Personal Bi sexual dilema

[Nabokov]

I have gotten to the point where I feel it is important that I tell girlfriend's I am Bi from the get go. It is not about wanting to find men on the side. It is more about being sure the woman I am with wants to be with me based on who I really am.

If you are Bi, I think it is best that you tell her how you feel. If she freaks out, better now than years from now.

 

[CuriousNiceGuy]

hmm..tough for you >.<

Here's why: anyone who would use such a strong term as "disgusting" is saying that their mind is well past made up... they are describing a visceral reaction -- disgust -- over which they have no control, and they like it that way.

Actually, even though people use the word disgusting sometimes, it doesn't really portray their real feelings since they may have not thought or even talked about that issue with someone.
And even though someone may find 'disgusting' the thought of gay anal sex, that doesn't really mean that he wouldn't tolerate a bisexual or gay person.
I have a close friend that finds it disgusting,anal sex in general , but is perfectly fine with me being bi and we even discuss sexual matters together.

I really don't know what you should do with your girlfriend though. I know I'd tell mine and go on a full-scale conversation about it and how it doesn't really affect my feelings for her since I'm with her, but it's really up to you. I don't think there's a person that is important and that loves you that wouldn't accept it.
And you're probably better off without them if they don't. Why would you need people who criticize you for being yourself when there are so many other open-minded people that would support you?.. But that's just my point of view.