Question re forced orgasms

[LegsOpenedWide]

Just curious .... if someone is a 'one and done' type usually, and someone is wanting to try out forced orgasms on them - how do they do it? Do they just keep going and no. 2 and subsequent will come eventually?? What if the person feels absolutely no desire after their first and loses all interest?
Sorry if it's a dumb question. Just curious!

 

[SpunThings]

Just curious .... if someone is a 'one and done' type usually, and someone is wanting to try out forced orgasms on them - how do they do it? Do they just keep going and no. 2 and subsequent will come eventually?? What if the person feels absolutely no desire after their first and loses all interest?
Sorry if it's a dumb question. Just curious!

You say, "Hey can we try this? Can I keep going after you've orgasmed? How will you signal to me that you want to stop? (Safeword)".

Basically the answer is negotiation. The receiver of this activity will either be willing to try or not.

I imagine it would be painful and/or very uncomfortable. Some people like that kind of play.

 

[Ambro1409]

You say, "Hey can we try this? Can I keep going after you've orgasmed? How will you signal to me that you want to stop? (Safeword)".

Basically the answer is negotiation. The receiver of this activity will either be willing to try or not.

I imagine it would be painful and/or very uncomfortable. Some people like that kind of play.

Exactly this. Some girls are "one and done" because they don't know any better.. others are "one and done" because it hurts like hell to keep going. If she's on board with trying you just gotta figure out which one she is. Safewords are the way to do it.

Forced orgasms are really hot, but not every girl can handle constant stimulation immediately following an orgasm. Most need a "come down" period where for a few seconds you're providing almost zero stimulation.

Good luck! You might open up a whole new world for her. Or you might just have to realize it's a pipe dream and her body can't handle it.

 

[curiousgranny]

Here is my take on the subject....

For years I was a one and done girl

Then one night hubby convinced me to let him keep fingering and licking me ,,,

All I can say is WOW I lose count most nights

 

[Primalex]

Just curious .... if someone is a 'one and done' type usually, and someone is wanting to try out forced orgasms on them - how do they do it? Do they just keep going and no. 2 and subsequent will come eventually?? What if the person feels absolutely no desire after their first and loses all interest?
Sorry if it's a dumb question. Just curious!

It's not as dumb as you think, because safewording out of something that is called 'forced' is indeed fairly moronic in my opinion, while others will strongly disagree.

The big question how safe, sane and consensual play needs to be.

You should ask your partner what he means with 'forced'.

For me it would mean that I set a time frame where I'm allowed to do whatever I think is necessary to make you cum and it's not over before the time is up or I'm satisfied, no matter what you say. And you would have to consent to this before.

 

[amofiga]

"Forcing" more than one orgasm can require extra time. You have to be willing to devote the time if necessary. Some women can cum 2-3-4-times in rapid succession and then it's really done. Others may have one but given a reasonable rest, will cum again.

Frankly, for those who are more one and done, I prefer edging and making them hold off till their crazy and then watch them go crazy when you finally let them over the edge.

 

[lydia_kitty]

It is very personal. I am one and done, but if a strong vibrator is involved I can cum multiple times. Like anything else in sex, having a conversation beforehand about expectations and what they're comfortable with is the best way to handle your question.

 

[ARoseSoSweet]

"Forcing" more than one orgasm can require extra time. You have to be willing to devote the time if necessary. Some women can cum 2-3-4-times in rapid succession and then it's really done. Others may have one but given a reasonable rest, will cum again.

Frankly, for those who are more one and done, I prefer edging and making them hold off till their crazy and then watch them go crazy when you finally let them over the edge.

I can cum multiple times but with that said, I am also given forced orgasms. My Maestro likes to edge me and then stop. As he controls my orgasms, he is within his right. I have to ask permission to cum and he will tell me no, which just gives me a bigger orgasm when he finally tells me to cum. And usually its not, you can come whenever you want, its cum now!

 

[LegsOpenedWide]

"Forcing" more than one orgasm can require extra time. You have to be willing to devote the time if necessary. Some women can cum 2-3-4-times in rapid succession and then it's really done. Others may have one but given a reasonable rest, will cum again.

Frankly, for those who are more one and done, I prefer edging and making them hold off till their crazy and then watch them go crazy when you finally let them over the edge.

would you edge and then let them orgasm in that session? Or would you take them to the edge and then just stop until next play time?

 

[Ambro1409]

would you edge and then let them orgasm in that session? Or would you take them to the edge and then just stop until next play time?

That's just cruel! Hahaha

To each their own, but I could never do that. I love edging her over and over until she's begging and crying for it.. and then I just have to give it to her. Because it's just not fair to deny her that until next play session.

Of course, her orgasm is what gets me off. So I must have it either way.

 

[newhere2learn]

Here is my take on the subject....

For years I was a one and done girl

Then one night hubby convinced me to let him keep fingering and licking me ,,,

All I can say is WOW I lose count most nights

My ex was like this. 6 months in she finally let me continue.

After that, she wanted multiple every time

 

[MissCautious]

I'm so envious of those women who can have multiples. I completely lose interest after my one and only and despite trying and trying, subsequent ones seem to evade me

 

[gluttonne]

It's not as dumb as you think, because safewording out of something that is called 'forced' is indeed fairly moronic in my opinion, while others will strongly disagree.

The big question how safe, sane and consensual play needs to be.

You should ask your partner what he means with 'forced'.

For me it would mean that I set a time frame where I'm allowed to do whatever I think is necessary to make you cum and it's not over before the time is up or I'm satisfied, no matter what you say. And you would have to consent to this before.

Yep, this. I remember a partner doing something to provoke me, and I told her that her "punishment" was that I was going to make her cum until she cried like a little baby. And so I did.

If you care about your partner, pay attention and communicate well, you probably don't need to use safewords or other mechanisms because you know each other's
thresholds and limits and when press them you press them with a purpose.

It's all about communication, trust and mutual respect. If you have that, both parties can really explore a wide range of sexual stimuli that may have been previously inaccessible. And that's why we're all here, right?

 

[newhere2learn]

I'm so envious of those women who can have multiples. I completely lose interest after my one and only and despite trying and trying, subsequent ones seem to evade me

Exactly how my wife is. After she's cum, zero sex drive and touching makes her angry.

My ex, whilst she was vanilla in comparison.... Once spent 6 or 7 hours, in a hotel room just making her cum and cum, and cum.

 

[heatseekher2]

To me if the person feels no desire after the first orgasm there's no point in continuing. The concept from my own perspective is to bring/illicit prolonged pleasure, if the receiver isn't feeling that then its not about causing them discomfort for the sake of it.

OP you mentioned 'no desire', in such a case ( and without a specific reference to exactly how you would be feeling ) i would suggest that the key would be to create a growing/enhanced desire; But not by iver stimulating the obvious genital/sensitive areas, but ramping up in other ways to rekindle a 'need' and interest in continuing. Getting inside the mind, stimulating other senses. Basically allowing a slight cooling off of clit/vag but at the same time raising/keeping arousal high.

If its a pain issue, that's a different matter.

A 'one and out' could be down to so many things, the trick for the 'giver' is to read/understand why and use other means so that the receiver is happy to carry on. A long time ago I knew someone that was a one and out, purely because she struggled to 'get there' as/when she did it was such a relief that her mind closed off and she didn't want or expect more and she expected the next to hurt or be painful in some way. It was a total mental thing, because by unfocusing on the obvious it was possible to extend her interest in playing and suddenly she'd come a 2nd time. After a while her mind allowed her to enjoy the additional sensations and she was able to cum a few times in a session.

My wife is lucky enough to enjoy various orgasms or minigasms ( non pussy) - depending on her state of mind/play, so its relatively easy to take the focus away from her pussy for a rest and give/help her find another form of orgasm before 'going back there'.

We have a couple of hitachi's and a f/machine, truth be told its easy to make her cum repeatedly using either/both of those for example, but to my mind that's not quite the point. I don't want to break her, i want her to enjoy and savour a play session. Hence in my book the need for variation & pacing.

just my 2 penneth.....
have fun.
H

 

[Collar_N_Cuffs]

I missed this originally.

Just curious .... if someone is a 'one and done' type usually, and someone is wanting to try out forced orgasms on them - how do they do it?

Generally a device of some type is used on the clit, a Hitachi wand works wonders. You just can't say no to it

Do they just keep going and no. 2 and subsequent will come eventually??

Pretty much. The orgasm feels different, usually, but you can't deny it, it will happen for most people.

What if the person feels absolutely no desire after their first and loses all interest?

Well, it's more of a mechanical orgasm, if that makes sense. Desire has nothing to do with it a lot of times, you just get off. It can be a bit painful or strange feeling, but it happens anyway, at least with a Hitchi on your clit. Now, if somebody is just sawing their cock or a dildo or something in and out of you and your not feeling anything, just go ahead and yawn. It's not going to happen

 

[andylarge]

Just curious .... if someone is a 'one and done' type usually, and someone is wanting to try out forced orgasms on them - how do they do it? Do they just keep going and no. 2 and subsequent will come eventually?? What if the person feels absolutely no desire after their first and loses all interest?
Sorry if it's a dumb question. Just curious!

This a question of technique, continuing gently while letting the first orgasm subside, though not coming down completely, and bringing the receiver back up full orgasm.

Patients is the key knowing when to restart full on stimulation, forced!? umm I consider it giving of my best, knowing my partner says no while meaning yes age is diminishing her frequent desire, but no stopping when she is up for a good night.

 

[LegsOpenedWide]

To me if the person feels no desire after the first orgasm there's no point in continuing. The concept from my own perspective is to bring/illicit prolonged pleasure, if the receiver isn't feeling that then its not about causing them discomfort for the sake of it.

OP you mentioned 'no desire', in such a case ( and without a specific reference to exactly how you would be feeling ) i would suggest that the key would be to create a growing/enhanced desire; But not by iver stimulating the obvious genital/sensitive areas, but ramping up in other ways to rekindle a 'need' and interest in continuing. Getting inside the mind, stimulating other senses. Basically allowing a slight cooling off of clit/vag but at the same time raising/keeping arousal high.

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My wife is lucky enough to enjoy various orgasms or minigasms ( non pussy) - depending on her state of mind/play, so its relatively easy to take the focus away from her pussy for a rest and give/help her find another form of orgasm before 'going back there'.

I think the problem is two fold perhaps - not being to orgasm from other means (other than clit/vaginal) and whilst trying to maintain that high state of arousal that you mention, ending up going over the edge and orgasming regardless.

Such a pickle

 

[LegsOpenedWide]

This a question of technique, continuing gently while letting the first orgasm subside, though not coming down completely, and bringing the receiver back up full orgasm.

Patients is the key knowing when to restart full on stimulation, forced!? umm I consider it giving of my best, knowing my partner says no while meaning yes age is diminishing her frequent desire, but no stopping when she is up for a good night.

So you don't have a 'break' in between, and keep going even though when after the first she's not feeling it at all?

 

[sweettalk4u]

Just curious .... if someone is a 'one and done' type usually, and someone is wanting to try out forced orgasms on them - how do they do it? Do they just keep going and no. 2 and subsequent will come eventually?? What if the person feels absolutely no desire after their first and loses all interest?
Sorry if it's a dumb question. Just curious!

There are no dumb questions It might be better if done as a task while in submission. The task of forced orgasms as a goal takes training. Cumming on command is possible with most people in the right circumstances.

 

[Scareltt]

I used to be one and done.

For me I was always a one and done. My mind just couldn’t get around having another. After lots of experiments. I learned that a pause in clitoral stimulation for about a minute. You can still kiss me, use your fingers, mouth, dildo or vibe. Just not on my clit.

My first is always my biggest, and I need the longest break. After my first, two, three, and four come much quicker. they are less intense but easier to come by and it feels so amazing to roll from one of the next.

I might be busy for the next hour or so.. haha

 

[eroticspank]

Just curious .... if someone is a 'one and done' type usually, and someone is wanting to try out forced orgasms on them - how do they do it? Do they just keep going and no. 2 and subsequent will come eventually?? What if the person feels absolutely no desire after their first and loses all interest?
Sorry if it's a dumb question. Just curious!

I don't think you can even try "forced orgasms" on someone who is not into or not curious to try it. As mentioned some women can't take anymore stimulation on their clit after orgasm so it is important to kiss, touch, or caress other things until she has come down from her sensitivity. (Of course the same is true for men.)

However, I will say that I was with a gf years ago that had 3 orgasms while I was fucking her. No it was not any amazing technique, probably just the condom I wore.

Here is what happened: I was fucking her with a condom on because this was the beginning of our relationship. She was on the bed face up and I was standing. She was a submissive lady so I was talking dirty to her as I was fucking her. She approached her first orgasm several times and each time she got so wet I was unable to get close myself. We kept fucking and finally she had her first orgasm. That got me harder because of her contractions so I kept fucking her so I could have my own orgasm. But I would get close and not be able to cum because she got very wet again. I made her raise her hand each time she was going to cum and I would nod my head yes if I wanted her to cum. After number three we stopped and she collapsed on the bed.

I found it ironic in a role reversal kind of way, that after all of that she fell asleep without taking care of me.

So sometimes the "forced orgasm" may be unintentional. You keep going so the guy can cum and then you have another one with him.

ES

 

[eroticspank]

Just curious .... if someone is a 'one and done' type usually, and someone is wanting to try out forced orgasms on them - how do they do it? Do they just keep going and no. 2 and subsequent will come eventually?? What if the person feels absolutely no desire after their first and loses all interest?
Sorry if it's a dumb question. Just curious!

A Bump to this thread!

I thought of something that happened to me years ago that relates to this.

I was dating this girl in Brazil. I was the one and done type, so after we made love the first time we just laid in bed. She was not done however. She grabbed my dick and lightly played with it for about 15 min until I was hard again and she slipped me inside and we did it again. It was kind if weird. I had no desire for any more sex and her lightly rubbing did not hurt. I did not even think about it as we talked until I got hard again and then I was ready to go again.

The same woman put me in a cock ring later in our relationship and would have many orgasms while fucking me.....usually while I was tied up. I don't know how she did it, but even with the cock ring she could force several orgasms out of me. I had no choice because I was tied up. It was painful at times, especially after my 2nd orgasm.. but I liked it anyway.

ES

 

[EdEc]

When a woman tells me "No" I believe her and I stop. If she doesn't say "No" I continue giving her pleasure until she begs (or commands ) me to stop. As far as I know, anything afer "No" is rape.

 

[bone251]

I had a FWB that needed/wanted to be tied up. And I like giving orgasms. Normal play was half dozen to a dozen O's for her. On this day it was in the mid 30's. She seemed to jump out of her skin a few times. She slept deep after.

Many of our visits after seemed to always have the request to bring rope.