Personal Question.

[smoothg103rd]

No. To all that. I probably have more experience getting mind fucked by both genders than you do and I can attest that this is not the case. There are psyche studies on it too, and the major difference in the states is that men tend to have more simplistic thinking that women INTERPRET as stupidity, and women tend to have more abstract and varied thinking that men INTERPRET as... fucking insanity. Strait up. Not gonna lie. But we're socialized to think that way to compliment each other, to solve different kinds of problems that our society throws at us. Men tend to get straightforward, practical problems like, "My dryer is on fire, I need to fix it" and women tend to get more complex problems like, "I just got custody of the kids because of sexist custody laws and I need to make sure it doesn't grow up to be a psychopath while I'm shopping- oh shit where did it go. I swear to god it was right here. How fast can a fucking toddler run. Oh, there it is. Eating the dog food. I'm not buying that, I'll just kinda shove it back into the shelf with my foot. Back to the cart with you, young lady."

Men aren't used to having to think about all that shit at the same time so we don't read into shit. We tend to be more straitforward. Women tend to bombard folk with information, much of which just leaves you going, "Why are you telling me this?" And sometimes it's literally... no reason. But that doesn't mean that they're difficult to understand. They say what they mean, just loudly... and repeatedly... and verbosely. Women can hit a word count like nothing. They're just better at it. But again, not more complex, just more... just more, man. So much more.

All this is my experience. I'm sure there are some concise-ass bitches out there. And I know there are rambly men, my man is one, and I'm one, but that's not really representative of the heterosexual dating pool, so I didn't really think about it. Also I'm really tired and I ramble more when I'm tired.

I disagree women are more complex.

 

[LadyVer]

Nah you are spot on. I'm only 21, a 21 year old who never really been in love. I only know sex. So I just in a weird way I wanted to know do others fall in love with the person they had the best sex with. I fucked a lot of girls but still haven't found one I want to be with. I know when you are this young sex is supposed to be just that, sex. But I been having just sex for years and a lot of females but still didn't progress to anything else. I guess I'm just trying to paint a picture to help me put the puzzle together.

Find someone who wants to be your friend, first. Who likes you and wants to be you, with and without sex.

 

[smoothg103rd]

Find someone who wants to be your friend, first. Who likes you and wants to be you, with and without sex.

That isn't the problem. I find them, I just don't like them.

 

[LadyVer]

That isn't the problem. I find them, I just don't like them.

Well, you just aren't meeting the right ones then.

 

[smoothg103rd]

Well, you just aren't meeting the right ones then.

That's what I thought too. But now I'm starting to think it's just something wrong with me. Like I have committed issues are something. But I just see it as I'm young. Hopefully I improve with age.

 

[LadyVer]

That's what I thought too. But now I'm starting to think it's just something wrong with me. Like I have committed issues are something. But I just see it as I'm young. Hopefully I improve with age.

It's hard to commit to anything when there's doubt. Doesn't meant there's anything wrong with anyone. Age will winnow out the crap. Good luck.

 

[ElasticMermaid]

My "best sex" was not necessarily with one individual during one session. More like take elements from different encounters and combine them. So some I loved, some I didn't.

I still expect to find someone someday that I love and is almost completely fulfilling. I also sort of expect to win the lottery.

 

[smoothg103rd]

It's hard to commit to anything when there's doubt. Doesn't meant there's anything wrong with anyone. Age will winnow out the crap. Good luck.

Thanks. But when I look at it I got a good problem to have. Some men are single because they have a hard time finding women, or finding women that are interested in them. My problem is I lose interest in the woman. I'm getting laid either way so thats always a plus.

 

[LadyVer]

Thanks. But when I look at it I got a good problem to have. Some men are single because they have a hard time finding women, or finding women that are interested in them. My problem is I lose interest in the woman. I'm getting laid either way so thats always a plus.

Well, a partner who is boring, even with sex, is boring. Just saying...

 

[ElasticMermaid]

Thanks. But when I look at it I got a good problem to have. Some men are single because they have a hard time finding women, or finding women that are interested in them. My problem is I lose interest in the woman. I'm getting laid either way so thats always a plus.

You are every man I've ever loved.

 

[smoothg103rd]

Well, a partner who is boring, even with sex, is boring. Just saying...

I agree.

 

[smoothg103rd]

You are every man I've ever loved.

I'm one of a kind but I get what you are saying.

 

[smoothg103rd]

Maybe it's happen and you didn't realize it? It helps to be open to it, but sometimes it sneaks up on you and you don't realize it until it's gone. Keep your eyes and heart open.

If it happened trust me I would've knew. Open? I'm more open than a C section right now. I kinda want a girlfriend. I use to think why fuck one girl 100 times, when I could fuck 100 girls anytime. But after being with them multiple girls I want the one. I'm just not going to settle, she got to make me not want anybody else.

 

[Noor]

I have commitment problems but t hat goes right out the window when I am with the right person.

The right person is a tricky thing because they could already be around you and you don't know it because of noise. Noise of other activities and people. It needs to be the right place in your lives and the right time. In some ways you to need to clear space for it to happen.

I knew about this guy over 10 yrs before I got involved with him. I never disliked him, he always amused me, but I had other interests, I was having fun, having sex, traveling, being in relationships that I was just enjoying but going nowhere beyond friendship eventually. Then later when I might have been open to him, he was having big public drama and I didn't want to deal with that.

Eventually we were both clear of those things, and he approached me, I still wasn't really very serious, but he grew on me and I on him.

In your case, Smooth, your dramas and sex hook ups could be considered noise to the woman of your dreams, and she won't show herself or if she does, you may not notice.

 

[smoothg103rd]

That makes sense Noor. Maybe my life and surroundings is loud, but I don't want to hit the mute button for no reason. For her, yeah of course. It's just hard for me to trust people. Like I be seeing how these women be having boyfriends but still fuck me. And that be having me a little skeptical. Like what if that's my girl? Like I think I'm the most loyal person in the world. Once you earn my trust there isn't nothing I wouldn't do for you. But my trust is hard to earn. Like I wouldn't care if a girl had sex with a million people. Once your mines your mines, and I know the past is the past. But I gotta be able to trust that you wouldn't jeopardize my future. Like these girls here do the most grimiest things. Like set their bfs up, fuck around on them so it's kinda hard for me to trust easily. I just don't want to be all in, while she isn't. That's why I just fucks.

 

[Que]

Keep in mind you are, to an extent, living with in a self-selected population. The best and the brightest get out, don't they? Several of us here think you have that potential, but even you are resistant to getting out.

Think of the strength of character of those that just picked themselves up and got out. Think of what their kids are probably like. You need to be where they are.

It's like you are locked on a prison ship headed to Australia.

Having money, and education and a position of privilege doesn't make anyone a better person. But better people tend to be striving for those things. Exceptions of course are out there. There are, no doubt great people that choose to stay to improve the community. If you stay ou have to find them. People that volunteer, health care workers, etc.

I have had good luck with nurses, myself. I am fond of dental hygienists as well. Dunno why, exactly, but women drawn to those fields tend to like to serve people and make good girlfriends.

 

[smoothg103rd]

Yeah I have the mind to leave but not the will.

 

[DesEsseintes]

Keep in mind you are, to an extent, living with in a self-selected population. The best and the brightest get out, don't they? Several of us here think you have that potential, but even you are resistant to getting out.

Think of the strength of character of those that just picked themselves up and got out. Think of what their kids are probably like. You need to be where they are.
.

Wouldn't it be luvverly?

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

I hadda long talk with my grandsons, not counting the 5 year old, the others are 22, 20, and 18. I suggested they fuck girls but not get involved with any till they do all the things that matter. All girlfriends are good for is slipping a bridle over your head. At 30 youre on your way, while her reproductive clock chimes like Big Ben, and she wants to commit to some goddamned body.

 

[DesEsseintes]

I hadda long talk with my grandsons, not counting the 5 year old, the others are 22, 20, and 18. I suggested they fuck girls but not get involved with any till they do all the things that matter. All girlfriends are good for is slipping a bridle over your head. At 30 youre on your way, while her reproductive clock chimes like Big Ben, and she wants to commit to some goddamned body.

So romantic.

So what are you doing for Valentine's Day, Gramps?

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

So romantic.

So what are you doing for Valentine's Day, Gramps?

I did the romantic drill, and its wasted time and money.

 

[Que]

Wouldn't it be luvverly?

laughs

 

[Noor]

That makes sense Noor. Maybe my life and surroundings is loud, but I don't want to hit the mute button for no reason. For her, yeah of course. It's just hard for me to trust people. Like I be seeing how these women be having boyfriends but still fuck me. And that be having me a little skeptical. Like what if that's my girl? Like I think I'm the most loyal person in the world. Once you earn my trust there isn't nothing I wouldn't do for you. But my trust is hard to earn. Like I wouldn't care if a girl had sex with a million people. Once your mines your mines, and I know the past is the past. But I gotta be able to trust that you wouldn't jeopardize my future. Like these girls here do the most grimiest things. Like set their bfs up, fuck around on them so it's kinda hard for me to trust easily. I just don't want to be all in, while she isn't. That's why I just fucks.

In your situation I wouldn't fuck girls I couldn't trust, remember any future kids you have are going to be 1/2 theirs too.

 

[smoothg103rd]

In your situation I wouldn't fuck girls I couldn't trust, remember any future kids you have are going to be 1/2 theirs too.

Nah I use protection now Noor. If I have another babymother it's going to be by someone I love and care for you. I'm done with having kids by someone I grow to dislike. I'm getting older and I'm going to start proving that by making smarter decisions.

 

[dolf]

the best sex I ever had? it's pretty intense stuff. tightrope walking.

do I love him? god yes. forever and always. and he loves me. but... there's the line between love and in love. I think we both have moments of confusion there, where we think we might be. but thinking on it too hard is pointless. it's just there. love.

at some point one of us is bound to move on. we have love but, deep down, we both want a future. it won't stop either of us loving, but I can't imagine it not wounding us both too. I get a little sad thinking on it, but that doesn't detract from what we have.