bashfull
raunchy romantic
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Honey123 said:If I did tell you....would you hold it against me?
Very closely...tightly...enfolding...enwrapping...enveloping...
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Honey123 said:If I did tell you....would you hold it against me?
bashfull said:Very closely...tightly...enfolding...enwrapping...enveloping...
Honey123 said:devouring?
Ok..how about an exercise here...
Use this and type it 2 different ways...1 romantic...the other, well, duh, raunchy..
I will do the same..
Scenerio:
A man and a woman are stuck in an elevator ~
sinnamongyrl said:I think its possible.Maybe its just me..but most guys that approach me like the raunchy and no romance.SOme women are the kinds you fuck,,,some are the kinds you love....BUt yeah,,,i am sure it is possible for a man to be both ways,,,,raunchy AND romantic

bashfull said:And a woman, as well. One thing I have noticed over the years is that men are often spurned when displaying romance...women either see it as insincere or scorn it.
i would NEVER spurn it,,,would like to have had it,,,,AND NEVER would be insincere about it.bashfull said:And a woman, as well. One thing I have noticed over the years is that men are often spurned when displaying romance...women either see it as insincere or scorn it.
bashfull said:And a woman, as well. One thing I have noticed over the years is that men are often spurned when displaying romance...women either see it as insincere or scorn it.
BeachGurl2 said:Been reading quite a bit of this thread and have formed some thoughts on the matter. Just my two cents, mind you, and a little personal information, so no yelling at me allowed.![]()
I think first that romance is a two-way street. Bash, you have an early post about one-sided romance not being accepted, so it dies. This happened in my marriage. I would stick cards in his briefcase, send him little emails during the day, prepare his favorite meal when he was having a rough week, pick up all his favorite treats when I shopped, even drop by his classroom on his lunch break just to say hi or bring him something for lunch. One time I even sent him flowers. Always bought exactly what he said he wanted for birthdays or Christmas, usually spending a lot of time picking out exactly the right gift. I find these to be romantic gestures.
In return here's what I got. Never once was a card acknowledged. No thanks yous, no anything to even let me know he had seen the card. Ditto with emails. If they were returned, it was to ask me what was for dinner or to tell me that he had plans after work and would be late getting home (that's if he ever told me). As for the meals and treats, he came to expect them to always be there. Never said thanks for getting them for him. But if he wanted something and it wasn't available, he would ask how I could run out when I had just been the store. He got angry that I sent him flowers, that's why it only happened once. Only women get flowers.
My birthday is a national holiday. Pretty hard to forget, especially with two little girls reminding you. One year, about 2 years before I left him, we were on a houseboat trip with friends and came off the water on my birthday. The entire day, everyone on the boat was wishing me a happy birthday, chasing me away to relax if I was helping with the clean up. If he saw me sitting on deck, he'd yell at me that I wasn't a princess, get off my ass, yada yada. That night, my friends took me out to dinner, ordered a bottle of my favorite wine and bought cake and ice cream. Even when we finally went to bed that night, he still hadn't said "happy birthday" to me. Had not acknowledged it in any way. The next day as we were driving the 6 hour trip home, he turned to me in the truck and said, "I'm sorry I forgot your birthday." I never received another birthday card or gift from him after that until I divorced him. Ironic, don't you think?
So I guess my question going back to your earlier post about one-sided romance and trust is this: How can you trust that this kind of person actually does love you when your own gestures of love (romance) are not only ignored, but treated with scorn? How can you keep yourself from beginning to resent them and what they represent for you? How can you keep a straight face when you're dying inside because you know that what you have isn't real love?
I think romance takes whatever form you believe it should take - sure, it includes things like flowers and special dinners, candlelight, and pampering. But it also includes the little day to day things. For him to order out or start dinner when he knows I've had a really rough day is romantic to me. For him to turn off the tv and turn on music because he knows I hate tv is romantic. For me to sit through an entire basketball game for some teams I don't care about because I know he does is romantic. Breakfast in bed because he happened to get up before I did is romantic. I could go on forever.
To answer the original question of raunch vs. romance, though, I believe that in a full, honest, trusting relationship you can have both. No, I think you SHOULD have both. On both sides. I don't believe that romance should only come from a man to a woman. I think women are equally responsible for it. And any woman who expects romance without being willing to return the gesture isn't worthy of your time. An example of this that was shared with me recently could be something like this: Romantic dinner out, dancing at a sexy jazz club, lots of sensual touching, whispering, etc. You leave the club but can't wait a second longer. Deserted parking lot, bend her over the hood of the car, slide her panties aside, and fuck her senseless. Does the fact that the act was raunchy take anything away from the earlier romance or can it make the romance even greater? In my mind, I think that is what can make a relationship really great. Knowing that both are not only acceptable, but wanted, desired, by both partners.
Okay, off my soapbox. Sorry for taking over . . .![]()
funinsun160 said:Excellent thread thoughtful ideas...
There can and should be a place where romance and raunch can come together,they often can be one and the same.
Is it possible in this society that we've come to treat romance with suspicsion? ("what does he/she want from me?", "probably just looking to get laid"," I'll only get hurt") etc.
Got to push past that,the glass is indeed "half full"

Honey123 said:I have never scorned nor felt that if a man was being romantic it was insincere.
I would love to be romanced and not made to feel that I "asked" to be romanced.
I want to be left breathless...
and in bed, I want to be able to be as naughty as possible and not made to feel as if I am bad.
And I want to leave him breathless
Mysticcal said:Wow, it is awesome to see this thread come back to life
I have seen a couple of my gf's do this exact thing. They claim they want a senstive, caring, romantic, sexy guy. Then the guy opens up and allows them to see all of that, and they think he is weak, just giving them what they wanted, basically I think they don't trust it. I wonder if it comes from them actually not believing they deserve to be treated that well? And that leads to distrust of the guy, when it actually has nothing to do with him.
As for me, there is nothing more attractive than a man that can fullfill both desires for romance and raunch. And I like to return that in full measure.
One of my fondest memories of this was an awesome weekend a couple years ago with a very dear friend. He was the epitome of raunch and romance....walking in the rain, looking in store windows, soft conversation, having a quiet, intimate drink at the bar with teasing conversation, loving touches during the day....to being alone that night and letting all my raunchiest desires be named and fulfilled beyond my wildest dreams.
BeachGurl2 said:Been reading quite a bit of this thread and have formed some thoughts on the matter. Just my two cents, mind you, and a little personal information, so no yelling at me allowed.![]()
I think first that romance is a two-way street. Bash, you have an early post about one-sided romance not being accepted, so it dies. ~snip~
To answer the original question of raunch vs. romance, though, I believe that in a full, honest, trusting relationship you can have both. No, I think you SHOULD have both. On both sides. I don't believe that romance should only come from a man to a woman. I think women are equally responsible for it. And any woman who expects romance without being willing to return the gesture isn't worthy of your time. An example of this that was shared with me recently could be something like this: Romantic dinner out, dancing at a sexy jazz club, lots of sensual touching, whispering, etc. You leave the club but can't wait a second longer. Deserted parking lot, bend her over the hood of the car, slide her panties aside, and fuck her senseless. Does the fact that the act was raunchy take anything away from the earlier romance or can it make the romance even greater? In my mind, I think that is what can make a relationship really great. Knowing that both are not only acceptable, but wanted, desired, by both partners.
bashfull said:Breathless...and free to express yourself...and accept his adoration...
va_angel2u said:I think you hit on the problem to a point. Like the post from Beachgirl. She was constantly giving, w/ no return, so that may make folks suspicious when someone DOES give back. They are not used to the return, so not sure how to act w/ it, or suspicious of it, etc. just my .02 worth.![]()
Honey123 said:"Yes, they are green!" she laughed, accepting the glass of wine he handed her. As their fingers touched, she felt a tiny chill throughout her body and shivered. She wasn't sure if she was cold or the fact that she thought his brown eyes were beautiful or that his accent was quite sexy.
After two hours of enjoyable conversation and two bottles of wine, the phone finally worked. The mechanic indicated it would take a few hours more and not to worry if the elevator takes sudden drops.
"What?!" she exclaimed, her eyes filling with tears. Not again! she thought. "I really hate elevators!"
"It'll be ok. " he replied, pouring more wine into her glass and slipping an arm around her shoulder.
"Yes..just..." shaking her head, she took a large sip of wine. The hot liquid seared her throat and she began to cough, the contents of the wine spilling all over blouse.
"Oh No!" she exclaimed. "I am such a klutz!"
Instintively, he began to help her wipe the wine off her blouse, telling her not to worry that it's not as if anyone would see her at this moment. Realizing that she was not responding, he looked up at her, his hand frozen as it rested upon her left breast.
As if in slow motion, they moved toward each other, their lips touching. A kiss that tasted of wine, cheese and crackers. Her hands reaching up, drawing his head closer as his hand slid around her torso pulling her body to him.
"I'm wet." she whispered against his lips.
"Already?"
"No...I mean..well, the bottle of wine...look..."
As he pulled away from her, he noticed that the wine had fallen between her legs and her dress was now covered in red, cabernet.
"None of the presents are clothes." he laughed, shaking his head at her embarassment.
"Well, I could take them off." she said matter of factly. "but then when we're rescued, it may cause a scene."
Laughing, he removing his coat, he held it out to her. She was amazed at what a gentleman he was being to her, thinking that any other man would have made a lewd comment.
"It may not be the best of jackets, but, tell you what, you could remove your clothes and wear my jacket."
Without thinking she began to unbutton her shirt, shrugging out of out and letting it fall to the floor. Her hands unzipped her skirt and as she stepped out of it, she looked at him, suddenly realizing that she was standing before him in only her lace bra and g-string.
"Wow." he said looking at the vision before him. "You're positively lovely. It's a shame you'll be covered in my coat." He stood before her and drapped his coat over her shoulders, pulling the front to fit her snuggle inside.
She wasn't sure why she did it, but she leaned forward needing to have him kiss her again. She just knew that at this moment she wanted him desperately. As he moved against her, she became increasingly aware that he felt the same way. Pushing her against the wall, his knee separated her legs and he began to kiss her neck. Her arms reaching out and began to frantically unbutton his shirt, pulling it from his waist band, allowing her hands to come into contact with his warm body. The coat fell to the floor, exposing her body to him and for an instant she wondered if she looked as wanton as she felt and inwardly smiled.
Reaching out, she slid her hands around his body, pulling him closer. She felt his hands sliding down her legs. As he moved his hands upwards, she arched into his body, her tits pushing against his chest. He kissed her as his hands slid under around her ass, cupping the cheeks of her ass. She pushed her mound against him moaning as his hands moved over her firm flesh, caressing her.
His fingers slid over her thighs and over the front of her panties. As his thumbs pressed between her thighs, he could feel that her panties were soaked. He used his thumbs to explore her further, pressing against her slit, mashing her lips slightly, pressuring her clit. She spread her thighs and pressed her hips out to his fingers.
Slipping a finger inside, he began to massage her slit, stroking her. Moaning, she ran her hand up his thigh, stroking at his crotch. Moving her hand up, she frantically opened the zipper, pulling his pants open and letting them fall around his ankles.
He slipped his hands under the strings of her g-string sliding them down her hips. Slowly, she moved her hand so that she supported herself on the hands of the elevator walls as he manuvered her body so that he could push into her. His cock was in perfect position and she impaled herself on his rigid cock. She thrust her hips up and down on his shaft, driving it completely up into her cunt. He ground his cock deep into her body, plunging deep. Fucking her, pushing her against the wall.
Arching his hips, he thrust his cock up and felt her pussy contract around him. Her fingernails dug into his shoulders as she moaned, shouting to him to fuck her.
**this was done quickly...sorry if it's not as raunchy as I would have liked....I'll make changes....**

bashfull said:Wow...I bow to your skills, darlin'. <<bows deeply>> Excellent continuation of the story.![]()
sinnamongyrl said:i would NEVER spurn it,,,would like to have had it,,,,AND NEVER would be insincere about it.
Honey123 said:Will you do a chapter 3 ~ unless you'd like to give someone else a change at it? Could continue with raunch in a man's sense...and then I can take the romance in chapter 4...'sup to you
bashfull said:Well, let's see if anyone volunteers for Chapter 3. And I want you to do Chapter 4 romance.
Honey123 said:Really? Why? (As to the romance chapter)
bashfull said:Either chapter 4 for you...or for you to write chapter 1 from the woman's perspective of the events.