sex appeal

[brew_1978]

When me and my boyfriend started dating sex was great. Well years have passed and our relationships has been through some loops. We have been on again off again. Well we are together again. This time he has little to no sex drive. I have always been nympho. So needless to say I want it all the time and he seems to never want sex. I am bisexual and he doesn't allow me to play with other women either. I have tryed stripping for him, dressing sexy, seducing him, masturbating in front of him, goin down on him, and many other things to get him aroused. He only wants sex when its his idea and mostly quickies. Any suggestions I would like to improve my sex life..

 

[kaoskytton]

See "Tie Me Down, Cage Me Up"

 

[jenlovesamy]

I'm not sure I could be in a relationship with someone who didn't have at least some sex drive. I'm a pretty sexual person. I wish I could give you some advice on this one...

 

[kaoskytton]

Seriously. This probably isn't the advice you want to hear but I'd be outta there with a cloud of dust behind me. But that's me.

 

[jenlovesamy]

Seriously. This probably isn't the advice you want to hear but I'd be outta there with a cloud of dust behind me. But that's me.

Well, I wouldn't have said it like that, but sure...

 

[kaoskytton]

If I covered the hilt of the axe in pink faux fur, would it be more "user-friendly?" ~laughs~

 

[jenlovesamy]

She sure is cute, isn't she, folks?

 

[kaoskytton]

I do my best. For my next trick, I'll dress up as Little Bunny Foo Foo and bat some little dependents around with my trusty little Lousville Slugger!

 

[Guest]

When me and my boyfriend started dating sex was great. Well years have passed and our relationships has been through some loops. We have been on again off again. Well we are together again. This time he has little to no sex drive. I have always been nympho. So needless to say I want it all the time and he seems to never want sex. I am bisexual and he doesn't allow me to play with other women either. I have tryed stripping for him, dressing sexy, seducing him, masturbating in front of him, goin down on him, and many other things to get him aroused. He only wants sex when its his idea and mostly quickies. Any suggestions I would like to improve my sex life..

Leave his boring ass and get a younger lover! Worked for me!

 

[mrerotica03]

From experience. This may not be true in your case. But I think he has lost interest in you. He is keeping this relationship going because he is affraid to be alone? maybe he is affraid to break up with you?

Sit his ass down and have an extended conversation about your feeling for one another.

Been there and done it in my younger days.

 

[kaoskytton]

~hands brew the axe~

Go for it, honey. Go for it and find yourself a real man from our many waiting bachelors.

 

[Lust Engine]

I guess I have a few questions to toss back at brew_1978...

-Define how he doesn't "allow me to play". Control issues here?
-Have you sat down with him & told him YOUR needs?
-Why are you still with him?
-and most importantly (and not in a snotty way)- why haven't you just taken charge of your situation?

If he isn't satisfying you, then you have options. Obviously you'd want to give the relationship every chance imaginable so try & have a heart to heart talk with him, but please do take a stance here! Grab the relationship by the reins & steer it towards where it'll make you happy.

Even if it's without him. It's your life! Make it a good one!

Good luck.

 

[lickboxer]

LOL, when you get it figured out, let the rest of us know. My wife says she loves our sex life. It's just that it's not very high on her priority list. Come to think of it, I don't think it's on her priority list at all. Once I can get her started, it's great, but getting her in the mood seems almost impossible anymore. We've been together a long time, kids are grown and we have the house to ourselves. You'd think this would be a great time to be together, and it is. Her passion for life in general is very flat. And she admits to it, so what are we to do? That's the million dollar question.

 

[Carnus]

I can't say I am always the most sexually enegetic person in the world, but ummmm if you did all that for me, trust me it would not be a problem, and for bringing in another woman, well ummmm YEAH THATS OK, hehe, but seriously, just tell him, you need physical love too, not just those words as he goes to sleep and the kiss on the way out the door. I have been in relationships that didn't have a lot of physical spark, and eventually that is an issue, it keeps you from being happy and satisfied, let him know, or let him go.....


Carnus

 

[SexyChele]

The key words that jumped out of your post to me were "We have been on again off again." It sounds to me as though possible both of you are in this relationship because it means you don't need to be alone? I know. I've just said a mouthful there. But when people tell me their relationship is on again/off again, I always have to wonder why? And typically, those relationships just don't last. Eventually one or the other will find another who they can stay "on" with.

You might want to seriously consider whether he is with you because he wants to be, or if it is just convenient to be. As well you with him. I may be reading this wrong, and if so, then I apologize. But that was my first thought.

 

[Majam]

BREW - Have you considered joining a swingers club??? This would be perfect for you becuase 99% of the women are Bi and it may get him excited again.

It was an awsome enhancement to our sexlife.

Do a search for swingers sites and you will be able to find clubs in your area.

Good Luck

MAJAM

 

[God of Threads]

Good luck

Without knowing the other aspects of your relationship beyond the sexual aspect providing advise is a difficult endeavor.


However, if sex ranks up in the top two or three aspects of a relationship you are involved in and the situation is as you describe it this does not bode well for you two. It might be a case of two individuals who get along in some or many aspects of their relationship but with a crucial part where there are significant differences.

It seems -- from your description -- you are doing all the sacrificing. You can either continue to do that, somehow get him to change [through a variety of techniques that will be described to you in this thread or through other research], satisfy your needs elsewhere while sticking with him, or just move on [easy for people to say, not easy to do].