Respect Issues and The Wait Period

[BlueSugar]

Respect Issue?
Was talking to a friend. Her ex called her not long ago and he found out that she fooled around a little with one of his friends over the summer. He heard through the grape vine and didn't even get all the facts straight.

He tried to be civil for about a half hour, and make small talk, ask her how her family was etc... then sprung it on her.

They broke up 3+ ago, and haven't talked in over a year.

He flipped out on his friend for not having respect for him, and then again on her for being with one of his friends.


I'd tell him it isn't any of his fucking business.

Poor thing is confused, but laughing at his petty childish bullshit. People forgive and forget and shit happens. It isnt his business.


What do you think? Would you be pissed at your friend (dicks before chicks, right?!!) for fooling around with your ex after 3 years of no one talking about it and getting over it?

Would you keep it from him or as much as you could from him, after all, you wern't going to tell him, someone told him for you after 5 months after the act (and it wasn't even sex) ?

Girls, would you personally give him a swift kick in the nuts?

Respect issue like he said it was?

How long would you wait to date your friend's ex (date, fuck.. whatever...) would you tell 'em/anyone about it?

Discuss.

 

[EJFan]

first of all, let me just say that i admire you and respect what you contribute to lit.

as far as your friend's issue goes... i think you pretty much nailed my feelings on the head. you have to laugh about the immaturity of it all AND feel sorry for the guy. it's a shame he has to go through life that way.

also, it's not personal, it's business. friendships, collaborations, fuck-buddies... whatever... they're not monopolized by anyone. you can't corner the market on a person and his friend isn't solely for him to have. she can have him too.

in my opinion... the only "bad" thing would have been if the guy's buddy went back to him and started comparing notes.

 

[427cobra]

Like I said in the other thread, when it's over it's over and the world is fair game. Family, friends, pets whatever.

 

[BlueSugar]

first of all, let me just say that i admire you and respect what you contribute to lit.


in my opinion... the only "bad" thing would have been if the guy's buddy went back to him and started comparing notes.

aw, thanks :: blush ::

or the ex found out about the second guy who was also his friend at one point, but he hasn't talked to the second guy in over 2 years either.

 

[cryptictravler]

No hard and fast rule, but a month usually works. Being a rebound fuck is not something I find all that appealling.

 

[manofsteel52]

Pretty much what everyone has already said.
When it's over, it's over, but as cryptictravler said, no (well, not as much ) fun being a rebound fuck, she could wait a few weeks or something.

 

[VSE]

I'm not sure I could even muster the enthusiasm to have any emotion about an ex hooking up with a friend I haven't seen for 2 years.

I can envisage situations where it might be a bit uncomfortable not to at least be informed by the friend of the situation before hand if we were still close, but after 3 years, I've got no say in what the ex does.

 

[zhukov1943]

>>>What do you think? Would you be pissed at your friend (dicks before chicks, right?!!) for fooling around with your ex after 3 years of no one talking about it and getting over it?

Hell, yeah. REAL friends don't fuck around with your sister, your mother, or your ex. PERIOD.

His friend is a worthless fucking "man-whore", and should be kicked to the curb with the rest of the trash.

And shame (lesser shame, but shame nonetheless) on HER for chasing her ex's friends. What, she couldn't find anybody else? Did she think this wouldn't get BACK to him at some point?

And before you start pointing the finger at ME - no, I haven't been involved in any such "triangles". I just think anybody who'd "get it on" with their friend's "ex" is no "friend" at all.

 

[MissTaken]

I think the ex is a dork who has some issues concerning this relationship.

It has been years since he had anything to do with either of them? He is out of the picture. O-U-T.....


Life moves on and maybe the ex should as well.