Question for bisexuals (women specifically)

[Nirvanadragones]

To put it boldly...

There is nothing like lesbian energy… I almost exclusively fall in love with (and am attracted to) dykes. I adore and worship the essence of lesbian. It verges on reverence...

Someone referred to lesbians being “emotional unstable” Perhaps in your subjective experience which you are entitled to, but goodness, what a generalisation! I mentioned in a post a while back that I view bisexuals as having complicated needs and I got burnt for that comment… Although in my subjective experience that has been the case. I prefer dykes who know who they are (and who they aren’t) and what they want. (and what they don’t)

In terms of past relationships, I have had beautiful long terms relationships with lesbians. (Never with bi’s. )Ultimately it is about who you are with, and about the connection and how you relate to each other.

P.S. Please - No one to take offence to my usage of the word dyke. It’s an honorary title… term of endearment - not an overly complicated label

 

[Guest]

ok i dont know what i am doing back here

There is nothing like lesbian energy… I almost exclusively fall in love with (and am attracted to) dykes. I adore and worship the essence of lesbian. It verges on reverence...

Someone referred to lesbians being “emotional unstable” Perhaps in your subjective experience which you are entitled to, but goodness, what a generalisation! I mentioned in a post a while back that I view bisexuals as having complicated needs and I got burnt for that comment… Although in my subjective experience that has been the case. I prefer dykes who know who they are (and who they aren’t) and what they want. (and what they don’t)

In terms of past relationships, I have had beautiful long terms relationships with lesbians. (Never with bi’s. )Ultimately it is about who you are with, and about the connection and how you relate to each other.

P.S. Please - No one to take offence to my usage of the word dyke. It’s an honorary title… term of endearment - not an overly complicated label

You are a Honey and i want to give you my

 

[Wyldfire]

There is nothing like lesbian energy… I almost exclusively fall in love with (and am attracted to) dykes. I adore and worship the essence of lesbian. It verges on reverence...

Someone referred to lesbians being “emotional unstable” Perhaps in your subjective experience which you are entitled to, but goodness, what a generalisation! I mentioned in a post a while back that I view bisexuals as having complicated needs and I got burnt for that comment… Although in my subjective experience that has been the case. I prefer dykes who know who they are (and who they aren’t) and what they want. (and what they don’t)

In terms of past relationships, I have had beautiful long terms relationships with lesbians. (Never with bi’s. )Ultimately it is about who you are with, and about the connection and how you relate to each other.

P.S. Please - No one to take offence to my usage of the word dyke. It’s an honorary title… term of endearment - not an overly complicated label

Not burnin on this, oki? But there is an energy stronger then Lesbian energy an tha's HUMAN energy.

As ta yer statement of complicated needs I don see how a bi could be more complicated then any other preference. I mean hell dick or no dick I love ya. Can't get much less complicated then tha can it? Please understand tha this isn't meant ta be a nasty reply ta ya. I don mean it ta be.

Now in a bad attempt ta lighten th mood (Please no one take offense ta this) Wha does a lesbian bring with her on a second date? A suitcase.

 

[gypsywitch]

Most every lesbian I know is emotional unstable. In all honesty, I sometimes wonder if lesbianism isn't genetically linked to neurological problems.

so many colors in the rainbow dear

some "hate" the opposite sex and some just don't

its more about your ECH factor

viewing boy on boy is kind of a turn off for me but I don't dislike gays

boys are fun to mess wit'

 

[SwallowingSusan]

All these responses are great. I don't know if I am considered bi only because I have never been with another woman, but that's all I think about

 

[neonflux]

Re: Lesbians

Am a "bi-dyke," very queer identified. Like Nirvana strongly attracted to lesbian energy of all types, high femme, elegant butch, soft butch/androgynous type. There is something tremendously freeing about being with another woman who has no emotional/physical need for men and so knows herself and claims her sexuality in a very different way than do most other women.

After almost 15 years of only being with a woman (dyke), I can say that my own sense of myself changed radically over that period of time (even though I came out to myself as bi at age 12 and to others at age 16). I think this is because for me, when I've been involved with men, particularly when I was younger, there were social strictures that it was very hard to escape - patterns that it was too easy to fall into. Along the same vein, I do have other bi-dyke identifed friends who have the same energy as my lesbian friends - this is even true among those who may be involved with men for long periods of time... Hmmmmm, perhaps the radical right is correct after all and lesbianism IS catching....

Re: man-hating lesbians... In my own experience, when I compare talk about men among my women-identified women friends to that among my primarily hetero friends, I think that the women-identified women actually like men more - perhaps again because of the freedom from emotional dependence on them which could result in greater objectivity???

Re: being unbalanced - aren't there tons of unbalanced folks in every social group and among people of all sexual/affectional orientations?

Re: how my dyke friends view my bi-ness. This really wasn't a problem when I was with my ex as they never saw me with a man. When I was in a 7-year relationship with a man, i exiled myself from my community. Now that I am dating again, both women and men, I am much more likely to talk about this with heterosexual and gay/bi male friends (who are all, essentially horndogs, LOL, another stereotype refered to) than with my lesbian friends, I think because I am afraid of how I will be perceived, of being accused of again accessing heterosexual privilege (I must admit that the men I am dating are far better off economically than the women, regardless of race and even though all are intelligent), of losing my place in my women's community... I have mentioned to several dyke friends that I am dating both men and women, but I am careful to share details only about the women...

Am not sure if the above is my baggage or theirs. However, had some bad experiences with a couple (and only a couple) of women I worked with years ago as part of DYKE TV - didn't like not only bi but trans women and wanted to kick out a best friend who was transitioning from female-to-male. Therefore, I am assuming that some of it is their thing, some is mine. What is interesting is the number of dykes (small but significant) who have admitted to me on the sly that they either do occaionally have sex with men or have thought about it...

Think that's it, sorry if I offended anyone - not meaning to make broad statements about any group, just sharing my experiences.

~ J

 

[Avery_Chisholm]

i often laugh hysterically at the lesbians' i encountered at some gay establishments me and my friends' frequent, the ones who think because your bi well you don't exist because you can't make a decision yadda yadda and the ones' that have to let every single person on the planet know they are a lesbian like fuck who gives a fuck big deal

 

[cpicass0]

I am a lesbian, and am told that I am very easy going. I have no problem with bi women or men in any way. (My roommates are men) I actually find men easier to be around than most lesbians I know. (This is only my experience talking) I find a lot of lesbians are hard to approach (in public situations), but this may be my confidence level. It's almost like a little force field that a lot of women who identify as lesbians wear out in public. Perhaps this is because of discrimination they have experienced in the past. I had a really easy time coming out and and am immersed in a gay and very accepting community, I guess I have been lucky.

I'm rambling now, but I guess what I meant to say is that I for one am absolutely fine with bi women. The best relationships, in my opinion, start with knowing the person, not with their sexual identity.

 

[neonflux]

I'm rambling now, but I guess what I meant to say is that I for one am absolutely fine with bi women. The best relationships, in my opinion, start with knowing the person, not with their sexual identity.

P.S., love the Lea DeLaria quote in your sig LOL

 

[Bi_sensual]

really good thread

thanks for a really interesting thread
x
BiS

 

[Jaxbi]

As a bi woman, I have no problem with lesbians, and haven't really had any problems with lesbians having a problem with me.

I've got the "You just can't make a decision, you bi's", or "Just want to have your cake and eat it too" from straight people mostly! Sometimes in fun, sometimes not. Gay male friends of mine used to jokingly poke fun at me - but that was all in jest.

The relationship question: I think it goes for any one entering into a relationship with someone else. We are all attracted to other people, pre, and sometimes during, relationships with others - straight, gay or lesbian, or bisexual. It's not just us bi-sexuals that experience attraction to others. I'm currently in a relationship with another bi sexual woman, who I love with every part of me, and wouldn't act on any attractions to ANYONE whilst I'm with her (and if that's forever, then thats forever). But we are both attracted to men as well, however, it does not come into our relationship.

So, whilst I understand why it would be asked, the same could be asked of any lesbian, gay male, bisexual male or female, or heterosexual person entering into a relationship with anyone!

I think the question could arise out of unconscious prejudice, or whatever, about bisexuals. Eg: that bisexuals need both a man and a woman to be satisfied, that we're promiscous, unfaithful, undecided. Which is the same as people who do not share your sexual orientation don't quite understand what it is like to be you - whatever you are.

Jax

 

[PredatorSmile]

Well, I considered myself to be a girls-only kind of person, until I met my current guy. The gals I knew from the GLBT Alliance at my old school dropped me.

 

[BitterIchor]

Well, I considered myself to be a girls-only kind of person, until I met my current guy. The gals I knew from the GLBT Alliance at my old school dropped me.

That is very lame. Those kind of GLBT fanatics ruins it for the rest of us.

 

[PredatorSmile]

That is very lame. Those kind of GLBT fanatics ruins it for the rest of us.

Yeah, I was heckled and harassed on campus, and I had to keep my mouth shut. I ended up leaving the Alliance, and I was its VP ! The president, an openly gay student supported me ( he always fancied straight-looking macho jocks and couldn't blame me for liking one) but there was only so much he could do. I moved on with my life.