Pleasing My Girl

[Mr.L.J.M]

I have never really been a big fan of going down on girls. with all my preavious sexual partners i would hardly ever do it, just never appealed to me. however with my girl now i truly fantisise about going down on her.
I do it often; however my problem is i dont think i am doing it right and giving her the real pleasure she deserves. i have never brought her to orgasim orally as she often stops me (sometimes she wont even let me go down at all) i feel horrible. Our sex life is truly amazing to say the least but im worried i cant give her what she gives me orally.

tips? suggestions? anyone?
thanks

 

[miss_kate]

Yum

All your girl needs is a little encouragement. Sometimes the idea of femme oral sex is off putting because so many males only do it because they think that they are 'supposed to'.

One day, given the opportunity... you might even get to see how she does it!

 

[Quoll]

Mr.L.J.M, Welcome to Lit.
First the standard answer.
Talk to her, ask her why she wants you to stop, why she does not want you to eat her. The answers to this could give you the clues you need.

Now, my feelings about going down on my partner, make her believe that this is the place that you want to spend the rest of your life. I don`t mean fake it, I mean throw yourself into it, love her with your mouth, your tongue, your hands and your voice.
Let her know how much it turns you on to be eating her. don`t focus to much on technique, for me this takes away pleasure for both of us, be aware of how her body moves, what noises she makes, if she arches up to meet you, you are doing great, when she moans, do it again.
Her clit is not all there is, down there, so love every bit of her before making the journey upwards.
Some women can take a long time to come, whether it be oral or not, however if you have spent a long time teasing and pleasing her, bringing her close to orgasm with your fingers or toys or whatever, (on occasion my wife will play with her clit and bring herself close to orgasm) then finish with your tongue.
There are some techniques you will hear about like the alphabet thing, it probably works quite well, I prefer to know exactly what sets her off, that way I can bring her to the edge many many times and be sure of a tremendous orgasm.
But you do need to know what she likes, whether she likes it hard or soft on her clit, how she likes it licked or flicked.
A quiet yes can keep you on track when she is approaching her climax, this is not a good time to change your rhythm.
No matter how many ideas you get, communication is always the key.
Good Luck.

 

[SweetErika]

Ummm yeah...what he ^ said.

As I'm sure you know, a lot of women are self-conscious, so in addition to showing her, tell her how much you love her taste, feel, and scent. Also, we know it can be painful and tiring after awhile, so make sure you're in a comfortable position and reassure her you're feeling fine so she can relax.

I'm one of those women who gets oh so close, but can't quite orgasm from oral (not yet at least), so don't assume you're doing something wrong or inadequate. Doing so tends to put pressure on us, which blows all chance of an orgasm. Listen and feel her reactions, ask for feedback, and don't be afraid to try new things. I would caution against being jumpy though... don't try so many moves in quick succession that she can't really feel and enjoy what you're doing. And as Quoll mentioned, when you find something she really responds to, it's not a good time to try something else for variety. One thing I will say for the alphabet technique is that it is a good way to learn what some of her favorite moves and spots are...if she goes crazy over 'Z', you can bet other side-to-side moves will be good, and it's easy to remember.

If you haven't done so already, check out The Blank Manual sticky at the top of this forum...it's packed with fantastic techniques, tricks, and tips on giving oral.

 

[seohdwm46]

When I was young and inexperienced I used to think eating pussy was like "paint the fence" then as I got a little older it was more like "wax on...wax off". Then one day I learned to listen to the sounds the woman was making while I was maiking love to her with my tongue. One can tell what feels good to her by the sounds she makes or her breathing. Suck on each lip individually. Lick alongside the clit, many times the clit is just to sensative for direct pressure. Use your fingers as well. Not like you are pumping for oil, but like you are exploring her inner soul. Massage her vagina. Turn your fingers back towards you once inside her, like you are trying to touch the back of her clit. Make slow rotating strokes to that wall. You will find her G-spot. Once you do, you will know it. She ma feel like she has to pee, (have her pee before playing is a good idea) but that is simply the pressure on the g-spot. Tell her to go with the feeling. Remember, men heat up like a microwave and women heat up like a crock pot, so don't go at it like she is supposed to cum in seconds. Relish it like the fine meal that it is. Take your time. This last part is not for every woman, some like it some don't. Take a finger and put a little pressure on her asshole. If she stops moving or slaps you along the head, do not procede with this step. If she moans louder or seems receptive, continue with caution...it could still be a trap. SLOWLY insert a wet finger into her ass. Allow her to realx. Read the sounds she makes and go from there. Some like it removed when they cum, others like to clamp down on it when they come.... if you pull it out and they ask you where the hell it went... you have yet another tool in your arsenal of pleasure to please her with. Seriously tho, some women feel like they are going to take too long and simply ask the man to stop. Or they may feel insecure about their scent or taste as the lady above said. Let her know you enjoy doing it, and that you love all things about her...her taste, aroma, the feel of her pussy on your tongue and face. Put her at ease, make her comfortable. If all else fails....use
"wax on wax off" no "paint the fence"

 

[HoldenMcCrank]

just in case try this

If while you are goiing down on your lady friend you feel as thought things are not going to well try this. Write the alphabet with your tongue. Use the Capital letters first and do it lightly then the lower case. Then as you progress you can change things up and add numbers and puncutation marks.

Holden