Question for guys and help from Gals

[sba]

I have had a male friend for years who has visited me every 6 months or so for tea or a quick drink.
We have been"just friends" since 4 years ago and keep sending eachother emails.
Since a few weeks ago i have sent him emails with contents a little bit more hotter than he expected,like photos of me in short skirts and so on.
He knows very little about my ex boyfriends and maney other things i have done,i know this since i always act like a virgin who has never seen a cock in her life and i know that he is and likes that type too.
He is 28 and very cute,but due to my lonely situation now,i like to turn up the heat on him and eventualy bed him.
What my question is
To: girls
Can i hide my sexual past like what can i do to hide that it is my first blow job and anal if that ever came to doing?(i want tried and tested formulas,since i know what i should do but want it researched first to be sure)
To:guys
Can you tell how maney times a girl has given a blow job or even has had an anal?

I talk of anal since i know that might be what he like best,since a girl who used to go out with him complained of it.
What could i do to hide the fact that i could take him in easy? or even make it hard for him to enter?
I don't want to cheat him,what i want is dirty sex with him for a while,but want to keep him thinking the same way as he is now after we finish and probably never do it again after!

Could i pull this off?
My ex used to say,"i know how maney blow jobs a girl has ever given by the way she takes me in her mouth" Is he right???
I can not recall what i did first time around to make me an amature then and a pro now(i wish)!

So HELP!

 

[LukkyKnight]

So you want to start the new level of this relationship with deception? Do you want a guy who's easily duped, or what? Everybody has a past, and most guys I know would be pleased to get a blowjob from somebody who knows what she's (or he's) doing.

 

[tanyachrs]

Practice saying "wow, you make me so hot it all just comes naturally" with a straight face.

 

[Eilan]

So you want to start the new level of this relationship with deception?

My thoughts exactly.

 

[subwannabe]

Are you sure you aren't just a troll? The following two statemtents don't make sense to me:


I always act like a virgin who has never seen a cock in her life and i know that he is and likes that type too.

I talk of anal since i know that might be what he like best,since a girl who used to go out with him complained of it.

 

[sba]

It was not literal!
Act a virgin!
Troll? get a life!
Got your pm too pretty discusting!

 

[webber1998]

Seems to me if you have know each other for 4 years then he would at LEAST have an idea that you aren't virgin like.

I think you could do it though, if you really needed to.

1) When he goes to fuck you, pretend his cock has thorns on it.

2) When you got to suck his cock, pretend that it is covered with ants.

3) When he wants to fuck your ass, clench your cheeks together until he squeals.

 

[FuckinRedneck]

Let me get this straight...

He is experienced and "worldly" about sex but he doesn't like girls that are too? If that's the case he's a dick and this will go nowhere.

As to the other questions just don't say much. Tell him you're just naturally good in the sack.

 

[sba]

As far as he knows,i have had two guys ever!
ANTS?
Thanks any how!

 

[webber1998]

As far as he knows,i have had two guys ever!
ANTS?
Thanks any how!

I was suggesting to use your imagination.

 

[sba]

I know! thanks all the same

 

[Eilan]

When he wants to fuck your ass, clench your cheeks together until he squeals.

I'm gonna make you squeal like a pig!

Now I have "Dueling Banjos" going through my head. Thanks a lot.

 

[SweetErika]

As far as he knows,i have had two guys ever!
ANTS?
Thanks any how!

Then he knows you're not a virgin, and there's no point in trying to pretend you are.

Ask him if he'd ever be interested in having a fuck buddy/friend with benefits. If he is, volunteer for the position.

Otherwise, place an ad for the same. I'm sure you'll get plenty of responses from men who are looking for no-strings-attached sex.

If you're planning on being dishonest with this guy, you don't deserve to call him a friend. Friendship is based on mutual honesty and respect. People who are worth fucking don't want partners who don't know what the hell they're doing, so if he's like that, I'm willing to bet he's really lousy in bed and you won't enjoy yourself anyway.

ETA: Aren't you the woman who was in an abusive relationship a few weeks ago? If so, you need to take some time to get your head on straight. Your "loneliness" is called a "rebound feeling/reaction," and it's very stupid to act on that. You said you were 19; take time to get to know yourself, figure out how you'll avoid abusive partners in the future, and then when everything's worked out, think about sex and dating other people.

 

[rosebud5446]

just because someone has only had sex with a couple different people by no means, means that they don't know what they're doing. if someone is in a openly communicating sexual relationship... blah i just don't get it... let's put it this way, when i got my current boyfriend, i had no idea how to give a blow job, now i'm great at it and do it all the time. it only takes one person. as for the anal thing i doubt he'll notice unless you have a stovepipe ass, in which case i suggest you clinch.

 

[SesameStreet]

If you're planning on being dishonest with this guy, you don't deserve to call him a friend. Friendship is based on mutual honesty and respect.

DITTO

 

[Pepsico]

You could try honesty, maybe he'd find it a turn on that you have experience where perhaps he hasn't?

And, if he doesn't find it hot? Well... is he really gonna be that much fun to bed if he doesn't find it hot? :/

 

[Succulent-one]

Be yourself. If he can't handle it, you don't need him in your life. Relationships need acceptance.

 

[BreeCarter]

I have had a male friend for years who has visited me every 6 months or so for tea or a quick drink.
We have been"just friends" since 4 years ago and keep sending eachother emails.
Since a few weeks ago i have sent him emails with contents a little bit more hotter than he expected,like photos of me in short skirts and so on.
He knows very little about my ex boyfriends and maney other things i have done,i know this since i always act like a virgin who has never seen a cock in her life and i know that he is and likes that type too.
He is 28 and very cute,but due to my lonely situation now,i like to turn up the heat on him and eventualy bed him.
What my question is
To: girls
Can i hide my sexual past like what can i do to hide that it is my first blow job and anal if that ever came to doing?(i want tried and tested formulas,since i know what i should do but want it researched first to be sure)
To:guys
Can you tell how maney times a girl has given a blow job or even has had an anal?

I talk of anal since i know that might be what he like best,since a girl who used to go out with him complained of it.
What could i do to hide the fact that i could take him in easy? or even make it hard for him to enter?
I don't want to cheat him,what i want is dirty sex with him for a while,but want to keep him thinking the same way as he is now after we finish and probably never do it again after!

Could i pull this off?
My ex used to say,"i know how maney blow jobs a girl has ever given by the way she takes me in her mouth" Is he right???
I can not recall what i did first time around to make me an amature then and a pro now(i wish)!

So HELP!

um, no. just no.

 

[M's girl]

SBA, you must be kidding. You ask for advice (for those who are interested chack out previous posts by SBA), we give it to you and you turn around and do the opposite. Fine. Your decision. But this question is too damn stupid. I think you know it too. Sounds like GB material to me.

If you seek attention like this you have a far better chance at the GB!

 

[sba]

How can it be stupid? my question is not of morality or what is good or who is bad!
My question was can a guy know that i am not a near virgin and what can be done about it! thats it!
I know i am not a friend if i do this or that or he is a user if he done this or that!
Can a guy tell?
What is a tried and tested way?
If any good posters want to keep to this question then fine,but if you want to go into it's morality and ethics then non of should be posting things about dildos or dog sex here!
Is it wrong to have a one night stand with a guy you have known for years? or is it better to do it with a total stranger who god knows what diseases he has or not!
After keeping up to what he thinks of you,then whats wrong? we could still continue as friends in the same(for him) way as before,but only better!
Now maney posters here instead of a quick answer,want to dig deep into a post to find out things that are wrong with it! i can edit it and know what i have written,but why? to keep 13% purity test guy on my side or confused readers become more confused?
Please anyone who could give advice pm me,lets close this thread.
Has anyone given the purity guy a purity test?

 

[Starbuck69]

Just like the other post said, just be your self and be honest, and there is no need to talk about your past boyfriends any ways, and as far as what you like just let him know that you want to try it with him and let it go from there.

If you need to lie then its not worth it, and it will only lead to problems later, because lie is the worst, I think so any ways.

 

[M's girl]

How can it be stupid?

IMO it is because you are in an awkward position at this moment and trying to find out what you can get away with to have yourself a new lousy relationship. It will be based on lies and you are setting yourself up for failure big time again!

If that's what you persue, by all means, go ahead...

 

[sba]

I won't go ahead without having answers to keep up to what he thinks of me first!
If i go ahead and do it without knowing what to do,then he might know that i am not little virgin he has always thought of!

I have come to answers myself,by just saying no to anal and bj could be a way!
I know it works since thats what every near virgin girl says! not?

 

[M's girl]

I won't go ahead without having answers to keep up to what he thinks of me first!
If i go ahead and do it without knowing what to do,then he might know that i am not little virgin he has always thought of!

So, basically, what you are saying is that you are willing to lie to reel him in? That's what I mean by saying you are setting yourself up for failing. You might get away with it in the beginning, sure. How long? Depends on how good an actress you are.

But then what? Your relationship will get more serious and last longer. You start having mutual friends (including some of yours) and they know about you. Someone will say something at some point that will have him doubt if you have been honest. If he never asks (afraid of the answers and the lies you might have told him) he will always keep wondering and start to doubt you in other situations. You see, it's not about the sex. This is about dishonesty. And it will backfire big time!

But, like I said: have it your way. Sure, you can pull off the virgin, innocent girl trick. It's easy. I am 43, have had many lovers/relationships and could pull it off with an ignorant new partner (one who would be willing to believe I never had sex at 43, much easier if I were younger). It would be a game I could play. But if it worked I would not think very highly of the new partner who would believe me. What would that say about him?

Whichever way you flip it. It's wrong.

 

[Mazuri]

The only thing that confuses me is "near virgin." There is no such thing as a "near virgin." You either are, or you're not. One really good partner can teach a lot and a ton of lousy ones can leave you wondering which tab goes in which slot.

"Close" only works for hand grenades and horsehoes after all