Well, I did preface my statement by pointing out it was my bias. Call it my preference, based on my own experience. You're saying that I'm poo pooing lesbians who have kink for sucking off cocks, and I'm simply saying the lesbians I've known have no interest in doing so. The ones who have identify themselves as being bi. Nothing wrong with that, and they're certainly entitled to their 'kink's whatever they might be. The fact that I wouldn't bother getting involved with someone who has that 'kink' is no different from my preference not to get involved with someone who's into 'scat'. Just not my thing.
I agree, there seems to be a trend among the younger crowd to assume these labels because it's fashionable to be "gay", or "lesbian" in our current culture. Some might even dip their toes into the lifestyle, but few will jump in with both feet and live the life.
And that is your preference. To some, it is a 'kink'.
I think a little context for my bias might help explain why I do make a distinction between lesbians and bisexuals. When it first became evident to me that I was "different", it was during an era when being different could cost you a job, lead to family and friends shunning you, etc. You were obliged to hide what you were, and lived in constant fear of being discovered and having to deal with the repercussions. I knew a number of women who escaped the backlash associated with their homosexuality by claiming they weren't really lesbians; these were the so-called bisexuals. The friend I referred to earlier was one who saw nothing wrong with being married and having flings on the side because in her mind, her bisexual urges didn't make her a lesbian.
Gloriann, I'm sorry your thread has been so hijacked. I am bi, and perfectly content to define myself that way. Out of the long bellcurve of sexuality, I've known plenty of lesbians who have never been interested in cock for one or the other reason. I've known lesbians who have made an exception once or twice. I've known bigirls who end up in permanent relationships with a women, and I've known two seperatist lesbians who have partners that made the FTM gender switch and stayed with them. (One of whom's family said; "We knew this lesbian thing was just a phase!" as if the male she was now with wasn't the very same person that was female before the surgery!)
And your comment about wanting to know if your partner is bisexual, or if she has a kink that way? Completely fair. I'm really butch, and women figure I can only be a dyke, and I can't be that dishonest. Yes, it makes women walk away, but the women who do go with me don't do so because I've fooled them.
To add to your roster though, Safe_Bet is 100% lesbian
Good thing for me!Ayuh, I am still queer as can be and YOU are still damn cute... just saying...
Dude, she isn't really about what you want, yanno-- it's about what she wants.
The "lesbian cocksucking" I was referring to involves dildos. Plenty of lesbians engage in that. That's what the Nina Hartley article was about, too. I'm sure it's on the net somewhere, I originally saw it in On Our Backs MANY years ago.
Like I said, been there, done that. 
Oh, I dug what you were saying.
It's when a chick self describes herself as a lesbian AND likes to suck a man's cock that I take issue. You can't have it both ways... UNLESS you are Bi.
les·bi·an (lzb--n) n.: A woman whose sexual orientation is to other women.
bi·sex·u·al (b-sksh-l) n.: A person whose sexual orientation is to persons of either sex.
Seems pretty clear to me.
