Seeking a sociopath

[Raisa_Greywood]

I love the PSA!

Best of luck with your search!

 

[elysiume]

Awww!




... dammit

I quite possibly love you as well, and I'm only semi-straight

 

[Farrah]

I feel more than a little embarrassed and awkward trying to reply to this thread. I am completely blown way by how articulate and self-aware you are. I mean that sincerely. I don't believe I've ever encountered anyone like you online or IRL. Your understanding of yourself is a truly beautiful thing. I strive daily to get to know myself better...my desires and needs, what I have to give and offer up to the people in my life and to strangers on a forum. I am awed by you, and I kind of want to be like you when I grow up.

 

[Pandorica]

I feel more than a little embarrassed and awkward trying to reply to this thread. I am completely blown way by how articulate and self-aware you are. I mean that sincerely. I don't believe I've ever encountered anyone like you online or IRL. Your understanding of yourself is a truly beautiful thing. I strive daily to get to know myself better...my desires and needs, what I have to give and offer up to the people in my life and to strangers on a forum. I am awed by you, and I kind of want to be like you when I grow up.

Meh.

What I mean is, it's actually quite easy to be witty and articulate on a board like this. I don't exactly get to draft what I say to people in r/l and then edit it. In real life I rarely think of the cutting riposte at the right moment, only ten minutes after it's too late! Here on Lit I get to be brash and uninhibited but in the real world with actual people, not so much. It doesn't take a whole lot of courage to be frank on an anonymous smut site.

I do think that as 'civilised' adults we can get too detached from our primal, bestial brains. Toss aside all concept of decency, morality and personal safety and what does that leave you truly craving sexually? Once you have that knowledge you can start layering on the social constructs that ensure your emotional wellbeing, such as monogamy to your partner etc and figure out ways to experience what you want to feel in a way that is beneficial to you emotionally as well as sexually.

In many ways I haven't grown up. I'm actually quite selfish. I crave submission for my own gratification, to such a degree that I haven't sought the kind of servitude favoured by most women my age - that of motherhood. Truth be known there's just not enough in it for me.

And here I am seeking online play, even though I have a r/l partner. Things have moved away from the dynamic we had at the start and while I am supportive of him, I'm nevertheless selfish enough to seek my own gratification here.

So don't put me on a pedestal. Not only will I fall off, but slave bitches like me who live on their knees are basically like lemmings when it comes to heights.

 

[Farrah]

Meh.

What I mean is, it's actually quite easy to be witty and articulate on a board like this. I don't exactly get to draft what I say to people in r/l and then edit it. In real life I rarely think of the cutting riposte at the right moment, only ten minutes after it's too late! Here on Lit I get to be brash and uninhibited but in the real world with actual people, not so much. It doesn't take a whole lot of courage to be frank on an anonymous smut site.

I do think that as 'civilised' adults we can get too detached from our primal, bestial brains. Toss aside all concept of decency, morality and personal safety and what does that leave you truly craving sexually? Once you have that knowledge you can start layering on the social constructs that ensure your emotional wellbeing, such as monogamy to your partner etc and figure out ways to experience what you want to feel in a way that is beneficial to you emotionally as well as sexually.

In many ways I haven't grown up. I'm actually quite selfish. I crave submission for my own gratification, to such a degree that I haven't sought the kind of servitude favoured by most women my age - that of motherhood. Truth be known there's just not enough in it for me.

And here I am seeking online play, even though I have a r/l partner. Things have moved away from the dynamic we had at the start and while I am supportive of him, I'm nevertheless selfish enough to seek my own gratification here.

So don't put me on a pedestal. Not only will I fall off, but slave bitches like me who live on their knees are basically like lemmings when it comes to heights.

I understand. And I get that slave bitches aren't into being worshiped.

I just admire your backbone. I can be a bit of a door mat. Don't get me wrong, I am happy to be subservient in the bedroom, but I can't even find the nerve to tell some incredibly lame man on an erotica site that he's...well, incredibly lame. There's one man in particular that just does NOT understand what turns me on. He actually seems intent on going in the opposite direction. But I haven't even been able to tell him I am not interested. I don't want to hurt his feelings, or some such silly shit.

I have a pretty good general idea of what I like sexually, and I am being introduced to the specifics every day through Lit. One of the biggest things I've learned is that I desperately miss women. But because of geography and an all-around lack of opportunity, I haven't had nearly enough experience to know if I am any good at "being" with a woman. Also, before joining Lit I thought of myself as extremely liberal in a sexual sense...up for anything. But since coming on board here, I've realized that I had a limited view of all the possibilities concerning 2 (or more) human beings. I am completely ignorant of the meanings of acronyms and slang. I'm not nearly as comfortable with my body as I would like to be. I am both embarrassed by my naivete and overwhelmed by this feeling of being a kid in a candy shop.

So while I promise not to elevate you to some outlandish heights, I will continue to admire you. I hope that's okay.

 

[Pandorica]

I understand. And I get that slave bitches aren't into being worshiped.

I just admire your backbone. I can be a bit of a door mat. Don't get me wrong, I am happy to be subservient in the bedroom, but I can't even find the nerve to tell some incredibly lame man on an erotica site that he's...well, incredibly lame. There's one man in particular that just does NOT understand what turns me on. He actually seems intent on going in the opposite direction. But I haven't even been able to tell him I am not interested. I don't want to hurt his feelings, or some such silly shit.

I totally get why you do this but it's a bad idea. Plus, for as long as you play along you're giving this guy the impression that he's turning you on, for which you only really have yourself to blame. And really you're not really being fair to the guy, because you're not letting him know that he's not turning you on and giving him the chance to change things up.

So yeah, tell him. If he gets pissed off then you can always put him on ignore.

What I will say is that I really hope you're not faking orgasms in r/l because then you're really making a rod for your own back and not a fun, kinky rod either. If you're submissive then yes, your focus is more on the other person's pleasure but all subs/masos/whatevers get into kink to meet their own needs. Your needs are really quite important, so don't settle for anyone whose desires don't complement your own.

I have a pretty good general idea of what I like sexually, and I am being introduced to the specifics every day through Lit. One of the biggest things I've learned is that I desperately miss women. But because of geography and an all-around lack of opportunity, I haven't had nearly enough experience to know if I am any good at "being" with a woman. Also, before joining Lit I thought of myself as extremely liberal in a sexual sense...up for anything. But since coming on board here, I've realized that I had a limited view of all the possibilities concerning 2 (or more) human beings. I am completely ignorant of the meanings of acronyms and slang. I'm not nearly as comfortable with my body as I would like to be. I am both embarrassed by my naivete and overwhelmed by this feeling of being a kid in a candy shop.

So while I promise not to elevate you to some outlandish heights, I will continue to admire you. I hope that's okay.

I think Lit is a shock to most people regarding how broad a spectrum sex really is and the myriad things people find hot or fetishize. I'd be more concerned if you weren't shocked to be honest! Plus, porn desensitises a lot of people, particularly young and inexperienced men, until they think every girl on the street wants to be gang raped by impossibly proportioned black men.

*whistles innocently*

...Anyway.

Nobody's really comfortable with their body. It's a real shame that only once everything heads south do most people realise that sex is just a bit of fun and inhibition is pointless within a loving relationship, or indeed with a casual partner if mutual needs are being met. If someone else is comfortable with your body however, don't over analyse or question it, just thanks your lucky stars and make the most of what you've got. Plus whatever you've got, it's in about the best condition it's going to be in. Don't wait for age to creep up on you and put you off even further.

I don't see enough of other women either. It's a shame. I don't feel able to call myself bi because I don't think I could ever settle down with a woman as my primary partner. I do like women who are alpha, whereas Mr Pandorica prefers them more submissive so he gets two for the price of one. I think being eager to please makes up for a great deal of skill and as women keep telling the guys here, not all ladies have the same wiring. What rocks one girl's world will leave another cold. So don't worry about your skillset, it's not a job interview. Just go with what feels right.

Ok, I'm going to stop waffling now.

 

[mark197205]

I totally get why you do this but it's a bad idea. Plus, for as long as you play along you're giving this guy the impression that he's turning you on, for which you only really have yourself to blame. And really you're not really being fair to the guy, because you're not letting him know that he's not turning you on and giving him the chance to change things up.

So yeah, tell him. If he gets pissed off then you can always put him on ignore.

What I will say is that I really hope you're not faking orgasms in r/l because then you're really making a rod for your own back and not a fun, kinky rod either. If you're submissive then yes, your focus is more on the other person's pleasure but all subs/masos/whatevers get into kink to meet their own needs. Your needs are really quite important, so don't settle for anyone whose desires don't complement your own.



I think Lit is a shock to most people regarding how broad a spectrum sex really is and the myriad things people find hot or fetishize. I'd be more concerned if you weren't shocked to be honest! Plus, porn desensitises a lot of people, particularly young and inexperienced men, until they think every girl on the street wants to be gang raped by impossibly proportioned black men.

*whistles innocently*

...Anyway.

Nobody's really comfortable with their body. It's a real shame that only once everything heads south do most people realise that sex is just a bit of fun and inhibition is pointless within a loving relationship, or indeed with a casual partner if mutual needs are being met. If someone else is comfortable with your body however, don't over analyse or question it, just thanks your lucky stars and make the most of what you've got. Plus whatever you've got, it's in about the best condition it's going to be in. Don't wait for age to creep up on you and put you off even further.

I don't see enough of other women either. It's a shame. I don't feel able to call myself bi because I don't think I could ever settle down with a woman as my primary partner. I do like women who are alpha, whereas Mr Pandorica prefers them more submissive so he gets two for the price of one. I think being eager to please makes up for a great deal of skill and as women keep telling the guys here, not all ladies have the same wiring. What rocks one girl's world will leave another cold. So don't worry about your skillset, it's not a job interview. Just go with what feels right.

Ok, I'm going to stop waffling now.

I knew I liked you for a reason.

 

[Pandorica]

I knew I liked you for a reason.

Still not sharing!

 

[Pandorica]

Lit's self certified dominant men are closet pansies: Discuss.

Surely there's someone truly like minded who can find their way to my YIM tonight?

 

[StrayKat]

Nobody's really comfortable with their body. It's a real shame that only once everything heads south do most people realise that sex is just a bit of fun and inhibition is pointless within a loving relationship, or indeed with a casual partner if mutual needs are being met. If someone else is comfortable with your body however, don't over analyse or question it, just thanks your lucky stars and make the most of what you've got. Plus whatever you've got, it's in about the best condition it's going to be in. Don't wait for age to creep up on you and put you off even further.

I wish someone told me that when I was 18.
Though I probably wouldnt listen then.

Thanks for a few chuckles and interesting, insightful read, you are amazing

 

[Pandorica]

4. get. It.

 

[Pandorica]

I wish someone told me that when I was 18.
Though I probably wouldnt listen then.

Thanks for a few chuckles and interesting, insightful read, you are amazing

Wow, didn't even see this. When I said forget it I was referring to my prior 'doms are pansies' blatantly sammy-assed middle finger to goad some guy into being abusive enough to get me wet.

So sorry. And thanks for the comment.

 

[promisearousal]

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[Pandorica]

I can't tell if you're looking for immediate pleasure from simple verbal abuse on yahoo messenger or if you really want a man that will take you over more thoroughly and on a more long-term basis. Do you just want to be humiliated for the sudden rush you get from it, or do you feel your worthlessness more constantly and desire someone to whom you can express it and by whom you can have it taken advantage of?

I have absolutely no desire to discuss this with you.

You've understandably been disappointed with the responses you've received, but most true Doms aren't going to waste their time chatting for 10 minutes with some girl who wants to be called a slut and then afterward will going on living a life full of confidence and a steady sense of self-worth.

Please don't make assumptions about me.

Being an actual person who has to live in the real world I simply don't have the time to spend my entire life self flagellating, waiting for my nemesis to appear.

He actually did appear. He knows who he is. And as I somewhat value my life I will treat him (and Mr P) with deference, not you or anyone else.

I imagine that most 'twoo' Doms don't have to whine and bitch publicly because they lack the good grace to bow out with dignity but hey, you go with your bad self.

You seem to want someone to use you more fully than that, but I've expressed my interest in doing so previously, as well as having shown my ability to write clearly, and have still not heard back from you, even though you complain about not having found what you want. If you're genuinely seeking a man that will abuse you and undermine your self-esteem to the fullest extent and in the most effective and creative ways, perhaps you should review past messages you've gotten and reply to Doms who have made it clear that they would be able to do so, because you've definitely missed at least one.

Basic literacy is the very least of 'what I want,' so please don't flatter yourself.

Checking back over my PMs I can see that I actually did reply to yours and promptly. I told you that I was chatting with a few guys nearer my timezone and that because I'd received quite a few responses, I had to thin them out somehow and you hadn't made the cut.

You replied that you didn't think that a woman should be able to tell you whether or not you can have her. That the popularity of my ad here gives me too much control over my sexuality, which will dangerously lift my desirably low self esteem. Like others, you doubted that any other guy could abuse me as thoroughly as I deserve and invited me to PM you again when this inevitably turned out to be the case.

I didn't, which I'm fairly sure is my prerogative.

And I don't wonder that you erased the exchange from your memory.

So if we're done here I sincerely wish you the worst luck in the world, for the sake of womankind.

And just for the record, I am no longer searching.​

 

[promisearousal]

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[Pandorica]

For someone who recognizes that



you can be surprisingly bitchy to someone just trying to explore and figure theirs out in response to an ad you posted here looking for a goddamn "sociopath".

Chill the fuck out, imo. My inability to be or even portray the type of Dom you're looking for is not something you need to be a total fucking cunt about.

Good grief.

You gave no impression of being someone 'just trying to explore and figure their online persona out.' You swaggered into my inbox and proclaimed yourself my fantasy dom. Then when I turned you down you saw fit to post on this thread and repeat yourself. You came on here belittling me and accusing me of not responding to you.

And now you're shocked and wounded that I've become defensive.

I really don't see that there's any point in us continuing to debate this.

 

[StrayKat]

true Doms

True dom wont whine publicly about not being picked.

She doesnt want you, so what? Sky isnt falling.
Get over yourself

 

[MagnusRex2007]

For someone who recognizes that



you can be surprisingly bitchy to someone just trying to explore and figure theirs out in response to an ad you posted here looking for a goddamn "sociopath".

Chill the fuck out, imo. My inability to be or even portray the type of Dom you're looking for is not something you need to be a total fucking cunt about.

Gosh, someone's got a case of the mondays! Need a hug? because I'm totally available for hugs.

I agree with you, for the record, she was a TOTAL fucking cunt to you. Don't let her get you down, you're probably better off without her. Someone so psychologically flawed as to actually be seeking a sociopath, who values an absence of morality, limits and emotions over your obvious skill at writing and True Dominance... well, nothing good can come from entangling yourself with someone like that. She's obviously not looking for anything close to proper D/s relationship, she shows a basic disregard for protocol, contempt for it really. There's no way you would have been able to form the loving bond that is the basis of all true D/s relationships, that link of trust, that exchange of power , since she's looking for someone explicitly incapable of having such a bond.

So if I were you, instead of getting mad at her and lashing out at someone obviously mentally ill and broken, you should instead just consider yourself lucky. You dodged a bullet imo.

 

[TexasWife25]

i belive someone mentioned the thread for bad PM's

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=354130


i had to give it to you
because I think you may get some of the most
creative one lines

 

[Proximus]

i belive someone mentioned the thread for bad PM's

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=354130


i had to give it to you
because I think you may get some of the most
creative one lines

Thank you so much... I knew it was out there!

 

[Pandorica]

Gosh, someone's got a case of the mondays! Need a hug? because I'm totally available for hugs.

I agree with you, for the record, she was a TOTAL fucking cunt to you. Don't let her get you down, you're probably better off without her. Someone so psychologically flawed as to actually be seeking a sociopath, who values an absence of morality, limits and emotions over your obvious skill at writing and True Dominance... well, nothing good can come from entangling yourself with someone like that. She's obviously not looking for anything close to proper D/s relationship, she shows a basic disregard for protocol, contempt for it really. There's no way you would have been able to form the loving bond that is the basis of all true D/s relationships, that link of trust, that exchange of power , since she's looking for someone explicitly incapable of having such a bond.

So if I were you, instead of getting mad at her and lashing out at someone obviously mentally ill and broken, you should instead just consider yourself lucky. You dodged a bullet imo.

Well, when you're right you're right. Truth be known my new playmate barely even qualifies as a human being, just a soulless void reduced to lashing out in order to simulate emotion. I'd pity the asshole but being broken myself I just don't give a fuck what's damaged and even missing inside him as long as he gets me wet. He's even as self destructive as me in his way, I just happen to be capable of seeing my circle of hell for what it is, whereas he dresses his up as being some kind of enlightened libertine.

It's a sorry fucking symbiosis whichever way you cut it but if nothing else, at least by playing with one another we're minimising the damage we inflict on others.

Dodged an H bomb is more like it.

 

[MagnusRex2007]

Well, when you're right you're right. Truth be known my new playmate barely even qualifies as a human being, just a soulless void reduced to lashing out in order to simulate emotion. I'd pity the asshole but being broken myself I just don't give a fuck what's damaged and even missing inside him as long as he gets me wet. He's even as self destructive as me in his way, I just happen to be capable of seeing my circle of hell for what it is, whereas he dresses his up as being some kind of enlightened libertine.

So, in addition to being a sociopath, he's a horrible, pretentious douche-bag. Sounds like a perfect match to me.

It's a sorry fucking symbiosis whichever way you cut it but if nothing else, at least by playing with one another we're minimising the damage we inflict on others.

What about the damage you inflicted on the True Dominant promisearousal? The only thing the guy did was to attempt to answer your personal ad, and along the way espouse the belief that a submissive female has no right what so ever in choosing her partner. And for that he deserves your public shame and ridicule? I have to assume the next time the poor guy forces himself on a submissive woman, he's going to so traumatized by what a total cunt you were to him, that he'll be unable to exercise his Noble Right. You should be ashamed of yourself, if you even have the ability to feel shame at this point.

 

[Pandorica]

So, in addition to being a sociopath, he's a horrible, pretentious douche-bag. Sounds like a perfect match to me.

Oh I dare to hope so.

What about the damage you inflicted on the True Dominant promisearousal? The only thing the guy did was to attempt to answer your personal ad, and along the way espouse the belief that a submissive female has no right what so ever in choosing her partner. And for that he deserves your public shame and ridicule? I have to assume the next time the poor guy forces himself on a submissive woman, he's going to so traumatized by what a total cunt you were to him, that he'll be unable to exercise his Noble Right. You should be ashamed of yourself, if you even have the ability to feel shame at this point.

Wow, you guys have quite the bromance. I smell an alt. Latent homosexuality at the very least.

That wasn't anything approaching damage, just mild irritation but then I imagine my perspective is fundamentally flawed.

What can I say, he broke his promise.

Interestingly, the thought of cursing his Noble Presence flaccid actually gives me a little sadistic thrill. I'm sure however that if the unthinkable should occur you'll be right there to nurse him back to perpendicular health.

 

[free_and_easy]

Priceless retort !
You star...

 

[MagnusRex2007]

Wow, you guys have quite the bromance. I smell an alt. Latent homosexuality at the very least...


Interestingly, the thought of cursing his Noble Presence flaccid actually gives me a little sadistic thrill. I'm sure however that if the unthinkable should occur you'll be right there to nurse him back to perpendicular health.

Latent? I'm sorry that I gave the impression that my homosexuality is anything but overt. I have long past given up on trying to figure out or deal with the schizophrenia that is submissive post feminist females. This twisted cunts who claim they want Total Domination, and then when you exert it have the audacity to cry rape and abuse. I have found submissive males are much more enlightened about what true submission entails, about what rights one does and does not have as a submissive ( well, lets be clear.. they have no rights what so ever).

Unfortunately it seems that me and promise arousal are on the same side of the Dominance spectrum, and we would have a difficult time being compatible. I have found him to be quite literate and witty, however, which you may not value but I find quite attractive. If he has any desire to swear off your crazy ilk as I have, and wishes to discover the beautiful bond that develops when a submissive is sodomized, violated, degraded and owned by the cock of a True Dominant, I would be more than happy to lead him down that path. I'm positive he would be much happier with the outcome than he would be having "submissives" spit in his face over and over when he attempts to exert control over them.