful folks on Lit and found them to be great friends I can count on.


I think most people who are not in the D/s lifestyle have that false belief, CG. Each depend on the other to make such a relationship work. Personally, I can be labeled as a switch, but I prefer to be a sub. In real life, I have a lot of responsibilities and I take on a lot. Sometimes, I just need to let someone else be in charge so I can unwind. Of course, in a rare instance, my Dom has a tendency to try and be a "bully" and I have to step in and step up. Being a red head and being an "older" woman, I don't tolerate a lot of crap anymore. I just don't have the patience for it. He knows that. He also knows I love him and he loves me so we sort it out.

Wow. Y'all had a lot to say recently and I had a lot I felt compelled to reply to. Now, I'm thirsty so I need another cup of coffee and I owe a dear, close friend a reply to a thread. So, I apologize for getting wordy. Y'all have a great Saturday. I may be back later when I feel the need to check in again. That may or may not happen today, depending on if I make myself motion sick again in World of Warcraft. *laughing*

I don't think it's just you or just me I honestly think it's not even just literotica either I think people are rude, abrupt and angry nowday and choose to take it out on others that they don't know. Now if that's to save the people they care about from seeing that awful side of them or because they have already push everyone away nobody will ever know.
I think that with it being as you said "other side of the computer screen." A lot of people find it easier to make people feel horrible about themselves as much as they do building people up.
It's a sad world sometimes.

 

[cgraven]

I don't think it's just you or just me I honestly think it's not even just literotica either I think people are rude, abrupt and angry nowday and choose to take it out on others that they don't know. Now if that's to save the people they care about from seeing that awful side of them or because they have already push everyone away nobody will ever know.
I think that with it being as you said "other side of the computer screen." A lot of people find it easier to make people feel horrible about themselves as much as they do building people up.
It's a sad world sometimes.

Too be honest I think it is caused by two factures that are related. The first is the anomality of social media, The second being that people do not interact with others face to face Honey. A selling point of social media was it was going to bring folks closer together

 

[Honey_Words]

Too be honest I think it is caused by two factures that are related. The first is the anomality of social media, The second being that people do not interact with others face to face Honey. A selling point of social media was it was going to bring folks closer together

I do agree, this is actually as close to social media as I get. I don't like people prying into my life and I've found with a lot of my real life friends it's brought them nothing but extra drama and I don't need or want that.

 

[HornyIsh69]

I do agree, this is actually as close to social media as I get. I don't like people prying into my life and I've found with a lot of my real life friends it's brought them nothing but extra drama and I don't need or want that.

I agree with you and CG on that too.

 

[cgraven]

Honey, Ish I like talking face to face with folks because you learn a lot about them from the way they hold themselves and wither they meet your eyes or night.

I love when I am writing with a partner when they let me know what their character is thinking and feeling for we learn so much more about them and enriches the story and gives me more to respond to.

 

[Honey_Words]

Honey, Ish I like talking face to face with folks because you learn a lot about them from the way they hold themselves and wither they meet your eyes or night.

I love when I am writing with a partner when they let me know what their character is thinking and feeling for we learn so much more about them and enriches the story and gives me more to respond to.

I have very little face to face contact with people, I work remote only need to go into the office once a month (I'm sure this is to make sure I haven't died since last month ) and see my friends for lunch once a week. This is a good thing for me as I'm not a good judge of a person's character in the flesh, I tend to trust the wrong types.

I believe I would be a needy writing partner, always needing to share my feelings or delve into theirs the more the story progresses. I get so swamped by my own solo characters sometimes it's hard to distinguish my feelings from my characters.

 

[cgraven]

Honey I spend a good deal of time talking to my writing partner on PM's sharing the plot story line and any taboos she has in writing.

 

[HornyIsh69]

I have very little face to face contact with people, I work remote only need to go into the office once a month (I'm sure this is to make sure I haven't died since last month ) and see my friends for lunch once a week. This is a good thing for me as I'm not a good judge of a person's character in the flesh, I tend to trust the wrong types.

I believe I would be a needy writing partner, always needing to share my feelings or delve into theirs the more the story progresses. I get so swamped by my own solo characters sometimes it's hard to distinguish my feelings from my characters.

Hey. I know where you're coming from so feelings mutual.

Honey I spend a good deal of time talking to my writing partner on PM's sharing the plot story line and any taboos she has in writing.

I like that too Sir CG.

 

[Honey_Words]

Honey I spend a good deal of time talking to my writing partner on PM's sharing the plot story line and any taboos she has in writing.

This would be me, but I also get clingy

I actually come up with my next idea I'm looking at attempting after watching the 80s movie Lady hawk, I just love the concept of lovers being stuck shape shifted at opposite times.

 

[cgraven]

Honey Lady Hawk is one of my favorite movies. It is a great story.

 

[HornyIsh69]

*Walks downstairs to the bar to see what was going on.* Heyyo all my favorite people.