Scream it out! Roe v. Wade edition

[cascadiabound]

The point of this thread is for people who are upset with this SCOTUS decision to emote. I am beyond infuriated about this decision. i have spent my entire life working in reproductive and primary health care. I am frankly having difficulty using my own words to express my outrage. Is it perhaps not ideal that I am using the words and poetry of others to try to get at my fury and feeling of impotence and fears about what the future holds for people in this country? Probably yes. Women, BIPOC, LGBTQ+ folks all have a great deal to fear in the face of this heartless and power grabbing court.

I know that many women who should not have to die due to complications from unwanted pregnancies or even complicated miscarriages that health care providers will avoid treating appropriately WILL die.
I know that women who do not want to be pregnant will carry to term to the economic distress of themselves and their offspring. This is a fundamental issue of equality.

Don't tell me how to feel or how to emote on this thread. It is not incumbent upon me to specify my bonafides in this, but I'm not taking any shit on this topic and I do have the bonifides to stand where I do.

 

[cheekygirl75]

How do I embed a tiktok video here so I can post one and annoy tomato dude

Use the Media tags like you would for Imgur or Giphy or YouTube.

 

[Diosax]

Use the Media tags like you would for Imgur or Giphy or YouTube.

For some reason it says it cannot do it

 

[cheekygirl75]

For some reason it says it cannot do it

Are you on your phone? For some reason, I can’t post links from some apps on my phone as media. Idk why, it’s really annoying.

 

[Diosax]

The point is this thread is for people who are upset with this SCOTUS decision to emote. I am beyond infuriated about this decision. i have spent my entire life working in reproductive health care. I am frankly having difficulty using my own words to express my outrage. Is it perhaps not ideal that I am using the words and poetry of others to try to get at my fury and feeling of impotence and fears about what the future holds for people in this country. Women, BIPOC, LGBTQ+ folks all have a great deal to fear in the face of this heartless and power grabbing court.

I know that many women who should not have to die due to complications from unwanted pregnancies or even complicated miscarriages that health care providers will avoid treating appropriately WILL die.
I know that women who do not want to be pregnant will carry to term to the economic distress of themselves and their offspring. This is a fundamental issue of equality.

Don't tell me how to feel or how to emote on this thread. It is not incumbent upon me to specify my bonafides in this, but I'm not taking any shit on this topic and I do have the bonifides to stand where I do.

This is

https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTR1f7uaB/?k=1

 

[Diosax]

Are you on your phone? For some reason, I can’t post links from some apps on my phone as media. Idk why, it’s really annoying.

Ohhh *grabs computer bc I'm feeling petty...brbr

 

[Diosax]

dammit

 

[cascadiabound]

This is

https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTR1f7uaB/?k=1

Exactly this and so much more

 

[aussiegeekygal]

This is

https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTR1f7uaB/?k=1

I can attest from personal experience that carrying an Anencephaly baby to term just to have her die hours later is excruciating and traumatic.

 

[jason28053]

I can attest from personal experience that carrying an Anencephaly baby to term just to have her die hours later is excruciating and traumatic.

 

[SmartIsSexy64]

I can attest from personal experience that carrying an Anencephaly baby to term just to have her die hours later is excruciating and traumatic.

I’m sorry, thank you for the courage to share that

 

[cascadiabound]

I can attest from personal experience that carrying an Anencephaly baby to term just to have her die hours later is excruciating and traumatic.

I am so sorry for your loss and trauma. I have no doubt that most women here have had some trauma/complex decision making around pregnancy or know someone they love who has

 

[tnman03]

I can attest from personal experience that carrying an Anencephaly baby to term just to have her die hours later is excruciating and traumatic.

One of my sisters experienced this as well and later developed ovarian cysts issues requiring a partial hysterectomy. To this day she is still haunted by this loss. I am saddened to learn of your loss and extend my sympathies and condolences.

 

[Dribble]

Mr Anderson...I will not allow you to drag this investigation into the gutter.

These people crawled out of the sewers...maybe the gutter is where we should be.

 

[MrMikelobe1952]

JaFo, with his finger on the pulse of what matters most today.

He has clearly demonstrated what kind of person he is and where his priorities are.
What troubles me is that he gets "likes."

 

[jaF0]

I don't like that.

 

[cascadiabound]

Today I am immobilized by grief for a future that I can barely imagine

 

[tnman03]

Today I am immobilized by grief for a future that I can barely imagine

I cannot imagine. Now it's time to get back to the grassroots political activism of getting things changed at the state levels.

 

[Love_Is_Blonde]

Today I am straggling. After posting how disgusted I am with the over turning of Roe on FB, my mother (who privately shares the same opinions) completely attacked me publicly. I'm not sure how to proceed. We have a hard relationship and I don't have the mental energy to engage with her over this.

This is also the same woman who had an abortion before getting pregnant with me and then almost made the same decision with her pregnancy with me. It feels very- Fine for me but not for thee.

It also made me realize how strong the worry of being shamed by her Christian friends was. She was so afraid of what her "friends" would think of her because of something I said. I'm rambling but I'm feeling very disappointed, isolated and mad.

I’m so sorry. We’ve spoken about her before, and I know that she makes very hurtful comments, and I can see how that would be very painful especially coming from a person who’s supposed to be in your corner. Even if she doesn’t agree with your views on the subject, she still could have been respectful or at the very minimum, just stayed quiet. You don’t deserve that. It’s a shame that she puts so much value on the opinions of others. Wrapping you up in a big hug

 

[crazychemgirl]

If you don’t have a uterus (or have had).. you don’t get an opinion.

End of discussion.

 

[MrMikelobe1952]

Today I am straggling. After posting how disgusted I am with the over turning of Roe on FB, my mother (who privately shares the same opinions) completely attacked me publicly. I'm not sure how to proceed. We have a hard relationship and I don't have the mental energy to engage with her over this.

This is also the same woman who had an abortion before getting pregnant with me and then almost made the same decision with her pregnancy with me. It feels very- Fine for me but not for thee.

It also made me realize how strong the worry of being shamed by her Christian friends was. She was so afraid of what her "friends" would think of her because of something I said. I'm rambling but I'm feeling very disappointed, isolated and mad.

I don't know if a straight, vanilla white guy can help much, but I would strongly advise that you not engage with her on it. As you say, it makes you tired even to think about it. Your mother clearly has some issues that you cannot help her with, at least at this point in your lives. (And I have no real idea of how old either of you may be, whether you live together or near each other or far apart. Or how ofter you see eath other in real life). It seems to me that there is nothing that you could possibly say that would help the situation, help her, or make you feel better. Almost anything would increase the anger and hurt and make your relationship worse.

I would not retaliate or cut her off on FB. If you can pull it off, you can be the mature one, ignore her hypocracy, and wait for the time when you can have a conversation with her.

 

[cascadiabound]

@PrettyLilPussy19 I am so terribly sorry your mom did this to you. Obviously, not okay. I imagine she is having a bunch of conflicting feelings. Can you get her to take some intermediate stand in public? I know... probably unlikely... I just don't frankly understand how people don't see how this redounds to extraordinarily egregious governmental behavior... using the data from menstration tracking apps to get search warrents or aquire medical records. Having women who have had a miscarriage prosecuted, or even just questioned criminally about the loss of their child. Physicians refusing basic care and interventions for fear of legal action when sepsis is likely or just delaying care for urgent things like ectopic pregnancies. This ruling will also have egregious consequences for women seeking in vitro fertilization... are they to be criminally prosecuted if they decide they are not wanting to carry a litter of infants to term (not even to mention the dire health effects and likelihood of losing all the infants in such a circumstance).

When a single cell zygote has more rights than a woman and when the criminal penalties for abortion are higher than for rape...it just leaves me speechless

 

[AveryElle]

I’m sorry your mom did that, especially so publicly.

Not sure if it’s possible for you, but one of the best things I ever did for my mental health was unfollow my mom on Facebook. I temporarily blocked her so the algorithm limits what she sees from me and I can’t see what she writes.

 

[tnman03]

I’m sorry your mom did that, especially so publicly.

Not sure if it’s possible for you, but one of the best things I ever did for my mental health was unfollow my mom on Facebook. I temporarily blocked her so the algorithm limits what she sees from me and I can’t see what she writes.

I know other people who have had to do the same. It's devastating how a parent or other family member can so disrupt your peace of mind over issues when they're not saying anything is preferred.

 

[Mei5ter]

Today I am struggling. After posting how disgusted I am with the over turning of Roe on FB, my mother (who privately shares the same opinions) completely attacked me publicly. I'm not sure how to proceed. We have a hard relationship and I don't have the mental energy to engage with her over this.

This is also the same woman who had an abortion before getting pregnant with me and then almost made the same decision with her pregnancy with me. It feels very- Fine for me but not for thee.

It also made me realize how strong the worry of being shamed by her Christian friends was. She was so afraid of what her "friends" would think of her because of something I said. I'm rambling but I'm feeling very disappointed, isolated and mad.

Nobody can let you down and disappoint you like a parent, unfortunately. And it's the worst when that parent makes bad use of social media so that everyone else can watch.

I can't imagine how hurtful that must have felt. And yet you have had the humanity and compassion to understand why she's done what she's done, and to articulate that here. It will be through people like you having the open-heartedness to understand why people express these views, however repugnant and hypocritical they may be, and however hurtfully expressed they are, that we can start to take steps towards a happier, more united, better, progressive future again.