Parting Gifts

[DVS]

Apparently as I find today it was premediated and ment to send a message of intimidation.

But the man moves too fast. Already he speaks in terms of "owning" me and "exibiting" me as "his." After one meeting and no more physical contact than finger tip stroking. I'm not well versed in the nuances of how a BDSM relationship should progress but this recent development sent up red flags.

Comments?

Yep, he's going a bit too fast. Maybe all you need to do is restate that you are a newbie and that going at a much slower speed is best. Actually, to test his desire for you, suggesting a very slow pace could tell you a lot. He might not want to "waste his time" with someone who has to be walked though steps, when he wants to get down to busness.

But, if he's willing to listen and you feel he understands that slow means slow, he might not be a lost cause. But, now that he's kind of overstepped his position, that's going to be difficult to forget.

He's experienced, you say? He makes me wonder if he's really that experienced. Any experienced Dom should be able to understand the correct methods, when it comes to newbies. Some are willing to be led and learn at a faster speed, but most want to be cautious and take it slow...learning, experiencing and savoring each new sensation as it comes.

Speed can always come later. Even race drivers go slow, for the first few laps, until they get accustomed to the lay of the track.

 

[Blushing Bottom]

My thanks to you one and all.

My head is spinning but a clear picture is forming.

 

[brioche]

My thanks to you one and all.

My head is spinning but a clear picture is forming.

Sounds to me like you're gut is telling you to run.
I would listen to it.

 

[DVS]

Sounds to me like you're gut is telling you to run.
I would listen to it.

And, what to do about the crop?

 

[Blushing Bottom]

Well I could send it to you or better yet bring it. I'm sure you'd have some use for it.

And, what to do about the crop?

 

[brioche]

And, what to do about the crop?

Tough. Keeping it might make him assume things...
I'd find a way to return it without meeting up again.

 

[FurryFury]

In my experience men always want to go "too fast." That might bother me with someone I didn't want to go "too fast," with or wasn't sure about.

For better or worse though I usually dive right in too and sometimes I want to go even faster than they do.

You do what is right for YOU okay?

*hugs*

There have been men I wasn't sure of that I did slow the pace down to see if they could maintain a good congential attitude. LOL! Few could do it so I had to show them the door. I've been treated like shit before. It wasn't "fun." It's not going to happen again.

When I say "too fast," I mean sexually. After the first one, I never wanted to be married. That wasn't my goal.

Fury

 

[Richard49]

I usally bring something like flowers

perhaps I need to rethink this

 

[Blushing Bottom]

I'm sure long-stemed roses can be quite effective...I mean nice.
Thorns removed please.

I usally bring something like flowers

perhaps I need to rethink this

 

[DVS]

I'm sure long-stemed roses can be quite effective...I mean nice.
Thorns removed please.

And, then there are those who prefer the thorns left on and the blooms removed...

 

[Blushing Bottom]

Thorns removed please, but imagine if you will a blizzard of ruby red petals as you whip her ass.

And, then there are those who prefer the thorns left on and the blooms removed...

 

[@}-}rebecca----]

And, then there are those who prefer the thorns left on and the blooms removed...

http://i28.photobucket.com/albums/c224/rebecca000/Morticia.jpg
Awwwww wasn't she the best ​

 

[Blushing Bottom]

Ah...yes Tish.

What a gal she was.

http://i28.photobucket.com/albums/c224/rebecca000/Morticia.jpg
Awwwww wasn't she the best ​

 

[Richard49]

I'm sure long-stemed roses can be quite effective...I mean nice.
Thorns removed please.

I have wondered
(this will show my sadist side)
how a dozen roses
thorns intact
would work as a
FLOGGER

 

[alice_underneath]

I have wondered
(this will show my sadist side)
how a dozen roses
thorns intact
would work as a
FLOGGER

I assume you are kidding, Richard. (At least, I hope so! )

As humor goes, that made me smile. But in reality, what you are suggesting would be a bit dangerous. And in case anyone reading this thread is tempted to try such a thing, I'd like to point out the following.

The tips of rose thorns actually break off quite easily. There are climbing roses in my garden, and an accidental brush against one of the thorns can result in a tip embedded under the skin. This is not just painful - it is sometimes quite difficult to extract the tip. Of course, without extraction, infection is a real possibility.

Just a quick safety tip from a gardener.....

Alice

 

[chris9]

I assume you are kidding, Richard. (At least, I hope so! )

As humor goes, that made me smile. But in reality, what you are suggesting would be a bit dangerous. And in case anyone reading this thread is tempted to try such a thing, I'd like to point out the following.

The tips of rose thorns actually break off quite easily. There are climbing roses in my garden, and an accidental brush against one of the thorns can result in a tip embedded under the skin. This is not just painful - it is sometimes quite difficult to extract the tip. Of course, without extraction, infection is a real possibility.

Just a quick safety tip from a gardener.....

Alice

Even knowing all that it still sounds sexy

 

[alice_underneath]

Even knowing all that it still sounds sexy

LOL! Hi, Chris.

I suppose, for a masochist, it has its appeal in fantasy....

It also makes me giggle, wondering if someone could animate this popular symbol for special effect:

 

[Richard49]

I assume you are kidding, Richard. (At least, I hope so! )


Alice

please remember Alice
you have NO RT experence
I have over 40 years of RT experence

I was some what tongue in cheek
but also remember that as a Dom who also happens to have a sadistic streak
I do not "use toys" without first finding/learning safe and sane ways to use them

now that you have both "stretched" my line to a useless point
and "killed" the humor ... I will go elsewhere

 

[alice_underneath]

please remember Alice
you have NO RT experence
I have over 40 years of RT experence

I was some what tongue in cheek
but also remember that as a Dom who also happens to have a sadistic streak
I do not "use toys" without first finding/learning safe and sane ways to use them

now that you have both "stretched" my line to a useless point
and "killed" the humor ... I will go elsewhere

I can see that I offended you, Richard, and I apologize for that. It was entirely unintentional.

I tried to make it clear that my safety tip was not addressed to you, but rather to others who might be reading.

And, just for the record, I actually do have quite a bit of "RT" experience in a garden. For the benefit of others who read this thread, I stand by my safety tip.

Alice

 

[@}-}rebecca----]

It also makes me giggle, wondering if someone could animate this popular symbol for special effect:

Jump up and down as you look at the screen Alice its working here sweety.

 

[alice_underneath]

Jump up and down as you look at the screen Alice its working here sweety.

Thanks, Rebecca.

 

[Richard49]

I can see that I offended you, Richard, and I apologize for that. It was entirely unintentional.

I tried to make it clear that my safety tip was not addressed to you, but rather to others who might be reading.

And, just for the record, I actually do have quite a bit of "RT" experience in a garden. For the benefit of others who read this thread, I stand by my safety tip.

Alice

perhaps it was unintentional
but as your post progressed
I see no remorse only the deisre to be right

and you know I was not talking about gardening

but since you bring it up
I grew up on a farm and have garden every since
if you had read my thread
you would have sen pictures of my yard/garden
including my roses ... especially my veterans rose

now i will not respond to this further

it is pointless and you have snatched both the intent and emotion of my orginal post
and made it a pissing match

 

[@}-}rebecca----]

Some of the content in this Thread is exhibiting some really bad karma.............

 

[chris9]

Some of the content in this Thread is exhibiting some really bad karma.............

Jumping up and down to see how the spanks shows some good karma though (I think so at least, don't really know anything about karma, but I got a laugh, and I hope that's good for karma, or good karma, in any case good )

 

[Evil_Geoff]

... I'm not well versed in the nuances of how a BDSM relationship should progress but this recent development sent up red flags.

Comments?

When your hind-brain sends out "What's WRONG with this picture?" messages, the fore-brain should take heed and proceed with mucho caution.

Have you communicated more? Returned the crop? Bid him fare-thee-well and kept it?

Inquiring minds want to know!